JustPearlyThings - July 12, 2023


Doctor EXPOSES This Worrying Fact About Humanity


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00:00:00.000 with changes now we are a part of a society that has changed um you can't really force things to
00:00:08.640 go backwards otherwise you end up in a sort of authoritarian state right you like you have to
00:00:13.660 get married you have to do this you have to have kids there is no other you can you can you certainly
00:00:18.360 can i'm not saying they will i'm not saying i'm not saying they will i don't think that's a fair
00:00:23.540 comparison no fault divorce was legal like 50 years ago it wasn't that long ago it's not even
00:00:29.920 i think it was the 90s so that's like what 30 years ago it wasn't even that long ago she's absolutely
00:00:35.380 right you can't force um things on human beings what would happen is we would eventually kill
00:00:41.360 ourselves off that's what is going to happen so you can't force us to go back to the way things were
00:00:45.860 what will happen is naturally we will take ourselves back to the bottom and reset i think the problem is
00:00:51.560 when you look at the policies whether they're like negative policies or positive incentives none of
00:00:56.540 them have worked like when you look at all of east asia all of eastern europe now western europe not
00:01:01.100 a single country has managed to get back to replacement level population fertility not a
00:01:06.340 single country all of them have gone below every single country in europe is not having enough babies
00:01:10.780 to sustain the population but that doesn't mean it won't stabilize at some point is it that way in
00:01:15.300 africa too because i thought i thought the average number of kids in nigeria was like five it's still
00:01:19.760 pretty high in most of sub-saharan africa but it's going down everywhere even iran even india is like
00:01:25.220 almost below replacement um and the thing is i think it's because no you know hungary pays you
00:01:31.400 goodness knows how much to have kids like you have three kids you get a free people carrier stuff like
00:01:36.100 that you get you know if you have enough kids in hungary i think it's three or four you pay no income
00:01:39.920 tax for the rest of your life they have huge incentives man this is crazy but they're not really
00:01:45.960 getting the birth rate back up and the problem is not so much about economic incentives it's
00:01:50.580 fundamentally what people think of being a parent people in the modern world especially in the west
00:01:55.440 just don't think being a parent is that valuable or fulfilling and i think the key issue is that we
00:02:01.040 need to reframe parenthood and re you know show that it's not just a burden it's not just our kid
00:02:05.640 who's going to ruin your life and stop you doing things kids are valuable they're great we're looking
00:02:10.360 forward to having them like i think that's the key issue is we have to stop saying you know being a
00:02:15.900 mother is going to ruin your life we have to say being a mother is an incredible thing that you
00:02:19.480 should be hugely proud of and that you should be able to do alongside everything else in your career
00:02:25.240 in your family and so on i think that's the key i think that starts with being less critical of
00:02:29.900 single women then because it's better that they're having kids at all right no actually women respond
00:02:35.420 really well to social pressure so i actually think shame is a great thing i actually think we should
00:02:41.080 bring it back i think we can have a sort of halfway house and propaganda so i think we should
00:02:45.980 we should propagandize women and take away most of the reproductive rights i think we should
00:02:53.240 the birth control get rid of divorce get rid of we can't even have birth control no i would ban that
00:03:00.040 i know the men are like i can't get behind you on that one north korea is a fair comparison
00:03:06.740 i don't think i don't think north korea is fair i don't think look at i think birth control is bad
00:03:14.240 for women these women go on birth control for 10 years it makes us absolutely nuts then we get off
00:03:20.400 of birth control and we have fertility and hormone issues it actually it can be bad it's like is this
00:03:26.060 really a good outcome for us are we happy at the end of this you know why then we can't have the kids
00:03:32.100 and then we get on the antidepressants it's just like a whole circle of misery it is birth control
00:03:37.720 has been proven to be terrible i had a girl that was infertile on my show from too many plan b's
00:03:43.860 yeah she literally could not have children from plan b's and this is kind of pretty common as well and
00:03:48.640 calen said that people don't want to be parents and i think that's true of young people but women
00:03:53.060 generally want to have kids in their life but they're now just leaving until they're in their 40s and
00:03:57.600 we all know that that has issues um so encouraging women to have making it like absolutely fine showing
00:04:03.280 influencers showing like you know celebrities that are able to maintain a career and also um
00:04:08.880 maintain motherhood at home and maintain sex successful motherhood um see i just don't think
00:04:14.080 it's possible i think there's always going to be something you have to give because if you're working
00:04:17.520 who's watching the kids and someone else but i think part of that is because we need to do it
00:04:21.200 together male and female that's right we've lost the parenthood well we've lost that expectation of the fact
00:04:25.680 that we will find someone get married have babies together we'll support each other like i don't
00:04:30.880 know like when you're girls when you're looking when you're young and you're looking for someone
00:04:34.080 to be with find a guy who's going to support yourself as you know flourishing in your career
00:04:37.520 and flourishing as a mother and that's gonna be a partnership for you both yeah i i just think that's
00:04:41.360 not realistic i think that's what feminism tries to teach us that you can have everything and i don't
00:04:45.760 think you can and i i also think there's a whole group of women that have had nannies and like daycare
