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00:06:53.000If you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what you do for a living, dating status, if you want to, of course, and we'll start right here.
00:14:48.000I've watched the world truly change and you have to adjust because you're considered a dinosaur.
00:14:54.000So you sit back and you watch and it's disrespectful in a sense because I'm old school but the world has changed and And I don't want to bring everybody down because I always come with common sense.
00:20:25.000Rockefeller had sex with his side mistress and he died and his wife didn't give him a closed casket because he died with a smile on his face.
00:24:43.000If you say so, I mean, you ask people from Pittsburgh, if they're 19, you ask somebody from Pittsburgh what their body count is, they're going to say like 3,000.
00:37:57.000Ladies, when I read it, you can go ahead and say that you asked the question, or you don't have to.
00:38:02.000You can say anonymous, but it's up to you.
00:38:04.000So the first one here goes, how do you handle conflicts or disagreements I totally feel the handle conflict depending on where you are in life.
00:38:26.000If I was younger, You don't know how to control the climate of the room.
00:38:33.000But then as you become older, you realize that, one, you find a person that you're compatible with, so you don't have to have too much controversy.
00:38:40.000Two, if you get a man or woman that truly understands how to communicate, then relations can go smooth.
00:38:47.000And then, sometimes you've got to realize if you are overreacting sometimes.
00:38:52.000Sometimes you can overreact and be upset, and then if you have time to think about it, you go, wow, I was really tripping.
00:41:51.000And I think that's the problem is that guys think that they're equal to women.
00:41:54.000My thing is, if you do some dumb shit and I don't like it, I'll tell you once or whatever, but I'm not even going to argue with you or whatever.
00:41:59.000I'm just going to ignore you for a while.
00:42:01.000And then it's on you to come and say, oh, my bad.
00:42:03.000Because my thing is, I don't flip out on girls.
00:42:04.000Like, I'm always pretty stoic with that.
00:42:18.000If you're yelling at your girl, you're already lost.
00:42:22.000I think women look for a leader, and when you're sitting there arguing with her and yelling at her, what she's effectively done is you're saying to her, I'm equal to you, so I will go ahead and yell with you.
00:42:31.000And it's like, no, that's not how this goes.
00:42:32.000And that's a big reason why I think I agree with you.
00:44:27.000And the other reason too, because I know some of this might sound extreme to some of you ladies, but if you actually look at it pragmatically and you take your feelings away, you realize women get bored in relationships way faster than men do.
00:44:37.000This has been studied and shown that women initiate divorce, they initiate breakups, and they get bored in relationships way faster than men do.
00:48:07.000So that's why, if you look at it pragmatically, why you can't live with women, it makes sense, man.
00:48:11.000I think as a man, you've got to stay attractive.
00:48:13.000And if you know your girl is more than likely, statistically speaking, to get bored with you, you've got to keep the spice up to some degree.
00:48:35.000It's almost like if you can miss somebody correctly versus if someone's going to work, coming back home, it's like, all right, I'm going to see you regardless versus space.
00:49:23.000If you feel like asking your girl for a threesome, and she tells you only if you give her one, how would you feel and respond to this answer?
00:49:53.000I hate to put the person on blast here, but just to clarify, if you say you want a threesome, then the girl says, I want a threesome, too, and I pick the girl?
00:53:51.000And she doesn't deserve a relationship at that point and she doesn't like me that much because the reality is if your girl truly loves, admires and respects you, all other men are invisible to her.
00:55:11.000See, I snatched the girl up because my conversation was just on point.
00:55:15.000So she went in the hallway and said, yeah, I'm going to stay with TK. So the girl left mad because she had a boyfriend, but she was cheating on him.
00:55:22.000As I was driving her to my spot, she was saying she didn't have a place to live.
00:55:25.000But me being experienced in life, I felt like this woman was going to be a liability.
00:55:31.000And I wasn't in the mood to buy nobody no apartment, get you on your feet.
