JustPearlyThings - May 18, 2023


High Value Men Find This Repulsive


Episode Stats

Length

11 minutes

Words per Minute

189.9806

Word Count

2,221

Sentence Count

267


Summary

This is a list of things that men are looking for in a woman, and what they don t want. It's a short list, but it's a good list. I hope you can relate to at least one of these things.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 A couple months ago, I made a list of the things that us as women should stop doing.
00:00:05.240 Now, this is not to say that I am perfect and have never said anything on this list.
00:00:11.100 However, I just felt like this was a very, very good list.
00:00:16.260 So this is the things that men look for, basically, or don't want.
00:00:20.940 It's like want, don't want kind of a combination.
00:00:23.580 No tattoos.
00:00:25.100 Your hobbies cannot be going to the bar every weekend and going out all the time looking like a hoe.
00:00:29.380 No heavy makeup, eyelash extensions.
00:00:31.740 No super heavy eyeliner.
00:00:33.440 No shopping addiction.
00:00:34.880 No piercing except ears.
00:00:36.340 Be able to get ready in 30 minutes or less.
00:00:39.100 No super long fingernails.
00:00:40.460 Do not be an idiot.
00:00:41.840 Do not be a beautiful, majestic creature.
00:00:44.440 A girl, she has to have a fitness routine.
00:00:47.380 Good with kid.
00:00:48.020 Knows how to cook.
00:00:48.900 Coachable.
00:00:49.500 Teachable.
00:00:50.020 Feminine.
00:00:50.860 Do not be a feminist.
00:00:52.120 Men want women that work hard but not too hard and at the right things.
00:00:55.860 They do not want a girl that wants a career more than a family.
00:00:59.420 This is my favorite one.
00:01:00.820 The words we're going to stop saying.
00:01:04.600 Partner.
00:01:05.300 Horoscope signs.
00:01:06.360 Looking for a connection.
00:01:07.520 Energy.
00:01:08.000 Trauma.
00:01:08.580 Toxic masculinity.
00:01:10.340 My truth.
00:01:11.560 Healing.
00:01:12.000 My narcissistic ex-boyfriend.
00:01:13.620 My abusive ex-boyfriend.
00:01:15.380 Grape accusations.
00:01:16.880 Don't judge.
00:01:17.640 Yeah, but.
00:01:18.680 Manifesting.
00:01:19.300 Equals, I want to do no work and still get the outcome I want.
00:01:22.680 As a woman.
00:01:23.540 We know you're a woman.
00:01:24.460 I did too much and I let him walk all over me.
00:01:28.380 Equals, I like cheaters and toxic men and I will choose them and be toxic as well and
00:01:32.460 not admit my part that I had any part to play except quote unquote giving too much.
00:01:37.720 Generational trauma.
00:01:38.720 I make the same mistakes that my parents make and I'm too dumb to learn from their mistakes
00:01:42.780 and instead I will make the same mistakes but blame it on them.
00:01:46.140 I'm in my feminine energy.
00:01:48.660 Men always stare and approach me.
00:01:50.540 I will be submissive for the right man.
00:01:54.000 Men are trash.
00:01:54.860 Equals, I take no accountability for the negative part that myself or any women play in relationships.
00:02:00.540 He needs to make six figures.
00:02:02.120 Equals, I have no emphasis on character.
00:02:04.760 I don't need a man but I want a man.
00:02:06.640 My ring costs this much.
00:02:08.420 Financial abuse.
00:02:09.400 I became feminine.
00:02:10.860 I need a man to maintain you.
00:02:13.800 We need to vibe.
00:02:14.820 I feel like I'm a traditional when I am single.
00:02:18.140 Manish.
00:02:18.620 I will be submissive for the right man who hurt you.
00:02:21.600 Internalize misogyny.
00:02:23.160 I'm leveling up altogether.
00:02:25.040 I need a man to be on my level.
00:02:28.100 I'm a boss babe.
00:02:29.100 I'm a bad bitch.
00:02:30.260 These men are broke and dusties.
00:02:32.300 I am the table.
00:02:33.620 I am a 10.
00:02:34.980 He needs to add to what I have going on in my life.
00:02:38.060 Not all women equals that is a problem with women but I won't admit it's a problem.
