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00:04:49.000I was growing quickly, and then obviously I made some comments about certain topics, and of course they're going to go ahead and shadowban me.
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00:08:02.000I'm from Toronto, and I'm an accountant for a non-profit organization called Saint T, and I also have my own small bookkeeping business for small businesses, and I model as well.
00:13:44.000So I decided I would try it Because I couldn't fight it I would do it so good I'd have them making me pancakes in the morning Making me pancakes in the morning Okay,
00:20:39.000But obviously, to protect you from certain things, he wants a little bit of control.
00:20:43.000You know, because obviously the world's crazy out there when it comes to the rap game, industry game.
00:20:47.000So maybe he's like, you know what, just to protect you, here's the things that you should put in place so that I can make sure you're good.
00:22:03.000I probably look like, you know, that's like, you know, so he I think he forgot a tomato because he wanted to make tacos and I forgot something in the vegetable section and we kind of ran into each other.
00:22:13.000So I don't think we knew each other and I don't think we cared.
00:22:15.000I think it was about like a genuine connection at that moment.
00:22:18.000But after that, the matrix got involved, whether his way or my way.
00:22:46.000How you build me a studio and then I can't even bring my engineers that I've been working with 10 plus years with to the studio to record me.
00:22:57.000Actually, they were, but he was like so busy.
00:23:00.000No, because he was working with Gucci, so trust me.
00:23:04.000But at the same time, if no one is recording, then it doesn't matter who's better or not.
00:23:08.000If you don't have time, if your engineers don't have time, you're selling real estate, doing everything you're doing, And then it's stuck in your apartment.
00:23:16.000So I need a key to your apartment to get in whenever I want.
00:23:20.000He has some stuff going on there, so I couldn't do that.
00:25:25.000But it's to see that some people can be pushed to their limits.
00:25:28.000And when a woman's pushed to her limits, it's kind of accepted by society versus if a man's pushed to his limits, now he's aggressive, now he's this, he's that.
00:25:36.000And, you know, I don't want to give it away because it really is a good watch.
00:27:59.000I feel like the reason why I'm on my platform and that it's growing is because I do truly believe that I'm going to have a husband and I'm going to cater to him and love him.
00:28:07.000But you're 30, so how much long you got to wait?
00:28:17.000But I had to because think about it, right?
00:28:19.000It was like, if a guy wants to go out with me on a Wednesday, he's not really understanding that I got to bring my brother to school the next day.
00:29:55.000I think a lot of women and men alike, we can get into situations or do certain things because of the fact that we've been hurt or somebody did something to us when we were younger.
00:30:05.000And That's where I'm at with it, that it's like, you don't have to go that route.
00:30:24.000But, like, what it is, is, right, when you do shrooms, If you are not ready to face yourself, it could be the most scariest thing in the world, right?
00:30:33.000But if you're ready to see you, and then you're having the trip with somebody, you can see everything.
00:30:39.000And I wasn't necessarily scared of his flaws or his darkness, but I know that in order for us, because I believe, listen, I'm going to be real, I love that man.
00:30:47.000I love him, but I truly believe that in order for me to be his wife, I have things that I have to control.
00:31:13.000Because it's different if you're a great man and you have all these things going for you, but you have this darkness within you that you're not ready to face, like childhood and things like that.
00:31:22.000A lot of men, when they finally really realize that they don't have to deal with all that, they become their highest version, and that's when they can really be and provide.
00:43:17.000Oh yeah, yeah, like when I started, I mean, I had, the mom was pregnant, the baby was just two weeks old when I started working, and so the baby there was.
00:43:37.000Yeah, I was gonna say, it was probably tough to leave, right?
00:43:43.000Yeah, it was so hard to leave because they were my family here.
00:44:20.000So I'll read some of these chats, and then I got actually a question for the ladies.
00:44:24.000Okay, we got JBS goes, ladies, and guys, from this point forward, we're going to read 50 and up.
00:44:29.000The ones that came in before, I'll read them, but then we're going to read 50 and up from this point forward, because we already got 18,000 yelling here plus.
00:44:36.000Okay, ladies, have you ever cheated before in a relationship?
00:44:39.000If not, have you done anything that looking back on it was definitely inappropriate while you were in a relationship?
00:46:39.000Yeah, and I would never do that because I know one day I'm going to marry a dude and that's just, I think that's disrespectful to him and my future husband one day.
00:46:48.000No, he's going to become your husband.
00:47:42.000But I will say that there was a relationship when I was really young that now I understand where he meant because he was older than me.
00:47:49.000Like I was like probably like 19, 20 and he was like 25.
00:47:54.000And he I was so sheltered when I was younger that when I did go out with my friends and stuff, he'd be like, oh, but like, I don't want you to do this.
00:48:25.000Like, I'm really sensitive and, you know, I feel like if I was to hurt someone like that, then I could potentially be stopping someone's husband from finding their wife because now I scarred him and now he's not going to believe in love.
