JustPearlyThings - October 18, 2023


A Huge Problem With Modern Men


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

247.0323

Word Count

2,192

Sentence Count

3

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

10


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 there's also a problem with men a big problem right like what is it 40 years ago so for the
00:00:05.820 last 40 years the average testosterone levels in men have been declining by one percent a year so
00:00:10.340 we have 40 less testosterone as men uh you know per capita than than our fathers did which is
00:00:18.040 frightening and and that's not nothing you know it's like because i think about it like okay i'm
00:00:21.700 not gonna tell a woman you know or women how to behave it's not you know i'm not i can't i don't
00:00:27.560 have agency over that maybe i have some ideas but like nobody's gonna take that seriously
00:00:31.520 but but like as a man you know and i'm lucky first of all that i was growing up like 20 years ago not
00:00:37.580 now because today it's like much worse but i saw it happening 20 years ago and so when i talk to
00:00:42.500 young dudes and i'm very passionate about mentoring young men because a lot of our company we have
00:00:46.400 young women and young men that we hire and a big part of it is like yes men are having a crappy deal
00:00:52.680 right now but a lot of women are having a crappy deal too like men suck right now like they do
00:00:57.480 like and i'm not saying like i'm like you know i'm like hercules whatever like that's not the
00:01:01.540 point because i know i'm gonna get attacked for saying men suck but yeah like the average guy sucks
00:01:04.960 i mean they've been raised like women correct 50 years they've been i mean it's from it's from
00:01:10.460 school no we see we see we see how it is but it's like it's like there's a couple things like number
00:01:14.460 one like if your wife is like making you do the dishes it's because you're not making enough money
00:01:19.080 like i said this before and again like men need to man up and learn how to do hard things they don't
00:01:23.000 want to do in order to get results they want not the methods they like because it's like lebron james
00:01:27.380 his wife is like lebron you're never home to do the dishes it's like that's never come up
00:01:31.080 he's just like get a maid get three maids i don't care right so i have a question so i i spoke to
00:01:37.620 some like housewives in the u.s um and they were telling me you need about sixty thousand dollars
00:01:43.500 um to raise like she raised four or five kids on 60k a year um which i think equates to i don't know
00:01:50.180 like 70 80 in pounds it's less it's like oh shit it's less 40 000 but the way that she would do it
00:01:56.420 is she said her husband would work in the city and commute but they would just have a really low
00:01:59.980 standard of living right and and like they would just do the hand-me-downs she would um like farm
00:02:06.180 like they had chicken like they just lived a very very frugal lifestyle so do you think if a guy makes
00:02:11.700 enough money to live on like basically a low standard of living but still provide for a family
00:02:18.300 is it then on the women or the men like does he still need to earn more so so that's an interesting
00:02:22.380 question like and my philosophy on this is just gonna offend everybody and i've said it on the
00:02:26.280 show before and of course i got a lash but it's like i retired my wife she was and people were like
00:02:29.840 and i said this and it got taken out of context i'm gonna contextualize it because i love that let me
00:02:34.340 say yeah wait so i'm saying like i understand what you're saying like so i'm saying you can retire
00:02:38.120 your wife at 60 000 a year in the u.s so the the problem is not is not the problem the problem is
00:02:45.680 that man didn't reach his potential that's the problem it's like dude if you're raising a family
00:02:49.820 on 60 000 a year you took some shortcuts and you took the easy way as a man like i'm sorry i know
00:02:54.960 there's a lot of guys watching they're not making that money you can make more money like it's a
00:02:58.960 okay let's put it this way is making money important to the outcome of your life is it important
00:03:03.220 to the health of your family of course it especially in the states with the health stuff right
00:03:06.420 is it important to the uh outcome of your children's future huge like kids from higher
00:03:10.820 income homes live in better neighborhoods they go to schools they get more connected they have
00:03:13.760 more opportunities in life and you're like well i wasn't born a millionaire well make sure your kids
00:03:18.100 are so i have another question when you think of society as a whole there's jobs that we need to
00:03:23.900 have done that aren't going to make a ton of money but we like we need them in society like we need
00:03:29.180 bus drivers we need i know i know some of these are going to like vary the income but like we need
00:03:33.800 plumbers we need electricians so when when i was like when i was let me let me tell you something
00:03:38.160 this is really cool so when i was a college student i went door-to-door selling encyclopedias you know
00:03:41.660 that i did it for six years and eventually uh once i gained some confidence and some let's say you know
00:03:46.920 vernacular panache i decided to knock on doors in wealthy neighborhoods i'm talking about very very
00:03:51.780 rich like multi-million dollar homes money i had never seen before i was shocked to find out that i was
00:03:56.580 meeting a lot of plumbers and i was meeting a lot of mechanics these were like i was expecting all the
00:04:01.960 wealthy to be doctors yeah that's upper middle class but upper class like high net worth and
00:04:06.380 and like upper upper middle it's like 56 business owners so so and what kind of business do they run
00:04:12.100 do they run like cigar businesses no they do the crappy work nobody wants to do i had one of my
00:04:16.760 wealthiest clients even in our company today he runs a waste disposal business i'm not talking about
