JustPearlyThings - How Far Women Would SEEK for ATTENTION

00:00:00.000 how far will women go for attention now there was a video that came up i did cover it on pearl daily

00:00:06.640 this week that got me thinking about this and i'm gonna get to that but first um i want to know what

00:00:11.760 is the furthest you ladies have gone to get the attention of a guy what really yeah have you ever

00:00:20.720 like pursued a guy like really liked him um i actually prefer a guy to pursue me but if i have

00:00:27.680 pursued a guy i've actually gone into a club and approached the guy in front of my friends

00:00:35.040 okay yeah i mean that's kind of the furthest i think i've gone in terms of pursuing a guy okay

00:00:40.480 i like to be pursued okay have you ever like um gone somewhere because you knew a guy you liked

00:00:45.520 was gonna be there okay okay okay okay so okay so yeah so that's what i'm wondering like it when you

00:00:51.760 actually liked a guy maybe talked to him a bit was there did you ever like sim have you ever simped

00:00:56.400 really hard for a guy of course yeah women aren't gonna admit that though are they i'm gonna admit

00:01:02.640 i have yes yeah i mean who has it yeah it's all right it's all right but we like to play it cool

00:01:08.000 right we like to ladies like to even though part of the time we'd be the ones chasing we like to be

00:01:13.280 chased you know okay do you do you think we actually like to be chased if we always seem to pick the ones

00:01:19.200 that don't pick us yeah that's the thing i feel like we always just naturally go for the ones that

00:01:25.040 are just hard to get like and we know that they're players and out of our league out well i don't

00:01:30.480 know about that but yeah i mean if they were in our league they would like us right um and then you

00:01:36.400 wouldn't and then you wouldn't like them yeah exactly it's yeah it's a cruel world it is terrible

00:01:43.120 okay so um but what did what did you do for the guy like how did you simp i mean this was i mean i'm

00:01:49.520 talking years back it's all right i was like it was yesterday in a club and i actually ended up

00:01:58.000 marrying a guy believe it or not oh wow so yeah i was in the club and um those in those days it wasn't

00:02:04.480 like it wasn't normal for girls to really got to guys but i was kind of like drunk and i was like

00:02:10.000 i'm going for this guy and i grabbed him like like how a guy grabs a girl that is so brave yeah and that

00:02:16.720 was in front of his friends my friends and then you guys got married married like years years how

00:02:22.240 how how long were you married are you still married no no we're divorced how how long were you together

00:02:29.120 19 years what happened what happened life what do you mean life i don't know um we were young

00:02:38.560 very young i never okay i never grew up i never understand when women like say this like okay

00:02:44.240 because it's like you're young and then you're old like what what switched i think when you're young

00:02:49.680 you have different expectations you view life different you like different things then you grow

00:02:56.480 older you grow into yourself you start to know yourself okay um and sometimes you realize that

00:03:03.600 it's more headache than what it's worth okay so see i still i still don't understand what this means

00:03:10.320 and it's not just you i've had so many girls say the same thing to me on the show

00:03:14.720 and i just genuinely like like he got into different hobbies you could like

00:03:20.720 because i know they're always like we got into different things that could be a way of saying it

00:03:26.000 different women i'm like i'm like you got into different things like what are the things

00:03:32.880 like what you don't want to say are you nervous you know what it's all right i'm going to say i don't

00:03:37.200 want to say because it's like yeah you know you don't want to you don't embarrass him i don't want

00:03:41.520 to embarrass him that's fair you know yeah you're still here are you a healer are you healing healed

00:03:47.280 you're healed i'm like okay what steps did you take to heal um i think i kind of just put myself

00:03:55.760 first and just went for my dreams and done the things that i should have been doing when i was younger

00:04:00.960 okay i have i have a question because this this doesn't compute to me when it's like i put myself first

00:04:06.800 yeah how how does that help like build families because isn't it in a family we should put the

00:04:11.840 family first yeah the family first i mean when i say first i do have two children right they always

00:04:17.520 come first okay so you put yourself second i know actually i put myself god first my children okay and

00:04:23.760 then yeah so um i think it's in terms of just knowing myself growing into myself knowing what i like

00:04:31.120 and what i don't like and being confident because i wasn't confident when i was younger okay yes i

00:04:36.960 wasn't really confident and i didn't really know myself much okay and didn't have a lot of um

00:04:45.440 uh what's the word focus and didn't have a had ambition but didn't know what i wanted to do okay

00:04:52.000 you know so i just thought the way forward is to get married have kids and that was it and i was like

