In this episode of the Fresh & Fit Podcast, we are hosting our first ever speed dating event! In this episode, we will be interviewing women who are looking to find love here in Miami, Florida. Why do they want to date? What do they like to do? What are they looking for in a partner? Why does she want to settle down and have a family? How old is she? And why is she looking for love? All of these questions and more will be answered in this episode. We will be live streaming live on all the platforms, including Twitch, YouTube, Rumble, Twitch, etc. So make sure to check us out on all of the platforms! If we ever get canceled, you know exactly where to find us! RUMBLE! That is a home base for us, and you know where we would like to find you! Also, check out our new podcast, Fresh and Fit, where you get all the behind-the-scenes content we are live streaming right now! We are giving you all the information you need to know about us, so you can be a part of our movement! Thank you for listening and supporting us! <3, and stay tuned for more episodes in the future episodes coming soon! - Elyssa, Erika, Michael, and Anna! xoxo, Evelina, and Analaura, ( ) - Rachel, Eudes, Elesa, and Erica, EJ, and Jasmin, . Thanks for listening to the podcast, and thank you so much for supporting us, thank you for being here! Cheers, Rachel, Rachel and EJosie, and Rachel, Thank you! - Rachel and Anna, Elicia, and Ella, Rachel, and Erika & Erica, and so much more! <3 - Rachel & Anna, and your support, Elexa, Cheyenne, and Eliza, and the rest of the team. - Thank you, Rachel & EJ & Elese, and all of your support and support, and love, Rachel , EJ and Elesee, - Chey & Eleanore and Eryn :) Thankyou, Emanu, Ester, and Ariana, and Alyssa & Eudes .
00:03:40.000So, ladies and gentlemen, if you don't mind, give us your name, your age, what you can do for a living, and why do you want to find love here in Florida?
00:06:08.000And the reason why I want to find love, I think it's important to, you know, when you're fulfilled in life, when you have all your other compartments of life fulfilled, it's better to, you know, serve someone and kind of give yourself to someone.
00:06:17.000And I feel that it's really important nowadays because masculinity is being attacked.
00:09:36.000Just one more time, how's dating, you would say, for most people in Florida itself?
00:09:40.000So, dating for most people in Florida, if you're going to be using an application, if you're going to be using any sort of technical device, you will find people are not really finding love or connecting there.
00:09:52.000However, when you're doing matchmaking, like Mary-Kate and myself, and you approach people and you propose them with the question, are you dating?
00:10:00.000Love starts to take off in a whole different kind of way.
00:10:03.000In that regard, it feels like love itself comes from God.
00:10:07.000People try to use movies and music to describe it, and it is a very beautiful thing, and it comes from a very beautiful place.
00:10:14.000So, when they were approached and you were approached, we're about to find out what that beautiful place is.
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00:15:47.000Here we have our two first beautiful singles.
00:15:50.000And we're going to start with some icebreakers.
00:15:52.000And what's crucial about icebreakers is that it starts to peel back the layers of the onion, which is so important and fundamental in dating.
00:15:58.000That's the really only way you can start to create meaningful connections.
00:16:01.000So guys, without further ado, I'm not going to waste anyone's time.
00:16:04.000Why don't you pick up a card and open up your first icebreaker.
00:16:44.000I'd say, like, sports has always been super important to me.
00:16:48.000I've been competing in bodybuilding for the past two years, and I have aspirations of becoming an IFBB Pro bodybuilder within the next couple years.
00:16:56.000So, right now, I'm in the gym every single morning, 5 in the morning, and that's, like, one of my chief goals in life right now.
00:17:05.000I think it's very important for guys to stay fit because I think it clears the mind and shows me that the guy is motivated and also because he takes care of himself.
00:18:04.000Where would that kind of question, as you are entering the field of dating, come up for you in your particular love life?
00:18:11.000Okay, so my first deal breaker, when I meet the guy, if he does want to have kids, because I know this is something that is important to me, so I would not sacrifice something that is important to me.
00:18:23.000And, yeah, that would be my first one.
00:18:26.000Second one, if he was like, oh, you know what, you're not going to be the first girl, I mean, the only girl who I'm dating, so I'm, like, choosing girls.
00:18:33.000I mean, like, when you're already, like, progressing, so I'm not going to be the second or third choice, you know.
00:18:42.000I think that's a fantastic way to approach this because it is a very important thing to talk about when it comes to dating, that if I want to have children, the candidate that I'm with shouldn't waste my time and wants to have children too.
00:18:54.000So we're about to kick it up a notch and start asking these questions a little bit more slowly, Sid.
00:19:00.000Why don't you go ahead and ask her her age and comment about what she has to say about children.