00:02:42.340 I need someone to match my energy.
00:02:48.320 I still don't really know what that means.
00:02:50.880 I am his peace.
00:02:52.520 Broken men.
00:02:54.060 Men are F boys.
00:02:55.600 My body my choice.
00:02:56.940 He hit me harder than I hit him.
00:02:59.240 Body positivity manifest.
00:03:02.000 I am not fat.
00:03:03.160 I am plus size or thick.
00:03:05.300 Small D energy.
00:03:06.480 My ex was a narcissist.
00:03:07.960 I am a queen who hurt you.
00:03:09.840 No respect for my own mother.
00:03:11.920 Yeah.
00:03:12.360 I mean how is that?
00:03:13.620 Those are all the words that you can't say.
00:03:15.160 Yeah.
00:03:15.520 What can we say then?
00:03:16.860 I have a list.
00:03:20.100 Don't worry.
00:03:21.400 I am so here to help.
00:03:24.660 All right.
00:03:25.340 And this is collaborative.
00:03:27.220 So if you guys have anything you want to add to it, you know, feel free.
00:03:31.080 Phrases to add.
00:03:31.880 I trust you.
00:03:32.580 I support you.
00:03:33.560 Whatever you say, honey.
00:03:35.020 Thank you.
00:03:35.500 I have your back.
00:03:36.340 I'm making this for dinner tonight.
00:03:38.000 I believe or I think.
00:03:39.640 What can I do for you?
00:03:40.960 How can I help?
00:03:41.680 I'm proud of you.
00:03:42.320 I believe in you.
00:03:43.040 I couldn't do this without you.
00:03:44.220 I need you.
00:03:44.780 I love you.
00:03:45.340 I miss you.
00:03:45.840 I care about you.
00:03:46.480 I want you.
00:03:47.340 I admire you.
00:03:48.920 Oh, gosh.
00:03:49.400 I always forget this one.
00:03:50.480 I'm not reading that.
00:03:51.540 You inspire.
00:03:52.140 No, no, no.
00:03:52.640 Don't do that.
00:03:53.200 Don't do that, pal, man.
00:03:54.160 Read that.
00:03:54.900 I do this every time.
00:03:56.020 I hate reading this one.
00:03:57.240 Get in the bedroom and drop your pants before you go to work.
00:04:00.120 Yeah, man.
00:04:00.520 You inspire me.
00:04:01.920 Thank you for working so hard.
00:04:06.000 Babe, I know you didn't meet it.
00:04:07.160 I'll let it go.
00:04:07.680 It's not a big deal.
00:04:08.860 I love that.
00:04:09.440 I love that.
00:04:10.000 I actually love that.
00:04:10.380 That list there was shorter than that.
00:04:11.920 I like that.
00:04:12.520 I like that.
00:04:13.080 It was shorter, you know?
00:04:13.800 Well, you know, we can add more if you have things you want to add.
00:04:16.420 It's really collaborative.
00:04:17.720 I've worked with a lot of people on this.
00:04:19.420 Okay, cool.
00:04:20.040 I think that whatever you say, honey, that's the only thing.
00:04:24.340 That depends on the context.
00:04:26.460 Exactly.
00:04:26.780 And I was thinking that as well, yeah.
00:04:27.740 It can be a little bit like, oh, you know, like, oh, I have to do it again.
00:04:32.480 I just, you know, it depends on the context.
00:04:36.020 See, this is where the good women are gone.
00:04:37.580 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:04:38.520 If you're with the right woman, that won't happen.
00:04:41.200 If you're with the right woman, if you're with the right man, that won't happen.
00:04:44.680 It depends on the context.
00:04:46.300 She's right.
00:04:46.960 It does.
00:04:47.580 But it doesn't matter.
00:04:48.100 Okay, I have to be honest.
00:04:49.660 I think women that say this, because I hear this a lot, it typically means I am disagreeable
00:04:55.640 and I don't want to listen.
00:04:57.040 Okay.
00:04:57.820 Typically.
00:04:58.700 Or the men I pick aren't worthy.
00:05:01.560 Or, like, something, like, I like bums, basically, is the other, like, it's like a trend.
00:05:05.720 Well, some women pick men who are, I think, for their character, too masculine.
00:05:12.200 I don't want to say that, because then you're going to be, like, feminine.
00:05:14.780 No, no, no.
00:05:14.960 No, like, too, you know, like, she's not feminine enough.
