JustPearlyThings - May 17, 2023


Boss Babe Claims That She Isn’t A Feminist


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10 minutes

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00:00:00.000 Okay, so today's topic, is feminism a disaster?
00:00:04.480 So I'd like to go around and everyone say,
00:00:07.220 if you consider yourself a feminist, yes, no, and then why?
00:00:12.660 I'd say no.
00:00:14.660 I'm not a feminist because I think I believe,
00:00:19.740 I'm in between, I would say, but I'll say no,
00:00:22.120 because I don't think, there's things that men can do
00:00:25.940 and there's things that women can't do,
00:00:27.600 and there's things that women can do and there's things that men can't do,
00:00:30.220 if that makes sense.
00:00:31.200 So I feel that's why I'm in the middle
00:00:33.440 and I'm still saying a bit of, nah, I'm not a feminist.
00:00:37.100 Okay.
00:00:39.140 Yeah, me, I'm similar to Janay.
00:00:41.760 I don't think I'm a feminist because I do believe that,
00:00:44.900 I am like strong on like gender roles.
00:00:48.540 So I do believe that there's certain things that a woman should do in a relationship,
00:00:53.280 there's certain things a man should do in a relationship,
00:00:54.860 but I'm also like big on women empowerment.
00:00:58.640 I just don't feel like it collides.
00:01:01.540 Yeah.
00:01:01.980 Okay, go ahead.
00:01:03.460 I would say no.
00:01:05.240 I don't really identify with anything that feminism stands for anymore.
00:01:10.040 Okay, go ahead.
00:01:12.640 Yeah, I'm sort of like in between.
00:01:14.720 I would say I'm very much a traditional feminist,
00:01:18.840 not so much a modern feminist.
00:01:21.300 I still have those traditional values
00:01:23.920 and I feel like I do believe in female empowerment.
00:01:28.000 I do believe in the movement of feminism.
00:01:31.900 Yeah.
00:01:33.000 Okay, go ahead.
00:01:34.200 Yeah, I would say I'm sort of in between as well,
00:01:37.020 but it just gets a bit too technical.
00:01:39.340 I believe in them obviously opening doors for women,
00:01:42.580 but it gets too technical for me.
00:01:44.700 So for me, I'm in between as well, this feminist role.
00:01:47.700 Okay.
00:01:47.960 I do not consider myself to be a feminist whatsoever.
00:01:52.300 A man and a woman has complete different duties and roles.
00:01:55.620 They're not equal.
00:01:56.840 A man's purpose is to protect, provide, hunt and lead
00:02:00.740 and a woman's purpose is to nurture and reproduce
00:02:03.420 as far as I'm concerned.
00:02:04.960 They are not equal.
00:02:06.940 I'm not a feminist.
00:02:08.580 I'm very in tune with myself spiritually
00:02:10.400 and I feel like everything in the modern day world
00:02:14.020 just really collides with my spirit.
00:02:16.040 So definitely not.
00:02:17.940 Wow.
00:02:18.440 A whole room, not one feminist.
00:02:20.180 Wow.
00:02:21.700 Why do you guys think that is?
00:02:23.140 Where has it gone too far?
00:02:28.120 Promiscuity is promoted.
00:02:29.260 I think that's too far.
00:02:32.180 I think for women,
00:02:34.760 having multiple sexual partners
00:02:36.220 is really bad for your mental health.
00:02:39.480 It messes up your hormones biologically
00:02:41.600 and also like,
00:02:43.760 even if you're not technically sleeping with all of them,
00:02:46.840 what kind of person are you
00:02:47.940 if you're just an object on millions of people's screens
00:02:50.340 and all that object is,
00:02:51.940 is your boobs and bum.
00:02:54.380 They're not really seeing you for who you are.
00:02:56.260 And if you don't care about who you are enough
00:02:58.860 to put that out there
00:03:00.320 and all you want to put out there is your body,
00:03:02.440 then I think that shows that
00:03:03.740 maybe there's something not quite right inside
00:03:07.200 that maybe you don't value in yourself.
00:03:09.160 So you only value the exterior part of yourself.
00:03:12.860 Do you guys know women that can sleep around
00:03:14.620 and are genuinely happy doing it?