00:48:50.000No, I've never cheated on anyone, but I remember my ex and I was on a break, and I think it was because he did something wrong, and then me and my ex-boyfriend before that, which they couldn't stand each other, kind of like got back together, but we were like- You were messing with the ops?
00:52:35.000Do you feel like the person that you're with now is at some point maybe not going to fully commit or feel some type of way because you cheated on someone with him?
00:52:44.000Do you think that sits on the back of his head?
00:53:38.000It's really bad, but my last ex, he really wanted kids with me, and I was like, yeah, I don't think I'll have kids with you, but my current ex, I'm willing to have kids tomorrow.
00:54:29.000Yeah, don't tell him that you did that, though.
00:54:32.000I think as women, though, we have to be more open to getting criticized as well, because this kind of goes back to, like, earlier when I was saying, like, for a woman, it's cool, but not for a man.
00:55:20.000I do because they argue a lot with what I'm saying about, you know, the submissive thing for sure.
00:55:26.000We actually had a conversation about this earlier when I was saying as a submissive, you get whatever you want.
00:55:30.000When you do what you do and you treat, you know, him as like the person, as the leader, it's just you get everything without having to ask for it, honestly.
00:55:39.000Like when I'm with someone, I never ask for anything and it just happens because I act appropriately.
00:55:43.000So what's the biggest thing that they give you pushback on?
00:55:46.000Is it being submissive whenever you talk to women?
00:55:48.000It's being submissive, and it's also about the choices.
00:55:52.000They don't like being told what to do, but for me, it's like, if I chose you to lead me, I believe that you're going to lead me to the right place and not into an abyss.
00:56:00.000For example, even my little brother, if he tells me he feels uncomfortable, he doesn't want me to go somewhere because he has a bad feeling or whatever, I listen to him.
00:56:07.000He's 19, and he's been telling me that since he was 14 or whatever.
00:58:32.000I would probably say no to women, but yes to girlfriend and wife, just because I don't like my man to be accessible to other women, and I think when they start showing emotions and stuff like that, it gives women ideas like, oh, I can move in there or something.
00:58:47.000It gives women motive, I guess, I don't know.
00:58:53.000An overly friendly man or someone who's going to open up to another woman is giving them an opportunity to Okay, so you said you think yes to you as the girlfriend and yes to the wife.
01:00:38.000I think that this is kind of weird because let's not forget that men are human beings.
01:00:43.000So you don't want to say, don't show this, don't do that, because that's how we have all these issues, even with cheating and this and that.
01:00:49.000Because it's like, if you say, oh, I don't want to hear this side of you.
01:01:03.000You don't want to tell everyone your feelings, but I think being your authentic self will be able to put you in a category to where you can say, okay, this is a person I can open up to.
01:01:15.000I do believe that your wife and your girlfriend, wife first, but girlfriend is where you want to be the most open to.
01:01:23.000So to women in general, is it a yes or no?
01:01:25.000I think that men should respect all women just because you were raised by a woman, even if it wasn't your mom, your auntie, your grandma.
01:01:34.000I think that all men should have respect for women, but vulnerability is different.
01:01:39.000So I don't think all men have to be vulnerable to every woman, but I think at least respect and acknowledgement for you being a woman, I think yes.
01:01:49.000But just because you're giving a woman respect doesn't mean you have to tell them your deepest, darkest secrets.
01:01:56.000And then you said for a girlfriend and wife, yes.
01:02:40.000Should men open up and be vulnerable to women, their girlfriend or their wife?
01:02:44.000So I agree with the respect thing, for sure.
01:02:47.000I think it's beautiful and it's very attractive when a man can respect all women, even if it's something where he's telling her, no, I don't want you, I just want this.
01:03:32.000I have friends that have told me, that have been like, I said this to this woman, and I was open, honest, I cried, I did whatever, and as soon as she could, she jabbed them with it, you know?
01:03:44.000So, and now that, yeah, and exactly, now they feel like all women are the same, and, you know, I believe that if she's your wife, and you chose her, it's like I said earlier, you attracted that, you believe that she's really gonna hold you down regardless of anything, so...
01:04:01.000But wouldn't it be fair to say that as the wife, the stakes are higher and she could use it against you and really fuck you up if she's your wife?
01:04:57.000If we both believe we're the prize, I can move forward with you.
01:05:00.000If I think I'm too much, then I'm probably not going to be able to be with the man that I like because the kind of men that I like, they are also, they hold their own.
01:05:10.000But the one thing that, like, I don't know because I know there's, obviously, it's deeper and you guys definitely went through some stuff, right?
01:05:17.000But It doesn't make sense to say you're submissive, but then at the same time, it's like, the things that you had mentioned earlier about the control, I think he's just protecting you.
01:05:28.000Like, I know that sounds crazy, but for you to still be around.
01:05:30.000Now when you say that I'm living the matrix and I can have whatever woman I want because I have money, and no, because that doesn't mean...
