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00:13:47.000My mother and my father, like, my biological father are not together, no, but my mom is with my stepdad and has been, and he has raised me, and I love him so much.
00:13:56.000From how old were you when he raised you?
00:13:57.000I was in my early teen years, so not from a baby, but from the years that kind of really matter.
00:24:42.000You know, it's interesting because, you know, seeking gets a very bad rap, which, I mean, rightfully so, most of the girls on there are escorts and 304s.
00:24:47.000However, and I've said this before, there's actually like a lot of girls on there that come from corporate.
00:25:43.000Damn, I told y'all she was spitting over here.
00:25:45.000He specializes in internal medicine and then went back, got his MBA. He's a corporate physician advisor for a hospital chain and also has his own company.
00:25:55.000Well, I'm happy for you that you guys met and were able to make something happen.
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00:35:26.000We're going to teach you guys how to make money on the internet, even as a creator that, you know, might be a little bit more controversial or canceled.
00:35:31.000So all you guys that want to be influencers, et cetera, because they hope young people, that's the number one thing that people want to do.
00:35:37.000We're going to go ahead and give you all kind of a crash course from a beginner standpoint how to do it, especially when you have takes that are a bit more controversial, not socially correct, not politically correct, et cetera.
00:38:34.000No, the thing is, I did start showing up to school, but then I would get there at 10 o'clock in the morning, because I'm not going to lie, I started dancing when I was 18, so I would leave Connecticut, take a train to New York, and then come back to Connecticut, and then make it there at, like, go home at,
00:38:49.000like, 8 o'clock, and then, like, take a shower, get ready for school.
00:38:53.000I used to skip first period, which was her class specifically, and that's why she knew that, like, you know, like, I was skipping.
00:51:57.000Basically, one thing that you do that makes you more attractive to the man that you want.
00:52:01.000Not attractive to just a regular fucking weirdo.
00:52:03.000Like, for example, let's say you got a boob job.
00:52:06.000Well, you'd be attractive to any fucking guy, but to the dream guy that you want that probably has options, that's attractive, that can get other girls.
00:52:12.000What do you do that makes you attractive, that makes you stand out?
00:54:10.000Did you break off the engagement with him?
00:54:15.000A lot has happened, and I think we'll always have love and respect for each other, but it has been very recently up in the air, so I don't know.
00:54:26.000I don't really know where we stand right now.
00:55:14.000But even then, with a toy, it's not really enough.
00:55:16.000They have some dude that's in their rotation that they've hooked up with before that they feel like they're not collecting a body from or some shit like that.
00:56:22.000If for whatever reason I got in a plane crash, I actually had a near-death experience a couple of days ago, and we weren't on speaking terms at the time, and he came to the hospital being like, oh my god.
00:57:32.000I think, and the reason why I ask these questions isn't to shit on you or anything like that.
00:57:36.000I just think that what I've realized with women, right, is that you guys have this mentality of the grass is always greener on the other side.
00:57:42.000I don't think the grass is greener on the other side, but at a certain point it gets to...
00:57:47.000It's a similar thing with my father, my biological father, and sorry to cut you off, but it's not that it's greener on the other side, it's almost just like...
00:59:57.000I would say if you're not able to, after setting a clear boundary, that our time is reserved for us and I don't want there to be any external distractions from that, including porn and especially paid porn...
01:00:10.000Like, how is it supposed to make me feel when you're paying money?
01:00:14.000Like, as the provider, you're paying money to consume something when, like, I'm willing to do anything to, like, please you.
01:00:32.000I would rather because if you seek out a connection, a physical connection with somebody inorganic and maybe there's even some emotional, mental, spiritual, something you're getting from it, I would rather you go and consume it that way as opposed to like virtual,
01:00:49.000unrealistic expectations like Pick something that you're paying for.
01:01:08.000In other words, she would rather you...
01:01:11.000Go actually do the work, be attractive, fuck another bitch, come back to her, then spend her resources, because that woman depends on you when you're the provider, right?
01:01:41.000I also think it can come into really strong prominence when there's fetish, like something specific, like an itch they're trying to scratch.
01:02:51.000So if you know what makes you mad, and if it makes you mad that this man is having a relationship online where it just looks to you like it's like that's some fake ass shit, like that's weird to you.
01:03:04.000And then I saw you alluded to it, but you didn't go into it.
01:03:07.000But it sounded like she was talking about Some fucked up fetish porn that she's like, wait a minute, you're into that?
01:03:34.000You made a good point, Tommy, because the money he spends on paying for dates, getting food, drinks, whatever, it's still money for security.
