Do Modern Women Want A Wedding Or To Be A Wife？ ｜ Pearl Daily
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Summary
In this episode we have a story about a woman accused of sending a man more than 159,000 text messages and breaking into his paradise valley wants a jury to find her innocent while also ordering her to trial. She s accused of stalking a man she claims is a serial stalker.
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and my job status you know a lot of accusations and recently you know I was let go you know I was
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I was let go I was you know um by um a certain company I won't say who but you know that doesn't
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matter I'm on the market for a new job everybody I'm looking to be a diversity and inclusion
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specialist so please if you guys are hiring at your company I can cry about being a woman all day
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watch watch watch ah my oppression uh the patriarchy I would be amazing at it so don't worry
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guys you know let me know where I can apply yes I'm 032 million I know I couldn't believe it I
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couldn't believe it but anyways you know today we have quite the story but I wanted to give you guys
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an announcement first we just had Grant Cardone on today his team messaged me very last minute
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said can we come on in like two hours well I dm'd him first they responded right
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blessing put together put together the set right blessing
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of course you gotta you're gonna show the kitchen cam
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nah nah why not I mean they gotta send a catch up you're all rizzed out today
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they gotta send a catch up um anyways so that'll probably be released next week
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no I don't know what that is oh no I don't know what that is
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no no no no it's it's um anyways I'm unemployed I'm unemployed I don't know where that came from
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um so today so next week oh wait no so this week I'm sorry I can talk guys
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I may have some collaborations the week after I don't completely know my schedule
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but we're gonna be doing call-in shows on the road wait for me to post when I'm gonna do it
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but it'll be at the same time so stay tuned for that
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I'm excited to talk to you all meet you all etc
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so before we get to the treachery debauchery and craziness today
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thank you very much for having me as always great to be here
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great to have you Troy Francis is a world-renowned dating coach
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over 10 years in the game absolutely man in the trenches
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at the cutting edge the rock face of the modern international dating scene
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and you've seen it all around the world you've been to eastern Europe
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you've been to New York yes you do one-on-one coaching
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I do one-on-one coaching we I've taught guys all over the planet from you know
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Colombia to Russia to uh well Ukraine prior to the current situation to you know
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all over Europe I mean London all over the place and let me tell you
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people think it's better people think it's gonna be better in one place
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and it kind of yeah there's certain good things but yeah it's it's it's all a shit
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okay where are the women the worst like if you had to pick
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one country to never date from where would you pick
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dang it ladies we gotta step up our game we're driving
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didn't you get like pushback for having an American accent recently
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yeah I think I think like to be fair I think the anglosphere is pretty
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yeah I think you know the countries that are a little bit more traditional still
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like the Latin American countries some of the eastern European countries
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you know guys tend to have a bit of a better time of it
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in those places but as you know even those places it's becoming much more
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well I'm so glad you're here because as a dating coach we need your
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expert opinion on a couple stories we have today I want you to be completely
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uncensored don't hold back just let me know if this woman went wrong or not
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okay okay so let me put this girl on the screen
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all right a woman accused of sending a man more than 159,000 text messages
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and breaking into his paradise valley home wants her case to go to trial
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believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man
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a woman accused of sending a man more than 159,000 text messages and breaking into his
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paradise valley home wants her case to go to trial
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believing a jury will find her innocent while also ordering her and the man she's accused of stalking to wet
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unbelievable and look at I'm sorry but look at her eyes I mean
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I mean not even like I mean she's not bad looking
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I mean I could I could see if I could get her her number for you no
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I would not after that especially I know her eyes look her eyes look crazy I mean immediately
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can't you just look at her eye there's something very crazy about her eyes in that shot and and
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and look she seems like a nice girl well you know she made her she made an effort 159,000
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texts I mean you can't say she wasn't yeah some of you guys can't even get a call back
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yeah actually yeah I suppose about on that score but um I mean to me this is an example of extremely
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bad girl game okay because I think we've I think we've talked about this before but
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women need to understand that if they're too needy particularly if the guys some has some value
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right and some options in the dating market he's just not gonna fly with that shit right it's it's
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too much okay it's the same thing that we would tell guys as far as women are concerned if you're
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just blowing up their phone continually then he's he's just gonna think he's gonna lose attraction
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for you that's the reality what's what's too needy a hundred thousand I mean 95,000 I reckon
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you know yeah but I was uh I was in a situation a while back with you know with with somebody and
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they and they were really blowing up my phone and it just becomes stressful in the end you know
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you open your phone it's like you know there's like paragraphs and paragraphs like Jesus Christ you
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know and it just it really raises it to run a low level of like shit is this person actually
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saying you know more of the paragraphs about um it just just stuff just stuff about what was
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happening in her life and you know and some stuff about me and the relationship where she wanted it
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to go but a lot of just random shit you know and it's sort of like if you're if you're in a
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relationship with somebody then and it's a proper established relationship that okay yeah it might be
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like during the day you send a message and say hey this happened at work or that happened and you
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know what do you think I should do or how do I feel about it that's okay but if you're sending
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somebody and you're not even you're still in those early stages and you're sending them a shitload of
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just like nonsense and expecting them to respond that's just just too much I could see that maybe maybe
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50,000 yeah it's okay I mean I think look the better the reality is like and I've I've seen um