00:04:56.960 this can't be just life just getting married and having kids this just can't be it just sounds like

00:05:01.120 you had it made you were i mean i still have it made yeah i always will it's it's living and learning

00:05:07.360 so it's going for experiences and learning yourself learning life and i don't regret nothing like i don't

00:05:13.200 regret having kids i don't regret getting married okay yeah i'll do it again okay good good glad all right

00:05:20.240 hardest you've simped for a guy and did it did it ended marriage she got it she got 19 years out of

00:05:26.000 that that's a lot of me to be fair can you one up that or no i actually can't that kind of gets my age

00:05:36.560 um i think the most that i did it's so embarrassing but it's actually something i actually need to speak

00:05:43.280 about so i think the most that i did was i really liked this guy who was so sweet i made a private

00:05:48.880 snapchat for him showing the good sides of me because he wowed me like we had a date he really

00:05:55.120 wowed me like it was so nice and then i made him a private snapchat and he didn't view it or anything

00:06:01.680 so i just ended up self-sabotaging the whole thing i just self-sabotaged the whole thing because i was

00:06:06.960 just like there's just no point of me putting myself out there making a private snapchat for you and

00:06:14.480 were you sending him like like like pictures like that oh yes i was even sending

00:06:18.640 pictures of me and my cat and everything because he said he liked my cat so hold on what type of cat

00:06:26.000 okay okay so so you made him a snapchat to like view your stories yeah she didn't watch any of it

00:06:33.200 and then i kind of just clapped that basically he was just playing me like it was kind of sad to be

00:06:38.640 fair okay um so the hardest you've simped has made a snapchat yeah okay so we got approaching him in a club

00:06:47.840 and making a snapchat all right now i want to hear the man what's the hardest you've simped for a woman

00:06:54.080 um i made like a whole plan to get someone back once yeah i wrote like a whole note and it was like

00:07:02.320 week by week um but that's why um i don't really with women right now because

00:07:09.360 you lot suck so what so what do you fuck with you that just suck you're a heartbreaker

00:07:15.280 why why do we why do we suck that's a good question is it because we keep driving

00:07:22.720 or voting i think that's the one i think you just stop um no it's just like the the more you give to a

00:07:30.000 woman um the less they want you so yeah um i just do the opposite now and it kind of works okay i

00:07:37.600 disagree very disagree you would say that disagree no you would say that but why would you you lot

00:07:43.920 don't get the psychology because you're you're the woman but why would you think you're you're you're

00:07:48.400 in the uh you're in the vehicle but why would you why would you think it's not a good idea to actually

00:07:53.840 share your shed share share that stuff because because because then women automatically think

00:08:00.000 that you you're too emotional and you're not a man and that's not attractive to women it is it is

00:08:08.000 stop lying i don't know like i like i like a man that i like i like a man that's gonna send flowers

00:08:15.120 you know okay you don't get such a ick that's that's you that's it girls like you

00:08:20.000 all right it might be subconscious is this is this true or false women always like the men that

00:08:25.360 don't like them back yeah that's kind of true that's kind of true thank you but then when they

00:08:32.880 find the i think it's like more of a challenge like in life you kind of want challenges right

00:08:37.040 yeah so when you do get the guy that you like and you've challenged yourself and you he eventually

00:08:41.520 takes note of you then it's like you kind of then want him to soften up so you want to see right

00:08:48.000 can i push yeah and then you like leave a little bit i will never this is the problem

00:08:53.360 this is why nothing lasts anymore well i think we're looking for balance you know there's no

00:08:57.680 balance you guys are both single so you left every guy you've been with

00:09:03.440 so these emotionally available guys where are they sure

00:09:08.640 they got the ick and left that was it i grew up i learned i learned i learned the hard way i mean when i

00:09:14.400 was when i was younger yeah i wanted you know a bit of edge but now i like i want soft life baby

00:09:20.080 do you know what the problem is instagram and social medias there's too many options out there

00:09:24.320 for people i feel like it's a lot of room to be deceived going on like a lot of deception

00:09:30.160 is going on especially when it comes to social media yeah but you have too many options so you're

00:09:35.760 like oh don't worry if that don't work out this next one but that's why girls get the ick so quick

00:09:40.320 but don't you know me don't you have a lot of options me listen i'm just focusing on me

00:09:45.840 i can admit i'm confused well most men don't have a lot of options one out of three men are either

00:09:51.120 virgins or haven't had sex in the past year really yeah i'm gonna i actually i'm gonna get to you but

00:09:56.720 i kind of want to show you guys something you're gonna get to the veggies okay

