JustPearlyThings - May 21, 2023


ENTITLED Modern Woman Gets Put In Her Place


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

235.77489

Word Count

2,529

Sentence Count

2


Summary

In this episode, we discuss what it means to be in a healthy marriage and how to be an average woman in the modern world. We discuss the issue of women falling in love with men who are below average and why this is a problem.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 but i definitely feel like society has lost that importance of like measuring someone by
00:00:05.500 their relationships and how it's working so with that being said i 100 agree with what you were
00:00:11.220 saying but on the lower scale a man can come along and be absolute trash let me just use
00:00:18.660 like all right cool so the way that my dad has worked yeah um he's got with someone and he's
00:00:26.200 married them and it's like okay she's not worthy he's just settled down with her because it's
00:00:32.520 convenient do you get what i'm saying so if she was to measure that by oh yeah i'm great you're not
00:00:37.660 great babe you don't have a lot going on but he's married you because he's getting old and because
00:00:42.040 all of these different factors on the larger scale what you're saying 100 i agree with you and it
00:00:46.960 makes sense but there are the uh the lower percentage of men that are low quality i just
00:00:53.460 want to make it clear i think what i was trying to say is if you're in a healthy marriage i'm not
00:00:56.880 going to sit here and say if a guy just chose you because he wanted to settle right right no there's
00:01:01.220 definitely some circumstances where there's people that are married and they are below average because
00:01:05.680 again they're abusive or the guy has settled or whatever yeah but for the healthy marriages and
00:01:09.980 there's it is a lot of healthy marriages um it definitely goes to show your ability to be an
00:01:14.700 above average person and another thing i realized i feel like a lot of people focus too much on the
00:01:19.420 negatives i feel like the negative situations of abusive partners and whatever
00:01:23.000 well they're like a small percentage i think women are more abusive than men in 2023 i think
00:01:27.980 there's no i think there's more women that hit men than men that hit women i just don't think
00:01:31.960 it's reported yeah i agree with that actually because women hit men like in this when they're
00:01:36.000 angry and when they're having arguments and they do like pushing and shoving but the men just don't
00:01:39.300 retaliate so the thing is as well for a man do you know how degrading it is to bring up that
00:01:43.640 your woman has hit you exactly you're not going to bring that up you're just going to keep it quiet
00:01:48.000 yeah so a lot of women they brag oh you know my man hit me a man ain't gonna do that so it's very
00:01:52.740 very different and usually it's like the last straw because you've actually got him to that peak at
00:01:56.440 that point so he's had to do something they also don't talk about the women that get a man do a
00:02:00.640 certain point by verbally abusing him and then he snaps one day and then they label him as abusive
00:02:06.260 or crazy when it's like you've what's worse being hit like the scars heal the things that people
00:02:11.200 say to you you you can't take that back and can i also say that like sorry and even if you are like
00:02:17.200 an average woman i think what we need to understand like it's actually okay to be average that basically
00:02:21.880 just means you're a working person so for everyone here he's probably like single this is not me
00:02:26.140 trying to say that there's like something wrong with you you're probably still a work in progress
00:02:29.600 just like me and i think that's something like us as people need to learn to admit a little bit
00:02:34.520 rather than just having this mindset of okay i'm a cat today so now i'm gonna be a cat or i'm a dog like
00:02:39.660 let's you can be realistic in the present so yeah to answer that question because i was kind of
00:02:43.940 waffling i'm definitely average yeah but i think you know when you said about like we focus on the
00:02:49.840 negative like for me personally like someone might say oh you focus on the negative because i'm not
00:02:54.320 like definitely keen to have get married and have kids right now and i've always been that girl that's
00:02:58.940 like live your life travel do what you want like to all my friends to women young girls that i meet i'm
00:03:04.140 like i'm very much an advocate for that and then people may think oh it's because you've never had a
00:03:08.100 healthy relationship in your life or you've not got that example actually no my parents have been