00:05:18.720 The man is really masculine.
00:05:21.020 So she's in her feminine most of the time, but sometimes she's like, oh.
00:05:25.640 See, I see the language.
00:05:26.920 In her feminine.
00:05:28.220 Yeah, I knew you were going to pick that up, girl.
00:05:30.940 I just think it's, like, nonsense.
00:05:34.040 I know.
00:05:34.200 It's just, it's like these women that go on Instagram, and they'll say, oh, I'm a feminine.
00:05:39.400 I don't know if it's you.
00:05:40.360 I hope that's not what you do, but, like, it's like, I'm now a femininity coach.
00:05:45.380 And there's some genuine ones.
00:05:47.000 I'm not going to say there's not.
00:05:48.300 There are genuine ones that help.
00:05:49.480 They do this, too.
00:05:50.560 Masculine, feminine energy.
00:05:52.260 There's some.
00:05:52.980 There's, yeah.
00:05:53.740 The ones that I see that are full of shit, because men actually look to solve problems.
00:05:57.540 So if you look at, like, men's improvement, it's very practical.
00:06:01.240 So it's very much, like, go to the gym, screw a bunch of girls so you know how to, or do,
00:06:06.660 you know, like, I don't even, there's an ex-corn star that's been on my show.
00:06:09.880 He has very practical, you know, tips.
00:06:11.840 Not my thing, right, but, like, or they'll do, like, go to the gym, make more money.
00:06:18.360 Women, it's very, like, broad, like, soft life.
00:06:23.240 I'm going to sit at home.
00:06:25.480 And it's never, like, concrete steps.
00:06:27.920 I've only had one, like, femininity coach give me, like, real concrete steps that isn't
00:06:32.300 just, like, journaling or.
00:06:34.180 Actually, I have something to say about feminine coaches.
00:06:39.260 They operate from, again, energy, but, like, what is to be feminine?
00:06:47.100 They tell you be creative, like, focus on things that make you tap into that traditional
00:06:53.020 woman.
00:06:53.580 That's what they are all about.
00:06:55.740 Like, try to, I've been in touch with some of them.
00:06:59.400 They tell you, like, listen to music, dance, or create something with, like, a painting
00:07:05.400 or something tangible with, like, artistic.
00:07:09.680 Yeah.
00:07:10.240 And to me, this sounds like nothing useful to a guy.
00:07:14.320 Go listen to, like, go listen to some music.
00:07:19.040 But, like, I can't.
00:07:20.100 Like, I'm just, I just have, yeah, there's only been one femininity coach that, like, actually
00:07:25.980 talked about real stuff.
00:07:27.180 And she helped me write most of these, like, words to add.
00:07:30.280 In the short term, it might seem that it's not helping, but imagine on the long term,
00:07:35.480 rather than a woman being in her, as I say, masculine energy, which is, like, shouting
00:07:40.040 and confronting.
00:07:41.440 She learns to be submissive, but, like, step by step.
00:07:44.900 First of all, by tapping into these skills, then to be comfortable just doing, even something
00:07:51.740 such as cooking, they tell you cooking makes you tap into your feminine energy more and
00:07:56.500 more.
00:07:57.040 So maybe by building those little habits.
00:08:00.580 I think cooking, yeah, I don't think cooking's bad, but I just, you can't convince me.
00:08:08.060 Do you know why we need these now?
00:08:09.920 We, I agree with you.
00:08:11.240 I agree that it shouldn't matter, but we need these now because a lot of women and men as
00:08:16.500 well forgot that natural state, you know, what's your natural state as a woman?
00:08:22.420 I don't know, because I get really confused, because I hear these, like, women talk about
00:08:26.140 soft life, right?
00:08:27.460 But, like, our great-grandmothers really didn't have a soft life.
00:08:31.700 They were milking, like, at least I'm from the U.S., they were milking cows.
00:08:34.840 Like, have you seen Amish people?
00:08:36.160 That's where they used to live.
