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00:10:10.000So I switched my major to business administration.
00:10:14.000And I was like, I was thinking of opening my own salon and like...
00:10:21.000Having people, like, braid with me, if they either, like, either want to have, like, their own station, or I want to kind of make it different.
00:10:34.000So I'm assuming, okay, so you're in college right now, undergrad, I'm assuming you're either a freshman or a sophomore at this point, a 19?
00:19:37.000And the reason that it never progressed to a relationship was either because I knew it would be toxic and not a good relationship, but keeping them as friends just, I don't know, it filled some purpose at that time.
00:19:52.000Women use that word interchangeably, and it's not very specific.
00:19:56.000Well, the one person in particular that I'm thinking of, I watched him go through a bunch of different relationships with his girlfriends, so I could see that he wasn't relationship material, but as a friend it didn't matter because we would just party together or whatever.
00:20:10.000Was he not relationship material because he was promiscuous, or was it because he just didn't have his shit together?
00:20:15.000He didn't have his shit together and because he just was jealous and abusive towards his girlfriends.
00:20:23.000And my young immature self didn't really care about that because they weren't my friends.
00:21:01.000And there was one other one that I was friends with for a number of years and it was actually the opposite reason because he was too nice and he was too eager beaver and like would do anything for me and just didn't have- But the F boy never tried to smash you.
00:22:06.000It depends on where the friendship is.
00:22:10.000If we're too close, I'm not gonna fuck you.
00:22:13.000Because I don't want to cross that border.
00:22:17.000But I'm asking, like, for your guy friends now, you're saying all of them, the reason why you're not, none of them are getting elevated to something more is because they have girlfriends.
00:25:03.000Why did all your guy friends never be elevated from friend to So, you know what's interesting, like, I'm kind of like the queen of, like, platonic relationships, like, with guys.
00:25:13.000I'm sure no, I'm keeping it all the way thousand, like, you know, like, like, I'm friends with guys, and they're like my brothers, like, you know.
00:25:21.000The question is, why did you not never elevate any of these brothers?
00:25:25.000Because if I like a guy, I'm going to let him know the first five minutes.
00:25:29.000It's not like any way this, that or the fourth.
00:26:34.000You know, at least, I would like to find someone that I would find attractive, you know, personally.
00:26:40.000Someone that at least takes care of themselves, that says a lot about the guy.
00:26:44.000So would it be fair to say that the guys that you have, this is so hard for the girls to answer.
00:26:49.000Would it be fair to say that the guys that you have friend-zoned aren't attractive to you and they don't have the vibe that you just described?
00:26:55.000I mean, they might not be attracted to me, but to be honest with you, like most guys, I just, you know, you have to be connected with me mentally for me to, like, you know.
00:28:54.000I don't have many guy friends, but the ones that I do have, it's either because they're effeminate or we just don't have the same values, so we'd be totally incompatible if we dated.
00:30:12.000She sucks at saying it, but what she means is fun for her, not fun for the guy.
00:30:16.000She enjoys their company because maybe they pay for a table or whatever the hell it may be or they're showing her an experience and she's having fun and she don't want to get rid of that by making it asexual and losing that opportunity.
00:31:34.000So the guys that you have in the friend zone, they offer you some kind of benefit, and you don't want to lose that benefit by making it sexual with them.
00:32:59.000If you guys say what we want y'all to say, not what we want y'all to say, but what you really think directly, it'll make you look really bad.
00:33:07.000Which that experiment kind of just displayed that.
00:33:09.000If you had said the real reason why you don't want to fuck with the guys, some of y'all were honest, like her, he's effeminate, they don't have the same thing.
00:33:17.000Someone said something along the lines of maybe family or whatever, but y'all were being around the bush a lot, bro.
00:35:47.000But anytime a woman's with a man that she feels she's superior than, that pedestalizes her, she starts to disrespect that man, she starts to treat him poorly, she starts to abuse him.
00:35:55.000So for a man, he must be on top of the girl as far as, like, hierarchy.
00:36:00.000She needs to respect him more than he respects her.
00:36:02.000She must like him more than he likes her.