01:03:47.000It's the equivalent of if you talk about real life, if your woman see you fuck somebody and she's like, I could have said you fuck somebody, but this bitch look like Gollum.
01:03:56.000And let's also, like, I know, and these lovely ladies, and they're beautiful, and, you know, all that stuff.
01:04:03.000But, like, we know, I think we all know as women, like, it's something...
01:04:07.000That would be ridiculous, yeah, if I caught my man on OnlyFans.
01:04:10.000Yeah, like, it's such a strong power that we have, and we know it's, like, these clowns are consuming.
01:04:14.000Like, they're paying for it, and, like, yeah, you got, you know, you got gone.
01:04:33.000I see her perspective that it's more redeemable that he had the ability to attract another attractive woman versus looking at whatever point he was looking at.
01:05:03.000When she sees that another woman is willing to actually get with you, that's completely different than, she knows this other woman probably ain't even paying you no attention.
01:05:35.000I would be willing to have more of a, like, okay, I can understand.
01:05:39.000It's like finding out your girl was fucking a dude, but he was rich and she was getting shit from it and was bringing it home to you versus your girl was taking the money you work for and giving it to him.
01:06:53.000There are lots of relationships where people are able to have the first month of the week.
01:06:58.000Understandable, but I think he means more from the conventional standpoint of actually entertaining a real physical material relationship with a female.
01:08:54.000I just wanted to ask you, since OnlyFans, everything's on the internet and everything can come back to you, don't you think that when you have your man that you are attracted to and everything that he might go back and see all of that stuff?
01:09:09.000Yeah, that's definitely a real concern for me, and so I'm kind of stuck in a standstill where I already have a child, and I have multiple failed relationships, and I did make the choice to go into this field, so I sometimes wonder if marriage is in the cards for me at all.
01:09:22.000I would hope that it is, and I would hope after a few years of not doing it anymore that that stuff would go away because it's behind a paywall, but I'm not 100%.
01:09:49.000What do you recommend to women who have already chosen to be in the sex industry?
01:09:53.000Should they continue because it's too late or is there a hope for that woman to find a lifelong partner in the future if they choose a new path?
01:10:00.000I'll turn it to the guests first and I can give my take on it.
01:10:02.000Tommy, what are your thoughts and then we'll go to Brandon.
01:10:19.000Yeah, so I think that what it is is how you carry yourself because if you look at it, Kanye West had no problem marrying Kim Kardashian and they knew what she did.
01:10:29.000It's how you carry yourself at a certain point in time.
01:11:55.000We cool as shit until motherfuckers start roasting your ass.
01:11:59.000I'm a huge believer in the law of attraction.
01:12:02.000So it's like, being that I'm in this field, I've become, and I'm also a single modeler, I've become very, very masculine in the way that I carry myself.
01:12:09.000So it's like, I'm not going to continue dating when I'm attracting these feminine men.
01:12:13.000I'm attracting men with no cars, shit jobs, You're a single mom?
01:13:28.000Right, and then they build emotions for me, an emotional connection, and now it's you have to delete this, you have to change your entire lifestyle.
01:13:34.000Now, could you imagine, you meet a guy that's cool with it, and then let's say, Brandon, Tommy, me and Myron say, yo, bro, this your chick?
01:13:42.000Pull up a video, he's going to be like, fuck!
01:14:12.000All right, so you mentioned that like, and I wrote down some notes here as you were talking and the other guys were talking to you, because I'm really trying to give you the best answer I really can here.
01:14:20.000That's well measured and not to kind of give you the raw.
01:14:24.000You mentioned earlier that you dated a bunch of guys that tend to have feminine tendencies, right?
01:14:33.000So what I found with hyper-dominant masculine men that women find the most attractive is they typically also correlated with a behavior tendency of being very territorial.
01:14:45.000So the more masculine a guy is, the more dominant he is, the more assertive he is, and the more successful he becomes, typically him being territorial with his woman goes up alongside it.
01:14:55.000So the men that you're looking for, that you want, that these feminized men aren't necessarily being, Would disqualify you off rip in most situations, which is a problem.
01:15:10.000Of course it's always possible, but I think one of the biggest things that girls don't get is that possible and probable are two different things.
01:15:16.000So, the probability of you finding a guy that's hyper-mask and has the shit together, is attractive, has money, is charming, charismatic, and funny, with a nice smile, and loves dogs, and wants to have a family, and all this other shit.
