Instagram Model Says The Weirdest Thing EVER!!!!
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Summary
In this episode, we are joined by Shanae, a 25-year-old Londoner who is ready to find a 'real' man. We discuss what it means to be a woman in the modern dating world, what she looks for in a man, and what she wants in a partner.
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Hi guys, my name's Shanae. I'm 25 years old and I'm from London
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So what made you what made you want to come today?
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Um, I'm very much interested like that. We was just speaking briefly about you know
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Dating and it's just hard to find men that are like that want to be men. Mm-hmm
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They want to be the women and I'm so tired of that. So I'm ready to find a man and if he's wealthy
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I got a question. What do you feel like you bring that's unique from other women? Um, I feel like I'm myself
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Wherever I go like I mix with a lot of different who else can you be?
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I mean a lot of I meet a lot of women that like show themselves to be one person and then they go around
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You're authentic. You're genuine. Exactly. I'm genuine. I'm very genuine. I'm open-minded
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You say you want to find a real man, uh, who's it who growing up for you was a real who's who's your male role model?
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So then can I can I can I ask then how do you judge a man then if you cannot name one that you really would admire?
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Okay, so yeah, I don't really that's what i'm saying
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So I think of myself as a free spirit. I don't really judge people. I judge you on how you treat me
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So if you treat me in a that I feel i'm feel comfortable with you
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And I can talk to you have deep conversations about silly things and really deep things
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And we really get along and we click then that works for me
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Well, that's a very low standard to find somebody to impregnate you if you're going to be a wife
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So let's let's raise the bar a little bit. Well, let's say like I like him. We can talk about stuff
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But that's not a high enough standard for a wife because as a wife you're surrendering potentially your entire future economic
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And and marketplace value by being pregnant and risking being a single mom. That's probably not the goal
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So again, uh, tell us tell us about like you kind of
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You know, my dad is okay. It's like did you have a good relationship with him growing up at all?
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Yes, I did. I had a great relationship with my dad. Um, I would say
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He showed me that it's okay to be yourself be yourself 1000% you are perfect how you are
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Make you feel less than you are and if he does then that's not the guy for you
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So why isn't he your mayor role model? Why isn't your dad? He's like that's my role model for a man
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That's a very good question that I cannot answer
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Can we try that because I don't have an answer for it
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Was there some care? I mean if you you can stop it you can stop at any point you can stop at any point was there character issues?
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There was there was so there was like, um, there's the good side and there's always the bad side to people
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So I feel like maybe the dark side wasn't really for me. Um
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I don't I'm I wasn't born in london. I was born in sheffield
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So obviously he's still in sheffield. He's not with my mom. So I feel like
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The kind of separation it made it feel like I had to reach out more as a daughter
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Which I shouldn't have to do. I'm I am a daughter. Um, you're supposed to be my parent
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So I just feel like I want a guy that just like
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Goes the extra mile that just likes to make sure I'm okay
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Like every now and then like I don't need you to be on me like, you know, like so hardcore
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Just show a little bit appreciation that you care. But yeah, he's he's all right. He's all right. He's not bad dads
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So then what do you think you probably have an idea of what guy you want?
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Can you kind of talk about that a little bit like what is the guy that you would possibly consider committing to
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Be like and then I have a follow-up question to that. Yeah, sure
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So I like men that make keep me in my feminine energy
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Like sometimes I feel like I meet men that just make me
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I like I personally like dogs that keep me in my masculine
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I like to be the if I'm a dog I want to be the owner
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It sounds like me saying you know what you need to make me like very masculine, you know, I'm a little gay every now and then
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But if you're the right woman, I'm gonna freaking
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I'm gonna blow your brains out. I'm gonna take care of you and by all means, but that's weird, isn't it?
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But then if you're the right woman, I would be very masculine like doesn't that sound weird to you
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Like if i'm like, hey girl, because if i'm the one then i'm the one. Hey, you're the right woman
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So you believe okay, so for example for example like with the masculine and feminine energy like i'm like
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For a guy if I was to date a guy and he would see me he'd be like, oh, where do you want to go?
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Wait, what do you so you want to do like take a little bit of a charge like oh, so I know this place
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This is a nice place that I like to go to i've heard about it. Would you like to come with me?
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Wouldn't the feminine response to be like wherever you want, baby
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I think that like feminine women like let the guy lead even if like
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I don't think there's like the truth like the most feminine examples that I know
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They're not masculine with certain men. They're just feminine regardless
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Yeah, that's what i'm saying that i'm a bit i'm a bit of a yeah, i'm a bit of an alien
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Because uh, like I said, I just it just wasn't it wasn't
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For me, it just wasn't the time. Did you break it off? Probably
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I think it was a mutual agreement. Like I said, we built a friend. No, we built a friend who started the conversation
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To break it off. Yeah, who started someone? I would i'll be honest. I'll say him
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And I would never want to force someone to be with me who doesn't want to be with me. I'd rather us talk it out
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And well, so why don't you just say he broke up with you?
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Girls do this. I don't know why we say too much
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No, i'm not ashamed like i'm not ashamed. Do you know what I mean?
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I would rather you say something to me than us be some in something that you're not feeling the same way
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I'm feeling we need to both be on the same page. How long were you guys together?
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Two years. Was it exclusive from both ends? Yes. Like you met his parents? Yes, of course. No, we was we was best friends
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And why did he break up with you? I just feel like it was on his side
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He needed to grow more and it just wasn't the right time and for me
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As i will say now, I didn't see it then but now I feel like it was the correct decision. How old is he?
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He's a year older than me. He's 26 gonna be 27 this year. And it was
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How long it was ago? Two so we broke up last year. And is he still a dj slash actor?
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How can one man be two nothings? Exactly period
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Can I ask them my follow-up question is sure okay, so say you meet this guy. Yeah, right
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Then he has the money to provide for you. He's willing to do it
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He's willing to commit he's willing to not cheat. Yeah
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Why do you think he would pick you like what are some things that you would bring into his life
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That would make him pick you because imagine like that guy is probably sought out by a lot of women
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Because most women want the same thing, right? So then why would he pick you?
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Um, I just think i'm really i'm really me and i'm me everywhere. I go
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I feel like you're you everywhere you go you guys have so much in common. This is crazy. Is that why you're so quiet?
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But you know, I just think i'm me like i'm i'm really down to earth like I love long conversations
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Like i'm i'm really a romantic, but you know like that guy that can provide for you
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So he's probably not coming home thinking of having a long conversation with his wife
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Of course not every of course not i'm not talking about everything
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But the stuff you're listing just sounds like stuff that every single girl says on my show
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To me it sounds super vague and it means nothing honestly
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I think she's watching too many romantic comedies. I just yeah
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It's annoying, right? Yeah, I just think for me like what skills do you have that a wife would have?
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Oh, okay. I mean what the basics like cooking clean
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I can how often do you watch children do is that something you do often?
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Um, it's not something I do often, but I do have younger siblings and younger family members
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So when's the last time you watched like a baby like a baby baby? Yeah
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Gosh a while. Okay. Do you find babies annoying? No, okay. I love them. Like i'm such a softy like I love babies