00:36:04.000Because women, when they're in a leadership role and they feel like they're being pedestalized by their man, that inherently makes them think, I'm better than this guy.
00:36:09.000When a woman feels like she's better than her guy, she don't want to take him seriously.
00:36:12.000Women only want men that are at their level, but preferably better than them.
00:37:34.000This is a perfect example of what I mean when I say women deserve less.
00:37:37.000If he gave you less and told you, yo, I don't deal with girls that go out and fuck other guys while I'm dealing with them, you would respect them more and you would stay inside and not do that.
00:37:47.000But the fact that he gives you all these options is quite literally against what he wants.
00:37:51.000It's just that he doesn't have the balls to tell you that.
00:37:53.000My situation is quite different though.
00:37:55.000My situation is different because the type of person that I am, I'm very open.
00:41:52.000But the thing is, if you're meeting them and they're not putting out enough and at least showing you the same kind of energy that you're giving back to them, don't waste your time.
00:42:05.000However, if this woman has a lot of skills, a lot of capabilities, a lot of talents, a lot of things that she cooks, she does things that are high value for the man as far as him living, that would be good.
00:42:18.000And that's where the culture comes from.
00:43:45.000Well, am I going to go ahead and trade in my success, my masculinity, my protection, my provisioning for a girl that quite frankly doesn't give me that femininity in return?
00:48:58.000If you didn't approach the situation properly, you don't get what you want.
00:49:02.000The reason why those men were able to get two to three years out of me helping them out is because the dream that they pitched was actually something I believed in.
00:49:15.000He went and fucked around on other people.
00:49:18.000If I'm paying for all of your shit, that's what happened.
00:49:21.000So all that did was teach me not to do that.
00:49:25.000So tell this to all the short guys out there that have a good speech and a good plan to these women, but they say, oh, sweetheart, if only you were taller.
00:49:36.000Tell it to all the guys that are fat, out of shape, and they're like, yo, nigga, you're too fat.
00:49:39.000Listen, I get what you're saying, but it makes no sense.
00:51:23.000Where can you find good quality women?
00:51:29.000I think yeah I think what she just said right now um also if you're well educated I think if you come from a good family I think like a stable family I think if you have a stable family you kind of have a good example of a good relationship um But how are you gonna find a girl from a stable family?
00:54:28.000I would say, first and foremost, people just need to get back out into the world again, like these ladies were saying, out from behind the computer and the game consoles and just go places.
00:54:38.000I think the more important thing, not where, but how to vet the women, because you can find a good woman anywhere.
00:54:45.000You just need to know how to identify that woman as a good woman.
00:54:53.000If she respects you and if she is giving you the attention and energy back that you're giving her.
00:54:59.000But if she's kind of blowing you off and just not giving you the time of day, don't continue to pursue her.
00:55:04.000But if she seems shy or interested or whatever...
00:55:08.000I mean, that's the very beginning stage of it, but then it just builds from there as it gets more serious, you know, if you're able to call her out on her disrespect and if she's able to correct herself and appreciate your perspective.
00:55:20.000Give us three traits that make a girl immediately unwifable, since you're talking about vetting.
00:55:26.000Unwifable, I would say someone that's not willing to see your perspective or take it seriously and see your perspective as valid or thinks she's always right.
00:57:30.000And to be honest, if I line up 100 women today and I go talk to them, like 95 of them are going to deserve less because a lot of them are on a pedestal.
00:59:57.000Here's the thing, that fast money comes with slow problems and that slow problem is going to be that men are going to objectify you for the rest of your life and not take you seriously because you're always going to be on the internet naked and you're always going to be looked at as a sexual object versus to be looked at as Annette.
01:01:11.000But that's why I tell guys to approach the dating game nowadays where you have to give the girl less for her to respect you.
01:01:17.000The days of being a gentleman up front and getting good treatment for it, it doesn't work.
01:01:21.000If a guy goes on a first date now and gives a girl flowers, she's gonna laugh at him, put it in the group chat, and not take him seriously.
01:01:52.000That's why I'm saying women deserve less.
