JustPearlyThings - July 04, 2023


Evil Baby Mama Kept This Secret From Her Man


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Length

9 minutes

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202.89545

Word Count

1,892

Sentence Count

105


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 series. Today we have a special guest and we wanted to speak about your experience with the
00:00:04.780 court system and the indoctrination that's gone on with your son. So do you want to give a little
00:00:11.340 intro to the people? Yeah, my name is Harrison Tinsley. I'm fighting for my son Sawyer. I want
00:00:16.620 nothing more than him to be happy with who he is and I think that all children should be able to
00:00:21.040 be happy with who they are and we shouldn't be pushing any ideology on them. What got you into
00:00:26.040 this? Like how did this start for you? Into custody or yeah well I was dating my girlfriend at the time
00:00:31.980 and shortly after we started dating she got pregnant and we were both happy about that
00:00:37.540 fact which is wonderful and so about halfway through her pregnancy she has some mental illness
00:00:43.580 problems and essentially kind of a hostile environment constant threats of me not being
00:00:48.120 able to see my son if I wasn't exactly who she wanted me to be essentially. Really? Like what?
00:00:53.580 Like if I don't protest for a left-wing cause like oh wow you won't yeah so she was trying to what
00:01:00.820 what type of organizations? It wasn't specific it was just little conversations and things like that
00:01:06.320 or transgender issues as well. Wow so she was saying that if you didn't protest or like get involved in
00:01:12.560 leftist ideology type stuff that she wouldn't let you see your son? Like different threats but yeah.
00:01:17.800 Wow okay so what happened next? Basically she demanded that I get us couples counseling
00:01:25.180 so which I was apprehensive at first and I finally did because I was like I want to see my son
00:01:30.100 and then I got couples counseling she bailed on going. Did it a second time she bailed again and
00:01:37.080 after that second time I got like a cease and desist from her attorney basically saying like oh don't talk to
00:01:43.020 me or my family etc. And yeah. How old was your son at this point? No this is just her being pregnant.
00:01:51.880 Oh. We've talked about so far. Oh shoot so there wasn't even a child at this point. No yeah. Okay so
00:01:57.480 she's pregnant and then you receive a cease and desist letter from her. Yeah yeah probably from her
00:02:02.360 attorney and essentially I just waited a few months. I remember my son's due date but I wasn't there for
00:02:10.440 the birth which was really sad just because I hear like these crazy stories about people that are like
00:02:14.660 green berets and rock stars and they're like oh the best day of my life is the day my kid was born.
00:02:21.020 Wow so she didn't even let you there be there when he was born? No yeah. Wow. It was it was sad I
00:02:28.120 found out like a week later one of her friends sent it sent me like a social media post. You weren't even
00:02:32.780 told? Not told at all yeah. Okay so you find out you have a son then what happens? Well I knew I was
00:02:40.020 gonna have a son because we'd gone to the doctor together and stuff. We agreed upon his name Sawyer
00:02:44.980 which was like the one thing we ever agreed on which is cool. Basically I tried to figure out what
00:02:50.640 to do in that situation because that's not something that's like common knowledge you'd know what to do.
00:02:54.300 I went to like a self-help center in San Francisco court and they helped me file stuff to basically
00:03:00.080 establish paternity and then try to get visitation rights. Okay. But it took a very long time. Okay what was
00:03:07.100 that process like? You file all this paperwork they help you do it right then and there it takes a few
00:03:13.960 hours and then basically you file it all they have a certain amount of time to respond. If they don't
00:03:20.320 respond that amount of time you win by default which that actually happened so I actually should have won
00:03:25.380 by default because they took so long to respond but because of COVID. What's the time period? It's usually
00:03:31.480 like 60 days or something I don't recall that exact one. Okay. There's different timelines for different
00:03:36.620 requests but basically filed all this stuff. They didn't respond but it was because COVID happened
00:03:44.000 right then so they got extra time and then essentially I filed in court two months after he
00:03:49.080 was born and it took 13 more months after that and I didn't meet my son until he was 15 months old.
00:03:53.820 Wow. Yeah. This is during this time were you telling her you wanted to see your son you
00:03:58.640 wanted to meet him? Well I wasn't talking to her because I wanted to avoid legal trouble because
00:04:01.920 the cease and desist letter and stuff. Right. So I was just our attorneys were in communication trying
00:04:07.420 to have me see him and she just made impossible reasons why I couldn't with COVID or different
00:04:13.280 things. And what what were like the reasons she gave like because you know they'll always say like
00:04:19.600 what's her reasoning for doing this? Right. Well I can't speak for her but I mean COVID was one of the
00:04:26.160 excuses they used as well as she made up false allegations against me. That was something that
00:04:30.860 happened. What type of allegations? She was calling me like a domestic abuser essentially calling me