00:55:36.000So the first thing I said was that I went upstairs when I got to my house, and I got a phone call, and I bought her an airline ticket, and I put her ass right on that plane, and I never saw her again.
00:55:46.000Because I thought I was that dude when we was at the hotel.
00:55:50.000You know, her girlfriend, and I'm like, baby, talking.
00:56:27.000Now I'm putting my foot in my mouth and the girls actually looking around like, nigga, you said you was going to do X, Y, and Z. That's like sometimes men catch cases with women.
00:57:56.000I feel like just in general, because, for example, like when you have mom and dad, who do you look up to as the protector, as everything, as a child?
00:58:41.000Okay, so since we're different cognitively and we're different from a biological perspective in our bodies, wouldn't it be fair to say that what we look for sexually is different as well?
00:59:36.000So you can't get the benefits of being promiscuous and still being respected as a female like for us because we have to work to be able to be promiscuous.
00:59:45.000But my question was mostly like in a relationship, woman and dude.
00:59:49.000Like the girl and the boy, just them within themselves, those two characters.
00:59:54.000I think men should be able to have as many women as they want.
00:59:56.000I think if you're a guy, because most guys don't want to be monogamous anyway.
01:00:01.000Most men are forced to be monogamous by their girlfriend.
01:00:04.000I think as a man, if you've worked to build yourself up to a certain point or whatever, you should have as many women as you want and a girl can't tell you shit.
01:00:39.000Because the thing is, is that I don't think that we're equal.
01:00:42.000So, if we're not equal, and you admitted this earlier, we think differently, we view the world differently, the way you view the world isn't optimal from a masculine perspective, because women live a different existence.
01:00:53.000I mean, just to be fair, I think women live a much easier life than men do.
01:00:57.000So, your opinion is not valid to me because we live a way harder life than you guys do.
01:04:43.000In my life experience, I've witnessed women being more ambitious than men in quite a few cases, so I just think it depends on the person, but I think it definitely works better when the man is more ambitious than the woman.
01:05:01.000In what ways do you see women being more ambitious?
01:05:05.000I mean, I've been in relationships where I'm the ambitious one, and he emasculates himself.
01:05:12.000It's hard for me to respect him, so it's just better when the guy is more ambitious.
01:05:23.000And women tend to lean on their education as to why they're more ambitious, but you guys got to remember that the education system in itself was designed, right?
01:05:35.000It's not necessarily an environment for little boys to thrive.
01:05:39.000It's an environment for little girls to thrive, and the reason why is because the education system...
01:05:43.000From elementary all the way until high school, he indoctrinates you to do what you're told, listen, be quiet, you know, be a nice little slave.
01:06:19.000I mean, there are a few rambunctious ones, but the most outspoken people with the pandemic were men.
01:06:24.000And that's because since the beginning of time, men were okay with pulling out their fucking sword and defending their beliefs with violence.
01:06:31.000You guys are physically weaker, unfortunately.
01:06:33.000And I think that represents itself with your biology and how you think as well.
01:06:36.000With that said, I get what you're saying.
01:06:37.000Like, oh yeah, I met women that are more ambitious.
01:06:39.000Yes, women dominate college attendance.
01:06:41.000Yes, women in general strive and earn more degrees than men.
01:06:44.000But if you look, like, men still dominate the blue-collar workplace, which you still can make quite a bit of money in that women don't want to go into.
01:06:51.000So I would say if we're going to use ambition through the education system, for sure, you're correct.
01:06:55.000But if we're going to use ambition for working hard, doing manual labor that might not necessarily require a college degree, men beat women all day.
01:11:27.000People with money, celebrities or whatever, buying them stuff, you know, doing that, thinking that it's like, you know, at least you don't got to, you know what I'm saying, anything happy, at least you got, but no, that doesn't.
01:11:53.000Every dude that I've been with, I've made more money then, or I've had more stuff then, and then it'll be something like he's playing video games.