01:01:55.000Because if you give them that treatment, which you're calling too much, but it used to be the norm, and then girls come back and cry, why are there no nice guys anymore?
01:03:09.000Who spoils it for interpreting it that way?
01:03:12.000So anybody else here, the way that he speaks, does he come as though he is trying to tell you that women deserve less because of how they are making men devalue?
01:03:22.000Or does it feel like it's coming from a personal space?
01:04:00.000I feel like your approach, instead of saying women deserve less, how about trying to find a way to teach women men's value because they don't see it?
01:04:40.000You're more concerned with how I say something versus what is said.
01:04:44.000What's important is what is said, not how it's said.
01:04:46.000But you being a woman and interpreting everything through your emotions, like normal, which is why the show is so entertaining, is you immediately reacted like, you're devaluing women, blah, blah, blah.
01:06:31.000That's another reason too why we specifically don't really like coaching women because they think they know it all and they don't want to hear the male's perspective, which is why this podcast is so entertaining because...
01:06:40.000Very rarely do men tell women the truth about how the world really works because they want to have sex with them and they don't say anything.
01:06:45.000So guys rarely tell girls, no, this is how it really goes or you're wrong or whatever or telling a girl her opinion is wrong.
01:06:50.000That's why girls come in here like, no, no, no, you're wrong, blah, blah, blah.
01:06:53.000No, an opinion can absolutely be wrong.
01:06:55.000But the message coming from a woman to other women is better taken because they're not as offended by what...
01:07:03.000But women aren't honest with each other.
01:07:05.000Which is why we have that problem right now.
01:07:07.000That's why I want to try to help change it too because your book could also be called Make Her Earn It.
01:07:14.000Instead of just giving her everything, trying to earn her, how about you make her earn the things you give her by the respect that she shows you?
01:07:22.000It's the same thing that you're saying by saying...
01:07:26.000It's just when women hear that, they're immediately, because their feelings, because we are emotional beings, their feelings get triggered by that because they're thinking of it in a derogatory way, like they don't matter or like they're never going to get it.
01:09:04.000But the thing is that for modern day women to respect modern day men, men have to put them down to a degree because women's egos are up in the sky.
01:09:52.000However, I've met a lot of modern day women that actually have husbands that they care about and they have families and they're actually dedicated.
01:10:08.000Like, the people that I know that have stayed, like, married, like, is truthfully, like, I'm just going to keep all the way, like, they, like, grew up pretty religious, like, truthfully, like, you know, they went to church, they made it, and they understood the role, like, I'm just going to just keep it transparent.
01:10:22.000There's roles in the Bible, and I'm just teaching you, because this is what they taught me.
01:10:26.000And the Bible is saying women deserve less, too!
01:11:27.000So if most women are being pedestalized, if most girls think that they're better than most guys, if most girls have egos up in the stratosphere, it would be irresponsible for me to say, oh, well, there's a couple good ones out there.
01:11:37.000No, tell guys, you need to prepare yourself for the majority.
01:11:40.000And the reality is, you have to put women down to a degree.
01:11:43.000You don't want to date the majority, though, truthfully.
01:12:23.000Well, I might have been thinking in my own way, but I don't believe that person's invisible at all.
01:12:27.000I think they should just try to vibe out and just try to be friends with somebody first before they, you know, at least invest that much time and money.
01:12:35.000I know couples that have stayed together for years and they're maybe off the shits together.
01:12:44.000Like, if you know what I'm saying, I don't know if I can say it on air, right?
01:12:48.000But they be lit together, and they stay together for the full duration until somebody dies, right?
01:15:29.000That's the culture that's made everything backwards because men are more like women and women are more like men and everything is backwards.
01:16:10.000Hence why I say tell guys, yes, you got to put it down sometimes because a lot of girls have egos up.
01:16:15.000I hope you make the message clear though that that's a distinct difference.
01:16:18.000I hope that it's clear because putting someone down in my view is being mean to them, calling them names, doing things that are just outright not right.
01:16:26.000But when you correct a woman and you demand your respect as a man, I think that's actually helping her.
01:16:31.000Well, you gotta knock her off her pedestal, which is, by definition, knocking her down, putting her down.