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I've seen like Instagram accounts training women you know coaching women how to be like femme fatales and
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that kind of stuff and basically what they say is like you've got to be more mysterious it's the old
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sort of like pulling it's the really pulling back the other way so he chases you and I think there is
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something to be said for that because you know guys we are particularly guys who've got some options we
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are very similar to women in the sense that what you can't quite get you want you want more you
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know what I mean so 159 so what about what about the 90 day rule what's that like don't don't you
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mean not sleep with it yeah yeah 90 day rule uh no that's holding back though that's
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yeah he's like not that no I'm not holding back on saying no no no she needs no first date man
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first date she needs to give it up um no I mean she can hold back like I would say maybe second date
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uh third date maximum but I think that look he's also and again if we're talking a guy with some
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options he's also gonna there's gonna be other possibilities out there right in the end he's
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just gonna be like well what am I you know like what am I even in this for yeah you know I mean
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nobody's gonna nobody in their right mind is gonna wait for 90 days I just like what it blows my mind
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if any guy out there would do that but well these were the comments she made by in a recent phone
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interview with the Arizona Republic County Jail where she's been held since May 2018 she's in the
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she's in the slammer for this yeah yeah I mean we're good we wanted equality here it is well
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she said I just think it's ridiculous I can't believe that it turned into this I can't believe
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I'm actually in jail over some text messages should she be jailed yes well she should be institutionalized
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I mean she's clearly insane you can't send someone that number of text messages and
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like walk the streets a free woman I mean she's clearly not so you know yeah I think um I think
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it was right that the authorities intervened she maintained that her threats against the man's life
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were jokes and that she would never act on it she said the man responded to her text for three months
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but stopped after she sent the threats at aides said she threatened the man after a fight with her
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mother and turned the anger out on him I mean that well yeah so that's probably actually why she's
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inside right because because he if she made like physical threats I mean I mean yeah yeah should we
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let her wait there put her face back up what if okay wait wait oh wait put it down put it down
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actually I'm gonna I'm gonna show you a different hold on I'm gonna pull something else up and I want
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to see if your answer changes hold on hold on hold on hold on you know because you know a lot of times
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we'll talk about where is this we'll talk about these women and all this stuff oh this is what I was
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looking for ha ha ha now what if but what if this girl just looked a little bit different okay what if
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should she be free wait if she oh my gosh where is it
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if she looked I'm gonna come and use this one no we don't pull it up yet
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because you know some people say there's a such thing as pretty privilege whatever
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so if she was hotter should yeah let's see this one
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oh yeah yeah yeah she should be she should yeah definitely she should be out she should be out
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okay wait wait so I wouldn't make this full screen um so right here oh shit I didn't mean to
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okay so what do you think if that was her should she be released oh for the threat
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um yeah she because she'd kind of have that sexy femme fatale thing it's a bit like you know do you
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remember when there was do you remember when there's those amanda knox case you remember amanda knox and
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there's a whole case about she was and all of that and I remember at the time there was a lot of
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conversation between guys of like would you like even if there was the danger of being like you know
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potentially murdered you know would you and there's a lot of surprising number of guys were like yeah
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okay so if she had murdered a different guy yeah would you I mean it would be a great way to go
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you know what I mean like we're all gonna like we're all gonna have to go sometime you know so
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if the option is all right she's gonna potentially just like you know ice pick me or something at the
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end then yeah I mean why not um no I think no I get it I understand you can you can take it off you
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can take it off free free Jacqueline I'm just kidding I think you know I do think in all seriousness
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though even if the woman is is quite attractive I think that you should she should still pull back
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on the fucking mental texting because it does it does put you off I mean like I also years ago I
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had a girlfriend and she was attractive like she was she was good looking there was there was nothing
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you know on the surface but because she was too keen it sort of put me off a bit yeah what is what
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is too keen can you draw the line exactly how many texts are can we send like what's the what's the
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maximum until you're like you are crazy well the big no no is double texting and triple texting I
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think that's never triple I think that is the big thing like I would say a few times a day I don't
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really like the whole for either gender the whole like good morning text good night text in general I
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think it's a bit predictable whatever but I think a few times a day you know you can like and a little
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bit of banter you know maybe in the morning there may be something else a little bit later on in the day
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that that's fine I think the big problem is you know you're sending something you're like oh this
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happened with my dog and then this happened and blah blah blah and he doesn't respond and then you
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send another load of paragraphs later and then another load of paragraphs how long are these
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paragraphs can you can you well I mean like you know what's that like sometimes like that like that
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long sometimes or like and then another one like that underneath you know I mean but we need
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attention it's like what yeah but it's like it's like don't you don't want us to go to
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Instagram I'm just kidding I mean I don't know it's just for me for me I'm kind of a weird case
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because on this on theoretically you would say okay there's a really hot girl the more attention
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she gives the guy the better and that's true but there is I think there's just some kind of human
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instinct that kind of yeah if we think we can get it too easily then we we just lose that interest
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and remember as well the old saying you know you see a beautiful woman there's somewhere some
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somewhere out there some guy's tired of her shit do you know what I mean so even that girl that you
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even that girl that we had you had up before yeah you know yeah she's really hot she's attractive
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whatever there's going to be some guy out there who's just like oh my god you know what I mean so
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well I need your expertise on another one okay we have another case for you here right I just need I need
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your expertise have you heard of the omelet concert girl I don't think so okay so there is that we went