00:03:12.460 together since they were 16 and they're married and i live with them so i have had the best example
00:03:16.880 actually but i have the most realistic example as well but that's a modern mindset that's a below
00:03:21.860 average mindset which which to travel and explore the world and stuff men don't want that yeah but why
00:03:27.220 is it about what men want because like men are the buyers you have to learn the buyers in order to be
00:03:31.560 bought yeah but i i just so i so strongly disagree with that because i'm not going to live my life
00:03:35.700 depending on what a man wants like absolutely no and that's a below average mindset that's a
00:03:40.240 problem with modern women is that who said it's below average the men oh no man wants a girl that
00:03:45.500 won't live okay let's ask him anyway let's ask him you're a man is that a below average mindset
00:03:50.680 because as a woman i feel like it's important to you know take care of yourself first when you're
00:03:55.040 young at least not i'm not talking when you're older i'm saying you're like early 20s teens like
00:03:58.680 travel learn about yourself and don't focus so much on trying to get into a relationship and get
00:04:03.060 married by 25. no i disagree you know i think i'd want to be the one that takes on that experience
00:04:08.560 so she experiences with me for the first time so you think that's a below average mindset i'm still
00:04:13.960 going to stand on my point because i still disagree with all of you so i'm just no i'm just telling you
00:04:18.840 how men see it and like men see if you traveling around men see that as you're sleeping around
00:04:23.660 like men it's like then i'll just wait so so men see it if you're in a different in all these
00:04:28.200 different cities that you're riding something in all these different cities that's how men see it
00:04:32.440 it's also if you've been single for a long time men see it as oh she's been doing she's been doing
00:04:36.540 something she's been up to something like that's how the guys see it and can i also sorry can i also
00:04:41.220 mention something you also mentioned how your end goal is to be a wife and a housewife and have kids
00:04:45.900 so if that's your end goal don't you think it is important to consider how men are viewing you
00:04:50.140 um yeah but it's like for example if my end goal was my career then i would have to focus on career
00:04:55.480 oriented things but if your end goal is marriage and kids don't you think you have to focus on how
00:05:00.160 men view you and i think that's why can't i have a career and have marriage and kids no but i'm
00:05:04.600 talking about like your end goal like what do you want as the end is it just the career long term or
00:05:09.200 is it yeah i think marriage and kids will outweigh the career for sure yeah so considering the fact
00:05:14.860 that like by 30 women's eggs start to you know expire whatever and you know that is your end goal
00:05:20.500 just all these other factors you may lose your youth and beauty wrinkles don't you think is
00:05:24.740 important to consider what men would think about you if that's your end goal yes but i feel like
00:05:28.980 the right man would not be judging me because i've gone to france and spain like what the hell is that
00:05:35.340 about like like that that is just like like the guy i'm with he just doesn't care about this social
00:05:40.900 media stuff he just thinks it's a load of crap like he's met me and he probably had a few people say
00:05:47.560 like out of jealousy or whatever because i'm a popular figure certain things and it's like no i'm gonna
00:05:53.360 he's strong-minded i need a strong-minded man that's the thing i can't be dealing with these
00:05:57.080 men that'd be swayed by what they hear by he she or her so if a man was there in a hall yeah does that
00:06:02.520 make him strong-minded because he's it actually does i don't agree with that but it does i think
00:06:07.280 it's not to call you and that no no no no no no i know i'm just saying i actually think it i'm not
00:06:12.540 saying i'm not agreeing with men being with whores by the way that's what i'm saying i'm saying but i do
00:06:16.920 i actually do think it it is very strong-minded for a man to get with one because he's clearly
00:06:21.280 saying i like you for you and despite what you've done and what everybody says about you i'm gonna
00:06:26.660 stand by you and i can actually respect that just that to a degree and i've said it so many times
00:06:32.680 when i've seen people do it where i've seen these men go for these women and everyone's like why would
00:06:35.920 he go for her but maybe she is actually a good girl like maybe good-hearted girl like maybe she has