00:04:21.120 garbage he cleans up after concerts you know those portable toilets they bring in that's the that's what
00:04:27.260 he was doing in college is cleaning toilets and he built a business out of it right now of course
00:04:31.400 you're going to say that's not available to everybody and that's scarcity thinking because
00:04:34.420 most people are inflicted with scarcity thinking but you can actually educate your mind as a man or
00:04:40.980 a woman you can educate your mind you can educate i mean your dad's an entrepreneur it's giving you a
00:04:45.280 crazy abundant thinking but i guess i guess the way i think is like even my dad's an entrepreneur but
00:04:50.840 there were people in his company that made around the income we're talking about yeah because your dad
00:04:55.860 paid that were really no your dad paid them to stop pursuing their goals but i'm saying like they
00:05:00.440 still like that we still need those men like it's not like at some point you still need men that are
00:05:06.220 doing the average jobs and so i i don't know like but that's fine so yeah i agree with you so i wait
00:05:12.840 wait so i'm asking you like in that case like do we still have this mindset of like you need to do
00:05:18.940 more when they're doing a job that we do need in society i 100 agree with you i i'm just coming at it
00:05:24.840 yeah perspective like don't be that man yeah like i'm sorry like like if you're that man like don't
00:05:29.460 like my dad is that guy right like my dad is almost 70 he's still working in the same job he's been for
00:05:34.060 35 years even more still the same drive to work he's he's a mechanic he fixes motorhomes you know
00:05:39.000 and it's like it's fine we do need those men but but i'm making an argument to like to the men that
00:05:44.460 are listening to this is like guys don't like figure out a way um i have a great interview i filmed
00:05:49.800 with eddie hall and i think you should put it on your channel because it's 20 men you know eddie hall
00:05:53.280 world's strongest man and i i asked him in this interview like what were you like at 18 he's like
00:05:58.540 i bought my first house at 18 i'm like what he goes i bought my second house at 19 he's not old
00:06:02.820 he's like in his 30s right and he goes because i watched my dad and he used this line word for it
00:06:07.800 he's like i watched my dad be a lemming you know suffering with dignity that whole thing he's like
00:06:12.600 and i didn't want to be like that and i knew that i wanted out because i didn't want to live his life
00:06:16.580 so yes of course there's going to be most men like that and most women etc
00:06:19.980 and probably they have to make some compromises in their life in order to you know
00:06:24.160 adjust their lifestyle and by the way there's this whole bs it's like back in my you know my
00:06:29.020 grandfather's age you could work a nine to five job and uh buy a house it's like yeah your granddad
00:06:34.280 bought a house in a city that didn't exist yet it's like well he bought it in new york it's like
00:06:38.600 two generations ago new york was not new york today it was like it was like it was a hellhole
00:06:42.720 it was gross in fact one generation ago nobody wanted to live in new york right
00:06:46.680 so it's like yes your grandfather bought a house on his income because he took a
00:06:51.140 i guess i guess the question i have is like not everybody is going to make a ton of money
00:06:55.840 and i like i know an individual but i'm looking at it like a society at a society point of view
00:07:01.220 like if we look at society as a whole there's average jobs that people have to fill in for
00:07:05.840 in order for society to run yeah so if we want families to come together i guess the question is
00:07:11.480 should women be more willing to go down in lifestyle or should men make more money actually
00:07:15.420 wouldn't happen like that you know what would happen is if women and i'm not saying women
00:07:18.300 should do this but less women you know like incomes like nominal incomes got reduced when
00:07:22.500 women entered the workforce now we had twice as much labor available so obviously the price
00:07:25.620 of labor goes down right back before you know back before the the feminist revolutions it's like
00:07:30.760 the cost of labor was much higher so people made more money because only half the workforce was
00:07:35.600 available right yeah well she was because this is this is the housewife i i was in her because i was
00:07:39.960 genuinely curious like how much money you need because just as women we can't like add or do
00:07:44.180 anything like so so i was curious like how much money do you really need to like um to have like
00:07:51.080 kids at home and all that stuff and she she was saying like when she started um he was making 30k
00:07:56.200 when we got married and now he makes triple that we lived a frugal homesteading lifestyle when the
00:08:00.540 kids were young and it was actually really nice and peaceful so i don't know like i think a lot of
00:08:05.780 times we think like we need to have a guy that like makes a ton of money in order to have a family
00:08:10.240 i just don't think it's like what they say well i think part of that thinking is girls nowadays can
00:08:14.100 go on a date with a guy who'll fly him to dubai and dispose them a week later so it's like girls
00:08:17.540 are experiencing lives that they can't sign up for long term because they're investing in a man's
00:08:21.320 present not in man's future and you know why women used to go to college before college now are 80
00:08:25.460 women i know you know but why did women used to go to college yeah okay my mom told me that she's
00:08:30.320 like it's your mr your mrs degree your mrs degree yeah yeah but then i went to the school it was like
00:08:35.140 all women yeah so right now right now universities are 80 female and the men's rates are dropping
00:08:41.800 substantially but back in the day i mean this is something that we don't talk about now but i i knew
00:08:45.600 about this growing up it's like women went to university to to find a man with a successful future
00:08:50.160 that's it's like sounds offensive that's what they did