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00:02:58.000I almost finished associates for psychology, but then I went into medical and I did a technical class, I guess you can say, for cardiology.
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00:17:31.000I mean, I don't really go on first dates like that.
00:17:33.000I don't do blind dates, but I think if it was like that, usually guys, when you're texting and stuff, they're like, oh, and you have friends or something like that, and it's like, that's it.
00:18:28.000If I'm looking on a dating app at someone, it's going to be image-based, most likely.
00:18:33.000So, it's going to be someone who's either really out of shape or someone who has, you know, a lot of balding going on and someone who probably doesn't have...
00:18:41.000You don't have to have a ton of swag, but if you don't know how to dress yourself, you look like you haven't left your mom's house in several years, it's a disqualifier.
00:18:50.000That's what I was going to say is physical fitness.
00:18:52.000I don't like to paint a broad stroke over all people because I think some people, you know, might have certain things that are stronger in some aspects.
00:19:11.000And so if someone was a liberal, hypothetically, I'm not, but and they were really strong in other areas.
00:19:15.000For example, they're really successful or really high achievers or very good looking.
00:21:13.000Being independent is fine, but it's just like one of these things where like men are useless or something like that.
00:21:17.000Or just basically when you have a conversation with them about like, hey, you know, you're more likely to cheat if you fuck more guys before you got married.
00:21:37.000Well, I think it's funny because people always say, oh, you can't judge a book by its cover, but it's like, yeah, but you've got to see what the cover is, right?
00:21:45.000I hate to say it, but I'm just being honest.
00:21:47.000You can judge its caloric intake by the cover.
00:22:11.000Okay, we can start hearing their work our way back.
00:22:15.000Assuming the guy checks all your boxes and he's attractive and you would see yourself going on a first date with him, does it matter where he takes you?
00:22:56.000Real quick, assuming you like the guy and he checks your boxes, he's funny, he's witty, he's charismatic and all these things in conversation, does it matter where he takes you on the first date?
00:23:09.000Well, if you're talking like restaurant-wise, no, not necessarily, but I just don't like to be like hanging out in the front seat of a fucking car.
00:23:15.000Okay, assuming it's not him telling you to come over to his house or let's hang out, you know, doing something strange that puts you in a safety situation.
00:23:26.000Yeah, let me make sure I add that caveat.
00:23:28.000If he's attractive and you find everything about him to be up to standard, etc., and he invites you on a date and it's nothing weird where your safety is at, you know, risk, doesn't matter where he takes you.
00:23:51.000So it's not a deal breaker, but I'm taking notes.
00:23:55.000For example, I had that exact situation happen a few weeks ago.
00:23:59.000A great guy took me to Benihana, which was fun and cute, not super expensive, and it was not a deal breaker.
00:24:07.000But it told me a little bit, I think, about maybe his socioeconomic status or his level of investment in me or what kind of, you know, restaurants he likes to frequent.
00:24:16.000And that indicates to me lifestyle compatibility.
00:24:19.000So it's not a deal breaker, but I'm taking notes.
00:24:26.000I mean, you're a matchmaker, so you understand the male perspective.
00:24:29.000Wouldn't it be fair to say that a lot of women go out for certain experiences and that's a screening tactic to get rid of women that are there just for an experience versus to get to know the guy?
00:24:37.000I certainly, from a man's perspective, could see that.
00:24:39.000You know, if a man does not want a gold digger, he might test her that way.
00:24:43.000But from a woman's perspective, it's a test too.
00:24:45.000Because I want to see how much you want to impress me as a man.
00:25:27.000You know, if someone, if that's the best that they can do and I see potential in them and they're ambitious, maybe I will give them a chance.
00:25:37.000I disagree with you on that point because the guys that women want are going to absolutely employ that test that you don't think is a test.
00:25:47.000No, I'm talking about the guys will employ the test where they take her to somewhere that isn't necessarily as expensive or luxurious to see how she responds.
00:26:02.000But that's why I qualified it by saying the men that are attractive, that women want, that have the net worth and the status, a lot of the times they'll test women by taking them somewhere that isn't expensive to see how they react.
00:26:28.000Wouldn't it be fair to say that women are the ones that play the game because the man has to attract her to some degree for the game to even begin?
00:26:33.000I would say that women play a lot more games than men, yes, but that's a game.
00:26:37.000I date guys that are like, this is what I'm worth, this is what I'm coming with.
00:28:35.000So what I'm saying is that the reason why guys will employ a tactic like that, especially high net worth individuals, because I know them and I know that they do this, is because there's a lot of vulturous women out there that are just looking for a bag or looking to get an experience, etc.
00:29:06.000That's an L for you as a female anyway.
00:29:07.000What's not an L, if all she wants to do is smash, there's this theory that men don't just, that women don't just want to smash.
00:29:13.000Newsflash guys, lots of women just want to smash and they want a guy that's going to take them to really nice places while they're smashing!
00:29:23.000Because here's the thing, the majority of men aren't running rampant looking for wives.
00:29:29.000The majority of them are looking to smash.
00:29:31.000So women are like, I don't mind smashing, but I'd rather smash after no boo than after Starbucks.
00:29:36.000Yeah, so you just defeated your own argument, because women treat sex as a value-loaded exchange, not an equal value exchange like you're trying to say.
00:29:43.000It's, I need something in return for the sex, and a lot of times that means I need more energy and effort than I put in to get the sex.
00:29:49.000What I'm saying is that, cool, that guy could put that effort in or whatever, and if he has the means and the money to do so, but you're just going to be put in a sex-only category and never get the relationship that you want.
00:29:56.000Right, but again, women are not a monolith.
00:30:23.000The very man that you said that you would disqualify for the coffee date, that's the guy that more than likely is probably looking for something serious because he wanted to screen a woman out from the beginning versus the guy that you mentioned, I'm going to be a baller and spend money.
00:30:32.000He's clearly looking for sex and be just saying, let's go to no, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:30:35.000And that's not what most women are looking for.
00:30:37.000I'm not most women, plus I'm older than a lot of these girls.
00:30:42.000These girls are probably looking for husbands and long romances.
00:31:08.000I think women in my age bracket are not looking for long-term romance and looking to take care of a man and looking to wash drawers like you mentioned that have Hershey streaks in them.
00:31:17.000You think that most women want to be single at 50?
00:31:20.000At my age, I think we're pretty much...
00:31:54.000I respectfully disagree with you with the notion that women who are childless and single at 50 are happy that way because one quarter of childless women regret not having kids.
00:32:17.000So I'm going to, well you can say, here's the thing, on my podcast, on the block with Jen, I literally hold up a sign, some, not all, to make everyone comfortable.
00:32:26.000Because I make a blanket statement and everyone says, hey, but, you know, that's not all women.
00:32:29.000So I literally hold up a sign that says, not all.
00:32:32.000Okay, well, you did make a blanket statement about women your age being very happy and wanting to be single.
00:33:55.000So for those of a lot of guys, Myron and I were talking about real estate right before this.
00:33:59.000A lot of guys trying to stack their money and try to leave generational wealth for their family.
00:34:03.000This is one of the best books I've ever read.
00:34:05.000It's called The Millionaire Next Door.
00:34:06.000And one of the things they talk about is for men who end up gaining that amount of money, one of the most common indicators is if the wife is actually more stingy than the husband.