01:05:55.000What I'm saying is that you said that you don't know if you would go back to him, but everything that you're saying makes it seem like that's not the guy for you.
01:06:10.000Of course, because we love each other, but if he's not the type, even God can't force nobody to do what they want to do.
01:06:17.000So if I want him to be like, yes, he's a good person, but he has to live by rules that he feels are above him right now because of his financial status, and that's where we are.
01:06:41.000Am I giving him, like, if he decides to change and we're on different spaces of life, we don't talk anymore.
01:06:48.000So it's not like we talk and we were to have a conversation and he was to say, like, we talked in October and he said, like, hey, like, I, you know, I love you and I realized that maybe after 35 men mature more and I said, I love that you're coming to this realization.
01:07:03.000But to me, that doesn't mean anything because the man that I want will be already there.
01:07:08.000You would probably be raised by a woman, a sister, an aunt that makes you be able to recognize.
01:07:13.000For me, I don't like that he can't recognize me.
01:09:09.000I didn't like the fact that he might have thought that that could have been like something that could have determined whether he had other girls or not.
01:14:12.000It's about the fact that if you're telling a man to be fully vulnerable, right, you don't know what that sadness can bring out of him, right?
01:14:18.000So if he doesn't know how to control that, you will care if he's putting his hands on you because he went from being sad to having rage.
01:14:24.000Yeah, but no, it's a difference from being sad and abusing somebody.
01:14:28.000You are a human being, and you're smart, and you know the difference.
01:14:31.000If you don't know the difference, then we can't even talk.
01:14:33.000But you just said that the guy that you're with doesn't know the difference because he has issues with being vulnerable because he's been abused.
01:14:38.000So that's what I'm trying to say is that when you're...
01:15:21.000That doesn't mean that you need to be vulnerable with your girlfriend.
01:15:23.000No, what we were saying is that a masculine needs to control his emotions in order to be vulnerable.
01:15:29.000Because if not, there's just no way that if a man has been through shit and he hasn't actually dealt with it, and you want to push it out of him, you're going to see some shit you don't want to see.
01:17:17.000But here's the thing, and I only am going to say this, baby, because you said it earlier and you felt comfortable, so I don't want you to feel that I'm calling you out.
01:17:23.000But that's a perfect example earlier when she was saying that she was with somebody because she was going through shit in her life.
01:20:39.000I didn't like that he threw it in your face.
01:20:40.000No, I didn't like that he didn't know the difference yet.
01:20:43.000I will admit, him telling you in that way is kind of too much of a, hey, look at me, this is what I am, versus just taking action, I think it would be better than to sing it to your face.
01:20:52.000I didn't share it, so he was urban, he grew up, he was born in Mexico.
01:21:51.000Actually, we got cut off because he tried to and it wasn't working because what he was basically telling me is like, because y'all not married together.
01:21:58.000And the thing is that, no, it's not 1970 no more.
01:27:17.000Because if you're throwing it back in your man's face, you're probably doing it to your girlfriend's faces too, so something's wrong with you.
01:27:34.000It may not be warranted, or it may not be what you want to do, but things happen, you get upset.
01:27:41.000I mean, yeah, but does that mean you just don't open up to anyone ever because you're scared that it's going to be thrown back in your face?
01:27:49.000But again, why would I open up if it's going to be a possibility that could happen to me as a man?
01:27:54.000Isn't it the same vice versa though with a girl?
01:28:21.000I do kind of agree because you made a good point that in the heat of an argument, there's always a possibility if a woman just speaks her mind very irrationally maybe.
01:29:14.000I agree when he says women, but I still stand by what I said about wife.
01:29:19.000And then when it comes to the girlfriend, like I said, I said no until he really knows that that's going to be his wife.
01:29:25.000And I still believe that real vulnerability should come once you make that full commitment.
01:29:30.000And then also to kind of go back to what I was saying earlier, this is why...
01:29:37.000Vulnerability in a man who's not healed can turn into something bad because you guys all were like, well, I mean, he could throw it back in my face.
01:29:44.000That's a man who's unhealed and who's being vulnerable, who's being, like, sad or upset or whatever, and then jabbing you.
01:30:03.000Okay, so you think it should be reserved for only your wife to open up?
01:30:08.000Yeah, and I think at that point you have to really know.
01:30:10.000Like, for example, if you're going to marry someone but you do have, like, an open relationship or something where, like, he's successful and he wants multiple women, I don't think he should be vulnerable with any of them because he might have more than one wife.
01:30:22.000Like, now one feels like she's more important than the other because he pillow-talks her and not the other one.
01:30:27.000So at that point, you just got to stay ten toes and not tell nobody shit.
01:30:30.000But if you're going to really be serious with one person and put in the time and everything, like...
01:30:34.000Actual dedication because to be honest even me as a woman I'm not vulnerable unless I know that's gonna be my husband you know what I mean and like I haven't gotten there yet other than what I said about the dude earlier where I felt like that could be somebody that I could really be with committed so would you would you say that in a marriage a woman values security probably at the highest level because now you're married to that person Absolutely,
01:30:58.000So, if you value security and protection at an even higher level at marriage, wouldn't it be counterproductive for you to open up vulnerability-wise when you're the one that's tasked with protecting and securing her?
