JustPearlyThings - August 10, 2023


Boss Babes Have The Most Selfish DESIRES


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00:00:00.000 what do you guys think for the women who want to only contribute zero to 20% of the household cost
00:00:08.240 do you expect to do 80% of the household chores yeah yeah I expect to do all of them yeah all of
00:00:14.900 them yeah 100% of that because the my answer specifically when I said I'd like to work 20%
00:00:20.940 of the time um that's me taking that extra responsibility on myself at my leisure um I
00:00:27.940 yeah 100% 100% of the housework and obviously you know when the children are young you're there
00:00:34.640 the majority of the time the dad will come home and do what he can what he wants to do if he wants
00:00:40.120 to play with the kids or whatever and but you're the one home all day you should be putting the
00:00:43.620 dinner on the table cleaning up making sure that he can relax after going out and providing the
00:00:48.640 money that puts a roof over yours and your kids heads yeah I agree what percent of you would want
00:00:55.280 to be working moms not me no I wouldn't know not over if your choice was to be a stay-at-home mom
00:01:01.220 versus a working mom stay would anyone here prefer to be a working mom um I feel like
00:01:06.940 because I'm a working mom I feel like I would I don't know if I'd be comfortable staying at home
00:01:14.620 all day I like to be I'm creative so I would like to maybe have a business or run something
00:01:19.840 and be in charge of a business my own earnings basically um and probably I'd be very bored at
00:01:25.680 home I know there's a lot to do at home but it would just be very boring for me so I would like
00:01:29.460 to have my own business or be active can I ask you a question why would you prefer to be creative
00:01:35.980 and be active with someone else's business rather than be still creative no it would be my business
00:01:41.100 being a mother it would be my business so being a mother yeah I would still be doing that but I feel
00:01:46.480 like I would want something else of my own I don't I wouldn't want to sit at home I get it people might
00:01:53.360 want that their husband going out working and just living off him but at the same time I would like to
00:01:58.080 have my own I can't I'm active I can't just sit at home cook clean it will get boring but then being a
00:02:03.180 mother doesn't consist of sitting at home you have to raise your children I'm very active I do know that
00:02:07.340 I'm a mom but what I'm saying is I like to be a mom but also have something on the side I'm not
00:02:11.980 saying I'll do it nine to five every single day or seven days a week but I'm saying I would like to
00:02:16.400 have something so whether it's three days a week or if it's based on the experience that you want
00:02:21.920 something in the back like as a backup because no it's not backup it's just my preference I like
00:02:26.220 to be doing something I like to have I agree wouldn't you rather make money wouldn't you rather do the
00:02:30.620 creative stuff with your kids yeah I'll do that too no you can't do everything no but you can do as
00:02:36.060 much as you you desire to do so that I could know from my own experiences I worked I worked two jobs
00:02:42.560 at one time I still looked after my child still took to her activities who watched the kid when
00:02:46.680 you're at work she went to school and then I had her or her dad at the time but I'm what I'm saying
00:02:52.300 is it depends but if when he finished work it all rotates what I'm saying is personally staying at
00:02:57.560 home maybe five days a week and then two days I'm doing something of my own like creative with my
00:03:02.800 daughter or showing her something like I like fashion so something like that or selling something
00:03:07.120 just just something to keep me active I think when you're working like I work a lot and yeah
00:03:11.280 I take responsibility and I believe that my child misses out a lot because I work so much
00:03:16.320 I just think I just that's all I want to say really I just think it there's no way you can do both like
00:03:22.060 I'm aware that my child misses out and I wouldn't choose this I will say I wouldn't choose it I take
00:03:27.300 responsibility for the poor choices that I've made and I'm accountable but I just think if I had a
00:03:32.460 choice yeah if I could rewind and I'm younger and I make a better decision then I probably would make
00:03:37.980 a better decision but obviously I take responsibility so you could ask your question you would stay at
00:03:41.840 home every single day I love the idea of staying at home I'm very home orientated but I have to take
00:03:46.500 responsibility for the poor choice that I made and I'm accountable but if I had a choice rewind in time
00:03:52.820 which is what everyone would say my I'd say in this circumstances well most people I'm sure I