00:08:37.440 Like, they do not have a soft life.
00:08:39.360 And soft life, to me, is living off a man.
00:08:41.880 That's what I see as a soft life.
00:08:44.540 Maybe.
00:08:45.060 Yeah.
00:08:45.280 Well, when you ask where all the women, good women, went, I mean, to me, they went to confusion
00:08:48.980 and independence.
00:08:50.300 Right.
00:08:50.800 And this confusion is a diffused awareness, because of primal nature, right?
00:08:55.640 A man is hunting.
00:08:56.800 He's directive in his focus.
00:08:59.580 And a woman is diffused, because she only has a certain amount of daylight hours to get as
00:09:03.100 many berries as she can.
00:09:04.320 And she's very skilled at it.
00:09:05.580 She can do it way quicker than a man, apparently.
00:09:07.820 And it's part of our survival mechanism.
00:09:10.280 And so, it is kind of obtuse and broad when we think about how we go back into our
00:09:15.100 feminine nature.
00:09:16.120 So, we're not, you know, in this CEO role of our families, of our relationships, of
00:09:22.720 our businesses.
00:09:23.760 And then we got to come home and then deal with the reality of, like, you know, being
00:09:27.920 a partner, which is a totally different energy.
00:09:30.240 It's not, you're not directive.
00:09:31.920 Like, yeah, you've got to get the meal on the table.
00:09:34.520 And my grandmother and my mother, they worked really hard as homemakers.
00:09:37.880 It was, like, taboo for them to work.
00:09:40.080 Yeah.
00:09:40.400 But my generation and our generation now, that's very, it's a lot of confusion.
00:09:45.400 And we're still growing into that.
00:09:47.440 You know what it is?
00:09:47.900 How do we balance that?
00:09:49.300 It's Beyonce's fault.
00:09:51.840 I'm being serious.
00:09:52.700 She made a tune called Single Ladies, all of these things, with a ring on her finger.
00:09:56.900 I think we're very capable.
00:09:58.360 You know what I'm saying?
00:09:59.060 But I think there's a lot of confusion.
00:10:00.140 Yeah, but from the night, to be honest, you'll say you're right.
00:10:02.680 From the 90s, 2000s, whatever, there's been a lot of independence, independence, do your
00:10:07.900 thing, blah, blah, blah, blah, blah.
00:10:09.160 Cool.
00:10:09.940 You can do your independence.
00:10:10.940 But if you don't need a man, then cool.
00:10:13.700 Someone said modern-day gathering has turned into shopping.
00:10:19.900 Yeah, but why do you think women are having burnout, endocrine disruption, cancer, depression?
00:10:25.940 I mean, there's all these issues with women's health because they're trying to be a man.
00:10:30.160 Because they're trying to, exactly.
00:10:31.220 No, I spoke to, like, a hormone doctor about this.
00:10:34.020 He said, like, women and men don't handle stress the same.
00:10:37.000 And it really messes up our hormones being, like, high-stress positions.
00:10:41.220 And you know, Madison, if you stay in your feminine energy and you come home and you
00:10:44.240 look after your partner, your man is going to want to look after and do everything in
00:10:48.000 his power to make sure you're good.
00:10:49.940 Yeah.
00:10:51.340 That's as simple as I can explain it.
00:10:53.480 Like, as long as you stay in your feminine and you look after that man, he's going to
00:10:56.620 do everything for you, regardless, like, naturally.
00:10:58.760 But earlier with what I was saying, if you're not showing certain things to him, he's going
00:11:02.960 to see that.
00:11:03.420 All right, cool.
00:11:04.120 She's not really, my kind of, I'll sit back.
00:11:07.100 I'm there, but I'll sit back a little bit.
00:11:08.860 But if he sees you're making effort, like, even cooking, cooking is, if you want to
00:11:13.100 get through to a man's heart, it's through his belly.
00:11:14.760 A hundred percent.
00:11:15.140 As simple as that, you get what I'm saying?
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