01:16:37.000You guys are more concerned with how I'm saying it versus what it is.
01:16:41.000But if you look at it quite literally, depedestalizing her is putting her down.
01:16:47.000Now I understand what you're saying and that's the difference between men and women.
01:16:50.000That opinion causes a problem because you took that, like, people will take that same opinion and then they'll take it and then they're not understanding it.
01:17:00.000Tell me what my opinion is specifically.
01:17:02.000Like, if you're saying that, like, if you're saying that something that, like, oh, I'm going to tell you, like, I don't like, if my hair is pink, I'm going to tell you that I don't like your hair that is pink.
01:18:16.000I think it's because, like you're saying, depedalize them when the problem is that you don't want to take them off the pedestal.
01:18:25.000You should leave them on the pedestal.
01:18:27.000The problem is that they're probably falling off of it, doing something wrong, or they're getting fat or whatever you're saying, and they're falling off of it themselves, and you should correct them and put them back on the pedestal where they should be.
01:25:08.000You guys don't know what it takes to be attractive to women as a man because you are not a man dealing with female fuckery when you're in the dating game.
01:25:35.000You're eating your own words right now because you quite literally said earlier at the top of the show, I know right away if I like the guy.
01:25:40.000So why the hell is he going to be a friend?
01:26:27.000You guys want to know why you're so clueless?
01:26:29.000I'm going to break it down for you guys.
01:26:30.000You could call me an asshole, sexist, whatever it is.
01:26:32.000The reason why you guys are so clueless, right, is because women have the privilege of not having to understand men to be attractive to them.
01:35:55.000Even though she's trying to say it's easy, what she doesn't realize is she said, oh, I'm going to find out three things about you, I'm going to start a conversation, blah, blah, blah.
01:39:13.000How many times have we been telling y'all how it really works and they've been arguing with us when we're like, what the hell?
01:39:18.000I think that that's the problem is that women are so quick to get defensive without even really knowing what they're arguing about because they don't even really know truly what they want.
01:39:51.000It doesn't get shown to us anymore because we're taught that everybody goes to college, gets a job, becomes successful, becomes rich, men and women.
01:39:59.000We're taught that we should be competing with men when really we have our place and our role.
01:40:03.000And if every one of us got true with ourselves and got in touch with our feminine selves and our hearts, do you think that maybe a lot more of us would actually want that and we don't even know that we want it?
01:41:00.000And I bet a lot of them go home and actually think about what you said and maybe it hits them different when they're not Triggered.
01:41:06.000I mean, that's the word triggered when you're in the amygdala hijack and your brain is like taking over and you don't even really know why you're fighting.
01:41:12.000Nobody here voted for that women working shit.
01:41:28.000So it's hard because it's just like finding the balance of being a woman and also, you know, being what we're supposed to be taught as being a strong woman as well.
01:41:49.000Should at least like lay out just sensible things that women could at least follow as a guideline and that's where I believe it'll start to change.
01:41:58.000I really think that like there was a point in time like when I was like 20 years old like I used to go out and with my friends and like a knickers would cater like we would be able to drink we'd be able to smoke as much as we wanted go like as many places as we wanted and it would be no problem.
01:42:15.000But when I turned 21, men were really mean.
01:42:18.000Like, oh, I don't want to pay for this unless you're fucking...
01:44:31.000Man, you're not entitled to a man's resources.
01:44:33.000If you want to go ahead and sit in a section and pop bottles with a guy, and he expects to fuck, and you're like, I'm not fucking, he has every right to say, get the fuck out of my section.
01:50:23.000The woman who probably is a virgin, right?
01:50:25.000The woman who probably is so, she has no self-confidence because she's been broken down from so many different places versus the woman who, you actually, right, does deserve the, you deserve less treatment because she has been given everything from the beginning.
01:50:38.000You're going to give both of them the same treatment?
01:50:41.000See, this is why it's very important as a man to understand women and you have to vet them for a year before you take anything seriously.
01:51:31.000Three out of four women have been either raped, have been sexually molested by someone, either someone in their family, someone in their...