00:34:15.000So if I want generational wealth, having a woman who ends up being a sieve on my finances is not the way to do it.
00:34:22.000So me wanting to find a woman who's more stingy than I am, which I have one now, that's actually a huge plus for me.
00:34:50.000So if you like the guy and everything actually matches up and you're attracted to him, doesn't matter where he takes you on the first day, assuming there's no safety risk.
00:34:59.000I like nice, pretty places from the first date, so...
00:35:51.000It does matter in the sense of I'd rather a coffee date a drink or like a dinner rather than somebody saying hey I have a table at a club because I've had that before like hey I have this table at the club if you want to come through I don't like that okay I want to be able to talk to the person okay so for you it's not it's more of a logistical situation not necessarily a financial situation no yeah no I don't care about the finances we can go to Starbucks for all I care okay I agree.
00:36:18.000So for you, it's a yes, but it's around the premise of being able to speak to the individual.
00:38:17.000I think a really good first date might be nothing secluded like a park, because that's almost too mushy-mushy, right?
00:38:24.000You don't need to be doing anything like that.
00:38:26.000But somewhere in a public setting, not too loud, but also something to where if it does go awkwardly, you have distractions around you, right?
00:42:41.000Yeah, but that contradicts what you said a second ago when I asked, and you said, when I said if the guy was nice and everything, and you found him attractive, you said it needed to be a nice restaurant.
00:42:49.000Now you're saying, if it was first date, it could be a hole in the wall.
00:42:53.000I mean, I'm not saying like a ghetto place, but like, that's what I'm telling you in front of Sunny Isles.
00:42:58.000It's like nice places, but it's like...
00:43:25.000So I'll preface this by saying my answer is based on the fact that I've been taken on some really beautiful, wonderful dates to some amazing places, but I'm not a snob in the sense that I'll reject someone who doesn't take me to this kind of place.
00:43:39.000But my ideal is probably Nobu Malibu or Soho House Malibu or Catch Steak, something like that.
00:44:38.000I think that an ideal first date should be something that that person finds really intriguing or something that he thinks that I would find really intriguing.
00:44:46.000So it would basically give me a cue into my ideal?
00:46:42.000I think that the men that don't qualify for the yell, take the coffee, get mad, but everybody doesn't qualify for anything.
00:46:50.000So yeah, some guys have to work a little harder, they have to impress a little bit more, and some guys just come in, and you guys do it too with women.
00:46:57.000If a woman's very attractive, you'll give her more of a pass, and if she's not, you're like, well kind of prove yourself, because you're not really my type.
00:47:05.000But I'm willing to work with you because you're a nice person.
00:48:27.000All of you guys have pretty lower standards when it comes to if you're attracted to the guy, what you're willing to go out on a date, assuming you like the guy.
00:48:36.000But the only person that had something fancy with the five-star is you, with the Nobu, etc.
00:48:41.000My question is, are you, assuming you're on a date with a guy like that, are you okay with him not being monogamous?
00:49:47.000So, yeah, I think it doesn't bother me because when you know you have that person and they come into you and it's just like the love and you feel it, nothing could break it.
00:49:56.000Would have you accepted cheating ten years ago?
00:52:38.000I will tell you, I'm not going to say I've ever been like someone else's other woman, but just because you live on a country club, I've lived on a country club and I've seen people smashing on the golf course.
00:56:29.000This is the explanation for why we say the bigger the hoop, the bigger the hoe.
00:56:35.000I was explaining it to Domo off-camera here before.
00:56:38.000If you go and you look at any porn movie right now, Odds are, the women are wearing hoop earrings.
00:56:43.000The reason for that is because there's a study by Dr.
00:56:46.000Marty Hazelton, who was an evolutionary psychologist, and she was studying sexual ornamentation.
00:56:54.000That means when women are in their ovulatory phase, they tend to dress in red, they tend to show more skin, they tend to sexualize themselves that much more, and they tend to wear what?
00:59:14.000David Stark says, ladies, if your man loved his career, but it didn't pay enough to provide to your dream lifestyle, would you accept it, leave, or tell him to change his occupation?
00:59:24.000We'll do that after the topic at hand, guys.
00:59:53.000Ivan Lilo says, from, so 220 pounds down from 245 pounds, 165k yearly in Vegas, one home with 250k equity, focusing on fitness and leveling up.
01:00:04.000Broke up with my feminist girlfriend last year, thank Jesus.
01:05:19.000Ladies, this list went viral, so clearly a bunch of women are resharing and retweeting it, so a bunch of them agree with this, and they're sharing it.
01:05:26.000So what we're asking is, do you agree with this list?
01:05:29.000Are some of the things on there ridiculous?
01:15:20.000This is why guys need to give women less.
01:15:23.000I wrote a book, Why Women Deserve Less, and you guys kind of proved my point here.
01:15:27.000What I've come to realize is the way a woman treats you, the things that she's gonna put you through, how much she's gonna put you through the ringer, is directly related to how attractive she is to you.
01:15:35.000And the reality is men need to focus on themselves more, make more money, become more attractive, et cetera, so they don't have to work as hard with impressing girls and taking them to lavish areas that the women are not gonna appreciate for them anyway.
01:15:46.000They're gonna try to get an entertainment experience.
01:15:48.000And the reason why I asked those questions was, hey, if you like the guy, are you going to really, you know, stress him out and say, I want to go here and I want to do this or whatever?
01:15:55.000And I've come to realize that girls make certain guys work hard and then other guys not work so hard.
01:15:59.000So my question is this, why should a guy go through the trouble of taking you on a fancy ass date and everything else when there's other men that can clearly take you to just get some coffee or something regular?
01:16:08.000Why should he spend extra time and money to take you even though you wouldn't do that to another guy?
01:16:12.000Because we're spending extra time trying to pretend liking you.
01:16:17.000Let's go around the table on this one.
01:16:19.000So why is it that you're going to make some other guys pay full price for something that other guys are getting for free and or paying little to nothing for?
01:16:28.000oh my gosh can you say that one more time so why is it that you would make some guys you know go through the whole rigmarole to take you on a date but other guys not and should they still do take the make the effort to take you on these dates honestly i'm going to tell you straight out whether i want to go on the date with you or not and chances are if i don't i'm going to tell you i'm very very busy i'm working everything i'm doing is making money and if i'm not making money then i'm kind of upset right So if I'm going to do something that I enjoy and I want to go on a date with you,
01:16:57.000I'm not going to make you pay that much because it's something that I actually want to do and enjoy with my own time.
01:17:02.000So have you never been on a date with a guy that you really like that much but it was a really nice restaurant or a cool experience?
01:18:20.000Would you go to Olive Garden with a guy if he looked like Henry Cavill or he looked like Jason Momoa or he was just like your physical ideal that you were just like, man, I'm going to go through this because I know what's coming at the end of the date.
01:18:48.000So, throughout this podcast, we've pretty much established that women will absolutely punish certain guys if they're not attractive enough and force them to pay for expensive dates or extravagant experiences, whatever, while other guys might not have to do any of that crap.
01:18:58.000Knowing what you know now, where would you tell your son to take a first date?
01:21:20.000But at the end of the day, your job is absolutely contingent upon selling a dream and or image to men to get money for so.
01:21:26.000And a lot of the times that comes in with faking attraction, faking arousal, faking that you want to talk to and faking that you care, etc.
