00:36:09.400what women have had the upbringing with 10 siblings and a bunch of entrepreneurs in the family that were actually like the people that have achieved my dad's level of success is like.
02:12:20.220And one of the things I do want to ask is who raised him is because – like, one of the things I said, when you have teens that are struggling in their masculinity without a male role model in the house,
02:12:29.960to teach them how to deal with it, I was quite – I went through the same thing.
02:12:33.940I didn't – obviously, didn't end up on the wrong way of things.
02:13:03.680You need a cat or a dog to take care of people because especially growing up in these inner cities, you grow up in these inner cities, you start to become very vicious.
02:13:10.440Do you feel your dad was very loving even though he had a – he traveled a lot?
02:13:19.740Like, the only thing that – one of the things that I regret, not even regret, is just that he made so many – we were the first generation,
02:13:25.060so he made so many sacrifices because of his job, right?
02:13:27.520And it's just that – and I saw what my mom did as well.
02:13:30.120My mom – all my sisters are business, like, bosses, and they're right, but they're all married, right?
02:14:00.400Yeah, but it's true because the one difference I notice is, like, in Africa, the reason why a lot of kids don't have this same kind of reaction –
02:14:09.700Yeah, it's because from when you're young, if you're in the lower class, if you're born into a lower class, what tends to happen is you start to work from a very young age.
02:14:21.800If you're born into a higher class, you get put into a lot of activities.
02:14:26.100So, either ways, you're busy as a kid.
02:14:28.820You're not sitting around waiting for your dad to come and hug you or your mom to come and do all of that crap.
02:15:15.520And I just, it's only now, Pearl doesn't, Pearl, like, you know, Pearl had, Pearl, I had brothers and sisters, but it's only now I realize how limited time I've had with him.
02:21:52.640I think they like the actual business of being married less than they like the idea of it.
02:21:58.520So it's more of a sort of a box-ticking exercise where it's like, right, I'm 28, right, okay, I better get a ring on it and, you know, do all the stuff.
02:22:08.260And then five, six years later, you know, go south, they get divorced, and that's it.
02:22:12.640I actually forgot one thing I wanted to add for the wife.
02:22:16.220And this is how I do tests, right, to see.
02:22:21.240Now, this is not to say that I am the epitome, right?
02:22:27.500Well, but I am saying I do little tests to, like, kind of see where women's heads are at.
02:22:32.540And how does she respond when you say that she's not the greatest thing since sliced bread?
02:22:39.100Because women are some wives are kind of supposed to have humility.
02:22:44.940So when women are tweeting at me their selfies because I say they're not that hot, I think, well, this woman's married, but it's kind of weird.
02:22:53.560She's tweeting me her, you know, it's a bit.
02:24:54.020It took me to my late 30s to really understand, can I be with this woman?
02:24:58.640And I want to say one more thing to you.
02:24:59.900This is the biggest problem I have with social media.
02:25:03.240The guys in their 20s and 30s, they're so obsessed with, am I fucking, am I fucking, am I getting pussy, am I getting pussy?
02:25:08.500Let me tell you, when I see my daughter's eyes and the way she smiles at me, my heart melts.
02:25:13.280My life is way more important than me just going and fucking a woman.
02:25:16.420First of all, it's about being, when you see the love, you know, your father, he's so happy when you're going to go in a few weeks to see him for his birthday.
02:30:38.760That's the question, I'm like, I think typically, you know, the, the, how do, that's, like, not a really good question, you know what I mean?
02:30:47.320Should he ask you to marry him on the first date?
02:31:36.100I think it's got to be completely individual.
02:31:38.000I think you've got to make an informed decision.
02:31:39.840I think if you do get married, you've got to make sure that you, you know, you vet as much as you can.
02:31:43.660And I'm a little bit skeptical about vetting, because I think it's very hard to know how somebody's going to behave 15, 20 years down the line under pressure.
02:31:50.520But nevertheless, you know, you've obviously got to make sure you're with the right woman.
02:31:54.300And you've got to be prepared to go the hard yards with that.
02:31:57.240But I think if that's, if that's not something that you're feeling in the depths of your soul, if there's guys who are thinking, well, I'm just not sure if that's really what I want to do with my life.