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over this last show but there's been an update okay so there is a woman that went to a concert with
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her boyfriend I did hear something about this yeah carry on and then she was put on stage and she was
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this is not appropriate with your boyfriend right there this is not appropriate behavior
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no the boyfriend basically should just leave it should just leave now right I just never
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I just block her well what's she doing wrong well I mean she's
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she's engaging in a sexually explicit manner with somebody right in front of him and everyone
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so well I would say I mean I've seen some red flags in my time you know and actually I quite like the
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red flag you know yeah but I would I mean that is like beyond red that's like
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because it's just like it's like it's like it's like ritual humiliation for the boyfriend isn't it
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because the boyfriend's standing there basically getting cut
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oh yeah you know he's front row yeah anyways so
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she I don't know if the boyfriend's in this clip but
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she really wanted to come out and she like issued an apology
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what you think of this explanation she's going to give you an explanation
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okay and I just want to see what do you you know
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would you all right so let's just say you're dating this girl this happens
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would you be interested in hearing what she had to say
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no I think that he should just like cut it I think he should like I think basically as soon
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as that started to transpire he should just like right
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I'm just I'm gonna you know just get out the venue
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block delete you know whatever because I think it was disrespectful that you know
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um so there was an update I saw this I couldn't believe it
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all right pull it up so this was the concert girl
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nice sweater nice you know good looking girl let's go
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but you were with somebody now this is the question on everybody's minds
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girl who is this man were you in a committed and defined relationship with him
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and when you say you were in a defined relationship just so that everybody's
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aware he was your boyfriend and you were his girlfriend yes yes okay perfect
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so you mentioned in your apology video which we're going to get back to you that
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you're a die-hard fan of omelette so I think my question here is was this a date
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night was this planned was this who bought the tickets why were you guys there
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together can you kind of talk us through what happened the journey of that um so
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i'm a huge mla fan i've been a fan since he even started like music so i really
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really like his music so i've always wanted to go to this
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concert i was going to see him i think this was
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last year but he cancelled that show so i was like i've got to go to the next
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show like a hundred percent so when he um said that he was coming
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in london i just bought the tickets um and i thought i'd bring my boyfriend
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because he was going through a hard time himself so i thought well
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first thing said she bought the tickets is this
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is this acceptable now no i don't i don't think that makes any
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difference let's see let's see there's obviously going to be more
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true yeah yeah it's gonna be i just okay yeah why did you obviously the
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woman is talking and okay so i just thought yeah i'll just
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just go with him favorite eyes favorite person so i just thought yeah
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did that ever did that run through your mind i've always wanted to go on stage
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with omelette like i don't think there's any other artists that
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i'd even go on stage like with so me and him we've had this conversation like
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days before the concert if i was to get called on stage like
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would you be fine with that and he said yeah like that that's fine
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i've been okay with it yeah ah okay well that kind of changes the narrative
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so we've seen from the video does that actually change the narrative
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well maybe but i don't think he should have said he was okay with it
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i think he should have said look we're in a relationship if you get called on
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stage you should politely decline out of respect
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for me i think that it's kind of cucked energy on his part
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well andy i mean you could go on stage and not hump him
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well that's true that's true i mean maybe they could have discussed uh i know you
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hate the word they couldn't discuss the boundaries
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yes you could go on stage you can just stand there but you're not allowed to
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like start grinding up against him i mean i'm assuming this guy i'm assuming
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this artist he probably does this quite a lot right probably i guess he brings
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no that's an afro beast guy does he does he often bring women on
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and stuff like that um yeah i don't really watch him it's for
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well is that have surfaced online that you were very excited to go on stage
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and now that you've revealed to us that he was okay with it
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you going on stage was it something that you just told him or did you guys
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discuss it prior we discussed it prior obviously
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but he didn't know that i'd get picked to go on stage
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so um when omla pointed at me obviously in the video you can see like i was
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really really excited which i was and he was encouraging me to go like he
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even said yeah like go that's why i went in the first place there is a point in the
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video where it looks as though he's holding on to you and saying well obviously we don't know what
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he was saying but it does look like he was a bit reluctant to let you go on stage is is that
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fair for us to say um not really just because he was holding me the entire show i think she's lying
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that's why it looked like he didn't want me to go but he was fine with it and there was a point
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where i was like stood next to him and everyone thought like i moved away from him but i was
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stood there because i was waiting for the security to get me out of the crowd okay okay well that was
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the clip so did it change anything well i mean oh you think it does i i think that the guy should
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have laid down the law i think the guy should be like look you know i'm i'm happy you're a fan
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we're going to see the concert if he calls you on stage i'm not comfortable with that because like
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we're in a relationship and that would be kind of disrespectful to the relationship i think he
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should have made that clear having said that i suppose he didn't say that he did say she could go
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on stage so you know he should stay with her um i think that given the nature of you know how it
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was on the stage when she did go on the stage i think it was kind of like this ritual humiliation i