00:06:41.280 made a lot of mistakes i think do you think it's unwise knowing the stats that i told you where there's
00:06:45.460 only a 20 chance that he'll be happy with her in 10 years you don't think that's simping a bit
00:06:49.920 it's a bit unwise no not if not if you want no no if your son came to you the whore would you be
00:06:56.540 happy with that of course not i just told you i don't think i don't necessarily agree with it
00:06:59.860 but if he came to you and he said to you mom he's a good woman and whatever and like it depends on how
00:07:03.480 um no i would say no personally because i think there's enough women out there for you to find a good
00:07:08.440 woman that isn't a whore yeah i think you know what's so funny in this like modern world
00:07:13.120 um it's either we have fun or i'm taking it's like can you not be can you not find your man
00:07:19.720 and travel and learn like i think i can enjoy my life and learn and have knowledge and still have
00:07:25.180 fun and still enjoy my youth with a man yeah i don't think there's anything wrong with it i feel
00:07:33.000 like it's better to make memories than you know have no memories and getting and i've had experience
00:07:38.720 and he had experience you have memories of your friends you have memories of your friends absolutely
00:07:41.820 but i think it's nice to have that's not valuable to a guy though like it's not valuable to a guy
00:07:49.280 that you have memories about the guy in order to have a happy marriage you have to care what the
00:07:56.220 man wants unless if you want to do this like 50 50 partnership type shit where your opinion is like
00:08:01.800 yeah you don't you don't want to do that right you want to be a housewife so if you want to be a
00:08:05.900 housewife only 20 percent of women get to be housewives so that means that means it's it's
00:08:10.540 competitive right that means not a lot of girls are going to get it and so like you have to know
00:08:15.900 the buyer in order to compete and you also mentioned how you can do both i have an example for you say
00:08:24.260 for example i wanted to have a six pack and you know compete for the olympics can i do both things
00:08:29.400 like be at mcdonald's every three times a week or it's not it's kind of the same on the rare occasion
00:08:34.940 yeah i can i feel like because i've got a low metabolism what i'm trying to say is like when you
00:08:40.420 have an end goal and you have an end point when you focus on other things it hinders you getting
00:08:45.960 to that point so what i'm trying to say is for the ladies who's um you know your your goal is to
00:08:50.580 just to be a career woman i feel like focusing on your career and traveling that will work for you
00:08:54.620 but if your end goal is to like be your wife like i'm saying your end goal that's what you want
00:08:59.040 when you settle down that you have to make them steps to actually work towards that yeah and i
00:09:04.000 think that's where modern women get it like you know messed up so going back to that example like
00:09:08.520 if my end goal is to have a six pack does it make sense to be um balancing mcdonald's and salad um
00:09:14.100 you know half of the week it would make sense but i disagree in that in that sense i don't see
00:09:19.620 anything wrong with finding like you you know we are interested let's get married let's let's grow
00:09:25.080 up together i you know it's fine there's nothing if you're young of course you can still focus on
00:09:31.420 university or or your career but if you're oh that's a different story it's like you should
00:09:36.120 have had it it's too late now yeah but you know it's fine it's fine in the moment but when you're
00:09:40.860 like 30 and you're single like is it still going to be fine what do you mean so like you're saying
00:09:45.520 like having fun and whatever is fine is single um by 30 should have your life together okay i have
00:09:51.440 a question if you want you you said you want to be married you'd be married oh absolutely how many
00:09:55.320 dates do you go on in a week um i don't you don't okay so how on earth would you get the results of
00:10:01.460 married if you don't do anything to get there it's hard is he just going to magically find you at
00:10:06.260 your parents house my brother yesterday as well it's like look fine um i find it a bit hard because
00:10:14.740 i i just find i feel i think my husband is just not in london you know okay sorry i feel like it's a
00:10:20.920 bit hard i feel like the way i think and the standards and the way i brought up i don't think
00:10:25.400 they got the same it's gonna be a bit hard as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we
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