01:15:25.000Taking a girl like you seriously in a relationship is extremely slim because he can find another girl that looks like you, that has your traits, that doesn't do that work and doesn't have a child.
01:15:35.000And that's how men that are very successful tend to think.
01:15:38.000They think objectively in that regard where I have a bunch of girls that want me.
01:15:42.000Why would I go for this when I can get something else?
01:15:44.000So I think women that get into certain lines of work, whether it's OnlyFans, pornography, even showing a lot of skin on Instagram or being a model or whatever where you're using your sexuality to make yourself money, It comes with long-term consequences that you might not foresee when you get into the field.
01:16:00.000And then some girls say, well, I'm going to do it for a bit, make my money and get out.
01:16:03.000But the problem is that it's always going to follow you and the man is always going to have a problem with it to some degree.
01:16:08.000That's why you had this issue before where they're like, oh, well, it's okay.
01:16:25.000Yes, you need to get comfortable settling with a guy that, let's say, he's not the most attractive, but he takes care of you and he's a good man.
01:19:53.000Well, I mean, so are you content with what I told her that, like, if you choose certain professions, you're gonna have to concede on some things?
01:19:59.000Yeah, I already accepted that a long time ago, and at this point, I'm just like, fuck these, like, the nice guys, like, I don't, like, you're, everybody's a loser, like, you know what I mean?
01:20:08.000Like, the nice guys, like, I don't want that shit, I'm sorry, like, I don't, like, it's not, like, a bitch, like, you call them guys losers, and you wonder why I call you a bitch.
01:20:53.000Alright, so, just going back to what I was saying, so, because my thing is this, because we brought a lot of girls on, right, that, you know, maybe they might have been a stripper, or they did OnlyFans, or they did porn or whatever, and they still think they deserve a guy that's like 6'4", with a great smile, charismatic, family man, loves dogs,
01:21:08.000and he's the dream guy, and I'm like, I think if you do certain things as a woman, right, if you fuck up your past, you've kind of hurt your future, right?
01:21:15.000Whereas, like, for men, it's like, if your future isn't bright, girls aren't going to want to fuck with you, so...
01:21:18.000I mean, as long as y'all kind of know that you're gonna have to lower your standards significantly because here's the other thing too, especially you being at Booby Trap, you've probably dated or been around very successful men.
01:22:31.000What I've noticed with girls that are in fields where they're around higher status, affluent men, is they think, okay, these are the men I'm around all the time.
01:25:43.000I think that's very important because if I don't have respect for myself I'm not gonna find someone that's loyal to me or that's gonna want a future with me or is gonna want kids with me so I feel like Murch.
01:29:09.000It wasn't the actual number of wives or the fact that they had more than one woman.
01:29:13.000Men of status, of affluence, kings, so to speak, are supposed to have.
01:29:18.000Let me ask this, because I know you know the Bible pretty well.
01:29:21.000For King Solomon, was it the fact that he had multiple wives, or is it because he listened to one of the wives that fucked him up?
01:29:26.000It was the one woman that was outside of his country that God said, hey listen, these women are evil, they're not of me, don't partake with them, and he chose her.
01:29:34.000It's not the number, like what he's saying.
01:31:44.000Or I can make babies with a million children, with a million women, but I can't take three of them as wives and have benefits and have life insurance that comes to them.
01:32:52.000Because there's some girls that don't know the true meaning of having a husband.
01:32:58.000They don't know that it comes with a lot of work and a lot of respect towards your husband and that he's gonna stick by you towards the end and you have to do the same.
01:34:49.000If you don't have the qualities to be a white, or you don't have the certain qualities for your dream man, I don't think you're deserving of it.
01:35:39.000Wait, but didn't you say on the previous question that you know that you have to settle?
01:35:46.000Yeah, I was going to ask that too, but that's why.
01:35:50.000So she asked you, she said, in the prior discussion me and you had, I told you, hey, you know how you're going to have to, given your track record of work and what you've done in the past, you might have to concede and get a guy that might be less than Dream.
01:36:01.000And you agreed to that, so now she's saying you switched it up.
01:36:14.000Earlier in the discussion, I told her first and I told you as well, hey, if you do certain professions, et cetera, sex work, whatever, There's a high likelihood that you're gonna have to concede and give up certain traits that you want in your dream man because he might not want the type of girl that you are back.
01:36:31.000And then she's saying, well, why'd you agree with me before that some girls have to concede on their dream man when now you're saying every girl deserves her dream man?
01:36:40.000Because every girl's perspective of a dream man is different.