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think yeah i think he should like just you know pack his bags and take the l well just you know
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this this you know it's really a w because it's a red flag so it seems like a massive red flag and
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she seems like she's trying she's being all like trying to be all innocent now wearing that nice
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jumper and being all like sort of contrite and everything but she was being very like her
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movements obviously very sexualized and everything like that i mean you know it's um it's the it's the
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age-old question isn't it it's like if couples will often talk or this often comes up like it's like uh
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oh if x celebrity you know came into play should i get a free pass you know yeah
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what do you think no no because like it's like just because somebody's famous i don't think that
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should change the the dynamic i think the the guy should you know she does she exercises that she does
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that then the guy should be out it's like all right what about what about a girl with a guy
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um what if it's like like if he screws rihanna uh no that's fine
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no no but it's it but it's slightly well it's slightly different
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i mean i get the points to us but it's slightly different because obviously men are less attracted by
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yeah fame and status so for me personally i if it was rihanna specifically i'm not i don't particularly
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find rihanna that attractive so i probably wouldn't it wouldn't be just her celebrity
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status would sort of draw me in whereas i think with women it's much more that's a big part of it
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if that makes sense what of the bride one do you want to do the men crying as a red flag or the bride
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ick first um well maybe the um maybe the uh men crying is a red flag one okay guys so apparently
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well i'm really glad we got the answer today troy i'm really glad you know we figured this out together
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so don't send 159 000 texts yeah don't send 159 000 texts for god's sake okay well don't threaten to kill
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the person even if your mom's ill or whatever and okay so next you know why don't you tell me i
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actually didn't even watch it so why don't you tell me about the next segment so this has been being
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talked about a little in a few videos online recently basically there's this issue about if a
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guy gets married right should he cry at the at the wedding or is it or rather is it a good thing or a
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bad thing if he cries at the wedding and women are saying some women are saying yes he should because
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he's kind of cute and others are saying no he shouldn't because it's weak and it gives me the
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ick so it's like which is right which is which is wrong and then um you know it's like there's
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this contradiction of females who are like sort of like oh yeah he's you know on the one hand i
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want him to be like strong and like stoic and so he'd never do that but on the other hand why is
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he i'm insulted at the same time yeah well let's play the video blessing
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this one right yeah it's kind of a reaction to a reaction but anyway i think a red flag that's not
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talked about enough is men who boo who cry at their weddings just when i thought the internet
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why are you crying that hard like all that tells me is that you did some shisey stuff during the whole
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relationship and you literally cannot believe that this girl is still choosing to marry you that so
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men can only cry tears of guilt at their wedding now instead of tears of joy is that for real and
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if a man is actually crying at her wedding that means that he's done something sketchy or inappropriate
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or he's probably cheating on her or whatever she considers sheisty shit like i'm just thinking about
00:27:08.280
it imagine being her man at the altar and you're standing there like please don't cry too much
00:27:13.960
please don't cry too much she's gonna get the egg if i cry too much like i don't want to boohoo cry
00:27:18.840
i just i just need to cry a little bit because if i over cry she's gonna think it's a red flag
00:27:24.120
like what men literally can't win they're told all the time to show emotion and they show emotion women
00:27:30.280
come on the internet and say ridiculous what can we do like it's a red flag and he feels guilty and not
00:27:36.040
joy at his own wedding and just imagine for a moment that men made videos saying that women can't cry at
00:27:42.040
their proposals or at their weddings because they're cheating or they're doing something inappropriate
00:27:47.560
this whole video is giving i don't know how to choose men properly and men have never cried over me
00:27:53.720
so i'm jealous about the men that cry over their women because i've never experienced it myself this video
00:27:59.400
is giving unhealed trauma and projection and somebody that doesn't know how to have any type
00:28:05.720
of emotional intelligence and doesn't even want partners that have emotional intelligence but not
00:28:11.320
only that it also makes me feel like i need the dude that writes down the x when he sees videos like
00:28:17.320
this and this needs to be added but also additionally it's making me feel like i need to stay off the
00:28:22.520
internet from now on because this is just outland what this lady has done is she has taken the way
00:28:28.760
that she perceives her emotions and the reasons why she cries like her response to crying there's a
00:28:34.680
cause and effect the cause may be she's guilty the effect is she's crying right let's just say that so to
00:28:41.400
speak so she's project projecting that on him when in reality the man is just crying because he's so happy that
00:28:47.720
he found a woman out here that's not a thought that's why he's happy there's so many 304s in the
00:28:55.320
open we don't know where the good women are bro so when you finally find one you cry
00:29:05.160
it's been so long i cannot believe i found one all these all these holes out here all these 304s
00:29:11.640
actually found a good one a diamond in the rough that's what it is it's tears
00:29:17.560
of joy bruh it's tears that if you didn't find her you probably never got married because
00:29:24.600
all the ones that advertise themselves it's 304s now there's a lot of good women out here but they
00:29:29.640
hidden they're not in the open you don't know where they are that's tears of joy man
00:29:36.440
so what's your take uh well firstly i think the original video i think that's a great example of
00:29:42.040
what you might call toxic femininity right because basically like she's like even something
00:29:47.160
that is on the surface of it kind of quite you could consider quite nice in a way you know he's
00:29:53.720
so emotional because he's he's oh this is this special day blah blah blah i'm not saying i i think
00:29:59.240
this necessarily but you might interpret it that way um she's just immediately finding an ulterior motive
00:30:04.520
oh he must have cheated and again it's just blaming men for everything isn't it yeah it's like oh he must
00:30:08.360
have cheated he must have done something bad he's done some shiesty stuff whatever she said you know and
00:30:12.920
it's like sort of and it like one of those got pete commentator said it's almost like projection
00:30:17.400
like she's seeing like guilt when it doesn't exist so that's the first thing secondly should men actually
00:30:22.920
cry at their wedding i don't like man i i i personally think men shouldn't cry in certainly in public i think
00:30:32.680
you should like have that you know you should you should have that stoic kind of like you should you
00:30:38.120
should hold it back a little bit you know what i'm saying yeah i wouldn't recommend it because i
00:30:44.760
just wait even even if you're nice about it like as a girl you still feel a certain way about it
00:30:52.200
do you think so do you i mean do you so there's a there's another video where this woman talks about
00:30:57.080
getting the ick from it or or not getting the ick but like but it so on the surface of it though right
00:31:03.560
you can see the argument it should be like for the guy's point of view it's like oh but i love you so much
00:31:07.640
yeah i found the love of my life blah blah blah i'm feeling this emotion so i'm crying a little
00:31:10.840
bit so but a woman theoretically should interpret that as being oh this is great because he really
00:31:15.880
loves me so much but do you think genuinely a lot of women are going to be like uh well i would never
00:31:21.080
i don't unless you're in toxic relationships constantly i don't think people would interpret
00:31:28.280
it as you did something wrong but i just i i think generally when we see men cry we're not
00:31:35.720
attracted to it yeah not saying one cry will make us it's not gonna he's not gonna write off the
00:31:41.560
whole thing yeah but but you know when you make it a a pattern i guess well it's interesting because
00:31:47.640