00:19:18.000And I still feel young, so I don't think age is the number, even though I think it's a bit unfair for women that we cannot have kids past a certain age.
00:19:27.000So it's something that I have to be keeping in mind when I'm dating.
00:19:32.000So I cannot be, let's say, with a guy who'll be like, oh, I think I will be ready for kids in five years.
00:19:37.000Well, I'll be 40 in five years, so I don't think it's something going to...
00:19:42.000There's such a balance and really, the balance between being realistic and also being accurate with what you want.
00:19:49.000Where it's like the reality is, yeah, you want kids, you're not gonna be waiting for another five years.
00:19:52.000And so having that upfront conversation in the beginning, early stages of dating is crucial.
00:19:58.000Let's just keep the chemistry flowing here.
00:20:00.000Sid, why don't you go ahead and ask another question?
00:20:05.000Why don't we move on to the next, actually, couple, and then we're going to have more questions.
00:20:08.000I guess that means that your round is up.
00:20:10.000Okay, so what we're going to do is we're going to see if there's chemistry amongst some new couple while you two get a chance to meet each other for the first time in the back.
00:20:17.000All right, and then Sid, thank you so much.
00:21:17.000Ben, right before we get into that, I would like you guys to kind of introduce yourselves to each other because we got to get a little bit of chemistry going on.
00:21:25.000Jim, why don't you go ahead and tell her how we meet and we start off with a little bit of eye contact.
00:21:31.000You guys have not seen each other for the first time.
00:21:44.000Alright, and then Jim, why don't you go ahead and tell us Tell her how you and me met and how you came to go and ask this beautiful girl on a date right now.
00:21:52.000Okay, I was with my friend in the mall.
00:24:13.000Okay, what is your idea of a perfect first date?
00:24:19.000Probably something like actually active, like going to an amusement park or something, like not going to the movies or something, because I feel like you can't get to know somebody at a movie theater.
00:27:08.000Okay, so what I'm hearing is that you try to learn the other person's love language?
00:27:11.000No, I actively try to initiate, show you love in every love language, like words of affirmation, gift-giving.
00:27:19.000I'm a very nurturing person, and so I think that I don't ever want my significant other to feel lack in one aspect, and I truly try my best to not, I don't know, not make you feel like you're not receiving a certain aspect, you know?
00:28:45.000I'm a little confused because you're working to show affection, yet...
00:28:52.000Once presented with affection, you continue working.
00:28:55.000I'm a little bit lost here, Mary-Kate.
00:28:57.000It seems like we have a little bit of a lost ideology when it comes to dating plans.
00:29:01.000Yeah, I think we do need to be more realistic, and you get to communicate that from the get-go.
00:29:05.000So, for example, if you're a hard worker and you're like, hey, babe, this is what I see in the vision of our relationship, me providing, you know, hey, at some point, if you want to take a step back, I'll support you because I'm here working.
00:29:17.000But that may mean that I'm not going to be here 100% for quality time.
00:29:22.000Yeah, I think my scenario would work out in a way where if she actually came in and started helping me with what I had going on, that is essentially how she would get my time.
00:29:37.000So because I got a chance to speak with you earlier, I got a chance to know Brett.
00:29:41.000And when the bastards were hanging out, we had a little bit of a chat.
00:29:43.000And if you girls want to know what we said, here's what went down.
00:29:48.000Basically, when it comes to dating and romance, this gentleman over here is a hard-working, clipping, Instagram reels, marketing kind of guy.
00:29:57.000So because he puts so much attention and affection and love into his work, he needs you to match him there in business right now.
00:30:06.000Keep in mind, you guys don't know each other yet.
00:30:09.000We don't even know where the chemistry is going to go.
00:30:11.000But one of his prerequisites seems to be that you're going to have to be In order to be the love of his life, his requirement is that you're going to be in the field with him working.
00:31:06.000And let me add something real quick, by the way, because I work with a lot of entrepreneurs, a lot of single entrepreneurs, and the fallacy that they have is that, oh, if I were to put an ounce of energy into dating, then that's going to take away from my business, ergo my money.
00:31:21.000Think of dating as contributing to your success, because God forbid you get to the top and you are that million, X million, or whatever, and you've got no one to enjoy it with.
00:32:27.000I'm not saying, you know, it's not the right way to do it, but at the end of the day, you see it, you like it, then all of a sudden she hears these beautiful words floating in the room, and she feels, ah!
00:33:05.000All right, we're gonna switch it up because we've gone through those three questions, but we haven't gone through the list over there, so why don't you start with an icebreaker for Nubia over here?
00:33:29.000Well, to be honest, I lived my whole life in the Bahamas, and I knew all my life.