01:15:18.000Be honest, because I found this with OnlyFans girls a lot, is that they'll make good money, right?
01:15:23.000And they're happy in the moment, but then they realize, yo, this is not what I want to actually do, but the money's good, and then they go, I'm gonna cry, basically, like, damn, I'm in this shit, and, like, it's good money, but it's not what I really want to do.
01:15:34.000Yeah, I've quit OnlyFans like a few times because of that same thing.
01:15:38.000It's like, yeah, you're making all this money.
01:16:25.000At least you know and you are willing to admit it because we've had many girls on the show that are involved in whether it's OnlyFans or dancing or pornography and they still sit there and try to argue with me and say I deserve a top tier guy and I'm like, Sweetheart,
01:16:40.000look, you've ostracized yourself from the very men you want.
01:16:44.000The only guys that will take you seriously now is precisely what you said, the bums and the losers that you don't want in the first place a lot of the times.
01:16:50.000And that's because they look at it like, oh, this is a come-up.
01:19:30.000If a girl came up to you and said, hey, you make a lot of money, you're successful doing this, I'm thinking about getting involved in this industry, what would you tell her verbatim?
01:19:38.000I actually had a show being filmed with girls coming for me to manage them.
01:19:44.000And there was girls that were actually coming to me for me to help them whatever money they saved them from OnlyFans to get out, to start a business.
01:19:51.000So the girls that come to me for me to manage them, I told them no.
01:20:27.000Now I'm just going to rent out my other room's reasonable rent price.
01:20:30.000I'm a firefighter, $80K. Bro, never, ever co-sign with a girl when you buy a real estate property, because now if you sell it, she's probably going to be in Tottletown.
01:22:29.000This is actually a pretty good question.
01:22:32.000So ladies, I want you to think on this one because it might take you a second.
01:22:35.000It says here, ladies, what is something you struggle to forgive yourself for in your last relationship or past relationships?
01:22:42.000I'll give you guys a minute because that might take some time.
01:22:44.000But think of something that you struggle to forgive yourself for or a mistake that you wish you didn't do, whatever may be in your last relationship.
01:22:50.000Stand Up Omega says, Without lies, Islam...
01:22:54.000Bro, what the fuck is wrong with y'all niggas, man?
01:27:06.000One thing I... I don't even regret it, but it goes back to the standpoint of y'all saying once they see you with somebody else, you can't go back.
01:37:05.000You can't, no disrespect, you can't date a man that worked for Walmart because you might as well have just stayed and clean and worked at Walmart yourself because now you're here.
01:37:15.000I said, so you got to date men that's on the same level as you, but she's truly focused.
01:37:21.000All my daughters have not really dated.
01:38:00.000I just believe a woman should have something.
01:38:04.000See, there's two ways in this conversation.
01:38:06.000A man wants a woman that could be an asset, but also I think both ways because I have daughters, right?
01:38:13.000And the thing that I would want for my daughters is if you, yeah, meet a man, be a lady, but I want you to have something that if it didn't work out, you can carry your own weight.
01:38:25.000There's so many stories of women who give their life to a guy, and he said, fuck you, and the bitch under the bridge is homeless because she didn't know what else to do.
01:38:36.000The family courts kind of ensure that'll never happen.
01:38:38.000I think women should definitely go to school, pursue your education, but I think when they're in school, there's a bunch of eligible bachelors that you can meet.
01:38:46.000And I've noticed with Caucasian women versus black women, not to be offensive here, Like, when Caucasian women go to college a lot of times, they'll be engaged by the time they're graduating.
01:39:05.000I want my daughter to fuck with nobody.
01:39:07.000This is how I'm moving, because I understand how it's fucked up out there, and then I'm protecting me as well, because I know what kind of dad I am.
01:39:15.000My kids got to go get their shit, handle your business, and if you meet someone, you meet someone.