00:03:16.460 No.
00:03:17.060 I don't think I've ever met one.
00:03:18.880 Really?
00:03:19.500 No.
00:03:20.500 No one?
00:03:21.240 No.
00:03:21.740 So why do you think it's pushed so much
00:03:23.460 if the outcomes aren't good for women?
00:03:24.820 Because I feel like people,
00:03:28.500 like people that maybe,
00:03:30.140 this is just like from me watching,
00:03:33.800 but I feel like people that maybe do sleep around a lot,
00:03:37.380 maybe if they don't actually like know who they are
00:03:39.920 or like know what they stand for completely
00:03:42.040 and they want to act like they're happy,
00:03:44.460 so they'll tell people,
00:03:45.360 yeah, this is what makes me happy.
00:03:46.480 This is what I do.
00:03:47.480 So you do it too.
00:03:48.460 So it's like,
00:03:49.240 it's like some whole gang thing.
00:03:50.960 Like even Amber Rose,
00:03:52.900 for example,
00:03:53.720 this,
00:03:54.120 what is that thing she does,
00:03:55.060 a nude walk?
00:03:56.260 The slut walk.
00:03:57.220 Oh,
00:03:57.500 slut walk.
00:03:58.180 Yeah,
00:03:58.660 the slut walk.
00:03:59.940 Wait,
00:04:00.160 okay.
00:04:00.720 Would anyone go to a slut walk?
00:04:02.160 Anyone here?
00:04:02.720 No.
00:04:03.000 Okay,
00:04:03.200 continue.
00:04:04.160 Yeah,
00:04:04.340 I'll go,
00:04:04.740 no,
00:04:04.900 I can't lie.
00:04:05.600 I would go for fun,
00:04:07.160 like to watch it.
00:04:08.020 I would do interviews.
00:04:09.600 Yeah,
00:04:09.960 I thought,
00:04:10.300 yeah,
00:04:10.600 that's exactly what I was going to say.
00:04:11.800 I would go to like interview people
00:04:13.340 and say,
00:04:13.860 you know,
00:04:14.120 what is it?
00:04:14.960 But I don't think I would take part
00:04:16.620 in a slut walk.
00:04:17.680 No.
00:04:18.500 Yeah,
00:04:19.340 definitely.
00:04:19.780 No,
00:04:20.040 I don't think so.
00:04:21.080 But yeah,
00:04:21.420 what I was going to say about the Amber Rose
00:04:23.100 slut walk,
00:04:24.360 I feel like with feminism now,
00:04:26.800 it's,
00:04:27.840 if you show your,
00:04:28.560 the more body you show,
00:04:30.340 the more empowered you are as a woman.
00:04:32.160 And I feel like there's so much more to that.
00:04:34.580 And it's like,
00:04:35.300 they try and talk for all women as a whole,
00:04:37.960 when really this is your opinion.
00:04:39.920 So even in dating now,
00:04:41.780 it's like men,
00:04:43.320 they'll come and talk to you.
00:04:44.580 In a certain way,
00:04:45.820 like you're a feminist already,
00:04:47.100 like they just think you're a feminist.
00:04:48.480 I don't know.
00:04:49.300 I don't have to explain it,
00:04:50.100 but yeah.
00:04:50.680 Do you think older women sabotage younger women?
00:04:53.440 Yeah.
00:04:54.220 Yeah.
00:04:55.740 Yeah.
00:04:56.360 I feel like,
00:04:57.940 going back to what we were just talking about as well,
00:04:59.840 like I feel like women are trying to compete with men.
00:05:03.480 And I think that is literally where the problem is.
00:05:06.120 We are trying to compete with men.
00:05:07.940 Why is it okay for a man to sleep with loads of women,
00:05:10.480 but it's not okay for me?
00:05:11.980 And actually,
00:05:12.600 do we actually enjoy that?
00:05:14.920 Like we have to actually ask ourselves,
00:05:17.660 like,
00:05:17.980 do we actually enjoy casually giving our body like that?
00:05:23.680 And,
00:05:23.980 you know,
00:05:24.320 because we have emotions and we,
00:05:26.160 you know,
00:05:26.380 we feel things.
00:05:27.280 And like for men,
00:05:28.340 it's different.