00:03:57.780 don't know but I just that's my belief anyway what about after the because obviously you said that you
00:04:03.900 had your child fairly young um can't you do the creative stuff when they're older like at like 16
00:04:10.820 why my question would be um why now why why when the child is is younger um why not why now because
00:04:19.580 there's no better time than now I don't know what I'm gonna I might want to be doing
00:04:22.660 something different and so do you believe that you can work and devote your whole time to your
00:04:28.380 child you can't work do you believe your child's missing out when you're fulfilling yourself your
00:04:32.640 business because I'm gonna take responsibility and say my child definitely misses out my well my
00:04:38.060 business is not like it doesn't require me to be present my business and mine is even mine is and
00:04:42.960 I work from home and I just hate the fact that I have to be on the computer I work now I work around
00:04:47.260 my child because I'm fortunate enough to do that so she's missing out then no she's not missing out
00:04:51.180 anymore because I'm more present now whereas before in the beginning I'm just saying working
00:04:57.220 from home is work it's the same as being in an office your child okay it's not getting your
00:05:01.560 attention okay so I work um I have a business so a fashion business okay um and I also work with my
00:05:08.860 family so my family own a children's home so it's very flexible so I choose my working hours I can work
00:05:13.280 when my daughter's at school so do I yeah my child don't go to school and I still believe that she
00:05:17.440 misses out okay but personally I also okay so you're saying that she misses out however there
00:05:22.100 is a percent when you're a single mom your child is going to miss out however I make sure that I
00:05:26.800 give she does gymnastics swimming dance and I take her to everything so and not only that we go on
00:05:32.160 holidays so we I know that she's going to miss out but at the same time I fill in the spaces so when
00:05:36.860 she's on half term I take off work I'm with her every single day so I can't be superwoman however I know
00:05:42.700 that she's going to miss out on certain days because I'm not present however I'm able to take
00:05:46.860 off days and be with her and do extra stuff holidays activities she doesn't miss out any of that however
00:05:52.280 if I'm going to work she's going to miss out on something it's it's not even if it was the other
00:05:56.980 way around her dad she's going to miss out on her dad prefer to work than be at home with you I prefer
00:06:01.240 to work so I can provide for her what am I what do I want her to do just just look at the tv
00:06:04.680 I'm saying if the man was providing for you and you was at home and you had a choice can you
00:06:09.680 you said you would prefer to work still I would still prefer to do something yeah because I'm
00:06:13.820 active I don't I couldn't just sit at home even though your child no one said parenting is sitting
00:06:18.320 at home it's no but what I'm saying to you is I couldn't just be at home drawing pictures of my
00:06:23.280 daughter like I'd we do that anyway but I couldn't do that every single day it just wouldn't
00:06:27.120 fulfill me cooking with them you know yeah I could cook like from scratch yeah Auntie Jenny will bring
00:06:32.260 the kids over and they'll just like cook from scratch yeah see my daughter you could do with your
00:06:36.180 kids there's so much stuff me and my daughter we do so much however I couldn't do that every
00:06:40.920 single day it's just not me some women that's them it's it's interesting so you said it would
00:06:45.360 you would get bored right yeah why do we never hear men talk about getting bored what getting bored
00:06:50.520 because they're not are they at home every day with their children bored of what a lot of them are
00:06:54.680 not the majority of them I feel like we just never really hear men talk about getting bored in a
00:06:58.920 relationship or getting bored at home even when they're single fathers yeah I get bored very easily
00:07:03.220 I like I feel like I'm someone that has to be continuously doing something definitely get
00:07:08.220 bored that's how do you get bored of being a mother when that's what you're naturally supposed to I'm
00:07:12.100 not saying I'll get bored of being a mother I'll get bored of the routine I get your point you want
00:07:16.060 your own identity in your own so it's not even that I just want to be able to I just don't want to be
00:07:20.760 sitting at home okay wake up at six my having a child at home I don't think having children is
00:07:25.280 like you how could you get bored of having your child I'm not saying you're not you're misinterpreted what I'm
00:07:29.020 saying I'm not saying I'm getting bored of having my children I'll get bored what you need to get