01:21:33.000I guarantee that's a part of the reason why they say, I'll take you here and there because they're so infatuated with your behaviors.
01:24:55.000What would you tell your son as far as where he should take a girl knowing what you know now about how women make some guys work really hard and others not?
01:25:35.000And then I say to, like, justify it based off of that and what your budget is.
01:25:39.000So if you just want to have sex with her, then, to be honest with you, I wouldn't spend too much, but try to make it look like you're spending a lot.
01:25:58.000Yeah, so they have this like really nice, really nice restaurant that's kind of like a cheesecake factory and I was like, well just take her there.
01:26:05.000And then, they're 25, so he wasn't 25 at the time, he was like 20.
01:26:11.000But I was like, just take her somewhere like there and then just see how the conversation goes.
01:27:52.000I date women as well and I actually date women before I dated men and like I was dumb and I used to take girls out on like these extravagant dates and buy them a lot of shit and then I'm an idiot and I'm like why did I do this because I'm not with them right now and they're somewhere else.
01:28:08.000So I wouldn't tell them to spend a lot.
01:28:52.000It's just all about, like, it's just the way I see it, it's all about, like, the connection and, like, the energy and what I think I'm gonna take it from there.
01:29:21.000Well, actually, you are a matchmaker, right?
01:29:23.000So what do you tell men that go on first dates with women knowing that a lot of women are predatory on first days trying to get experience?
01:29:29.000Yeah, and I also have two younger brothers.
01:29:32.000So if someone was 25, for your hypothetical example, making 50 grand a year, I would say either take her to the movies on half-off Tuesday, or, like one of my brothers, I said, take her to this aquarium.
01:30:03.000I think at that age, if you're trying to build and grind, have a good girl by your side who's going to support you through that.
01:30:08.000And then once you get to that peak financial point in your career, if she's still by your side and you want to either upgrade or wife her, then you can make that decision with her or by yourself.
01:30:17.000But first date, 50 grand a year, 25 years old, don't break the bank.
01:30:23.000Most men, if they're with a girl and they grind and they become successful, they probably keep that girl by the side or marry her and then have another chick on the side.
01:30:30.000But if a woman upgraded, she would never keep that guy by the side.
01:30:33.000Potentially, but there are also a lot of guys who once they do hit that point, then they want the super hot girl.
01:30:38.000If they're in a big city like Miami or LA. Yeah, they'll fuck her and make her the side chick.
01:30:41.000They'll have that main girl that was there with them from the beginning.
01:30:43.000What I've realized is that men tend to be loyal when they become successful and there was a girl stuck by them.
01:30:47.000But if a girl makes more money and becomes successful, she's dropping that guy.
01:32:17.000What would you tell your son knowing that women date predatory on first dates?
01:32:21.000I think knowing that women that do that, I think it's definitely not smart to spend more money because then the woman is going to look at them differently and kind of more go towards being predative towards that person.
01:32:34.000So I think like some of my favorite dates with like People that don't necessarily know if they want to spend that money yet is kind of just going to a cool lounge or a cool restaurant or something like that.
01:34:46.000I said that to illustrate how important sex is for men, where they will sit there on a date with a girl they don't like, endure stupid conversation with her, and talk to her for the potential of getting sex immediately.
01:35:00.000To include spending money and spending time in something that isn't guaranteed.
01:35:04.000If that doesn't prove that men want sex to a higher degree, I don't know what else does.
01:35:12.000He's looking for something, which is probably sex, and if he's going on a first date and he's not looking to actually be in a relationship with her, all he wants is sex, then he has to pay for that.
01:35:23.000But the woman has the leverage and she's the one that's taking his time and money, so she's in a predatory situation.
01:36:23.000I was trying to answer, and then you went and spoke to somebody else, so I lost train of thought.
01:36:27.000Well, yeah, she was trying to come in and defend you, and she didn't do too much.
01:36:29.000So my thing is, if you're going to come in and you're going to be engaged in a conversation, like, this isn't a, oh, let me just listen to myself talk.
01:37:05.000Because if they go on a first date and they're like looking at it through a man's lens of, oh, well, he just spent a hundred bucks and I'm going to, you know, I feel bad, so I'm going to sleep with him.
01:37:16.000So that's what I would say to your point.
01:37:18.000So modern dating is basically a situation of a hostage negotiation.
01:37:21.000But you're missing the whole point that overwhelmingly men are the ones that put their nuts on the line, their time on the line, their money on the line, their energy, their resource on the line to deal with women that don't necessarily like them and or even care to want to get to know them, whatever.
01:37:35.000What I'm trying to say is guys will do all that in the pursuit of sex and hang out with a girl that they don't even like.
01:37:40.000So here's what I think women need to do a better job at, because I know quite a few women who are dinner daters, and they will go on multiple dates with a guy.
01:37:48.000But, well, what I think they should do, which I do, is if you know off the bat that you're not into someone, don't go on a second or third date.
01:37:54.000Now, also, though, with men, if you feel like this is the best girl you could possibly get with, and you want to impress her because you think that that will elevate your status, you like her femininity, then I think testing her and cheaping out on a date might be shooting yourself in the foot.
01:38:10.000Because if you see her value, you're going to want to spend money on her.
01:38:13.000Wouldn't it be better for him to level up his game so she's not the best?
01:38:25.000Most of them are attractive to a degree, and most of them are fairly similar.
01:38:28.000The problem is that a lot of girls think that they're special, and they think, I'm a diamond dozen, I'm so special, blah, blah, blah.
01:38:31.000The reality is you guys are not as special as you think you guys are.
01:38:34.000The things that you bring to the table that you think make you special, like status in a career no one gives a fuck about.
01:38:38.000And the things that men actually look for in women are scarce.
01:38:40.000Not being a whore, not being annoying, not being loud and obnoxious, not being all over the internet showing your body off, etc.
01:38:46.000This is what's actually rare, but women go ahead and cover things that men don't really value that much and they think that's what makes them special.
01:39:51.000Human women, a lot of times, don't necessarily deserve the type of man that they think that they deserve and they don't bring to the table the thing that men used to be able to get for all these things that you guys cherish and want in men.
01:40:02.000We used to be able to get a dutiful, submissive, good girl that wasn't a whore that we could be rest assured that more than likely she had less than three body count by the time we married her or a virgin.
01:40:12.000Yes, you're saying that since the beginning of time, that's how it's been and everything else like that, but it's not a fair deal for men anymore.
01:40:23.000And they're still demanding the top tier guys.
01:40:26.000So what I'm saying is like, yo, this is a losing war for you.
01:40:28.000You need to go ahead and come in and date more defensively and understand that women have changed and they're not necessarily going to give you what you think you want or deserve.
01:40:36.000So I'm telling guys what it really is.
01:41:33.000Well, I was gonna say, everybody, like, I've heard this thing, women have catered to men for years and years, but listen, okay, when women...
01:41:42.000But those men were also responsible for everything she did.
01:41:44.000Why, when a woman misbehaved or created, like, a family feud or something at 1800s, why did the men have to go fight a duel?
01:41:51.000They were the ones who shed blood for her actions.
01:42:08.000I know what I'm trying to say, but I'm just saying, with the rise of femininity and where it's gone, though, with feminism and stuff, I feel like it's important for people like Myron, who gives a voice to men that are in a hopeless situation.