01:39:21.000But mostly African-American women, unfortunately, and some whites and Spanish too, the more successful you become, the lonelier you become.
01:42:15.000I think the mistake that I regret is when I have a relationship, like a good relationship, and I'm stuck for somebody else, and then I couldn't be back in my relationship for seven years.
01:44:16.000I'm sitting here trying to hear, because I love your perspective on how you analyze things, and I'm sitting here just really anticipating what you're about to say.
01:44:25.000I just wanted to get all the girls' opinions.
01:44:30.000I don't want to sound like an asshole, but what I've realized is that we've interviewed almost 3,000 girls on this show, and it's incredible to me how a majority of women really are allergic to accountability.
01:44:39.000I don't know if you noticed, but a bunch of the girls, when we asked, hey, one thing you regretted or you can't forgive yourself for is either no regrets...
01:44:47.000I did something where I should have, you know, saw the red flags or I tried to help a guy that didn't want to help himself.
01:44:52.000Even when they're taking accountability, they're kind of doing it in a way where I'm taking accountability because I was so noble, military, etc.
01:45:00.000There's a monopoly of force to keep you online.
01:45:04.000With women, if they talk to you crazy, and you let that behavior persist, it's only gonna get worse.
01:45:11.000Because you have to be able to tell your girl, don't talk to me like that, or shut the fuck up.
01:45:19.000You have to put women in their place immediately.
01:45:21.000And number one, they are attracted to in the first place.
01:45:23.000And then number two, since women don't really deal with consequences for their actions, because they're able to get by in life on so many things, whether it's a speeding ticket, like, oh my god, batting their eyelashes, or getting shit for free.
01:45:34.000Most women don't really understand how the real world works or how consequences works because if you're pretty enough, you won't deal with consequences.
01:45:41.000So a lot of times if you're dealing with a really hot girl as a guy, you might be the first person to tell her no.
01:46:49.000Whenever a girl is in a position where she's helping the guy and he's being a lazy fucking bum, you start to become irritable and you start to get annoyed by him and you start to become very bitchy, naggy, and annoying.
01:46:58.000I found it very interesting how you didn't mention that.
01:47:01.000You just mentioned I tried to help him.
01:48:39.000So, like, if I'm a loser as a man, I'm fat, I'm a bum or whatever, I deal with direct consequences.
01:48:45.000People don't respect me, women don't want to go on dates with me, people make fun of me, I get bullied.
01:48:49.000As a woman, if you're a raging, annoying bitch, no one tells you you're a raging, annoying bitch.
01:48:54.000You just kind of go through life and it is what it is.
01:48:58.000So it's like girls are able to be insufferable and not deal with consequences versus as a man, you have to deal with consequences if you're a loser.
01:49:05.000So you guys don't get direct feedback on your behavior.
01:49:51.000I'm saying, outside of the men that you date in a relationship, I guarantee you there are probably guys out there, maybe they met you at a club, bought you a drink, maybe they tried to court you when you didn't give them the time of day, or you were rude to them or whatever.
01:50:03.000They accepted it because they're like, oh, I want to get laid.
01:50:49.000And take everything that you say and apply it to their life and adjust their way of thinking so that they can have knowledge or their journey to continue on.
01:50:59.000And they will be better in their relationships.
01:51:02.000They will be better in their decisions for the rest of their life.
01:51:05.000Because you put things in true perspective to make a person see clearly.
01:51:11.000But most people want to deflect, right?
01:51:13.000Most people don't want to hear what you've got to say.
01:51:16.000But if people just stay quiet, closed mouths is powerful because if you're quiet, you can really hear what a person is really telling you.
01:51:24.000And I just want the ladies here, the people who watch your show from this moment on, that when you start talking, even if it sounds crazy, say to yourself, let me hear what he has to say first and then apply it and then think about it.
01:51:41.000I appreciate that, TK. That means a lot coming from an OG like yourself, man.