02:32:06.160I think that now in 2023, going into 2024, if you want to remain single, you know, I'm just saying, if you want to remain single, if you want to continue dating, if you want to have a different sort of life, that is perfectly possible.
02:32:18.280Now, I think the whole, Rollo talked about this years ago, the whole lonely old man myth, I think is a myth.
02:33:02.520And the problem with some of these trads and the Matt Walshes of this world and people like that is what they're basically saying is just wife, sub, chick up.
02:33:08.860You know, and it's almost indiscriminate.
02:33:10.620And they don't, and they'll just hand.
02:33:15.740And they just, any sort of objection or any sort of potential problems that you might bring up, they'll hand wave them away and say, yeah, that doesn't matter.
02:33:22.100You know, just find a high-quality woman.
02:33:23.320And I think that's problematic for young women.
02:33:25.140And I think it dismisses, like, female nature.
02:33:28.540And the truth of the matter is, remember, 100 years ago, 85% of women were virgins.
02:34:22.900And I feel that all of you young men are better off being sober, not smoking, not drinking, praying, being married, having a family, being loyal to your wife.
02:34:32.360This is the way of the highest level of fulfillment and happiness in life that I have found.
02:34:37.680I would be dishonest and lying in a fraudulent charlatan to tell you fucking bitches is the best way for the deepest sense of happiness and purpose in your life.
02:34:49.320But Nima, Nima, I think you're conflicting the issues and you're kind of minimizing the point.
02:34:59.400I get what you're saying and what you're saying is true for a man like you.
02:35:02.840But you're forgetting that the average man, which is the majority, is not the man like you.
02:35:08.360The average man doesn't have access to the kind of resources you have, doesn't have, would probably never get access to the kind of respect that women can give to you.
02:35:18.040So no matter how hard he works, no matter how much he wants to be married, if he gets into a marriage, he's more than likely going to be faced with disrespect than respect.
02:35:28.460Do you think that the fact that you've met a woman who is, you know, sounds like an outstanding woman, do you think you were helped in that by the fact that you spent that playboy period of time in New York City?
02:35:38.920You're obviously a very articulate, intelligent, you know, good-looking guy, et cetera, et cetera.
02:35:42.300So you're ticking a lot of boxes here.
02:35:44.140So if there's an average guy who's like 22 and he's reading Matt Walsh tweets and he's like, oh, okay, I'm just going to wife up Sheila from the office, his outcomes may not be as favorable as yours.
02:36:19.060But when I look at my ring, you know, I realize what's most important to me.
02:36:23.440And that's what my grandma, before she passed away, my grandma looked at me in my eyes.
02:36:26.960And she said to me and my wife, a few weeks before she died, she said, be good to each other.
02:36:32.020My grandma didn't raise me to cheat on my wife and be degenerate.
02:36:35.320She raised me to be a man of faith and be a good father and a good husband and be sober, don't drink, don't smoke, be a good man, be a man of honor and integrity and character.
02:36:44.200I would be dishonest if I said, in an awful role model for any young man, if I promoted that sort of degeneracy, this is the problem in our society.
02:36:52.120Many of you don't have loyal fathers, loyal mothers who love each other and lead by example.
02:36:57.080What we do have in society is the shit economy, the world going completely south.
02:37:03.060So you have to think about this kind of fact.
02:37:04.420Because it's not only, do you know what I mean, the relationships we have with one another.
02:37:07.240And I think what you're saying sounds really nice.
02:37:39.500Now, we can get rid of the overweight thing.
02:37:41.700But most men are average earners and will be average earners for a lifetime.
02:37:46.600And the truth of the matter is that none of these podcasters that are the success hustlers, whatever, could do what we do without the average men that build this country.
02:37:56.280And unfortunately, average women do not respect average men.
02:38:00.320How strong would you say, and I ask this respectfully, and you know, I got a lot of love for you.
02:38:37.600No, because I, no, but you know what it is, Pearl?
02:38:39.220As a 43-year-old talking to an educated 26-year-old woman, I think that if more people prayed on a daily basis and they married someone that had also had faith, we would avoid a lot of these.