01:42:21.000Like, where feminism is going, it leaves men in a hopeless world.
01:42:42.000The guy will go out on a date with the girl.
01:42:43.000He's still expected to adhere to his masculine duty of paying for the date, leading the date, planning the date, all this other stuff, right?
01:42:48.000But the woman isn't necessarily adhering to her feminine duties and responsibilities.
01:42:52.000He can rest assured that he's going to get a girl that's probably masculine to a degree.
01:42:55.000They didn't even know Yeah, a lot of girls don't even know what they're supposed to do and how they're supposed to behave.
01:42:59.000He's going to go ahead and fight tooth and nail and be chivalrous to a woman that isn't necessarily a lady back.
01:43:11.000She's going to have maybe a child, etc.
01:43:13.000These are all things that guys didn't have to deal with 50, 60, 70 years ago.
01:43:16.000I think the problem is most women expect the same treatment of a traditional treatment.
01:43:21.000But they don't want to be traditional themselves, and I've seen it a lot.
01:43:25.000Like, I mean, maybe it's the social media, like, saturating my brain with it, but you see it all over, where it's like, a woman's like, I'm a bad bitch, I'm independent, like, he better give me this, he better give me that, but I don't know how to cook, I don't know how to clean, you know, I really actually don't want to have sex with you unless the dick is going to be to my satisfaction,
01:43:40.000but I do deserve this, I do deserve that, I deserve this, I deserve this.
01:43:44.000You guys had a video when I was on there at one point, Fresh, when it was...
01:43:56.000He was saying, well, I'm not going to be the feminine, submissive, traditional 20th century ideal woman for you until you measure up to my expectations.
01:44:35.000There's a side to it that's not talked about a lot.
01:44:39.000There's a difference between Androcentrism and patriarchy.
01:44:43.000Patriarchy is a much more balanced system than anybody wants to give it credit for because in an ideal state, patriarchy implied masculine responsibility.
01:44:52.000A man is responsible for his kids and for his family and for his wife and for the home and to keep the lights on and everything else and to bust his ass and to sacrifice himself as your masculine duty is to sacrifice things and make sacrifice for that family.
01:45:08.000But there also came a commensurate authority that was along with that.
01:45:12.000So if he said, this is where we're going, this is where the job is, this is where the kids are going to go to school, this is what we're going to do, that masculine authority was implied because he had that responsibility.
01:45:23.000Today, guys are confused because they have, we say, well, we can save the West and we can make men better men now if we just took more responsibility and guys just man up and took more responsibility.
01:45:32.000But the problem is, is they don't have the authority to affect All of the things that that responsibility requires of them right now.
01:45:40.000So women are like, and women on the other side of this say, well, I'm not going to be that submissive, wonderful woman that you want me to be until you're that guy who takes that responsibility.
01:45:49.000I guess that's what I'm trying to say.
01:45:50.000And you have no authority in the first place to be that guy.
01:45:52.000There just can't be equal rights without equal responsibility.
01:46:33.000On the block with Jen all week I disagree with you on that, and the reason why I disagree with you on that is that average women have more access to higher status men than they've ever had before, whereas men, on the other hand, are struggling to get average women.
01:46:44.000The average guy cannot attract the average woman right now, and the average woman, quite frankly, is useless and delusional and doesn't offer much value to men.
01:46:52.000We're still expected to play by rules from 1953 while women are playing by rules in 2023.
01:46:56.000Guys are expected to be traditional, masculine, strong, do all these things for them, but what are they fighting for?
01:47:01.000They're fighting for a woman that isn't coming to them pure like it would have been seven years ago.
01:47:05.000So my thing is men have to play by a certain set of rules that women want, but the women aren't bringing something back of reciprocal value.
01:47:30.000There are wholesome good girls, but men, and I'm not denying what you said, but I have observed that a lot of men will pick the insta-thought, the girl who's showing off her small waist and her fat ass, and who's posting bikini photos,
01:47:45.000over the good girl who's not bearing at all, and maybe is wifey material, because there's so much of that out there, too.
01:47:52.000I hear what you're saying, but I also think a lot of men, that's why we have a lot of men who have Peter Pan syndrome right now, too.
01:47:58.000And they don't want to commit to a great girl who is wifey material because they are so caught up in the instant gratification.
01:48:04.000Explain Peter Pan syndrome to me real fast.
01:48:06.000I know what you mean, but I want you to, like...
01:48:09.000Well, Peter Pan implying men who don't want to grow up.
01:48:45.000Well, I think you're talking about a certain group of women, and I think even though that might represent perhaps the majority, there is a minority of women who are going to be, to your point, more in their feminine energy, more submissive, more naturally whitey material.
01:49:03.000I think if you have already exercised a lot of your options and you find someone who checks enough of your boxes and you want to start a family with them, Then it might be worth it.
01:49:14.000Name one benefit that a man gets from marriage that he wouldn't get in a regular relationship.
01:50:17.000I think it shows your children that there is a higher level of commitment between the mother and the father when there's the marriage as the union.
01:50:26.000Get married privately without the state involved.
01:50:55.000So a title changes her loyalty to you?
01:50:57.000He shouldn't marry her if that's in question.
01:50:59.000To be honest, if a man is dating a woman for 10 years and she is giving him an ultimatum, I'm either going to get the ring or I'm going to walk, I think if he sees her value, he'll put a ring on it.
01:51:15.000I think that's the worst thing you could do because now she controls the frame because she just literally bullied you to do something that you don't want to do.
01:51:20.000She spent 10 years of her life with a man who didn't see her as wifey material.
01:51:55.000Would you get with a guy, right, and let's say you get with him and everything else like that when there's a high likelihood that he's going to divorce you and take half your assets and the kids?
01:52:04.000Would you put everything you work for on the line like that, realistically speaking?
01:52:20.000If a man made money and I was not bringing as much to the table, I would gladly sign a prenup because I would want him to believe that I was there for the right reasons and I would hopefully be there for the right reasons.
01:52:46.000My thing is, because women love to say guys are going through a midlife crisis, guys are Peter Pans, they don't want to grow up, blah, blah, blah.
01:52:53.000But my thing is, You guys live life on easy mode.
01:52:56.000You get all your value at 18 years old.
01:53:19.000I totally understand that if a man has spent his entire life working and grinding and struggling and then he reaches 35 or 40 and he's finally peaking, I get it.
01:54:53.000But you can date the 18-year-olds just like I can date people, or 23-year-olds, just like I can date people who I find are more age-appropriate and looking for something significant.
01:55:59.000At some point, I'd probably be better if I did it when I was younger, but I just think things have changed for men from a health standpoint where I do think there are things you can do now to Especially for men to elongate that.
01:56:11.000I was saying, you know, on the comment of women from 18 to 23, they don't have a lot of life experience.
01:56:20.000So I don't really see that a woman at 28 is going to decline.
01:56:23.000I don't really know why men care about the life experience.
01:56:27.000How is she going to handle challenges?
01:56:31.000The reason why women get very upset when they see a 45-year-old guy with a 21-year-old girlfriend is because it is a...
01:56:40.000That's true, but I think that one of the reasons why whenever Leonardo DiCaprio cycles out a new girlfriend, and we know how he does that...
01:56:49.000Women get very upset about that because it reminds them that the man can live a different way than that woman can.
01:56:55.000So a woman who is 50 some odd years old is in menopause and is not going to be able to live the same way that a man does.