00:07:32.800 away you don't have to do with me but who said you have to make it the same for me is not the same
00:07:38.680 okay maybe because of the lifestyle that I live so the job that I do is no days the same so nothing
00:07:43.420 is the same whereas if you're staying at home I feel like it would just be it just wouldn't suit me
00:07:49.420 I'd like to define a home life then I suppose but for me it just wouldn't what I imagine for a
00:07:56.020 stay at home mom wake up every day look after your children cook clean provide that's what I'm
00:08:01.060 imagining so what is it is that even when you've got that high value man that's providing everything
00:08:06.720 or is that if he's just earning a like less than that what I didn't actually think of it like yeah
00:08:12.600 that's the first thing that came to maybe that's what it is because I feel like if you you had that
00:08:16.820 option of to sit at home and your husband's working and you're looked after I don't think you would
00:08:22.220 want to do that maybe I don't know because I'm quite business minded I would still want to run
00:08:26.680 something I'm very business I've run businesses since I was like yeah but me and you are different
00:08:30.800 13 I'm just saying yeah but I would still what I'm saying is I'm very ambitious but when my man
00:08:36.600 was at home like I don't want to do nothing I just want to be with my child like all day I want to
00:08:41.360 spend as much time as I can my man looks after me and like if my man's ambitious like me which he was
00:08:46.340 like I just want to support what he's doing to get it I want him to do better yeah so like all my
00:08:51.440 energy then is going to my man because like we can build together as a family and you're building
00:08:56.440 a unit then what would you have for yourself yeah my family that's everything yeah but see she values
00:09:01.640 her kind of success yeah her career she wants to make something that's more like a modern mindset
00:09:07.200 because it's me before the family where she's saying it's she's saying it's the family before
00:09:11.060 I put family first I family for me if you know who knows me I'm very big on family I'm very family
00:09:16.740 this is my cousin sitting beside me we're very together but I'm asking you a question
00:09:20.560 that that that and you're saying I would rather do something for me versus the family no I'm not
00:09:25.300 saying that I was saying no because because we asked if you would choose to work what I said
00:09:30.220 is I wouldn't work it wouldn't be working if you had the option to be with your family versus versus
00:09:35.620 a job but what I'm saying was your business it would be a business that doesn't require much of me
00:09:40.900 so I could still like it would be one not possible it's not possible no there is possible to set up
00:09:46.900 something and it doesn't have to I don't have to be present I've got businesses like that I work from
00:09:51.640 home do the work once and I never have to touch it again but but there's always that element and I
00:09:57.280 could sit and ask my child which I do sometimes I talk to her would you prefer mommy to be like this
00:10:01.640 good yeah wish wish you could put the laptop down I wish you could do this because all she sees at
00:10:05.860 home is me working but that's the role I have to live by but that's now that's now that's not
00:10:10.660 what I'm saying what I'm saying to you is there's there's no way you can have a business without
00:10:15.180 putting any time in it if that was easy I'm not saying about putting any time in it but I would
00:10:21.220 reduce my time because I would understand that I'm a stay-at-home mom I've cut my hours to spend
00:10:26.220 more time with my child okay but I'm talking about in that sense so you said I will stay at home I would
00:10:30.780 make sure that okay two days a week I would devote to my business and the rest I'll be at home looking
00:10:34.860 after my child that is just my preference I can't imagine and yeah so you value your career more
00:10:40.960 than you know I value it's about I value my family a lot I also think it's important I think we're
00:10:47.420 forgetting that it's 30% of the time almost pardon me that's 30% of the time you would devote to the
00:10:52.720 work and two days a week 28.5 I just yeah I would I would do I would do two days a week and that would
00:10:58.560 be satisfying for me that's my she's at school but and also she would be at school so she wouldn't
00:11:03.400 actually be missing out on much because she's at school but but the whole point is a more traditional
00:11:07.080 mindset it it would be to stay at the family when you look at the definition of a modern mindset versus
00:11:13.460 a traditional mindset traditional mindset is the family before me yeah or modern is me before the
00:11:18.220 family and your answer it is modern I'm not saying I don't even like send it I don't