01:51:42.000It's more like one in ten, one in seven.
01:54:35.000So, my thing is, your statistics are great.
01:54:38.000But what I'm saying is, from real life, like real suicidal situations where I had to come up off of my own and talk to other women and actually realize how many other- Ms.
01:55:02.000Like, the world doesn't revolve around you.
01:55:04.000I get it that you had your experience, and I'm sorry that you had that, but your experience does not reflect what's going on in the greater world.
01:55:10.000The problem is that you're extremely solipsistic in everything that we talk about.
01:55:13.000You attribute right back to yourself thinking that the entire world is, everyone is operating and living the same way that you are.
02:02:24.000That dumb bitch wanted to bring in about some dumb shit about her, and it's like, I'm not going to let her sit here and get misinformation and attribute everything back to her experience.
02:02:38.000It's a very sensitive topic, and we don't know what people have been through, but at the same time, that was definitely not going up either.
02:02:46.000There's no sensitivity in the topic at all.
02:02:49.000I don't need to put sensitivity in shit.
02:10:47.000I would want someone assertive, but the main thing that I look for is somebody that is free, and not in a way where they do whatever they want, but in a sense where they're not enslaved to any desires, in a sense like,
02:11:02.000I don't want somebody that has a substance problem.
02:11:53.000I would say I would want to find a long-term relationship, a husband, and have children, and explore my passions, like my hobbies, as well as really take pride in having a garden and that sort of thing.
02:12:13.000Is it hard in the current dating market to find a guy that doesn't want to smash right away?
02:12:19.000Yeah, so I guess what I have is, like, guys like that I'm a virgin, but they don't want to wait until marriage, which is kind of a problem.
02:12:31.000You would have been good back in 1950, but you kind of fucked in 2023.
02:12:36.000You know, because, and it goes both ways, right?
02:12:39.000Kind of like, you know, you got traditional girls that are, like, want to wait or whatever, but, like, the guys are, like, because here's the thing.
02:12:47.000There's no way that you're going to find a guy that's like a...
02:12:49.000Well, I mean, the guys that are virgins, you don't want them anyway.
02:12:52.000The days of a guy being able to be a virgin and still be attractive and find a virgin wife, those days are done.
02:12:57.000Because guys understand that if I'm a virgin as a guy, I'm not going to be as attractive to women.
02:13:05.000We'll take virgin girls, but no girl wants a virgin guy.
02:13:07.000Yeah, and I know now that, like, I mean, I don't need to have a virgin guy, and I know the society we live in, and the chances are that he's probably not.
02:13:17.000Would you prefer a virgin guy, out of curiosity?
02:14:28.000But to what you were saying, there was actually a study that said...
02:14:31.000Because men are naturally more they want to sow their seed.
02:14:36.000There was a certain amount of bodies that he had where if he, let's just say, had like 10, he's actually more likely to be monogamous within marriage because he knows that women are more or less the same.
02:15:13.000But yeah, sex affects the genders very differently, but girls think that they can sport fuck like guys, and I'm like, well, you can if you want, but it's going to cause you issues later.
02:17:47.000Like I said, somebody that really follows their passions with their talents, their abilities and just can kind of keep up with it, that's really special.
02:17:57.000As opposed to following what everybody else sees on Instagram, wherever they look at stuff.
02:18:03.000Just someone that just really knows themselves and then can be emotionally intelligent and conquer their mind.
02:18:09.000What does emotional intelligence mean?
02:18:11.000Emotional intelligence means that you are aware of your emotions.
02:18:14.000However, you know, the proper way to act, there's a right way to act and a wrong way to act.
02:18:20.000And we do get triggered, but you can't always react when you're triggered.
02:18:25.000You know, sometimes you have to, you know, bite it.
02:18:27.000It's fine because if you don't bite it, imagine the greater reaction.
02:18:56.000So that's exactly what I mean, though.
02:18:58.000Just being able to conquer your mind because going through that concussion and just dealing with that, I actually broke my tooth, too, like in the whole thing.
02:20:35.000I feel like for them it would be financial stability and freedom to do whatever they want, whenever they want.