01:57:03.000The problem is that we've conditioned the last four generations of women to believe that they can do anything a man can.
01:57:11.000And so we've masculinized women and we've feminized men during this entire process.
01:57:16.000So women still think in this terms of this blank slate equalism that, well, I can do anything a guy does.
01:57:21.000And then they realize that they can't actually do that because that guy who is a high value guy at 45, 55, 64, whatever it is, and he's dating much younger women, on average, statistically speaking, that's a Very rare anomaly for women to be able to do something like that.
01:57:36.000And that's only if she maintains really, you know, she looks good at like, say, 50 years old.
01:58:02.000But once they earn that access to certain status or things in life, trust, whatever it is, ability to reach money, things like that, they maintain that access so much longer.
01:58:15.000Women are on a gradual or fast decline with their value and men have to create it.
02:00:51.000Men are going to say and do anything to get sex.
02:00:55.000That includes to appease to your ego and your ego investment.
02:00:57.000So if you're highly educated, you got a master degree or whatever, for example, you went to Columbia, oh, I have a friend that went to an IV too.
02:01:04.000Oh, maybe I've been to Harvard before, blah, blah, blah.
02:01:06.000They're going to figure out what you do or what your background is, and they're going to go ahead and try to fucking chameleon way they're in there.
02:01:12.000Because as you guys can tell, it's very difficult for men to get sex.
02:01:15.000That's why your industry is popping right now.
02:01:16.000That's why some girls here can have an OnlyFans and make a bunch of money doing it.
02:01:19.000Because men are struggling to get sex, so they're going to say and do anything they can to do so.
02:03:01.000How hard is it to deal with so many girls that have ridiculous standards that don't necessarily qualify for the man that they think they are?
02:03:18.000I mean, for example, for me, and I do say some things that are kind of controversial and a lot of women don't like it, but I had a client I spoke to today.
02:03:25.000Indian girl, single, wants a nice Indian guy.
02:04:43.000Well, and we're actually getting the opposite.
02:04:44.000We're getting the opposite because we have a society that panders to women and tells them, you don't have to change a damn thing and you can get something you've never gotten before.
02:04:53.000Can we also mention that he smashed her and she's a fatty?
02:04:59.000So what's even worse is like when a girl is fat like let's say let's say we're sitting on this right now like somebody writes like I'm a fucking fat slob like most girls be like but girl you got a fat ass So don't worry,
02:05:23.000They lie to each other all the time instead of just being like...
02:05:28.000A girl saying she has a fat ass when she's 200 pounds is like saying I have a fast car because I just ramped it off the edge of the Grand Canyon.
02:05:40.000Because either you have sabotaging friends or you have friends that don't want to be mean and tell them, like, yeah, yo, you getting a little bit big.
02:07:32.000I think guys need to understand that girls don't feel the need to impress you or go super hard because there's so many other guys that will be there right behind you.
02:08:05.000But we move different here at Fresher Fit, man.
02:08:09.000I would probably do something maybe uncharacteristic of myself if I knew that it was something that would impress him or something that he would...
02:08:18.000So, for instance, I've been so fucked over by religion.
02:08:22.000I'm kind of done with religion at this point.
02:08:24.000But if I knew he was religious, I would probably be open to hearing about his religion.
02:08:30.000Maybe even, like, if I wanted to be his wife, maybe even joining or going with him to church.
02:08:34.000Like, something that would probably be very uncharacteristic, like, against maybe...
02:08:53.000I usually know on the first date even like before the first date if I like would actually vibe with the person vibe whatever the word if I click with the person but if I end up clicking with them and I actually want the second date I would usually probably just ask like hey we're gonna meet up again let's go that take that okay yeah like I'm actually not like opposed to being the person even asked to go on the first date or to be like okay hey when are we gonna do this or When you go out with women,
02:09:33.000Start off by being appreciative of the date, which I always am, but I think just really reinforcing that, like, I had a really lovely time with you.
02:09:42.000I think that's an important thing because then it signals to him that, like, you're open to meeting up.
02:09:46.000I also think maybe an active physical touch, either a kiss or like a light, you know, hand, because that also just confirms to him that you're willing to be a little bit more intimate.
02:10:08.000And then the third thing I would do is if I was still unsure and I really liked him, I would definitely send him a text, which is a little unconventional for me to text men first because I always like to see, you know, if they have that willingness to lead.
02:10:42.000I mean, I don't live in that world, but...
02:10:46.000I suppose, hypothetically, if I were to.
02:10:49.000I actually think if I really liked a guy, I wouldn't.
02:10:51.000Not that I do that in general ever, but I would really want to make sure, if that was my nature, that I didn't, because I think, why buy the cow when you're going to get the milk for free?
02:11:02.000But if I did sleep with him on the first date, I would probably think that that was conveying to him that I liked him.
02:15:20.000We're on an inclusive resort on the beach for an entire week, and that's kind of how it worked out.
02:15:25.000And I want to say this too, because a lot of girls tend to have this misconception that if a guy hooks up with me too quickly, he's not going to take me seriously or whatever.
02:15:33.000What I've come to realize and what I tell a lot of girls is if you're going to hook up with a guy quickly, you need to make sure that you add value quickly where you distinguish yourself from other girls.
02:15:42.000Because if he just hooks up with you and you're just like a regular girl and you don't do shit, you don't cook, you don't clean, you don't add value right away, that guy's like, man, this girl's fucking useless.
02:17:55.000But at the same time, I think I was more raised to be an independent woman more than a wife.
02:18:01.000And I didn't understand the difference.
02:18:03.000And then I started watching him, and then I watched a little bit of you guys, and I'm like, oh man, I am being very masculine and deterring.
02:18:12.000Being the man that I want, but I'm being the man also with a man.
02:18:27.000Although I did date a lot of terrible people that were mean to me, but I really was not doing the best I can as a woman, and I started to realize, man, I need to chill out, listen, understand, I need to provide peace, and do a little bit less.
02:18:40.000And I'm really glad that you woke up, because a lot of girls don't realize this until it's too late, and it's like, damn, it's way past the time.
02:20:32.000The right person is going to just show up and come and, you know, cross your fingers and close your eyes and say these affirmations.
02:20:40.000That might help you with your confidence internally, but that's not necessarily a roadmap to success in your love life.
02:20:46.000And I tell women, and I know this is like, I've had a lot of pushback with this because it's like, oh, we already hear the biological clock.
02:20:52.000But I think women should be scared shitless to be childless.
02:20:55.000And I think that should be the driver in your dating decisions.
02:20:59.000You should be looking for men who you could see as the father to your future children.
02:21:11.000Now they're saying, I can be a single mother, I can go to a sperm bank, and it's like, who wants to raise a child without an actual male to help them out?
02:22:03.000Well, two-parent households are statistically shown to improve the child's performance in school, childhood obesity.
02:22:11.000Loneliness epidemic is huge right now, too.
02:22:13.000One in four adults are lonely right now.
02:22:15.000And so we need to also make being in relationships cool again.
02:22:19.000And I think what the problem is, is a lot of women have unrealistically high expectations and standards.
02:22:26.000Like I was talking to one of my girlfriends today and she said to me, we were talking about this podcast, she said to me, You need to go on there and say men need to be more successful.
02:22:41.000Men, why can't you step up and just be richer and better looking?