i i messaged somebody about this earlier and i said what sort of you think do you think men should
00:31:51.000
cry or not she said first she said oh no i think it's cute it's good to nice to show a bit of emotion
00:31:54.520
and stuff and then i i went back and i said yeah well i'd be crying as well i mean imagine all the money
00:31:58.200
you've spent you know like and you're basically just throwing your life away of course you're
00:32:02.120
going to be crying and she came back and she sort of said lol something and then she and then she said
00:32:06.840
actually what i would like would be to see not in fully crime but his eyes glossed over a little
00:32:11.560
bit like he might be crying but he that you know what i mean and then it's that it's that nuance isn't it
00:32:17.960
yeah but the idea is that he's i mean when the guys are weeping you're kind of like i don't i mean
00:32:24.360
i mean like a little t but when they're they're full on it it seems a little bit i mean formative
00:32:31.400
almost yeah i don't know man it seems a i mean i think you know there are certain things death of
00:32:36.600
a parent whatever there are certain things obviously a man's gonna gonna have that those moments in
00:32:40.680
private but i mean getting married i don't know it's not because you wouldn't have feelings about
00:32:44.920
it but is it something to cry about i'm not sure i saw someone cry at their third wedding and i'm like
00:32:49.640
why are you crying this is the third time i'm not trying to be rude but i'm like i mean by now
00:32:56.040
it's just like a formality isn't it where do i sign the thing okay fine let's go and have a party you
00:33:00.840
know there's um there's another bride that weighed in too so this one yeah the uh the home
00:33:07.160
act one i think is yeah this one is yeah i'm about to walk down the aisle if he's crying there's a
00:33:15.240
chance i get the ick but if he's not crying i'm gonna be like why aren't you crying it's the happiest
00:33:19.080
day of your life it's not uncommon for a woman to experience competing icks in economics we call this
00:33:25.080
a conflict a conflict occurs when you demonstrate that you are affected by a situation but also you
00:33:31.160
are icky if you do not do something to demonstrate that you are affected by the same situation in this
00:33:36.760
case a man and a woman are to be wed and if he does not cry then that is uh not strong enough of
00:33:43.160
a display of emotion and if he does cry then that is too sensitive to the very same emotion
00:33:50.920
this man has worked his entire life to have something to offer this woman for her hand in
00:33:55.240
marriage and there are only two choices and both of them are icks there you go in the case of such
00:34:01.480
a conflict the woman should be considered unsalvageable as long as both of the icks are
00:34:06.440
degree four or worse you cannot build your tent but you also do not want to sleep
00:34:13.000
outside because of icky bugs it's okay for her to not like that but in this case i would place
00:34:17.640
crying and not crying as being here and here unsalvageable do not marry
00:34:25.160
well so uh first off i'd say like that guy uh homath i think is a genius he's got some really
00:34:31.240
funny really really funny videos and yeah that's a great break but it's like the way she shot that
00:34:36.520
video at the beginning i think she was obviously it seemed like she was joking a little bit but it is
00:34:40.760
it is a true thing isn't it it kind of is it is highlighting a real thing about female nature which
00:34:46.120
is that on the one hand you know and i can think of other examples of this as well on the one hand
00:34:53.880
if he does do something that's that's bad because oh that's not masculine but then if he doesn't do
00:34:58.520
it why aren't you doing it yeah you know yeah and it's kind of it's kind of weird and it does feel
00:35:02.760
a lot of the time men can't can't win and this bigger issue of icks in general you know these big long
00:35:07.000
lists of icks that we go online and everything you know i think it's just part of the whole
00:35:10.840
dating culture that we have where people women in particular have so much choice that it's like
00:35:15.160
he does one little thing wrong you know like somebody was telling me about this girl who
00:35:19.480
dated this guy a few times and then he couldn't use the correct cutlery or something at dinner and
00:35:23.000
she got the ick and then got rid of him you know stuff like that huh for not cutting something right
00:35:27.880
no not using the correct knife and fork in the restaurant or something like that you know
00:35:31.800
i don't think i could do it right well you get there's multiple forks one for the plate
00:35:43.000
no you know this is when you do your etiquette course you know when you've got the different
00:35:46.920
you know no i totally know yeah but you know so but so something as simple as that and then he
00:35:55.160
you know he gets disqualified for that it's just like there's too much choice out there
00:35:59.080
so what are male icks like we don't have any well like 159 000 text messages are mailing
00:36:07.160
males have no icks yeah what's the most annoying thing that women do do men do men have icks i don't
00:36:13.720
think men have icks in the same way that women do to be honest um is there something she could do i
00:36:20.760
think it to be honest it you know i think men are very simple creatures i think it comes down to is
00:36:25.880
she hot is she attractive is she into me you know is she pleasant to be around i think that
00:36:32.280
i think those are the key things really and i think men will overlook a lot yeah that maybe women
00:36:36.520
wouldn't you know i do have a story though my friend james told me when um he went on a date with
00:36:42.280
this woman and um they were playing the question game on the date like i asked one question and then
00:36:46.280
you have to answer and she you know vice versa and her first question to him was okay what was your
00:36:51.000
bottom line last year like what did you make last year and he basically just like just why would you
00:36:56.920
ask that's so rude i know yeah yeah and so he basically just got up and like paid the bill and
00:37:02.360
just walked out and he's like sod there so i guess you could sort of say that was a thing because
00:37:07.160
it was so it was kind of kind of masculine and so on the nose and so like in your face you know what
00:37:12.440
i'm saying it's so so but but i think it also depends on how many options the dude's got as well
00:37:19.320
because if the guy's not got many options yeah then he's going to put up with a lot of like
00:37:24.360
female rudeness and impoliteness and her being cocky and whatever and he's just going to take
00:37:29.960
it because you know if he's only getting one day every three months then what are you going to do
00:37:35.080
one day wow every three months well i mean you know i mean i know guys you know it's kind of crazy
00:37:42.600
i mean some of the guys we've coached i mean i've coached guys you know decent looking they seem to
00:37:48.040
have stuff together and they're going through these dry spells like you know like six months
00:37:51.240
and stuff you're not getting anything how do you how do you get them out of it well i mean a lot of
00:37:55.800
the time it's not what people necessarily think it's not because of their looks or their you know
00:38:03.080
money and those external things so much a lot of the time it's more to do with the fact that
00:38:07.000
they're not good conversationally they're not able to like bring out emotion in her they're not
00:38:12.840
able to create desire in her you know what i'm saying it's it's very flat it's very boring it's very
00:38:17.080
logical and the girls just sit there like yeah whatever okay fine you know they're not you know
00:38:21.400
how would you create emotion so we're talking now get my emotions
00:38:28.680
no they need to they need to lead into that bad boy energy a little bit you know what i mean you
00:38:33.240
you know how women always bang on about like oh i like the bad boy i like you know like so i think a
00:38:37.240
lot of guys will come across uh particularly people who are like um say their work is a bit more
00:38:43.240
logical or they they work in coding or computing or data those kinds of things yeah then it's very
00:38:48.440
much like okay so how do i snap out of that how do i become this guy who's a little bit more edgy
00:38:52.760
he's got a little bit more sort of just he's not this predictable super boring kind of dude you know
00:38:59.160
what i'm saying and that's what we try to teach people but it's not a like a necessarily like an easy
00:39:03.720
process it's about sort of firstly it's about understanding the dynamics that's the first thing because a lot of
00:39:08.840
guys don't even understand the dynamic they think oh going on a date with a woman it's just like a
00:39:12.440
networking event or it's just like an interview for a job so the first thing to understand is
00:39:16.280
it's fundamentally different because women operate on emotion not on logic and then the next thing is
00:39:21.320
like right okay so how can i become a bit more of that kind of guy who's so how would you do that off
00:39:26.840
the bat what do you mean like like how would you how would you get the emotions spiking in the beginning
00:39:33.080
you go well you gotta you gotta be flirtatious you gotta bring some kind of like kind of um
00:39:36.760
sexualized element i'm not in a crude way but you've got that there's got to be the undertone
00:39:40.680
to it you know so throwing a bit of flirtiness you know bringing in the odd line here and there
00:39:45.480
what what i would often do is like derail the conversation so often women will talk about
00:39:49.560
like boring shit for a you know a long period of time you know she'll talk about a job or something
00:39:53.720
like that and you want to suddenly turn it around and go oh you look great in that dress or just
00:39:58.600
something or or make some slightly mildly like sexualized comment or something to remind her to bring
00:40:05.400
it back to the fact that this is man's a woman this isn't just we're not just here to have a like
00:40:09.320
a business meeting you know what i'm saying yeah that makes sense um and i think guys generally can
00:40:16.200
be too boring they can be too predictable you know she wants to feel emotions that's the thing i said my
00:40:22.280
the more i i've studied this stuff the more it seems to me that women are so driven by emotion
00:40:26.200
and we've got all of these competing dopamine sources you know like netflix and tick tock and everything