00:05:28.900 They can go and do that and have zero emotion.
00:05:31.720 Whereas with women,
00:05:32.760 it's completely different.
00:05:33.760 And we can't,
00:05:34.820 you know,
00:05:35.360 deny that.
00:05:36.720 So is it though?
00:05:38.400 Like,
00:05:38.700 do you actually think like,
00:05:40.020 do you actually,
00:05:40.380 most of my friends,
00:05:41.860 I feel like,
00:05:42.840 you know,
00:05:43.740 they tell me stories and they sleep with someone and they get attached.
00:05:49.280 Like,
00:05:49.680 so you don't think men do,
00:05:51.560 or do you think they're just better hiding their emotions because of like,
00:05:54.140 no,
00:05:54.840 they don't.
00:05:55.820 Because I think so.
00:05:56.840 No,
00:05:57.240 I,
00:05:57.540 I,
00:05:58.120 men can literally go and do that and have a zero emotion.
00:06:01.480 They can do that.
00:06:02.580 And,
00:06:02.880 and they're programmed to be like that.
00:06:04.440 Whereas why are we trying to compete with that?
00:06:07.240 But,
00:06:07.880 but just because someone's programmed to be like something,
00:06:10.540 I don't feel like they're being completely open and saying like,
00:06:13.940 they can just go and sleep around with anyone and they don't feel any,
00:06:16.800 like,
00:06:17.060 I don't believe that.
00:06:18.560 Like,
00:06:18.980 I actually,
00:06:19.660 I don't think they've got to the root of the problem of why they can do that
00:06:22.400 because that's not humane.
00:06:23.540 But,
00:06:23.640 but the thing is like when men have money,
00:06:25.120 power and status,
00:06:25.820 they do do it.
00:06:26.660 So it's like easy for a guy.
00:06:28.240 It's a trend for a man.
00:06:29.400 It's like,
00:06:29.440 is Chris Brown like saying,
00:06:30.740 stop,
00:06:31.180 stop.
00:06:32.520 No,
00:06:32.960 of course they're loving it.
00:06:34.000 Don't sleep with me.
00:06:34.880 Of course they're loving it.
00:06:35.900 But I feel like there's effects that is just,
00:06:38.000 it's not attached to,
00:06:39.400 okay,
00:06:40.100 you're sleeping with loads of people.
00:06:41.440 This is why you feel like that.
00:06:42.460 I feel like they might feel type of ways,
00:06:44.680 but they're not attaching it to,
00:06:46.040 oh,
00:06:46.260 cause I'm just going around sleeping with loads of women.
00:06:48.220 Cause I've got loads of male friends and I see the after effect that it has
00:06:52.420 with them sleeping with loads of women,
00:06:53.620 but they won't actually admit it.
00:06:55.780 Yeah.
00:06:55.980 They won't actually admit it or pinpoint it on that.
00:06:58.480 But I think that sort of goes back,
00:07:00.900 that sort of goes back to like the whole peer pressure with men and
00:07:04.460 maintaining this image of like,
00:07:06.640 you know,
00:07:06.900 when you become successful and you have money,
00:07:09.260 the girls come with it.
00:07:10.440 And I feel like a lot of men are trying to force that.
00:07:14.460 And that's probably why your friends are feeling some type of way afterwards
00:07:18.440 because they're doing something,
00:07:19.880 but maybe they don't really want to be doing it.
00:07:22.900 But also I'll be real.
00:07:24.780 Like when men obviously sleep around,
00:07:27.660 their body's not going to change.
00:07:29.160 If a woman sleeps around,
00:07:30.680 your body's a temporary,
00:07:31.440 your body's going to change.
00:07:32.320 It's going to adapt to whoever you're sleeping with.
00:07:34.140 So that's where,
00:07:36.640 you know what I mean?
00:07:37.200 I'm saying like,
00:07:38.620 okay,
00:07:39.540 the levels of women and men financially are like the same,
00:07:43.460 but like following,
00:07:45.520 being full of fashion,
00:07:47.460 like it's like,
00:07:49.540 you're the mean,
00:07:50.340 like you're,
00:07:50.960 you're lowering your standards and your body changes.
00:07:53.280 Like women,
00:07:54.180 we're very,
00:07:55.220 we all adapt to a man.