01:31:11.000But that woman depends on you to provide her security at an even higher level now because you guys are now married.
01:31:16.000So, if someone is looking to you for security and strength at the highest level because now you guys are married, wouldn't it be counterproductive to open up and be vulnerable?
01:31:25.000And the reason why is because if my husband did that for me, and it was something that I really needed him to do that for, I would actually see him as stronger.
01:31:45.000But you have a good example, but she might not.
01:31:47.000So I'm going to assume that if I open up to you, it could be either way.
01:31:51.000But then I jeopardize my relationship because I don't know what's going to happen.
01:31:54.000And then also, you got to look at, like, women overwhelmingly initiate divorces and breakups.
01:32:00.000And on top of that, I could lose half my money, lose my alimony, lose my kids, have to pay child support, and I'm the one that's tasked with securing you.
01:32:07.000So like, why would I put all of that up for risk and be vulnerable to you when you might not take it the right way?
01:32:13.000Well, I think a lot of the women who initiate these divorces and things like that, in my personal opinion, it's kind of obvious from the beginning.
01:32:21.000Like, yeah, she has good qualities and good traits, but there's things that she's asking for.
01:32:24.000She wants that at some point, if you don't have it, she probably won't stick around.
01:33:31.000What I was going to say is, again, if I'm putting myself in a position where I'm with someone who might have some sort of issue or might have whatever, but I want to work through that, like, I'm not talking about full-blown abuse.
01:33:43.000I'm not talking about, you know, getting, like, super hit or anything like that.
01:33:47.000If you're doing something crazy and you're putting your hands on him, if you're wilding out and he slams you real quick, why are you now going to be like, hey, oh my God, what do you do to me?
01:34:27.000It was, like, right when my mom passed away, so I kind of wanted to leave that, like, in the back end of things, because it was too painful for me to continue to bring somebody who saw me go through so much after we broke up.
01:36:17.000My parents were young, so I went through everything with them.
01:36:20.000And I can say the reason why my parents are still together, the reason why both my grandparents were still together, is because of accepting each other's flaws and all.
01:37:48.000Yeah, so no, I'm not saying that, but if you're cheating and then you don't want to be vulnerable with somebody, why are you in a relationship?
01:37:54.000That means you're having someone fulfill your needs, which is okay if that's what you want as a man, but you can't get mad when you don't have a successful relationship like my ex if that's how you want to carry yourself because that doesn't bring a successful relationship.
01:38:06.000I never judged him, my ex, or nothing, but I'm letting him know I know that that's not the way to a successful relationship.
01:38:13.000And if you want me to submit, I have to trust you.
01:38:15.000And if I know you're going on an unsuccessful path, why would I submit to you?
01:38:19.000You're going to lead me to the abyss of hell and we're going to be there together.
01:38:23.000And then, of course, you're going to lead me because you're going to lead me for a woman who has boundaries and standards.
01:40:06.000You don't do what I want, I'm going to leave.
01:40:08.000But that art of staying for somebody for duty is gone.
01:40:11.000But that's why we're all 30 and single.
01:40:14.000Because when younger back in the days, it was like, no, it was standard.
01:40:19.000So those standards to kind of want to be in a relationship, you have to be in a family that kind of kept you from just leaving because you can.
01:40:28.000We leave now because you feel like you can.
01:41:15.000She understood that, and I didn't understand that.
01:41:17.000But I think my mom understood, okay, I have five daughters, and like I said, that's why her fear, her standards kept her from just going out and doing whatever because she wanted to, because there was more.
01:41:27.000But even better, you're in the industry.
01:42:08.000You have hard hearts and something to say absolutely not.
01:42:13.000So she said what my father, what she wanted to do is she didn't want to be with someone who was abusive and she didn't want to be with an alcoholic.
01:42:19.000So personally, that's something that she didn't mind.
01:42:22.000Like the lady used to call my mom's house.
01:42:24.000My mom used to be like, I have a house.
01:44:45.000Me, I decided to wait until I grew up.
01:44:49.000I think us in America, we make everything about relationships and we don't really make things about learning ourselves.
01:44:55.000I think that's why when people, when they said unconditional love, it's hard to say unconditional love because the person doesn't even know themselves.
01:45:01.000So how are you going to tell somebody to unconditionally love me and I don't even know myself?
01:45:05.000I think that as time, I think that's why even though a lot of us are pushing 30 and single, I think the world is different.
01:45:12.000I think we're taught to know each other.
01:45:15.000And I think that when you get to know yourself, then you can choose who to be with.
01:45:35.000I don't know if what you've been through is what I've been through.
01:45:38.000So you might think this way because that's how she was born and I was born different.