01:36:44.000Like, mine is probably different, way different from hers.
01:38:24.000Women tend to be way more selective, and they like the same things, and they won't admit it to the same degree men.
01:38:29.000Like, we'll admit, we want a slim waist, nice ass, nice tits, etc.
01:38:33.000Women like the same things than men, but they don't really want to admit it because it makes you guys look shallow.
01:38:37.000The thing is, of course, like, oh my god, I see like a freaking hot guy, and I'm just like, I see a hot guy, and I'm like, oh my god, that guy is fine as fuck.
01:38:46.000But, like, men and women think different.
01:38:48.000Let's go ahead and punch in your numbers real fast.
01:38:50.000So, what is the minimum age and maximum age you want your guy to be?
01:42:44.000We've done this before because, look, the reason why we have this calculator, ladies, you know, it's not because we're going to set her up.
01:42:50.000It's because we've noticed a growing trend of women that are, quite frankly, fairly delusional about How many of these guys are out there that are attractive?
01:42:58.000And keep in mind that we didn't even go over him being charming, or funny, or cool, or having a vibe, being straight.
01:43:04.000We didn't even account for any of that stuff.
01:43:07.000This is just strictly the raw numbers you gave us, so it's gonna be even less if you want him to be attractive.
01:43:12.000So nobody's making a million dollars a year, it looks like.
01:43:16.000If you look at how many people in the United States are actually making over a million, Hell, you gotta look at what the property line is in the United States.
01:43:31.000See, when you work in an environment like...
01:43:33.000If you ain't gonna find it here, it's gonna be worse in other countries.
01:43:35.000I think you just fooled your point when you were saying once they get to working in an environment, they start to think that the whole world is that environment.
01:43:44.000Yeah, remember, this is like all men, like a million dollars a year.
01:43:49.000I just know that in Brazil, like you could find a good man, like a decent man, like who makes millions of dollars while I'm here, because I was born here.
01:49:43.000What I'm trying to say is some people are not everywhere that you think, but you should have an idea of a future where you're trying to go even if you're not there.
01:49:52.000So when someone asks, do you think you have more value at this age than that, it should be easier to say it.
01:50:32.000Anything you want done, baby, I get it naturally.
01:50:34.000They really believe that, Kyle, you kept saying, I'm everything that a man wants.
01:50:40.000Humility is something that these women today don't have and it's because of the fucking internet and people giving y'all these damn likes online.
01:50:46.000So y'all believe that that shit is real.
01:50:49.000It makes no sense to even walk out of the house and believe I'm everything that someone wants.
01:50:55.000But you didn't do what she did, which was what?
01:50:58.000Let me find out what the fuck they want.
01:51:00.000Because when they asked you, what do a man want?
01:51:03.000You said some of the most basic shit possible.
01:52:34.000So would it be fair to say by me living with my mom, being broke, 19 years old, I don't have the attractive traits that women are looking for?
01:52:43.000So what if I told you that you being 30 years old Being a former stripper, doing OnlyFans is the same exact thing as that 19 and living with his mom.
01:55:32.000Whenever a girl can emasculate a man like that and call him a slave or whatever, she wears the pants in a relationship and she don't respect him, which literally was shown earlier when I asked you if you're single, and you said single.
01:55:55.000Women that have a man that they actually respect and admire are proud to show that shit off because women know that their value is contingent upon the man they can attract.
01:56:02.000So, the guy you're with, you don't respect him.
01:57:32.000I want to say that like a lot of women in the sex worker industry or in the OnlyFans industry do have a different type of upbringing than a lot of other women.
01:57:41.000So maybe where she was at at like 21 versus where you were at at 23 might have been different mentally.
02:00:25.000Historically, it was 25 years or older, but then they moved it kind of more to like 27 and older or 30 and older.
02:00:32.000It's called Xing Nu, which basically means leftover woman in Chinese.
02:00:36.000I don't say that to be an asshole or be misogynistic, but I say that to say, universally, whether Chinese, American, Arab, etc., Since the beginning of time, men have always valued younger women because of fertility and youth and beauty.
02:00:56.000I think women need to understand that this is how men evaluate women.
02:00:59.000It's not your career or having a bag or any of this other stuff.
02:01:02.000And they need to kind of adopt to what men want.
02:01:04.000And I think, not to pick on you, but like she said, why should I care what the man wants?
02:01:08.000And I think a lot of girls have that mantra of why should I care what the man wants?
02:01:11.000But if a woman wants to get married or get taken seriously, I think it's very important for them to understand what men want and what men are attracted to.