00:40:31.400
else and it's like they need the guy to bring that energy certainly the younger women certainly
00:40:36.920
the certainly the women who i mean certainly the women who are more sought after you know they've
00:40:41.960
also got a lot of options it's like why is she going to pick you over this other dude over here
00:40:45.960
yeah i want you to just just if you think about as well if you think about some of the
00:40:53.160
like famous characters in the in the space in the manosphere who've got that if you think about
00:40:57.320
someone like the you know the tates or even maybe myron or something like that they've they've got
00:41:02.360
okay they've got some of the external trappings of you know some success they've got some wealth
00:41:07.480
they've got you know whatever um decent looking in shape etc so they could they're ticking those boxes
00:41:13.400
but there's clearly more to it than that right yeah it's that character thing isn't it it's that it's
00:41:17.160
that dominance it's that male sort of energy that they'll bring to bear on the on the on the on
00:41:22.200
the table and you can imagine with people like andrew and tristan how even before they were as
00:41:27.800
wealthy as they are now who they are now they would still be getting action because of the way they
00:41:31.560
are because of the way they come across you know well and it's it's being a girl's type too i would
00:41:36.520
think i think yeah i also know i think that's true i think you're you're never going to get every
00:41:40.680
girl yeah that's the reality like there are some women that they say they divide into yes girls no
00:41:46.040
girls are baby girls you know and most of them i agree with that you know like like probably for
00:41:51.720
most of us probably most most girls that they're probably no girls you know you're just not her
00:41:55.400
type she's not going to be into you for whatever reason yeah you know and there's not really anything
00:41:59.720
you can do about that then sometimes you get yes girls who they just like how you look they like how
00:42:03.960
you come across they like your vibe they're into it you can still you can still up with those girls
00:42:08.200
though so you need to but then the game becomes not messing up have you ever had a really big
00:42:13.320
fuck up where you thought a girl was a sure thing and then i mean in the past yeah i mean obviously
00:42:18.360
never now but uh i'll tell you in a second but then obviously then you've just got that sector
00:42:23.480
in the middle of the the maybe girl so like yeah he's okay you know he could be all right but i'm not
00:42:27.400
sure yet and those are the ones you need to kind of you know finesse a little bit but i mean i remember
00:42:32.200
one time this is where the conversation skills come in and this is where the you know being able to lead
00:42:36.600
the you know and bring that energy to the to the party really comes in i went to a party once and this
00:42:41.960
girl as soon as i walked in the room i see this girl she kind of looked at me and you can you know
00:42:46.680
sometimes you can tell somebody looks at you you look at them you could just tell there was i could
00:42:50.840
tell there was some kind of interest there right and people will you know be oh he's capping or
00:42:54.920
whatever but i could you know i could just tell there was like a you know so i go over and we start
00:43:00.360
talking blah blah we get seated next to each other at the table now for whatever reason on that
00:43:04.120
particular day my energy was low i was tired my wrist you know the wrist wasn't there it wasn't flowing
00:43:11.800
and the i was sort of trying to talk to her it was really flat and i remember i i just said
00:43:16.520
something lame to her like oh so you know what what do you do you know so what do you do for work
00:43:20.600
right and she just she looks at me she said you want to talk to me about about my job you know she
00:43:26.280
had this like real look of disappointment in her eyes yeah and it was and i could i had this sinking
00:43:30.520
feeling of like oh fuck i've dropped the ball here you know what i mean and then sure enough you know
00:43:35.240
the rest of the dinner passed on and we kind of just went and talked to other people and you know
00:43:39.160
and it and it all kind of fizzled out and that's a great example for me of something where
00:43:44.440
really at the beginning it it should have been on and because of the way that i came across because i i
00:43:51.640
the way i was in that interaction i fucked it up and she she lost interest and that does happen
00:43:56.600
with guys a lot i think this is why you'll get guys who'll be like yeah i keep going on these dates
00:44:01.480
and then these girls ghost me afterwards or they you know they flake it you know or they send me that
00:44:05.560
the classic message oh i wasn't feeling the chemistry or whatever you know what i mean
00:44:09.000
is that a classic message well for a lot of guys yes so sometimes it can be yours to lose if you know
00:44:14.840
what i mean you know you can she could have that initial attraction but then you can fuck it up
00:44:20.120
because of the way you come across and this is where all the guys who think that it's just about
00:44:24.200
looks they they're naive to this really because they think oh well if the if the dude is good
00:44:28.040
looking and yeah sure i mean in some situations she's feeling horny he's super hot whatever she's
00:44:32.920
i'm just going to go there but there's there's also it's definitely not all about looks it's it's
00:44:38.040
it's it's it's got to be combined you can you can definitely lose a sure thing if you don't come
00:44:43.720
across in the right way i think that's the important thing i wanted um i googled a guy picking up girls
00:44:50.680
and i want to see if you approve or not okay i want to see i've never seen this video so i have no idea
00:44:56.280
it says introvert picking up girls noise oh yeah sorry i'm late hi what's your name camilla camilla
00:45:10.360
you're you're gorgeous thank you yeah for sure i think we'll make beautiful children
00:45:17.560
how is that well actually so what he did there is kind of a
00:45:20.760
quite it's quite an often used kind of gambit when you go over and say hey sorry i'm late you
00:45:25.480
sit down that's something that people you can kind of do that as a joke oh really yeah i've never heard
00:45:30.760
of it so that can if you do it and you come off well he carried it off quite well there and that was
00:45:35.720
quite good um but it could go wrong as well it could backfire one of the things i generally recommend
00:45:41.720
if she's sitting down and she's sitting down on her own i generally don't recommend just sitting down
00:45:45.960
on that with her immediately because sometimes girls get freaked out they think oh shit you know
00:45:50.440
how do i get rid of this guy you know what i'm saying so often i would say it's better to go in
00:45:54.280
and standing up you know start the conversation hey you looked interesting i had to come over and
00:45:58.280
say hi blah blah blah see how she reacts and then maybe say listen i got five minutes so do you mind if
00:46:02.920
i take a seat and then carry on like that oh that's good to the five minutes because then i know you're
00:46:07.560
not going to stay all day yeah that's yeah it's the time it's the time constraint thing because
00:46:11.640
yeah in that in that instance he pulled it off quite well and although she was kind of looking
00:46:17.640
around i feel like maybe she was thinking oh is this a setup is this a is this a like a youtube
00:46:21.720
thing which obviously which it was yeah so um so yeah you know in that instance that was quite a good
00:46:27.960
example but in general i'd be a little bit careful with that you've got to have a certain amount of
00:46:32.440
swagger to sort of pull that off hey excuse me excuse me so sorry to bother you are you like
00:46:41.400
familiar with this area yeah kind of all right sweet because i'm supposed to be meeting my
00:46:45.000
girlfriend over here like i'm a little bit lost maybe you can help me find her here she looks like
00:46:48.760
this yeah i'm sorry i thought you were gorgeous oh thank you i appreciate that yeah for sure oh you
00:46:57.560
just leave the gym i did nice i have to go around here do you know amber oh no not too sure are you
00:47:02.920
do you go to school yeah yeah what area sophomore okay i'm a junior oh nice okay is it cool if i get your
00:47:08.200
number yeah of course what's your name i'm kiss kiss yeah oh i like that hmm how'd it how'd it go
00:47:14.280
yeah good i mean like he's saying he doesn't seem that introverted does he
00:47:19.000
might have just read the title no yeah of course yeah no no i mean it's good i mean he's using these
00:47:24.120
kind of like quite humorous humorous tactics to sort of you know i'm looking for my girlfriend
00:47:27.800
and he shows a picture of her yeah i wouldn't have saw that coming nobody i would have no i because i
00:47:32.760
didn't know how he was going to go with that and obviously if like i thought he was going to try and
00:47:38.520
if he'd have seriously been saying he had a girlfriend that would have been obviously been
00:47:41.000
a stupid bad thing to do because a lot of women were contrary to popular belief we just wouldn't
00:47:45.160
go with that but no it was cute it was kind of fun the way he did it the thing is right like he brought
00:47:50.040
he he brings he's bringing humor into it he's making them laugh he's making them feel comfortable
00:47:54.120
you know he said i thought you were gorgeous i think that's fine i think he's good to be direct
00:47:57.800
and quite out front you don't necessarily need to say gorgeous be so i thought you look cute you look
00:48:01.720
nice you look pretty or something like that because again i mean okay he's gone in with a bit of a
00:48:06.120
gambit there which is which is fine but fundamentally you need to go in and make her understand that you
00:48:12.920
are hitting on her on some level because otherwise i've seen guys go in and it's the approach is very
00:48:18.840
weak and she doesn't quite know why you're there or she's just like oh this guy just trying to be
00:48:23.560
friends with me or or she gives you that she you end up getting on quite well with her and she gives
00:48:28.040
you the number but she's not really interested in that way and then it's just yeah it's better to just
00:48:32.120
go in there be like hey listen i had to come over i think you're cute i wanted to say hi and if she
00:48:36.040