01:45:43.000So that's why I told her, please don't feel bad because I know that how I was raised, I know for sure was not how everyone else was raised.
01:48:24.000No, but no, but my father loves her now because now he's not cheating on her.
01:48:28.000Before my mom was Puerto Rican, she thought if I fold your clothes and I do everything and I fix your toes, that you're not going to cheat on me.
01:48:34.000No, my father wanted someone to hold him accountable.
01:48:38.000My father's like 53, something like that.
01:49:03.000I feel like in the fame-wise, and when you're in that light, you have to be more cautious about your feelings and about sharing things, unfortunately, because not everyone is good.
01:49:14.000So I do think that his opinion is just different from mine.
01:49:35.000I also go back to if you are having someone be vulnerable in front of you and then throwing it back on them, there's some internal issues with you because if you can't control that and be mature, then you need to reevaluate your life because that's just toxic.
01:49:56.000If you're throwing things out and I'm throwing things out, then why are we in a relationship?
01:53:10.000Every time you get in your car, you can get in a car accident.
01:53:13.000So it's like, why not ever get in my car because I think I can get in a car accident?
01:53:18.000But aside from Shaq being a celebrity, it could still be a liability for a man who's super successful unless he brings you to a work event.
01:53:25.000And now you were mad at him before that and you know something and then you make a scene.
01:53:32.000That's still an issue that whether you're a celebrity or not, a man can face.
01:53:36.000I think what Shaq was trying to do was give advice for a man to become as successful as he is, regardless if it's in a relationship or not.
01:53:42.000I think it's helped him because he could have definitely suffered with the women that he's been involved with.
01:53:47.000But I think it's toxic because he's in the spotlight.
01:53:49.000So that has to be very specific to men that are in the spotlight.
01:53:52.000No, because there's men that are very successful that women just gravitate towards because they are who they are.
01:54:00.000And, like, it doesn't matter if he's on TV. Like, it's like, let's say you go, like, I'm not sure if you're single, but let's say you were single and you go somewhere, like, upscale.
01:54:29.000But when we do projects together and we're out and like the women just watch him just because of his energy and the way he carries himself.
01:54:35.000So we all want, you know, the top providers, whatever.
01:54:38.000But that's like what one percent of men.
01:56:42.000Yeah, like, if we were in an argument about whatever, like, my ex was cheating on me ridiculously, like, whatever.
01:56:47.000So if I was like, why are you liking these girls' pictures or whatever, he'd be like, why don't you fix whatever you got going on with your dad?
01:56:54.000No, I have a place to fix your daddy issues before you come at me.
01:57:04.000What if the thing that's happening, honestly, what if, like, let's say a man says, okay, I have...
01:57:13.000A problem controlling my emotions when something makes me uncomfortable, and we're having an uncomfortable situation, and then literally they're doing what they express.
01:57:23.000Now, if you say, well, hey, now you're doing what you told me, so it's not throwing it in the person's face, but it's kind of like, hey, you remember when you told me that you had this problem?
01:57:32.000Like, all right, example, my ex would say sorry all the time, sorry.
01:57:35.000We get into an argument, and he would do the same thing that he would say sorry to.
01:59:39.000Anytime a woman's in a breadwinner position providing for a guy and he doesn't work and she's paying all the bills, she's going to become crabby and annoying and resentful.
02:00:37.000Number one, your man gets fired from his job, he cries, gives up for a little bit, but you support him for six months and he gets up on his feet, right?
02:00:59.000Or scenario number three, which is your man got fired from his job, didn't say a fucking word about it, got another job, and made ends meet anyway.
02:01:09.000And you never knew about it, and you found out after the fact that he found another job and done all this behind your back.
02:01:14.000What's the most attractive of the three scenarios?
02:01:18.000Scenario one, gets fired, cries, gives up for a period of time, and then you support him for six months before he gets on his feet.
02:01:25.000Scenario two, gets fired, cries about a little bit, shows some vulnerability, and then you get heavily involved in helping him find another job, and he gets back on his feet.
02:01:34.000Or scenario number one, or three in this case, is...
02:01:38.000He loses his job, has the problem, you don't find out about it, he secretly finds another job, makes ends meet anyway, and you find out after the fact, months later, that he had gotten fired from that job and he took care of it and didn't say a word about it.
02:01:49.000What's the most attractive scenario here?
02:02:30.000So I would say, okay, so the first, yeah, I would say between the two, the first two, because you don't necessarily need to- Which one is it?
02:02:41.000One you support her for six months, the other one is you get super involved in helping to find another job.
02:05:51.000So, I just find it interesting how, you know, when it's a situation where you're dependent upon this man, you guys all went for the option where he just figures it out on his own and gets it done and not necessarily opening up to you.
02:06:05.000I agree with Shaq 100%, where you guys are saying, oh no, open up to me or whatever, but I don't think a man should ever open up to a woman because women are terrible people when they have leverage and when they think that they can have one up on you.