00:10:20.080 up here

00:10:26.720 all right so i'm gonna show you guys the dating

00:10:36.080 all right so would you guys agree that you want someone in general that makes more money than you

00:10:40.480 in general of course yeah okay would you agree that you want someone taller than you yeah absolutely

00:10:45.280 okay would you agree that you want someone smarter than you yeah yeah in general okay so

00:10:50.320 yeah now the problem is we all do so here's here's the dating market so this is going to be the

00:10:56.880 lines are going to be sex because we're not getting married anymore so this is just sex so

00:11:01.840 you know you know they have sex they have sex they have sex i'm gonna add another

00:11:08.400 yeah so this is this is the dating market because women date across and up hierarchies because we want

00:11:17.120 someone taller stronger so basically we're just all screwing these guys yeah and these

00:11:23.680 guys are virgins so it used to be they might get lucky sometimes they might yeah they might pick like

00:11:34.400 this like this chick might be like all right fine but he'll get her like once and then she's done

00:11:40.240 she's like i'm going back i'm going back because women it's so funny we would rather share um we would

00:11:46.720 rather be the king's concubine rather than the peasant's wife throughout all of time yeah if if a

00:11:53.200 stronger guy came in and we're like try we're like in a tribe we're all together and then you know um

00:11:58.480 my bouncer comes in and kills these guys then boom now we belong to the bouncer you see what i mean

00:12:06.400 yeah because basically like if a guy if a guy like bigger stronger richer whatever came in you you just

00:12:12.560 you were forced to yeah so that's why women were kind of heartless we just leave after no offense

00:12:17.280 but after 19 years you know and and yeah so and the other problem is then can i say something yeah

00:12:24.560 go ahead go ahead when i was with him he was down there oh okay how tall was he he's not that much

00:12:30.400 taller than me i'm quite okay so he was about six foot okay so that's top 15 of men okay okay how much

00:12:38.720 how much how much money did he make i mean we were teenagers so no no no like after the 19 years

00:12:44.960 like roughly after the 90 i mean he he made the most money in between i think i think he i think

00:12:52.000 i make more money than him now okay okay well that's usually when women leave so thank you for i had a

00:12:57.680 suspicion okay so so um how how much money did he make roughly when which one when you were together

00:13:05.280 just give me a rough salary so we started from started from the bottom now here no he still

00:13:09.920 started no he still started here if he was top 15 percent of height okay at least so then how much

00:13:16.400 money did he make what in between oh my god just just you know just say 20 to 25 a year i mean no one

00:13:23.440 wage nothing okay 25 25 grams a year okay okay so a normal so okay but he was still above average in

00:13:30.480 height yeah um he was muscly and okay so he was hot he was a hottie he was all right i made him into

00:13:37.120 a hottie here now we get to the root now we get to the root of this yeah and so uh maybe you're gonna

00:13:43.120 be watching this thinking why is this is what the women like this is what we do we usually go for the

00:13:48.160 hot guys when we're younger yeah and then later we're like oh shit i want to like have a better

00:13:52.800 lifestyle so i'm either gonna make money myself and leave or i'm gonna i'm gonna find a guy that's

00:13:58.960 richer these are trends it's not every chick what about you want to find yourself well so many years

00:14:04.720 with a man you forgot about yourself so this is the problem i'll tell you i'll tell you finding

00:14:10.560 my this is what i found so here's instagram okay that really thinks a little bit as well so here's

00:14:16.480 instagram so the problem with instagram is they make all these chicks over here think they're hotter

00:14:22.320 than they oh trust me so they think so we we have this thing where we just like believe instagram so

00:14:28.720 i've seen the trend of finding yourself it's like these chicks do these tick tocks like leaving their

00:14:33.360 boyfriends and like moving to a new country or something yeah i've seen this and yeah instagram is

00:14:39.520 like yes the streets are super fun and so the women that are married here right and they maybe maybe

00:14:46.240 she snagged this might you know maybe she snagged this guy or this guy she was like all right i can't

00:14:50.720 these guys keep pumping and dumping so i gotta stop here and and so now they get married here right

00:14:57.120 but instagram comes in and basically and convinces her that she can get this guy now or this guy or

00:15:04.320 maybe she starts to make more money then usually thinks she can do better or just make enough money to

00:15:09.680 live without him um and so basically when women don't need men we tend to leave them for whatever

00:15:16.640 reason we just tend to go yep leave them for more money is that awful or is that then i would say it's

00:15:22.240 our fault for leaving yeah as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized

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JustPearlyThings - August 27, 2023

How Far Women Would SEEK for ATTENTION

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