shoots you down well at least you're not wasting anybody's time you know right okay we'll do one
00:48:42.440
more it's creative a little bit i'm sierra with the sea so i'm with the sea okay sweet sweet see now
00:48:48.920
you won't forget no i definitely won't that was a good one though yeah you like that yeah for sure
00:48:53.640
all right i'll text you okay you from williamsport uh scranton area scranton okay you have a good one
00:48:58.920
okay hey excuse me ladies how's it going are you just good with directions around here
00:49:07.160
uh your heart what's your name lauren sorry i thought you were gorgeous what's your name mark
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who does he pick who should he when there's two women how do you hit on two well so it depends on
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the situation because basically right so it often there's going to be one who's the obvious target
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right the one you you want and then there's going to be the friend right and then it's kind of
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obvious which one you're you're going for right um sometimes you get a situation where
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both of them are equally maybe equally cute and you think okay i'll approach both of them at the
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same time and then when i do that i mean the way that he it seemed the way that he did that it seemed
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like he was more hitting on the one with the dark hair because he said to her i'm trying to get your
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heart sort of thing yeah because what where you can mess up and and this has happened to me before
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is i once went into an interaction right um years ago in london and there were two girls and initially
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i was there was one that i liked she was this bruna she's like latina girl and i went and started
00:50:07.640
talking to her and i was speaking to both of them because you could the other thing that he's doing
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well here is obviously you need to you need to speak to the friend as well you'd keep you know keep
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both of them kind of entertained or whatever as you're talking um but i went in to speak to the
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predominantly to the latina girl and we were having a good vibe and everything like that but then she
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gives she's like yeah yeah i've i've got no no no no what is the other way around sorry what happened
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right so i went in and talked to both of them and the latina girl is responding well but the other girl
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who i initially thought i wasn't so interested in she was like she seemed to be giving me more of a
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vibe do you know what i mean and i was a bit like hang on a minute maybe i need to change my
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strategy here because this one seems to be more like you know interested so then i kind of so i
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went to the second one who was remaining as it turned out i went to the second one i was like um
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oh you know like you you know you seem cool we should exchange numbers he said i'm sorry i'm sorry
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i've got a boyfriend and i'm like oh yeah and so i'm standing there so i'm standing there i kind of
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look back to the latina one i'm like um you know how about you sort of thing you know and so you end
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up and in the end the second the latina one did actually give me her number in the end but he didn't
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really it didn't yeah so you can sort of shoot yourself in the foot if you don't make a firm
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decision before you go in which one am i actually going for because otherwise you just look like
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this like horn dog of like oh yeah you've said no okay what about you you know what i'm saying
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but usually as i say most cases it's going to be pretty clear you know it's going to be one that you
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you want to get with the other one you probably don't so it's you know straightforward let's see
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yeah oh for sure oh it's cool if i get your number and then run away yeah figured i shoot my shot
00:51:42.840
what do you what are you studying uh microbiology oh yikes that's a little over my head i think
00:51:48.280
he's regretting his choice a little bit well i mean from the back it looks like the blonde one might
00:51:52.600
be more what do you study finance finance okay sweet oh i'll text you okay 973 where's that
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from i'm from north jersey oh okay cool all right well i'll text you all right i would go on yeah see
00:52:07.240
excuse me where'd you get that you about to say something yeah no where'd you get that
00:52:13.480
get what that smile okay what's your name what's your name
00:52:16.840
you smart i just like you i do is it good if i get your number
00:52:28.600
i thought of that you thought you thought that you made that up oh how about instagram is that
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a good start what do you think you should have just let it go i think well yeah i think you should
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let it go because because with that so with that what i wouldn't normally recommend is that you kind
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of walk with her like he's he he went in with the line she's kind of like yeah yeah sure sure and
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then he just carried on walking with her and i i generally i wouldn't recommend that i'd be like
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shoot your shot if she's not she's not into it she walks off just let her go do you know what i mean
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and also as well then what he's doing is is the sort of like oh can i get your number she says no
00:53:01.080
there's like instagram and it's just no and then you you're almost like sort of negotiating that
00:53:05.320
i know my space you know you got you got a yeah you got a fax you know it's it's it gets a little
00:53:12.440
bit and and the other problem with that particular interaction was there was really nothing like
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ideally you want to go and say hey you look cute i had to come and meet you and if she responds well
00:53:23.960
to that you want to have a bit of a conversation you want to have a bit of vibe you know so it looks
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like you see study here she's like yeah you know so what are you doing she's like accounting like
00:53:33.080
jesus christ that's fucking boring what are you doing accounting you know she's like well you
00:53:37.080
know and then you want to you want to have a bit of a back and forth together before asking for the
00:53:41.080
number because what he did there was just basically he comes in with quite a cute line which he sort
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of brushed off and then he just goes straight for the number and it's like unless she's into him
00:53:51.720
immediately then that's not really gonna gonna fly you know yeah but he's i mean look he's a decent
00:53:57.240
looking guy he's in shape he's he looks quite he's he's tall he's taking a lot of the boxes and he's
00:54:02.360
bought he's got balls so you know so he's gonna do pretty well um and he's got that sense of humor
00:54:08.360
and that lightness about him so there's a lot of stuff i think he's doing very well i'm trying to
00:54:12.440
find a video of women approaching men oh i approached men if anyone has one i approached men
00:54:20.680
men um looks like women don't approach men i mean
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have you ever well have i ever approached a guy yeah
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okay i've never approached a guy but i've i've sort of i've sort of asked a guy on a date before
00:54:56.440
but it was more like oh i'm like in the area i wasn't in the area at all it was like one of those
00:55:04.120
i kind of liked him and i didn't know if he knew so i was like yeah yeah i'm in this area and it was
00:55:18.920
maybe i might have like maybe not like a direct but i might have like said something yeah i think
00:55:25.240
it's cool for women i think you can start a conversation it doesn't need to be
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like they don't need to approach you in the same way you know like oh yeah okay like that's too much
00:55:35.160
but if you're if she stood at the bar and then the guy she likes the guy next to her she can kind of
00:55:40.520
you know just make some kind of comment and you know i think that kind of thing could work quite
00:55:44.040
well for for women and they should probably be doing more of it actually because women always
00:55:47.960
complain about not getting approached and i'm not saying they should go around and start doing
00:55:52.040
doing game and hitting on guys but at the same time you can it'd probably work to be honest
00:56:07.720
and she was cute it's like yeah yeah no of course i mean i think the the even very very good looking
00:56:16.040
male friends of mine will say in their lifetimes they've only probably been approached you know a
00:56:21.640
couple a few times at most like it doesn't really happen very much but obviously it's more with women
00:56:26.600
it's more about the signals and the but but i think sometimes women think they overestimate
00:56:32.120
how much they're like signaling their interest you know what i mean she thinks oh i was looking at
00:56:36.680
him all night and blah blah blah and you're like the guy didn't even fucking notice yeah yeah
00:56:50.840