02:06:17.000And I think a man's job, right, as a masculine individual is to control your emotions because they might come out in a raw form that a woman's not prepared to deal with.
02:06:24.000I think masculine problems are to be dealt with masculine figures, which is you, your guy friends, etc.
02:06:30.000I don't think men should ever defer to women when they're in a situation like that because women are not security providers.
02:06:35.000You even said to yourself, well, I'll help them and stuff, but that's for a period of time.
02:06:38.000And that's because women are not naturally providers.
02:06:40.000They don't want to go sit there and provide for a man long term.
02:06:42.000And if they do, they end up in a really fucked up relationship like she did.
02:06:46.000So my thing is I look at it as if I'm supposed to be the leader, I'm supposed to be the dominant one, I'm the one that's responsible for protecting and providing for you, it's my job to make sure that you're secure.
02:06:55.000And a big part of you being secure is me being secure in myself to handle shit and not bringing problems to your front door and having you deal with my masculine problems.
02:07:02.000It puts you in a very uncomfortable situation, especially if we have kids or we have a family or whatever.
02:09:35.000Women look for security value, men look for attraction value, right?
02:09:37.000We want replication value, you guys want survival value.
02:09:39.000So if I display traits that show that I'm not capable of allowing us to survive being unsure, not being able to provide, being weak, being feeble, not being able to be decisive in my decision making, etc.
02:09:49.000These are all turn offs to most women.
02:09:51.000Now, and I know some of you guys are sitting here saying, well no, I won't get turned off, I'll have more attraction for you.
02:10:01.000Women are never really honest about what they're attracted to because the things that women are attracted to are kind of fucked up.
02:10:07.000You want a guy that's better than you in every degree.
02:10:09.000And for you to sit there as a female and say, well, I want a guy that makes more money than me, is stronger than me, is able to make better decisions than I am, is better than me in every way.
02:10:16.000That kind of makes you look like shit as a female to be honest about what you're really attracted and aroused by.
02:10:20.000So women have to say dumb shit like, open up to me, I love vulnerability.
02:10:25.000Because it's politically correct to sit there and say, men are emotional too and they should be able to open up.
02:10:29.000But the reality is women are not attracted to these things.
02:10:31.000They might say that they're attracted to them, but once it rears its ugly head, you're like, ew, what the fuck?
02:10:36.000Like, you know, because women will sit there and say, I like a dad bod until you fucking get a guy with a dad bod and then you cheat on him.
02:10:42.000Or they'll sit there and say, I'll support you even though you're broke and then they'll do it for a few months and they're like, man, fuck this shit.
02:10:47.000Like, women will sit there and say they like certain things but then once they see these things come in and they're man, it's a fucking problem.
02:10:54.000Whether it is what I like or not, it's really hard to meet a man that has spent his whole life holding in his emotions because of all of those things.
02:11:05.000I'm not saying it's right or wrong, what I want, yes.
02:11:08.000But it's really, really hard to meet another human being that they say, because I was a man, I was not able to show.
02:11:15.000And then, so that's why I think when it comes to the wife, maybe that is where you open up to because it's like, okay, now we're locked in.
02:12:28.000I'm not saying either or is wrong, but I can tell you, even to meet a successful man who's completely financially stable and emotionally a wreck is no better than meeting a man who's...
02:14:01.000So, since we are different in how we vent our problems, where men are looking for solutions, women are just looking to be heard, it doesn't benefit me to go to a person, my female, Who won't be able to help me a lot?
02:14:12.000I'd be better off going to my guys who would be able to probably give me some practical advice, understand, sympathize, and then I keep my masculinity intact on my woman, show her that I'm a strong leader.
02:14:22.000She don't need to see me behind the scenes crying and sobbing and not knowing what the fuck I'm going to do.
02:14:26.000I could reserve that for my guy friends because she doesn't have to deal with my fucking problems.
02:14:29.000She won't be able to help me with my problems anyway.
02:14:31.000But it's different when you're a woman and you've experienced a hurt man like that.
02:14:35.000It's easy to say that as a man because I agree with you.
02:16:51.000Since the beginning of time, in every different culture, in every single culture, every demographic of religion, why do men value women that are chaste and virgins?
02:17:00.000I think because they haven't been touched by another man.
02:19:05.000All the men that you were with overcame and went through trauma to become the men that they were.
02:19:11.000One was an Olympic athlete, another one was a multimillionaire musician, etc., real estate investor, but they didn't give a shit about what you bring to the table, did they?
02:19:29.000No, because my engineers, the people who I work with, that I've been working with for the past 10 years, know because if I'm working on something, I need the people who I've been working with.
02:19:41.000Oh, I'm going to do this and then forget about everything that you've been working with.
02:19:44.000Now you're saying That's not what he said.
02:19:46.000What he said was that he's been above and beyond to go for you.
02:19:49.000One of the things that you guys said right now that doesn't really make sense to me is earlier you said that the reason why women suffer is because men aren't providing and aren't doing whatever.