00:33:33.000I had dual citizenship, so I was like, man, I'm an adult, not 18, so I'm like, I'm going to come over, and I'm going to be 23, so it's like, yeah.
00:34:51.000So, by the way, what Michael is doing is what everyone should be doing, which, as you can see, that he has a very, very sharpened confidence tool in his dating toolbox, which is your biggest asset in dating, 100%, because that introduces you before you even open up your mouth.
00:42:45.000Because I was born in Russia and raised basically in Russia, so it's a bit different there than here, I guess, because maybe people are a bit more selfish when it comes, you know, to their goal, personal goals, and they are just, okay, I'm going to do my thing, you do your thing, so we're not together anymore, you know?
00:43:05.000So when you were younger, did you want to have a relationship, or you kind of focused on your career?
00:43:09.000No, I knew that I'm going to get married around 30.
00:43:12.000So in my 20s, I didn't care about, like, serious relationship.
00:43:14.000I was just exploring because I came here when I was, like, 20.
00:43:41.000I was thinking about it the other day that a lot of men, I think, are a bit too close.
00:43:45.000I think they've been hurt by their previous relationship, so I think that would be my ideal man who's willing to give and receive love.
00:43:55.000And what do you think you can do to support that individual that has been hurt, that has been through some challenging situations in life that can actually make him feel comfortable to be open and open-hearted to you?
00:44:04.000I've been thinking about it, and actually, I think for the past five years, I've been working on myself.
00:44:08.000And I think when you have open heart, I think it should be felt by another person.
00:44:16.000So I'm willing to support, I'm willing to, you know, go out of my way sometimes to understand another person's, his wounds, his traumatic experiences.
00:45:31.000I've been working on myself since I started.
00:45:33.000Since 19 years old, I met a mentor in my life who said, if you don't change your mindset today, you're never going to become who you want to become.
00:45:45.000I came from a domestic violence, foster care child, got kicked out of eight out of nine schools.
00:45:49.000I was the statistic that was going to, you know, that wasn't supposed to make it.
00:45:52.000So at 19, when I met a mentor, he invested so much into me and I started to read books and invest in myself and go into podcasts and events and stuff like that.
00:45:59.000My life journey was to become a better me.
00:46:02.000Every day I want to become a better version of myself.
00:46:03.0002.0 version of myself when I'm 90 or 100 years old, I want to meet that person and say, wow, we're twins.
00:46:09.000So every single day in my life, whether it's physical, mental, emotional, spiritual, financial, recreational, relational, there has to be improvement.
00:46:15.000So one of the things that I've been improving in the relational aspect is being, number one, emotionally, having better emotional intelligence.
00:46:22.000So when I was younger, I didn't have the emotional intelligence.
00:48:54.000I mean, I spent a little bit of my childhood in India, so I traveled to a bunch of different countries in Asia, like Indonesia, Bali, Singapore, China...
00:51:56.000Yo, so what I'll do is I'll read some of these chats.
00:52:00.000Me, Mo, and the Bills are in the back running this joint.
00:52:02.000So we got Jab Beats, Jab Miles goes, an underrated issue for men today are these women-only groups on social media that go by cis, This is your man, and are we dating the same guy?
00:52:15.000Both go under the guise of protecting women, yet are really used for ruining men's reputations.
00:52:22.000Elijah Tickborn says, Hey Martin and Fresh, I'm trying to book you guys for a Mother's Day shoutout on Cameo, but it says it's unavailable.
00:52:28.000Could you guys turn it back on for Mother's Day?
00:53:01.000Fresh Code, you got something to say before you turn it over?
00:53:04.000Yeah, before we go to this second last possible couple here, I just find it funny because people are saying strange things in the chat, but look at it this way.
00:53:12.000You're seeing live in color how dating can be and what people talk about.
00:53:16.000So just learn from it, take it in, and...
00:55:10.000Okay, so JDM is when you rig your car and you get like all these foreign parts and you just super boosted and I don't know any other guy terms, but yeah.
00:58:21.000No, when the pandemic opened up, I was really into pottery because I needed to get out of the house and do something different, and my dad bought me a wheel for my birthday, and I couldn't find a kiln, so I kind of stopped a little bit.
00:58:35.000Were you ever actually able to make anything?
01:08:36.000I want to commend everyone that came here because it's not easy to be on a camera and saying hello and dating and being vulnerable and stuff.
01:08:41.000So I want to say thank you to everyone that came out and I had a great time.
01:08:44.000As a matchmaker, Fresh and Fit is the only place uniting hearts.
01:10:25.000Cam Two Times says, The most part of the show, if the game is to have her enter your frame, a cheek-slaying soldier always must maintain within his masculine frame, as this is the best way to keep your woman tamed, and her guts you shall rearrange.