00:07:56.780 Well,
00:07:57.600 not me,
00:07:58.120 but you know what I'm saying?
00:07:59.300 As for men,
00:08:00.320 they just,
00:08:00.960 you know what I mean?
00:08:01.400 They can go around,
00:08:02.860 do what they're doing,
00:08:03.540 honky dory.
00:08:04.180 Their body's not going to change.
00:08:05.640 A woman's body does change.
00:08:07.340 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:08.020 You're a key.
00:08:09.460 So.
00:08:10.300 Yeah,
00:08:10.920 very true.
00:08:11.740 Yeah,
00:08:11.980 very true.
00:08:12.380 And I feel like as women,
00:08:13.540 we,
00:08:13.760 we just have a lot more to lose and that there's a lot more at stake for us.
00:08:18.060 So that's why we are naturally going to be very,
00:08:21.240 you know,
00:08:22.340 picky and selective.
00:08:24.040 And,
00:08:24.760 you know,
00:08:26.260 I,
00:08:26.560 I pride myself in being selective and,
00:08:29.200 you know,
00:08:29.520 not giving my body freely to just anyone.
00:08:32.620 Like,
00:08:33.380 do you think you guys could respect a guy and follow his lead?
00:08:39.080 If you make more money than him?
00:08:40.400 Subconsciously,
00:08:42.900 I don't think.
00:08:43.400 Whoa.
00:08:45.080 No.
00:08:45.680 I don't mind like in terms of finances,
00:08:48.020 it doesn't make a difference to me.
00:08:49.500 Yeah,
00:08:49.660 I wouldn't mind if my partner made more money than me.
00:08:52.400 It's as long as you talk to me with the same level of respect,
00:08:54.700 because I'm still earning.
00:08:56.060 Do you know what I mean?
00:08:56.340 So what if you were paying 80% of the bills and you had to buy a house?
00:09:00.220 So let's say you pay.
00:09:01.560 That don't make sense.
00:09:02.200 Yeah,
00:09:02.320 let's say,
00:09:02.880 let's say that I'm just taking it to the,
00:09:04.960 like to the extreme.
00:09:05.920 You're paying 80% of the bills and he says,
00:09:08.900 we're buying this house.
00:09:10.400 And you don't like it.
00:09:11.280 You hate it.
00:09:12.000 Are you going to go with it?
00:09:13.080 No.
00:09:13.940 You'd have to convince me why we're buying it.
00:09:16.260 You'd have to make logical sense.
00:09:18.040 I personally,
00:09:19.180 I think.
00:09:20.020 The whole point is that you're not submitting if he has to convince you.
00:09:23.440 True.
00:09:23.680 That's like,
00:09:24.000 if it's your boss and he tells you to do something,
00:09:26.000 you just do it.
00:09:26.860 True.
00:09:27.300 True.
00:09:27.400 So it's kind of,
00:09:28.220 I mean,
00:09:28.560 I think when we're being honest,
00:09:29.760 it's hard to submit to someone if they don't make more money.
00:09:32.820 And I feel like a man is meant to be,
00:09:34.860 well,
00:09:34.920 if you're married provider,
00:09:37.100 we're not sole provider,
00:09:38.540 but the provider.
00:09:40.260 And I don't feel like if you're not earning more than me,
00:09:43.200 you could provide for me.
00:09:44.660 Like fully.
00:09:45.900 And if we're buying a house together and I don't like it,
00:09:47.960 I'm not going to,
00:09:48.520 and I am providing basically more.
00:09:50.500 It's going to be more my decision.
00:09:51.960 I think it would be hard for me to submit to someone who isn't basically
00:09:55.600 being able to lead me.
00:09:56.900 You're going to have to be able to lead me.
00:09:58.480 And if you're not earning more than me,
00:09:59.600 it's going to be harder for me to agree or listen to you.
00:10:03.140 It might sound,
00:10:04.320 oh,
00:10:04.400 that's not nice,
00:10:04.900 but that's how I feel.
00:10:05.700 I can't listen to someone that isn't earning more than me.
00:10:09.420 But why is that though?
00:10:10.120 I was just banned on Tik TOK and we are demonetized on a daily,
00:10:15.600 basis on this platform.
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