02:20:00.000That proves right there that a man suffers more because he has to do double the work.
02:20:03.000No, what I'm saying is that men are just not the only one.
02:20:07.000I feel like, personally, the dynamic is a little off.
02:20:11.000That I feel like it's not the same because back in the day, yes, a woman was meant to stay home, take care of the kids, and yes, you guys did rightfully suffer more.
02:20:21.000That's not true because how many single women are there that they have kids, the father left, and now they still have to provide and take care of their kids.
02:21:01.000You're going to tell me that that man in that situation getting scared, a little nervous, doesn't mean that he's not going to provide, but that little bit of uncomfortability doesn't make a woman uncomfortable.
02:21:11.000So if I choose to leave you or to still be with you because you're scared, because you don't know what the future, you don't No!
02:21:18.000That's why I said that we put everything as men and women, but human beings is when you face an animal, when you're faced with something that you're uncertain of, you don't know.
02:24:01.000All I'm simply saying is that men shouldn't open up to their girl because the reason why men shouldn't open up is because men are supposed to be the leaders and as a leader, it is your job where you are responsible for yourself and your woman in providing security.
02:24:13.000If I can't Create that aura of security, then the woman is not going to feel secure, and she's probably going to want to leave the relationship because women are hardwired to look for security in men.
02:24:35.000I said I don't disagree with you, but if I think that was the golden ticket, I think there would be a lot more healthy relationships, and to be honest, it's not because...
02:25:43.000You guys assume attraction, but you guys don't want to divulge what made you attracted to the man in the first place because it might make you look a certain way.
02:27:04.000And it doesn't mean that they're It doesn't mean that they're superficial, doesn't mean I don't like teeth, but at the end of the day, looks fade away.
02:27:16.000And you want to be able to have that connection with someone for love, because literally, I want to grow old with someone, that's the truth.
02:27:21.000I'm not, at the end of the day, he's gonna- But you're gonna have standards, though, first, right?
02:31:31.000And I understand that maybe people have prerequisites of People that they want and they check off the list, but like I'm not gonna track that.
02:32:15.000I think you want to comment on what I said so that you don't want me to like I think I said something that maybe you want to keep going but I was done talking and all I was saying was that I think women I think what you said in the beginning was important I think that we say we want a strong man we want this we want that but we don't know what makes that man strong I think what he's saying is that this is what Huh?
02:33:38.000All I was trying to say is that he's right.
02:33:41.000I don't think we as women, when we say we want this, we want that.
02:33:44.000I don't think we understand what it creates.
02:33:46.000I think that's why he was right, is because we say we want a strong man, we want this, but in order to be that, you kind of do have to show, not show emotions and be unvulnerable.
02:33:56.000I was just trying to say, I think that as women, that's the issue.
02:34:00.000We don't understand them and they don't understand us.
02:41:11.000Our job is to make sure that we run the show a certain way and give people air time or whatever.
02:41:16.000And all I'm trying to do is get to the bottom of what you actually like because you're extremely ambiguous about it and you can't even describe it.
02:41:21.000Because on one end you're saying, well I don't want, it's not 1800s anymore, blah blah blah, I'm different.
02:41:26.000But then in reality, most women want guys that have traditional values.
02:41:31.000Even though you're trying to say that tradition still doesn't exist or women aren't attracted to it, but they are.
02:41:35.000And Chad, I won't lie, she was funny as fuck, but she was so single as fuck, man.
02:41:40.000So, I mean, my thing is, like, you can't even describe what you like.
02:42:05.000I would say, yeah, you know, I want someone that I can have conversation with that maybe has the same moral values as me, has the same faith as me.
02:42:13.000Maybe it would be even cool if we had the same type of career so we can have conversation about that.
02:43:48.000The one that you just don't, you kind of just like have the man do whatever he wants.
02:43:51.000I think that like, what about the aspect, okay, like if he goes and handles it by himself, I kind of feel like, how come, like, it's kind of like hidden.
02:44:01.000Like, I want to know what my husband, yeah, like, you don't feel like we can chat?
02:44:05.000Like, okay, maybe you're going through that stress, great.
02:44:07.000You know, I hope it, like, I hope it comes good from it, but I don't know.
02:45:14.000Doesn't mean that the next girl won't.
02:45:15.000Majority of the women here at the table said they would prefer to just get it solved and don't involve me.
02:45:20.000So if I know that most women are like that, why the hell am I gonna open myself up to liability?
02:45:25.000I guess it's just like, I don't know, like when you're dating, you're able to kind of like have that emotional intelligence and maybe kind of...
02:45:33.000Do you find emotional intelligence, please?
02:45:35.000Because women like to use this stupid ass term all the time.
02:45:40.000Like I would say emotional intelligence, you're able to understand like, like just behaviors, the way that maybe they're moving, the way that like they're expressing themselves, but you're able to like understand maybe like...