00:04:51.280 raise their children and i think there's a lot of negative effects from that um i i think the the
00:04:56.960 message that i personally would say i just disagree with you slightly but i i would i would say you
00:05:02.160 you have to make your choice and you can't have everything i think you can have more than people
00:05:07.200 often think you can though yeah you're a lot more than people often think and i think of course we have
00:05:11.120 to be honest parenthood both motherhood and fatherhood involve sacrifice i plan on sacrificing a
00:05:16.800 lot when i have kids i'm not going to be able to do all the things i want to do but the point we have to
00:05:20.160 make is that yes it involves sacrifice for both but it's so worth it it's more than worth it because
00:05:24.640 these are kids they're going to be way more meaningful than anything i just want to oh sorry i just want
00:05:29.440 to add a certain point on the fertility statistics because often it gets focused on all the women are
00:05:33.680 getting too too old but it's a 50 50 perfect slit split split split a perfect split of fertility issues men
00:05:42.480 50 50 women 50 when it comes to getting pregnant it's a perfect split but it is true nonetheless that
00:05:50.640 50 of women now are reaching the age of 30 without having children which is very different to the
00:05:55.440 and if you see the chart fertility fertility drops way more for women than it does for men at older age
00:06:01.840 like that's not even disputable yeah besides if women have all the power then why is it 50 50
00:06:06.960 because women have the power in reproduction if women choose to have kids later then men can only
00:06:12.320 have kids later yeah so like this is usually not as good but there is there are stats to show that
00:06:20.160 older women who have younger partners tend to get pregnant easier my mom was one of those which is
00:06:24.720 why she could always get pregnant i guess younger sperm is beneficial i mean i was just looking at the
00:06:30.400 chart of this today it's not the same it drops i mean men do have fertility issues too but it drops
00:06:35.520 off way more for women with age this isn't even like arguable is that then because women are always
00:06:40.960 picking older partners i don't know why that is i just know based on biology that women are less
00:06:46.080 fertile the older they get at a at a much more rapid rate than men well by how rapid do you mean
00:06:52.880 i could i could actually i think men can still are men still sperm in like their 70s or is it 70s
00:06:59.040 not all men in their 70s the first time no but i think some of them i'm gonna send it i'm gonna send
00:07:04.160 it to ken i just i just tweeted this today that's why that's why i'm positive of this besides if women
00:07:10.320 start getting younger partners who's gonna raise the kids because are you gonna is she gonna trap the
00:07:15.920 younger guy into becoming responsible it depends when you're saying younger it could just be a 31 or two
00:07:20.640 year old with a 40 year old woman it's not specific yeah but we all know that men reach their
00:07:24.720 financial stride from 35 upwards i'm just very curious about something so they definitely shouldn't
00:07:30.320 be having children before that point then 100 because it goes back to the same thing of women
00:07:37.200 wanting everything so they want to have the young guy but they also want him to be able to be
00:07:40.960 responsible enough to take care of the kid or they want to have the old guy and they want him to be
00:07:45.760 or they want to have the richest man and they want him to be faithful to them like you just want
00:07:49.520 everything i'm just making a comment on genetics do you know any 82 year old women that have had kids
00:07:55.920 i don't know what the oldest is is it someone in her 70s i don't know no no there's al pacino just
00:08:01.840 fathered a child at 82. yeah you know damn well no women are doing that i well i don't know what the
00:08:07.120 oldest woman is i'm pretty sure i don't even know what you're arguing like you know that men do not you
00:08:12.080 know that women drop off on fertility issues not all men are fertile at i didn't i didn't say all
00:08:17.120 men but i said women have it worse the older they get is that i mean we have a doctor here am i am i
00:08:21.440 wrong so my only comment was it's a 50 when people are dealing with you know like infertility they're
00:08:27.600 having to seek options where where where from because you've got to bear in mind i'm asking how many
00:08:32.000 how many people were in that study it was a pretty big study that i i like i read i mean you could
00:08:36.560 probably google it for fertility issues i don't have the website to mine i have some of them written down
00:08:41.280 but not all of them usually government websites that are holding these statistics so fertility
00:08:46.640 issues you've got to bear in mind some men and some women just were never fertile in the first
00:08:50.720 place right we're all assuming that everyone's fertile all of the time it's not the case some
00:08:54.320 people are fertile longer right some people i'm saying no but i just i'm saying that it's not the same
00:08:59.360 for men and for women it's not the same at 35 a man can have a kid pretty easily women it's geriatric
00:09:06.560 pregnancy my mom this is this is okay i'm not talking about you i'm talking about your mom i'm
00:09:12.080 i'm saying 35 is if you're able to get pregnant no no no no but i'm saying it's still geriatric
00:09:17.040 pregnancy if you hit 30 the numbers say if you're single by 30 you're more likely to not have a child
00:09:21.680 than to have one as a woman but we're already talking about i'm saying that it is not the same for
00:09:29.920 men and for women i don't know what you're arguing i never said it was the same i'm saying that okay
00:09:34.640 okay okay so no i'm saying that you know that the older we get we have more fertility issues and so
00:09:41.760 do men no i said it i said we have more than men the older we get yeah that i agree with you
00:09:46.720 okay yeah it's so easy that's because you're brainwashed by some very old men having kids
00:09:55.040 at a young age men are going to have more issues