01:51:45.000Yeah, I mean, a lot of it, like, people get mad at the way I deliver it or whatever, but if you ask me, like, why do you think that way, I'm able to tell you specifically why, you know, for example, why I don't live with women.
01:51:56.000I told you guys specifically, women are more prone to get bored in relationships and end it.
01:54:57.000Honestly, at the funeral, his dad sat in front of me, and his dad's word was like, I hope I go out like my son.
01:55:02.000At first, I felt like that was so disrespectful, but years after being in the industry, and people in high places asking about that, and they laugh, I used to cry when they laughed.
01:57:26.000You talking shit, but you still smash, though.
01:57:30.000If the chance was given, you still smash.
01:57:32.000Wait, wait, did you hear what she said?
01:57:34.000She talking shit, but you still smash, though.
01:57:37.000Nah, but it's true, because you're going to talk all that shit behind all them people, behind that little name, but you will still smash if I gave you the chance.
01:59:19.000Okay, while you guys think real quick, just to address your thing, because you said women can be faithful.
01:59:23.000I agree with you that they absolutely can be faithful, but that's contingent upon her respecting the man, and then once she respects him, then she can love him, and once she respects and loves him, then she's going to be faithful.
01:59:34.000But I would argue that women are naturally unfaithful.
01:59:37.000And let me explain what I mean by this.
01:59:49.000Our brains are still hardwired to look for certain things in the opposite gender.
01:59:53.000Women typically look at men from a security perspective.
01:59:56.000We look at women from a replication perspective.
01:59:58.000In other words, we want a hot girl to have children with so that our seed can look good.
02:00:01.000You guys want a man that can protect and provide for you so that you can have those children, right?
02:00:05.000This whole concept of women earning money and going into the workforce is a relatively new thing in the past 100 or 200 years.
02:00:11.000So we're still programmed from like thousands of years of biology where women still look for security, right?
02:00:18.000Now that I got that foreground there, the reason why I say women naturally are not faithful, right, or not loyal is because it's against your biology to be loyal.
02:00:28.000What I've realized is women are loyal to only the strongest men, right?
02:00:32.000So if you're a guy and you don't have your shit together and you can't garner respect from the woman, she cannot be faithful and respect you.
02:00:40.000But, now I know you're probably saying like, whoa, hold on, wait one second.
02:01:07.000I say women align themselves with the strongest men and they naturally can't be faithful because they have to align themselves with the strongest men.
02:01:14.000You know, polygamy was a thing back in the day.
02:01:16.000Where did all the women find themselves?
02:01:24.000Put yourself with the strongest man or die.
02:01:26.000What do they do from a survival standpoint?
02:01:28.000Put themselves with the strongest man.
02:01:29.000And I think that situation has continued to perpetuate throughout human society and women still to this day look for a man that's tall, look for a man that's strong, look for a man that has money, look for a man that has status because these are all security value things.
02:01:41.000But with us, we can marry a chick from McDonald's.
02:01:46.000So I would argue men are far more naturally loyal to women than women are in men because for us, we're not contingent upon your status to stay loyal.
02:01:55.000Now with that said, we're not loyal sexually.
02:01:56.000We want to have sex with a bunch of women.
02:01:58.000However, I could fuck another girl and love my chick though.
02:13:57.000And TK's going to be there as well, so you guys can meet him.
02:13:59.000And then last one here, Real Trump just came in.
02:14:01.000What up FNF? Just wanted to say, I know you guys say Kevin Samuels was the GOAT, but I'm just wondering if you guys have heard of Tom Likas.
02:14:07.000He's the OG, and we'd love to see him.
02:14:10.000He's the reason why I became actually knowledgeable about his space because I was going through an issue with my relationship and I found him on YouTube, so it helped me a lot.
02:14:18.000Yeah, we're going to try to get him on.
02:14:19.000Anyway, guys, all the ladies' Instagrams are below.