02:22:44.000And I said to her, you know, but women also need to provide value to those types of men because those types of men have, you know, the pick of the litter.
02:22:53.000There's 50 other women vying for that position.
02:23:02.000I also think a lot of women I've coached and worked with in matchmaking overestimate their sexual marketplace value because of their education and the money that they've made.
02:23:11.000And a lot of it, they need to put more focus on, and I know it sounds superficial, but they need to put more focus in their nurturing abilities and their appearance.
02:23:21.000I hate to pick on you, and I really appreciate you being here because we have such opposite opinions of things, so thank you.
02:23:27.000But honestly, You mentioned way earlier about the Peter Pan effect on men right now, but that's what actually attracted me to the man I was with, was the fact that he was so fun and outgoing, and I don't want to control him,
02:23:43.000I don't want to change him, as long as he's respectful to me, does what he needs to do at the end of the day, but he still wants to act, not so much immature, but wants to just have fun and be lively.
02:24:19.000There are people who are like, I'm just looking for someone to love me as I am.
02:24:23.000And then there are people who are like, I'm looking for someone who...
02:24:26.000I am who is going to provide status and who is going to elevate me and who we're going to elevate each other.
02:24:34.000And I look at a lot of times marriage, for example, as and this sounds bad, but I do look at it as like a business in a lot of ways, because that's someone who you're going to be making those decisions with.
02:25:46.000And it's totally okay, and I don't want to give away too much because it's a very, very small industry.
02:25:53.000But he was actually involved in more of the adult film industry of things.
02:26:00.000And so when he meets me, he's like, not to say that anything else was bad because he had relationships for five, six years with other women who were in the industry that he absolutely loved.
02:26:13.000But when he meets me, he's like, you're an absolute angel, comparatively.
02:27:13.000He got to know me like through and through to my soul and now we've moved in together and I couldn't imagine almost a better partner in life.
02:27:24.000Alright, well that talk is still gonna come though.
02:28:57.000He's got to make at least six figures and then half again as much as I made, right?
02:29:01.000Or he's got to be, he has to be somewhat, he's got to be somewhat, do you want me to call it up?
02:29:05.000No, no, no, yeah, we are going to pull up our calculator right now, but just to make things nice and easy, how tall, what's the bare minimum height for your guy that you want, your ideal guy that you want?
02:29:13.000That you would want to have kids with my marriage, too.
02:29:22.000You said it's got to be more than yours, again, and probably buy an extra 20% or 50%.
02:29:28.000I have attracted millionaires before, dated millionaires before, so I would say that's probably, but you know what, let's, bare minimum, I would say at least $400,000.
02:31:35.000So, like I was just saying, I enjoy the fact that he is fun and lively and a little bit on the wild side because so am I. There's a reason why people call me spicy.
02:31:46.000And he doesn't want to control that in me.
02:31:48.000He says, you know, as long as you're okay, you're respectful in life, you do what you need to do, I love you just the way that you are.
02:31:56.000And that's really hard to find in a lot of people who don't want to change you.
02:33:01.000And I know that might sound insulting, and it's not to insult or put you down.
02:33:05.000It's just when I say we're different, the types of men I'm going for are not going to look at, respectfully, someone who is a pole dancer as wifey material.
02:33:13.000And the men that I'm going for are definitely not going to have any sex industry work.
02:34:01.000One of these Fortune 500 bad bitches who's the top 10 richest females in the world.
02:34:07.000When women call themselves alpha females and they're running their business and they make their own damn money and everything else, they're basing their understanding of alpha on an alpha male.
02:34:20.000From the position of, I've got a good job, I've got my shit together, I've got my education together, I've got the money, I've got the bag, everything else, where's my man?
02:34:32.000Well, the problem is, you're a woman, and you've become the man that you wanted to marry, and so all the guys that you would possibly even consider are never going to measure up to the level of achievement that you've gotten as, by following an alpha male sort of,
02:35:07.000There's a woman who can outclass other women in sexual prowess, in the sexual marketplace, who has the thing, who maximizes femininity rather than masculinity, because the way that women see alpha, their examples are alpha males,
02:35:24.000and they want to be like that because, like I said before, we've conditioned four generations of women right now to think that the best thing to be is just like the men that they wanted to marry.
02:35:35.000And by the way, when I say women have become the men that they wanted to marry, I'm not the one that coined that term.
02:35:41.000It was Gloria Steinem in 1970 during the militant feminism years that keeps getting repeated today on 2023.
02:35:54.000So all of this rhetoric that got started during the late 60s and early 70s, we're still repeating it over and over and over again right now.
02:36:01.000So when we say alpha female, it's the bad bitch, but it's based on a male archetype, not on a female archetype.
02:36:07.000The female archetype would look like a hot swimsuit model.
02:36:11.000Well, consider a man who is alpha, let's just say an alpha male, he would be more desirable financially, so somebody you'd want to hire, you know, the NFL quarterback or the linebacker.
02:36:39.000So it's like his alphaness makes him more attractive and more competent.
02:36:43.000Her literally desiring those things in and of itself is a catch-22 situation because she becomes less attractive in that she wants to become alpha or that she does become alpha.
02:36:53.000I do not want a woman who is a leader of men that does not turn me on.
02:36:56.000So alpha female would be the female who can pull the most men.
02:37:01.000I don't know that the term doesn't fit.
02:37:38.000And this is interesting because she's talking about even in a homosexual relationship, there's still a dominant and a submissive.
02:37:44.000There's still a masculine and a feminine, even in same-sex couples.
02:37:47.000And then my first time dating a guy, or not dating a guy, but I really wanted a serious relationship with a guy, I still kind of treated him like a woman.
02:37:54.000And then when I wanted him to be a man, I realized how hard it was to be a man.
02:38:00.000I'm like, man, if I get pregnant and this house burns down, Who's gonna save me?
02:38:25.000I would give the functional equivalent.
02:38:27.000Like, a woman that says, you know, I'm an alpha female, that's like me, you know, going and getting manicures and wearing heels on Saturdays and saying, oh yeah, I'm a super pretty boy.
02:38:56.000Not to sound racist, but there's a reason why African-American women score low on dating apps in general as far as approval ratings.
02:39:01.000And the reason why is because they have a bad stigma, and I can say this is a black guy, They have a bad stigma for being masculine, unfortunately.
02:39:08.000And masculinity is not something that men in general find attractive.
02:39:11.000So my mom is black and I only grew up with my mom and my two older brothers.
02:39:19.000But like I told you before, my mom only taught me how to be an independent, strong woman because she struggled and she doesn't want me to struggle.
02:39:43.000So I need to get my own, get my own, be a bad bitch, be this, be that.
02:39:47.000And then my mom's cheering me on like, yeah, go to college, yeah, F these guys.
02:39:51.000And then as soon as I get a boyfriend, let's say the boyfriend does something stupid.
02:39:55.000Let's say he didn't take out the trash.
02:39:57.000This is why I tell you, you don't need a man.
02:40:00.000And that's a very, you know, so many women are indoctrinated by that, especially in the black community where there's no fathers, so you have women basically acting like men and like women, and they tell them, and they say, fuck men, niggas, and shit, blah, blah, blah.
02:40:41.000And then there's the new millennial slash Zoomer guy who is incompetent.
02:40:45.000He can't drive a stick shift, doesn't know how to tie a tie.