02:20:41.000That's what I feel like is winning for a man.
02:20:44.000I feel like winning for a man is feeling respected and admired and feeling like he respects and admires himself as well and proud of his accomplishments and proud of his ability to make his family secure.
02:21:19.000I think a man winning would be financially successful, emotionally successful, successful relationship, basically just like check all the boxes of like top tier.
02:22:09.000What's winning for a man, in your opinion?
02:22:11.000Somebody that's respected, prosperity, and someone with a strong, loyal support system.
02:22:21.000You know, it's very interesting because when we asked the girls what's winning for a woman, it was typically contingent upon an outside resource, another human being, because women tend to be interested in people.
02:22:30.000But when we asked them what is winning for a man, it was external.
02:22:33.000It was being successful, making money, etc.
02:22:36.000And I would add to that that, like, Guys want to make money, be successful, have respect, and have a bunch of chicks.
02:23:39.000It was a situation, yeah, because, like, I'm not going to go in detail on it here, but it was a situation where I had a lot of responsibilities that I would have to fulfill, and because of the age at the time, it just wasn't good.
02:23:55.000So, I was like, okay, and because I'm a virgin waiting for marriage, I was like, okay, maybe you can have sex with me.
02:26:42.000Just like men are biologically hardwired to like certain things in women, women are biologically hardwired to look for certain things in men.
02:26:52.000Because she's saying, I don't want a guy that's polygamous.
02:26:54.000And what I'm saying is that the men that are attractive have the capability of being polygamous.
02:26:57.000She said she would want her man to be polygamous.
02:26:59.000Yeah, because for me personally, I haven't been in a relationship for a long time, but when I do, eventually, I want to be my best Version of myself.
02:27:09.000But also, I want to be the best woman possible that I can be for him.
02:27:13.000Whether, you know, I connect with him.
02:28:47.000Countries that practice polygamy tend to be less stable, that is true, but that does not change the fact that from a biological human evolutionary standpoint, women are wired to be in a polygamous relationship because women are willing to share higher status men.
02:29:05.000Most women would prefer to have a high status man and share him than to have a loser to herself.
02:31:09.000If a man doesn't make it to every single recital, every single game, that's not the end of the world.
02:31:13.000And if a son doesn't get every single thing he wants from his father, I think obviously the daughter's got to get everything to a degree, of course.
02:31:35.000But like, he's, realistically speaking, a man that's out there making money, being successful.
02:31:39.000He's not going to be able to be there all the time.
02:31:41.000I think we're also forgetting as well, if the dad is a good role model and he's actually putting food on the table for the family, him being a role model does a lot by itself.
02:31:51.000But wouldn't it be better if both of the parents were together and they avoided all of that?
02:32:13.000Now, but going back to the whole monogamy thing, you know, men are typically only are as faithful as their options.
02:32:21.000So a guy that's like in demand, that's attractive, that has things going for him, he's going to want to exercise options.
02:32:26.000So I tell girls just get in front of it and accept that at some point you might catch a guy cheating or he's going to want to have that talk like, yo, I want to have other girls.
02:32:38.000Well, then now you're going to make women just boss up themselves and start becoming masculine because they just want a guy who's going to love them a lot and not cheat on them.
02:33:12.000It's raining outside so that you can prepare yourself.
02:33:14.000Whose fault is it if you don't take the umbrella and get wet?
02:33:17.000No, I'm just saying that women are going to go get their own fucking umbrella and become masculine and not have to worry about guys cheating on her.
02:34:51.000You guys are sitting here trying to fight me on it, and I'm telling you, society wouldn't sustain itself, so how would it be biologically that way?
02:40:07.000We're saying, for example, in this case...
02:40:08.000Yeah, it's crazy because we should have gotten married and we could have already gotten, and if he wanted it, then we would have, but it doesn't matter that much to both of us because we're already committed and we know we're going to get married eventually.
02:41:26.000I already know that I will, but I'm just like, it's crazy that we're having this conversation because you guys are just tripping over eight years.
02:41:31.000And I'm only saying that because he's going to watch it and then probably feel like he has to.
