Evil Woman Manipulated This Man’s ENTIRE Family
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Summary
In this episode, I speak about my experience of losing my son and how I dealt with the court order that was placed against me by my mother in law. I talk about how the court ordered me to hand my son over to her custody and how that played into her plan of keeping my son out of contact with me.
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she manipulated your mom and your sister and my father and your father and my cousins and your
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cousins wow i had no one so they all turned on you and didn't want you to see their your son
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they every time i asked them that i need you to support me here i stopped communication with the
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ex because obviously that plays into her court they all said no we're going to continue contacting
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her because then she what she was doing she was carrying on communication with my family and i
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go she said this what she's saying this for i don't know um so what would she tell your family
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would she say that you abused her yeah so i was abusive and all the same thing i was financially
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abusive um oh so she's basically started brainwashing your family that's the best way of
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explaining it yes you get into thinking that and like because she's a woman basically
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she she was like kind of crying wolf in a way yes exactly and um your mother your sister your
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father and your cousins okay and um and then basically she would use them to get you to break
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the order yeah so like she would make it so you didn't see your son through your family because she
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made your mother the primary like care like person so your mom had to pick up your son and she was
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speaking to your mom and making it so and then she could go to court and say you broke the order
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correct it was it was my mother who broke the order if you imagine if that now happens that shows a
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dysfunctional family oh okay and that's the route she was going so then you go to the second court date
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and what happens um uh she then said to me so on the first few um days i had my son weekends when we
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kind of asked for can you bring some toys with him because i hadn't seen him for five months i didn't
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know what's toy tastes had changed you know i asked for clothes i asked for wellies welly boots
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and asked him for a jacket she put that against me in the courtroom said to me that was demanding
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behavior wow that's the worst she could put against me at that point demanding behavior demanding
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behavior okay and i had to discuss to the court so out of those three obviously the court judiciary
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system has to go had to choose a topic i had to explain to the court why i asked for toys to
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accompany my son um which was i just wanted to support him i didn't know the toys i had were
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now too young for him um i wanted to be able to know roughly what his tastes were make it comfortable
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for him and then i'd be able to go to toys russ yes afterwards you know um in fact i didn't even know
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what his nappy size was i didn't know what his clothes size was when i picked him up it was just
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literally in his clothes in his jacket and a toy in his hand and that was it
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he was two and a half then uh yes it would have been two and a half yes okay so then what did the court
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what did the court tell you so the court asked me to explain why i asked for toys
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so i went into why i explained why i asked for toys um uh and then they said um
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due to the breakages in the court order um due to the disagreements going on
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they only gave me then once a fortnight and that was it now why i had so once every other week they
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gave you i also had to go in the advice was to go in to ask for that as well because otherwise i
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could get nothing because of type because leading up to the so it was a christmas period
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um i was supposed to see him christmas day it all broke down the night before
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um and then my mother started to try and reduce the amount of contact i was getting
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um so eventually she cancelled all contact which obviously played into my ex's hands and i didn't
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see my son for another two and a half months so you saw him once at two and when he was two and a
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half years old and then you didn't see him so i saw him for about eight to nine weeks okay and
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then because it was like four months yeah okay for four and a half month period for the next court
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hearing um and then uh i didn't see him for about two months yeah i thought yeah about about two two
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and a half months um and then they ordered you that you can only see him every other week yeah
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and because of the she was then trying to stop me i wasn't allowed to pick ernie up to hand to do
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handover because your mother was the primary and also because she was scared
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wow that i might cause an argument in a in a in in the entrance of a supermarket
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wow when my primary objective was just go collect my son say hello and go you know so i had so i had
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put myself into a child contact center to do have purely handover um which obviously then that goes
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against me anyway it's either i see my son or i don't so i had to accept that um uh so yes we did
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so i was there i was doing handover i was there 20 minutes before 20 minutes after um and then i was
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out the door again but i did that for two years it's two years once every other week you would see
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yourself so you'd see him twice a month yes for two years and then what would happen next
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because you said this whole thing took five years i think you said the divorce yeah the divorce itself
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um or it's been how long has everything been total till now five years so today yeah today
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probably talking five and a half six years now okay so i'll do six to round it so six years the first
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two and a half years you had the six month period of not seeing him and then two years of seeing
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him once every other week yeah okay so then what happened um dead on the two years she found out that
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i'd had to sell my car um i was also had a girlfriend at the time and she got in contact with the ex
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girl with my girlfriend's uh family and just started to cause a lot of trouble between me and the
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eventually after a year we had a breakup it got too bad she was giving um making the same allegations
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even though i explained it to my to my girlfriend at the time what had happened um gave her every
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quarter piece of document even showed how the contradictions were between what she was saying
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and what actually happened um but i had to end the relationship because in the end even her own her
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girlfriend's girlfriend's family were starting to believe your ex how did she get in contact with
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them so it turns out my well there's two routes i think so my mother knew one of my girlfriend's
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friend's mothers i think then my mother then made contact that way um and my mother said to me
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um then started to make up even more allegations and then sent me email saying well if you don't
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call me i'll have to keep saying it basically trying to coerce me and speak to her make it as horrible
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as possible um so and then also then making her sister would actually make direct contact with my ex
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wife as well father my mother um and then i was being told and then every every couple of days it
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would be i've just been told this i said we've already gone through this we've gone through this
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eventually i thought that's cool because it's probably too much to have to defend yourself every
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single day every single day to have to find myself something yeah it is and what do you attribute
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like what do you attribute everyone be believing her to like was it is she a narcissist a crazy
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good liar what do you think it's just the way that the world views women like what do you i think
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it's a i think it's a mixture because to me like this is so like i i think you also matter so if i
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that's in you're okay i just i think of my brother in this situation and i just like i don't know if
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someone told me that he did something like i would have i just wouldn't really believe it so like
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what what do you think like why did all these people take her seriously i think in i don't know
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too much about the u.s but in the uk with obviously the media and that sort of thing if
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a woman says i've been domestically abused no automatically everybody believes it well why
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she's saying it because there was someone in the 80s um the prime minister at the time was margaret
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thatcher and women's age said that um a mother would not say anything bad about the father unless
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it was necessary unless it was true hence why the mother should always children with the mother
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of course i'd imagine that now gets manipulated so you think it was brainwashing basically about
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media oh social social yeah okay so um it doesn't help you know i think there's other factors but
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yeah after the two years like it was um did you try to restrict your contact further yeah um so after
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i sold my car um because i needed to pay bills because at this point i've been defrauded at work
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and um still trying to deal with those cases at work at work i was being told that because i was
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quite open with what had happened um we as i worked in a in a fairly female environment that meant i could be at risk to them