02:40:48.000I'm finding a lot of feminine men these days.
02:40:49.000A lot of very men that allow so many things to affect them.
02:40:55.000I dated somebody that I really liked, and I thought he was a very masculine man, and then something happened at his job.
02:41:01.000He had just had a scolding, a talk to, a write-up, and he was about to walk out of his job and cuss everybody out and break down and cry on the phone.
02:41:35.000They behave on how they feel at the moment.
02:41:37.000Because women cannot trust men for their long-term security, they then have to...
02:41:42.000Like your mom, you have to do it yourself.
02:41:44.000You can't trust men because you got to get the bag and make sure you have this insurance policy so when he fucks up, you're going to be okay.
02:41:52.000It turns you into the man that you wanted to marry because now you have to take over the conventionally masculine responsibility of provisioning, protection, and parental investment.
02:43:27.000That's how you get two tenths And here's the scary part.
02:43:29.000We haven't even accounted for him being good-looking, being charming, being clean.
02:43:33.000I know a lot of you girls said hygiene, same religion.
02:43:35.000By the way, making $400,000 a year, a software engineer, also autistic, possibly.
02:43:40.000That's the other thing that you have to deal with.
02:43:41.000And so those things kind of disqualify men, and it just gets more and more ridiculous.
02:43:45.000Whereas if she sleeps with one of the guys who's in that category...
02:43:48.000And the ones who are normal already have 12 girlfriends.
02:43:50.000Yes, and that's exactly where I was going with it.
02:43:52.000Because everybody's changing the top one.
02:43:54.000What I will say though is, even though to the people watching and listening right now, that seems like a very small, and it is a very small percentage of the total population, in the zip code that I live in, I have a lot more access to that percentage of people,
02:44:10.000and I actually do go on dates with men who make well over 400 grand a year.
02:44:15.000Now, there are things, and then you might wonder, well, why haven't you decided to settle down with one of them?
02:44:19.000You also live in the zip code where the people cheat more than anywhere else in the United States.
02:44:23.000I mean, she's kind of allowed for that a little bit, though.
02:44:27.000That's why I appreciated when she said that.
02:44:29.000Because it's so unrealistic to think anybody who lives anywhere near Mulholl in Bel Air or anywhere near the Hollywood Hills is just not being totally inundated by men who have options to cheat.
02:44:38.000I used to go to the Playboy Mansion all the time, and I'd go there, and these men, it was obvious that that was going on, and the woman accepted it.
02:44:56.000And the more options they have to exercise, if you end up marrying a drummer from a huge band, he may have had more sexual options beforehand.
02:45:03.000He's going to have tons of sexual options during the marriage, and that's why he's going to cheat.
02:46:44.000I was very focused on filming the TV show, getting a visa because I'm Canadian, getting my degree because that was important to me because then I knew I could sit at a table like this and say that and I could hold my own a little bit more one day.
02:47:33.000Going back to what he says before, there's a male over-perception bias.
02:47:39.000Women tend to like Brad Pitt in Fight Club, but men think that men should look like Arnold Schwarzenegger, and women think that other men like Twiggy when actually they like girls with a little bit more athleticism or curves, like what Fresh is trying to say.
02:47:52.000I was going to say, build a bigger booty, don't lose weight.
02:47:56.000Well, I work out for two hours every day already, so I'm doing squats and lifting weights.
02:48:01.000I think for me right now, what I can do to get that kind of guy we talked about is go on as many dates as I possibly can to get to know as many men in that caliber as I can.
02:48:16.000I don't like to waste people's time, so I'm not gonna give a man a chance if he asks me on a nice date if I don't think off a dating profile that he's my guy.
02:48:22.000Out of respect to him, respect to myself, and respect to the person I'm meant to be with.
02:48:26.000But I will go on entertain as many possible men as I can in early stages of dating.
02:48:32.000To see if I have a connection with any of them.
02:49:52.000Alright, so we'll read some of these chats real quick here.
02:49:55.000And guys, we're reading 50 and up, and then we'll close this out because, you know, we're in someone else's house, so we can't stay here too, too long, like we normally do.
02:51:18.000And Constipated Face 1, Closet of Lesbian 3?
02:51:30.000Zuma says, it seems South Americans expect the man to lead, which is a good thing, but this also comes with expectations of the man going full blue pill into marriage.
02:51:39.000Signing his life away and making her the focus of his life, are Latinos more blue pills?
02:54:26.000I don't know if it's healthy, but that's a whole other combination.
02:54:28.000I know that he smokes every day, so every day when he lights his blunts or his joints, whatever it is that he chooses to smoke, he's going to think about me.
02:54:36.000And he found it really, really appreciative, and it was a very thoughtful gift.
02:54:40.000Like you said, most men don't even receive gifts from women, ever.
02:54:45.000That's actually a very good thing, because you looked at his lifestyle and saw what he needs as a man and got it for him.
02:55:01.000I'm not saying like monogamous or whatever.
02:55:03.000I'm just saying, would you grow old with a woman or would you only keep one around and grow old with her if you met her young and she helped you build and get where you're at?
02:55:40.000And we're glad that some of the information stuck and made you a better girl and you got a guy now.
02:55:46.000When are you going to play in the LFL? Oh my god.
02:55:51.000Look, Vegas, we need a new left tackle, you know what I'm saying?
02:55:53.000You know, actually, I was going to do it back in the day before they stopped, and one of my girlfriends, Sydney, was with the, I think, I can't remember where she played, and then they ended up stopping, so I was like, oh, whatever.
02:56:09.000Oh yeah, I did have a question because we were talking about marriage earlier and how you felt there was very little incentive for men to get married.
02:56:15.000And as we moved on from that conversation, it just came to my mind that I think marriage is still a societal status for a lot of people.
02:56:22.000If you look at any of the, you know, major CEOs or really successful men, having a wife seems to play into their societal favor.
02:56:32.000Would you agree with that, that there is societal status that comes with marriage for men?
02:56:36.000Um, women acquire all the status for marriage because they take the last name, typically.
02:56:40.000Well, I look at someone like George Clooney.
02:56:42.000When he got married, for some reason it seemed he got a lot more respect in the industry than someone like Leonardo DiCaprio who gets continuously trolled for being...
02:56:50.000Leonardo DiCaprio actually gets a lot of respect.
02:57:00.000It's not a requirement, but they've all, except one, one of them had a wife die in office and then married a woman that he knew when she was born.
02:57:09.000It's an image thing for the presidency, but I would say, in general, men don't acquire status from marrying.
02:58:49.000After we did our podcast over at PBD, I was talking with him, and I was like, man, it'd be interesting if they did a study to see who has a higher net worth, heterosexual men or gay men.
02:59:12.000That tells you right then and there that, like, if you take a guy that's, like, married versus a dude that's gay who's going to make more money, and that tells you that, like, just how much of a financial drain it is for men to deal with them in general.
02:59:22.000Because most guys, let's be honest, they don't marry women that are assets.
02:59:24.000They marry women that are liabilities.
02:59:26.000I heard something, and it's historical, but I don't know if it was true, but I heard it somewhere.
03:00:59.000Last thoughts or disagreements or points or anything?
03:01:03.000You guys have been talking about how women have become a certain way, but we haven't talked so much about The women that are raised to be the way that men want them, those women are always the most abused.