02:44:42.000This big, extravagant wedding that you want, it's gonna cost some money.
02:44:46.000The money that you guys are gonna spend on that, I get it, it's your decision, you can do whatever you want, but from a holistic standpoint, why blow on one day, you can spread out over a period of time?
02:48:54.000Yeah, but to actually wife up, yeah, they want a girl that's not out there catching bodies, out there partying every day, you know, somebody that kind of knows themselves.
02:50:56.000I was gonna ask real quick because we're Would you be okay with your future guy be having other chicks?
02:51:08.000Would you expect them to be monogamous to you?
02:51:09.000I believe the only men really capable of Having multiple women like that, or the top 10, top 5% of men, that percentage wouldn't be looking for...
02:52:30.000I believe a lot in polarity, and I believe that when the polarity is balanced, as it should be between the masculine and feminine, I believe that causes the two people to be really attracted to each other.
02:52:44.000One of the fundamental tenements of masculinity is having multiple women, though.
02:52:47.000It's literally put in our DNA. Like, guys are literally programmed to want to have sex all the time.
02:52:53.000I'm part of a group that's a relationship group, and the men in there I respect, I trust, and I look up to them, and they just have a different opinion.
02:53:02.000I would like to share the group with you, actually.
02:53:12.000I don't know how to answer that without being in the position because like she said, I don't believe that the top percentage of men that are able to do that would be who I'm going to be married to.
02:53:23.000So I would have to feel secure in every other way and I would want him to be honest because honesty is a big thing for me.
02:53:30.000So then I could cope with it how I needed to cope with it.
02:53:33.000I could talk to him about things openly instead of it being a hiding dark secret.
02:53:38.000So are you okay with a man making maybe 50k per year, 5'7"?
02:54:50.000You were the breadwinner in that one, right?
02:54:52.000It's a very complicated situation because he comes from a very well-to-do family, so he didn't have to work.
02:55:00.000I call this a trust fund syndrome, where the guy has money, but he didn't develop the character and the attractive traits from making said money.
02:55:10.000Therefore, he's able to provision, but he's not masculine because he hasn't went through the making.
02:55:16.000He hasn't become the man to make that kind of money.
02:55:19.000But he's still a very good man and has a lot like the qualities that I would look for.
02:55:23.000It's just that dynamic of me going to work every day and me being the masculine one of trying to fix our problems because the men are supposed to be the ones fixing it.
03:00:13.000I guess I would have to be put in that situation in order to work on it and hope that that person has the patience to deal with that jealousy.
03:00:21.000What if I tell you in five years you're going to get punched in the stomach?
03:00:24.000Would you go to the gym every day and do sit-ups and go train in the boxing gym and be prepared to get punched?
03:00:28.000Or would you just sit there and say, I'll deal with it when I get punched?
03:02:34.000The only reason that women are able to say stupid shit like you guys are saying now, saying I want monogamy and all this other stuff, is because of feminism.
03:02:41.000Feminism has told women that you can make your own money.
03:02:53.000Okay, that's fine But society tells women in general they don't need a man So girls take this indoctrination say I don't need a man and they say I'm equal to a man I will not accept the man.
03:03:01.000That's not monogamous to me What I'm saying is that before feminism before industrialization women needed men So since women needed men they had to deal with what men brought to the table and a lot of the time that was infidelity because the man was providing for her so girls understood that Well, am I going to survive and be with this man who takes care of me,
03:03:17.000he loves me, but he fucks bitches from time to time?
03:03:19.000Or am I going to go ahead and break up with him and be out on the streets or have to go back to my family?
03:03:28.000When a woman got conquered by Genghis Khan and his people, what did she have to do?
03:03:31.000She had to acclimate to the new people.
03:03:34.000This whole new concept of I'm equal to a man, monogamy, and all this other crap, it's a modern concept that, quite frankly, isn't how the world was built.
03:03:41.000Well, I was going to ask if you think the survival thing is why a lot of men aren't becoming that higher quality man because everybody's too comfortable just across the board.
03:03:51.000I guess I'm kind of changing the subject.