02:45:58.000So by your own definition, wouldn't the highest level of emotional intelligence be understanding that women are emotional and erratic and a lot of the times my job is to provide security for them, so for me to show this vulnerability that might affect that image that I'm supposed to provide and might fuck up the relationship?
02:46:12.000Wouldn't that be a higher level of emotional intelligence because I could see the chess move coming before it comes?
02:46:16.000That it probably isn't in my best interest from a probability standpoint to open up to her.
02:46:20.000You might accept it, but seven of the girls here don't.
02:48:45.000Most women that say they want that, eventually they get tired of it.
02:48:50.000Like the scenario that he said earlier about the six months of you taking care of him, if that man cried to you every single day for six months, you would be so turned off.
02:48:58.000So it's like, we have to be honest about these things that it's just not something that is productive for just whoever, whenever.
02:49:06.000So you have to really know who you're dealing with and he has to know who he's dealing with you because you're probably going to leave him.
02:49:10.000I want to know if he's a crybaby or not.
02:49:19.000But anyone I'm going to date, I'm talking about me, it doesn't, you know, for me, when I'm dating, I want that person to be their most authentic self so I can fall in love with that, right?
02:49:26.000If they happen to be more emotional, then okay, you know, but it's just, it's just, I don't know, that's how I view it.
02:49:33.000You said you want a man to not lie to you about his emotions and come to you, and you're like, but I don't want to cry, baby.
02:54:38.000But I'm saying, like, you objectively do not look like your photos.
02:54:41.000I literally thought that was someone else on the thing.
02:54:44.000So I'm just saying, if you're gonna sit there and say, alright, Amanda's gonna be authentic and tell me what it is and be emotionally intelligent.
02:54:50.000And I'm like, we're not even being authentic.
02:55:32.000All I'm saying is, I just find it interesting that you're saying, I want my partner to be authentic with me, be emotional with me, blah, blah, blah, right?
02:56:51.000There's children in this world that need, like, a mother, and maybe I don't mind.
02:56:54.000But also, like, I can, I never know in life, I can maybe convert to being, like, a nun, or maybe someone who doesn't even want to get married.
03:05:27.000But what I, what my biggest thing is that I want to tell like the world is as a woman, we, that, that whole like, oh, love yourself like in any way, shape or form is toxic as fuck.
03:05:36.000Like you, you shouldn't love your, like, yeah, your journey, but know that you have to be better.
03:07:08.000Man, I guarantee if we called her ex, the Mexican guy that she's talking about, he'd probably be like, man, I don't fucking want her back, bro.
03:07:14.000Don't be capping about that shit, man.
03:07:16.000They'd be lying, saying like, oh, he want me back!
03:12:41.000I noticed the difference in opinion between Myron and Fresh when it comes to valiance.
03:12:45.000This was highlighted during the Gonzalo Lear episode where Myron said he'd rather die a martyr and Fresh said he'd rather stay alive for his family.
03:12:50.000I recognize this again after our show and Fresh was telling Suniko he's fighting a fight he cannot win.
03:16:40.000Who's done that to reject him and then keep watching stories?
03:16:43.000So, I've never done it, but I think that a lot of women, they'll reject a guy, and then they'll see, like, how good of a guy is, or, like, they'll see that he's living his best life, and they're like, damn, he really didn't want me that much.
03:17:07.000So, I've done it before, and I think it's for, you know, I keep thinking what would have been, what would have happened, you know, the possibility.
03:17:31.000I mean, if I keep seeing him, I don't know, sometimes I'm not interested in someone and then they just look back and then they move on and then I just, like, regret it.
03:18:01.000And she thinks like, oh, I could get another guy or whatever, but what she doesn't realize is like every dude that you get with at that level is going to have other women.
03:18:08.000I was going to warn her about that, but I was like, whatever, man.
03:18:11.000And that was also rare that she got that many.
03:18:28.000To answer that question earlier regarding Instagram, so more often than not, a girl watching stories is kind of like saying, okay, is he actually a guy I want to go out with?
03:19:20.000And they'll be like, Uh, uh, I just thought I would because girls think it's okay to just come back in after they reject you and it's like, nah, man, fuck out of here, bro.
03:20:46.000He didn't make enough money, blah, blah, blah, but he treated her well.
03:20:49.000Girls fuck up relationships all the time because they think that there's something better on the other side.
03:20:53.000She even admitted, oh, well, I got my options, blah, blah, blah.
03:20:55.000But what she don't realize is every dude that you get with that's at that level that makes that kind of money is going to fuck other bitches.
03:21:00.000And then they wonder, why am I single?
03:22:48.000What I was trying to say was that I follow God, only I worship Him, but I want to also listen to my own teachings, you know, because I highly respect Him, and that's what I'm trying to say.
03:26:49.000So being here and seeing like how big you guys have gotten and kind of following the story from the beginning, I'm going home a different person.
03:26:55.000So I'm grateful and thank you guys for more motivation.
03:28:40.000So it's like, I don't want to be in a position where I might get five-minute dick or I might get somebody who doesn't know how to eat pussy.