03:02:47.000What I think might make a little bit more sense is that your radar for a good man may have never been tuned.
03:02:51.000You're a target for someone who thinks to be an easy prey.
03:02:54.000I just know too many women who are like, I dated a narcissist and I ask them about their previous three boyfriends and they all turned out to be narcissists.
03:02:59.000At some point, we're starting to figure out, no, you're attracted to a certain type and then you're blaming the other person.
03:03:05.000I'm not saying that's the case in your situation.
03:03:08.000Sometimes you're young and you just don't know better.
03:03:09.000But it's like, I just found in several cases, maybe she found a guy who was a woman beater, but I have never, I cannot imagine an idea of a man who wasn't beating women who just, because his wife was submissive, all of a sudden became violent.
03:03:23.000Another thing too is that, see, this is the thing.
03:03:25.000Women love to tell themselves little white lies to make themselves feel better for not being a traditional woman.
03:03:30.000And one of them is saying that if I be traditional, I'm going to get an abusive guy that's going to steamroll me, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
03:03:35.000The reality is that even if this guy is abusive, like you say, and is terrible, whatever, well, if he's being a traditional man and getting this submissive woman, well, that means he's probably paying the bills, he's probably taking care of you, probably keeping a household over your head.
03:03:46.000I would argue he definitely cares about you.
03:03:48.000It's just that women tend to not look at their own faults or what they do wrong as to why a guy might correct them or might not like their behavior.
03:03:55.000Do you think we're taking their masculinity wrong?
03:03:58.000Where we're thinking that this is a masculine behavior, but it's really abusive?
03:04:02.000Because I know some girls who think they're picked on if their boyfriend expects cooking, cleaning, basic things.
03:04:08.000And they also expect him to provide everything for her.
03:04:11.000But she shouldn't be required to do those things.
03:04:20.000Because a lot of women, they look at it now.
03:04:22.000We live in such a clown world now where women will sit there and say, a guy's abusive if he tells me I shouldn't have an Instagram or I shouldn't be going to the club.
03:05:44.000Your example doesn't necessarily reflect why women behave the way they do.
03:05:49.000Women aren't necessarily, like as you're trying to say, oh, women left men because men are abusive.
03:05:54.000No, women left men because feminism has made it to a point where women can get everything that they had with men by themselves.
03:06:02.000So why is a woman gonna sit there and get with a guy that's less attractive, isn't charming, isn't charismatic, isn't like a chad if she can make her own money?
03:06:10.000So now women only want men versus needing them.
03:06:12.000It used to be women needed men so they would go ahead and get with a guy that was a good provider, he was a good man, he went to church, he was boring as fuck!
03:06:19.000Nowadays, as women make their own money, I don't need a regular fucking guy anymore.
03:06:23.000I want a guy that's 6'3 that makes 400k plus a year.
03:06:25.000Women hate beta males so much that they will go to 8 years of college, 10 years of college, take out God knows how many college loans to go and do this, so they can qualify for a 40 to 60 hour a week job that is just soul destroying job because they don't want to marry the beta male guy that they don't trust or they don't like because they they're untrustworthy they're incompetent they're big doofy you know Homer Simpsons or whatever they so what are they going to do they're
03:06:55.000going to turn themselves into the men that they wanted to marry and then expect the guy who's higher above them because they're alpha alpha females now they want the guy who's the alpha male to Without alpha the female, and so you've got this vicious cycle that keeps going on because women simply can't trust men anymore.
03:07:14.000They don't see them as anything viable for their long-term security as they did in the 60s, in the 50s, in the 60s, right?
03:07:34.000And I can sympathize with Natty because what happens is like, well, what if I get with a guy who's, I'm doing what I'm supposed to do and I'm worried that the guy's gonna turn into an asshole and my mom is saying, get your bag, girl, because if you do, he's gonna turn into an asshole and he's gonna, you'll be left with the kids and won't know what the fuck to do with yourself.
03:07:52.000Natty, 80% of men on dating apps are deemed unattractive.
03:08:07.000That's because women, because they're allowed to witness and see all these other options that they have, and they're having their DMs flooded with dick pics and offers from men for sex and all this kind of stuff and all this attention they're getting, what they're doing is they've become delusional as to what attractive men are,
03:08:25.000And so if 80% of men, if only 20% of men are seen as attractive, then that means eights or fives to women.
03:08:35.000How common is it that you have like a guy who's a beta male and he's fixated on one nice woman who's very submissive and she seems like she'd be ideal, but he's just this kind of like, he's a simp and he doesn't know what to do.
03:08:46.000But she's with, why does she keep going to her asshole boyfriend?
03:08:49.000Why does she, like he doesn't appreciate her like I would appreciate her.
03:08:52.000Brought the bartender, Alex the accountant.
03:09:59.000No, I think what Natty was asking is, is being submissive and traditional opening yourself up to bigger possibility of being a victim of Domestic violence or something like that.
03:10:37.000I understand that this is a little bit more prevalent maybe in a Hispanic household and you open yourself up to being submissive, right?
03:10:44.000And some men might take advantage of that.
03:10:46.000But I also believe that maybe asking everyone on this particular show right now might not be the exact solution that you're looking for.
03:10:54.000And this is not meant in any offensive way and no disrespect, but a really good therapist could really help you dig down and maybe find why.
03:11:04.000If this is a reoccurring pattern for you, right?
03:11:08.000No, I was trying to actually explain what I meant right now.
03:11:12.000I meant like maybe that's why there's so many women who kind of Avoid being the submissive.
03:11:44.000If 70 to 80% of those divorces are initiated by women, and physical abuse isn't even in the top five reasons while they're filing for divorce, and women find 80% of men to be unattractive, the answer is delusion.
03:12:27.000I'm going to have fun and I'm not going to consider what happens down the line to me because it's short-term thinking versus long-term thinking.
03:12:34.000When you listen to feminism, feminism is this drug that makes you think of short-term thinking.
03:12:39.000It's like, yes, I'm just going to have fun now and no one will care later on because body count doesn't matter.
03:12:44.000I was going to bring up some stats that show body count does.
03:12:46.000See, but I'm saying I was raised the opposite thinking the opposite way.
03:13:53.000Do you understand what Myron's saying?
03:13:54.000If you wouldn't be willing to submit to him, by definition, he kind of is a loser.
03:13:59.000So the hypergamy algorithm, there must be some algorithm in human evolution by which men and women are able to sort the alphas from the betas.
03:14:31.000And that's the reason why you'll vocally beg him to take you back.
03:14:35.000At the same time, having less respect for him for taking you back.
03:14:38.000If you're a man, the best way to get punished by a woman is to do exactly what she tells you.
03:14:43.000the best thing i ever did was when i had a disconnect or a not a fight i don't feel like i've ever fought with my boyfriend but like when we had disagreements or disconnect the best thing i did was go talk to his business partner for insight not my girlfriend's because the one time i confided in a close girlfriend we freaking broke up for like a week okay a week and then i went and talked to his partner and but i i go to his business partner who knows him more than anybody What'd he tell you?
03:17:02.000I'll be in Dubai on the 25th doing a talk in Dubai and then from there I go to Nairobi for 10 days and then I might go to Qatar after that.
03:17:59.000And guys, all the girls' Instagrams are below, not the girls at LeftFuckThem, and we'll catch you guys on the next episode of Fresh and Fit on Friday.