00:04:37.600 the R word. Wow. With no truth to it at all. That's the crazy thing. I've seen that so many times in
00:04:44.280 these interviews where it's like these girls will just throw out these accusations at guys
00:04:51.340 with just so they can't see their kids. And it's crazy because so many of you like are fighting
00:04:56.680 trying to be in your kid's life but they keep throwing these accusations at you. Yeah it happens
00:05:00.980 extremely it's really common in family court unfortunately. I saw like a Michigan study it
00:05:05.520 was something like 72 percent of girls make up lies when there's a custody or a divorce thing. 72 percent?
00:05:11.420 It was just one Michigan study but yeah basically the majority. And I wonder if like attorneys tell them
00:05:16.400 to do this or how and like they all feed off of it each other or how it happens but it's really sad.
00:05:22.240 In the UK I think the women's shelters do. Like the women's because they're very much indoctrinated
00:05:27.300 with like the leftist propaganda. That's that's my opinion. Were there any consequences for her doing
00:05:33.300 this not letting you see your son for a year and a half? The judge said it was a shame on our first
00:05:38.460 hearing but that was there was no actual consequences no. What happened next? Did you get custody? How did it go?
00:05:44.560 So what happened is I got the right to meet him and it actually had to be supervised at first which
00:05:48.840 was extremely unpleasant. Not professionally supervised but it would be like supervised by
00:05:53.260 like her parents or whoever and they made it extremely uncomfortable. But I remember one time
00:05:58.980 my sister because I would bring my sister or mom with me and stuff in case they tried to lie about me
00:06:03.020 and my sister caught her dad who like let us go ahead one time in San Francisco and he stayed back.
00:06:11.860 Like he I want to say he smoked a cigarette or something and then my sister caught him like
00:06:15.440 in the bushes trying to like watch us from the bushes and she even got pictures and we sent it
00:06:19.660 to the court and everything. So it was just they made it really uncomfortable but it was still
00:06:24.020 obviously incredible to finally meet my son and start bonding. Well and why why did they have to be
00:06:29.880 supervised? Was it because of the allegations? Well the judge didn't buy into the allegations that
00:06:34.420 much because she's like said no to professional ones. She was just like just to make sure it's
00:06:39.980 someone that the kid's familiar with to make sure it goes well basically. At least that's how they
00:06:44.780 worded it. Okay. No because that's what I've heard like they'll say that like the issue with
00:06:51.940 getting custody or something like in this case visitation is that the kid's not comfortable with
00:06:56.940 you. But the only reason the kid's not comfortable with you is because the mom hasn't let you seen
00:07:01.420 them in a year, year and a half, whatever it is. Right. And it doesn't seem like there's any
00:07:05.120 consequence for that. Yeah not not that I know of. I mean I know that false allegations in court
00:07:10.100 at least in family court in California can end up in a parent losing custody that made up the false
00:07:15.520 accusations. Wow that's great. I think it's rare but it is a rule. I mean because I feel that I did that
00:07:22.600 exact thing on the last trial we had and the judge kept custody the same. So what happened next?
00:07:28.980 Okay so I have these supervised visits and then I start getting instead of one day it would be like
00:07:34.160 two days in a row unsupervised but not overnight and then the judge basically hinted at during the
00:07:40.160 hearing like oh if you move to the Bay Area because I was in Tahoe you could perhaps get custody. So I
00:07:47.520 moved to the Bay Area and I filed for custody. I actually ended up winning half custody which was
00:07:52.800 amazing. Wow. Yeah. You're the only person I've interviewed that's gotten half custody. Yeah I
00:07:58.300 mean maybe that that's part of repercussions for making stuff up or or I'm just lucky but
00:08:03.900 yeah right now I've had half custody for well over a year. It's it's been incredible. So how how far did
00:08:10.840 you move? From Lake Tahoe to the Bay Area so like four hours. Wow so you moved four hours to get custody of
00:08:18.180 your son. That's amazing. Yeah. That's amazing. Thank you. He's easily worth it. I would do a lot
00:08:23.320 more than four hours. Yeah. Yeah. No but it's it's like we have this narrative in the media that men
00:08:29.020 are these deadbeat dads that don't want custody of their sons or daughters and they don't want to be
00:08:34.180 in their lives and it's like I talked to father after father like you're willing to move four hours
00:08:38.600 to maybe get custody of your son. Right. Maybe. You didn't even know if you would. Correct yeah. I think it's
00:08:44.080 a totally false narrative. I don't buy it at all. I talked to lots of fathers as well. Seems to me
00:08:49.120 like they're all wanting to be part of their kids lives and it's so sad that a lot of them aren't I
00:08:52.740 mean like 27% of dads don't even get to see their kids regardless of if they're winning. Dads only win
00:08:58.640 custody 18% of the time as opposed to 82 for moms and I think it's a real tragedy in society and we're
00:09:05.540 seeing the effects of it like 90% of homeless people and arsonists are from fatherless homes.
00:09:10.440 Majority of you know people in prison and drug addicts and all these horribly sad things
00:09:16.100 come from fatherless homes. So I really think it's important.