it's common does this happen to you every day or what no not every day you know
00:56:55.320
i mean every second where did where did a woman approach you what put on your camera
00:57:00.600
it's like join the convo uh next time guys send a cash out
00:57:08.280
where did the woman approach you a westfield like a shopping center
00:57:12.200
did she what was her intro it was a bunch of girls and they just wanted to just you know
00:57:19.000
get my details in there oh yeah nice stratford or west or the other one no ship was blue
00:57:26.120
oh no i was like oh i want to hang out there yeah yeah is it still open it did i i mean it's
00:57:32.840
it's happened to me a couple a couple of few times a couple of times whatever i remember one girl came
00:57:36.760
over and um to me in a bar and uh this was when i was a lot younger you know many years ago no and she
00:57:44.360
came over and she was trying to the thing that put me off was firstly i wasn't really into her anyway
00:57:49.160
but also then interestingly she was trying to lead with the boss babe type stuff she was like oh i'm
00:57:53.880
a team leader look you know i work in this company i'm a team leader and blah blah blah and i was like
00:57:58.040
well i i just you know i don't really care i'm just not feeling it you know have you guys noticed women
00:58:03.800
getting more aggressive in the last couple of years um well you mentioned this the other day um i think
00:58:09.960
there's more yeah i think there's more competition amongst women certainly for the first because
00:58:16.520
they're only are they're only looking for a smaller pool of guys yeah yeah i think there is that yeah
00:58:20.920
have you noticed women being more aggressive blessing
00:58:29.960
were they aggressive when they were getting your number uh
00:58:33.800
yeah i mean when they're when they're like in a group yeah it's gonna be yeah man it's like they are yeah
00:58:43.400
did you give did you get did you give the number oh yeah oh nice
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end of story okay well i was just gonna do i think that's all the stories are really gonna cover
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to them um guys is there anything else you want to go over today
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um do you know what it's always disappointed me that i did i never ended up doing that
00:59:14.360
well i was going to do something with um what's his name um
00:59:20.120
who's who's the who's the oh jesus christ so you know the crazy riz guy that we were meant to meet
00:59:24.760
in vegas who was on your show um i don't remember was he on my show in vegas no in miami
00:59:32.440
um zirka yes you love zirka well i do i mean yeah yeah yeah yeah let me let me have you have
00:59:40.520
you have you met him before yeah i met him on your show oh yeah remember that time when tiffany fox
00:59:44.920
was there yeah yeah yeah but i always regret it because because i think he's a good example of
00:59:49.960
somebody i mean i don't know i like his content recently is all due respect zirka his content
00:59:55.640
recently i think he's he's got he's branched into these different areas and stuff like that yeah but
00:59:59.720
when he was very much although i think he has got a dating course up when he was he was talking
01:00:03.160
very much about the dating and the red pool stuff i found him really fascinating and like i think
01:00:07.720
that's an example of somebody yeah he's decent looking he's tall whatever but like it's clearly
01:00:12.840
more than that yeah you know what i'm saying that's drawing that's drawing women in and i was really
01:00:17.480
interested to like see him in action and kind of and i actually talked to him about it at the thing
01:00:21.720
afterwards and said you know i'd really like to sort of like drill down into the into what into what it is
01:00:27.400
you know what you're doing that's drawing people in because it's about and again you can see something
01:00:32.200
like that it's about creating emotion so that could be on the sexual level yeah they might be
01:00:36.280
sexually excited but also it's about there's probably some drama there there's probably fear
01:00:41.560
of loss there's probably there's all these different things that you you can bring into the party and a
01:00:45.960
lot of guys they're just not doing that you know what i'm saying um but then you've got someone like
01:00:52.200
fresh who also you know i think does does you know has has his own thing going on but he's very
01:00:59.240
chill and so he brings a different kind of energy so there's different ways you know you've got to
01:01:03.080
find the style i think that works for your personality and go with that really yeah yeah
01:01:07.000
because different styles are just more natural to different people i think yeah i think that's
01:01:12.120
that's true so as much as you know like i say someone like zerk is a very interesting character but
01:01:17.480
is that going to work for for everybody i mean is it going to work for you know steve who works in
01:01:22.360
you know the post office i mean you know what i'm saying so you've got a but i think there's
01:01:26.520
definitely there are definitely fundamental principles that can be learned and the key thing
01:01:30.520
is are you evoking emotion in her in some way when you're sitting down in front of her or not
01:01:35.880
you know i mean have you noticed i mean i don't know when you've gone when you've been on dates or
01:01:40.920
whatever i mean do you do you it is i can never explain why i like a guy or why i don't i'll just
01:01:46.920
feel like i do but could it be i mean is what i'm saying why is what i'm saying making some sense from
01:01:53.960
a female no it does it does is it like there's some guys and you're sitting there and you think
01:01:59.000
yeah he's a nice guy and it's good conversation but i'm just not really feeling it whereas other
01:02:02.600
guys just on some level they do something that yeah no there is well we we like to earn it too
01:02:08.360
well you don't like the guy to be two no never yeah i mean other girls will cap and lie i won't
01:02:16.040
lie well no because if they're two and you you're kind of like what's the what's the catch yeah no
01:02:23.640
that's the thing yeah they can't be right away like it's different if you've been seeing him for a bit
01:02:27.640
but it's like right away it's like what's the yeah yeah for sure yeah yeah yeah definitely well again
01:02:32.840
you know we we want the things that we can't quite get and i think you know guys can be too thirsty and
01:02:37.320
then that spoils it why is it so hard for guys like all of this stuff like we have to consider
01:02:44.440
all of this stuff yeah you know and if you're like an attractive young woman and you're out and about
01:02:50.120
you're in miami or whatever you don't need to think about any of this you could just turn up and be
01:02:53.960
adhd bipolar and you know socially awkward and you're gonna be fine anyway oh my gosh do you know
01:02:58.920
what i was thinking i know we've had a bad run with our fashion but i was thinking about how all
01:03:04.920
how all women's fashion like men don't even really like because i you can tell me if i'm wrong but i
01:03:12.840
was thinking about this because a lot of it has shoulder pads and stuff yeah which i don't think
01:03:18.600
guys really like and i was just looking at the stuff like here this is something that came up
01:03:25.320
when i said women's fashion pull it up pull it up blessing tell me if you like this if i'm wrong you
01:03:31.160
can tell me i'm wrong but i'm like when i think of something a guy is like it's like not bad but
01:03:42.840
yeah and i googled women's fashion i was just like do any of these outfits scream something a man would
01:03:49.320
like i think a lot of women's fashion at the moment is very geared towards that kind of this
01:03:54.520
maybe yeah that looks quite cute i think it's geared towards women there's a lot not so much
01:04:01.000
the evening stuff but there's a lot of like daytime stuff quite baggy jeans quite like you know baggy
01:04:06.600
sweatshirts like things like that and um i mean it's yeah you're right it's not really geared towards
01:04:16.200
like what men are into it's more you know it's more for other for other women i think yeah it
01:04:21.320
doesn't look bad but it does it's also not screaming out you know oh that's really sexy
01:04:26.920
yeah that's what i was thinking because i was looking at when i look at women's like high-end
01:04:32.600
fashion i'm like i don't even think guys like this stuff i and some some of it's cute but
01:04:38.920
but then again you know i'm not a fashionista well obviously obviously
01:04:44.280
it's all right well my fashion expertise obviously
01:04:46.840
um okay well guys let me know in the comments what you want me to um react to next time i'm a
01:04:56.760
little sick so i'm calling it an early show tonight um tomorrow guys we're gonna do another show um i
01:05:03.240
think we're gonna do the history of uh gyno oh why chivalry it should never have been a thing why
01:05:14.120
chivalry is the og feminism so i think we're gonna do that tomorrow let me know what you guys
01:05:18.840
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01:05:27.640
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01:05:38.920
want to say to the people i think you know if you're a girl where ignore ignore current fashion
01:05:45.160
working stuff i mean look we're gonna be coming to spring so it's all good about sundresses all
01:05:49.640
all of that's good you got the whole summer for that and um i think women can be you know you can
01:05:54.920
be a bit flirty you can open conversations with guys it doesn't mean you have to do the heavy lifting
01:05:58.600
but i think you should do that and for guys you've got to understand firstly you know that main guy
01:06:04.120
the introvert guy that we saw very ballsy going in there direct approaches humor is really good
01:06:09.800
being playful but also fundamentally making her feel something at the same time creating an emotion
01:06:14.040
and sometimes even a negative emotion is better than a positive emotion which is a bit of nuance
01:06:18.600
we'll get into that but you know what i mean like like you can you can say something that's a bit
01:06:23.160
controversial maybe she doesn't agree with it maybe that makes her a little bit angry but also at the
01:06:26.600
same time she's like okay it's quite ballsy because he actually had the balls to say that yeah
01:06:29.880
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01:06:49.400
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