03:03:53.000I was going to say this a whole other way.
03:03:55.000I was talking about women need men for survival, which is why polygamy is more natural for women.
03:04:02.000Women are okay sharing their guy if he's high status enough.
03:04:06.000But men are never okay sharing their girl.
03:05:12.000I just don't think it's a safe lifestyle for me personally.
03:05:16.000That's why I wouldn't want to go with it.
03:05:18.000If you're having sex with a bunch of girls, you can get a lot of them pregnant, you can catch ACDs, y'all can get drunk, all kinds of stuff.
03:05:53.000Yeah, y'all be fucking niggas raw anyway.
03:05:56.000Girls always cite diseases as the reason why they want to accept polygamy.
03:06:02.000The reality is y'all can't fathom him having sex with another girl because you can't fathom having sex with another man if you're in a relationship.
03:06:50.000I feel like when you're doing that with multiple women, you're looking for something in multiple women because one woman doesn't have everything that you want.
03:07:46.000But, the women are allowed in at 18 years old.
03:07:49.000The men, however, can't go into this candy store until they're 35, have $100,000 saved up, and been going to the gym consistently for 5 years.
03:10:54.000So, I think, I don't know, I could be inferring But I think what he's trying to say is it may not be moral, and it may not be moral in the eyes of God, but it's going to happen because they're innately going to do that.
03:15:48.000I just think a kind of a lot of it comes from just maybe it was just my perspective, but I do appreciate hearing everybody else, you know, what they know, what they've experienced.
03:15:57.000But what I found in the past is, you know, sex does complicate a lot of things.
03:16:05.000When you have sex with somebody, it just is what it is.
03:19:23.000But I also would think that it would be interesting to think of it in a way like the girls that you guys are looking for, maybe if you only allowed those to enter the candy store, then maybe it would be even.
03:20:41.000But I think that the women that the guys are looking for, if I'm thinking of it in the candy shop store, if they have a wide variety of women who haven't slept around, haven't done all these things, haven't been on these yachts, have been very raised correctly, then there's a lot less options.
03:21:17.000Well, no, I said, well, her boyfriend.
03:21:21.000But yeah, the point of the analogy is that men have to bust their ass to get in the candy store, which is a dating marketplace versus women don't have to.
03:21:28.000So, of course, you guys aren't going to appreciate it to the same degree and you would think, yo, I want a guy to be a monogamous to me, but you can say that.
03:21:34.000That sounds great, but you don't have to work to get in a candy store.
03:23:41.000So, but a man, on the other hand, cares a lot about a woman's past.
03:23:45.000So, women, you could say, oh, well, girls want the guy to be loyal, blah, blah, blah.
03:23:48.000It doesn't matter if he was loyal before or if he had sex with a bunch of girls.
03:23:53.000I'm talking about in the future relationship.
03:23:57.000You're trying to get with girls who have a low body count.
03:24:00.000You're trying to get with girls who have a low body count, right?
03:24:03.000And there's not going to be a lot of them.
03:24:05.000And the ones that are that way are looking for men.
03:24:10.000She's saying that if there was another shop full of creme brulee and the most immaculate desserts that are not just candy, but completely above candy.
03:25:08.000Playboys are attractive because they have attractive traits to a multitude of different women and their ability to attract and have sex with other women is what makes them attractive in the first place.
03:25:16.000I'm just giving you a tip on what girls who have low body counts are looking for and it's not that.
03:26:19.000Someone said, no, I know why she's still not married.
03:26:27.000You're saying that you would leave him, but you wouldn't.
03:26:29.000Because when you proposed to him and you found out, or when he proposed to you and he had 10 girls that he fucked on camera, you didn't care then.
03:26:36.000I promise you, you would not leave him if you found out he cheated on you.
03:26:39.000And if you did, you ain't like him that much.
03:26:42.000Which might be why you're trying to get him to pay for an expensive ass wedding.
03:26:45.000You guys can bring up the expensive wedding.
03:26:47.000Listen, man, when a woman truly loves, admires, and respects you and desires you, she don't give a fuck.
03:26:52.000She just wants to get, like, tie you down immediately.