JustPearlyThings - April 19, 2023


@JWALLER VS Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

233.68834

Word Count

2,143

Sentence Count

218

Misogynist Sentences

17

Hate Speech Sentences

8


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 It's on line of self-improvement for men because men generally recognize, you know, if the guy is sitting there and he's not getting, you know, the dating life he wants, he's not having the relationships he wants, he recognizes, well, okay, I need to do something about this.
00:00:11.520 The onus is on me.
00:00:12.600 And so then, you know, they go to the internet and they find people who are talking about, you know, making money or going to the gym or, you know, all of these different things.
00:00:19.940 It's all about self-improvement.
00:00:21.020 I think there's less of that for women because, I mean, there is some, but there's less of it for women.
00:00:26.620 Plastic surgery.
00:00:27.640 Yeah, plastic surgery.
00:00:28.340 Because women are mainly, you know, there's a sense in the culture that women are enough.
00:00:33.220 You know, we say, well, I'm enough, you know, that gets said very often, doesn't it?
00:00:37.300 And because women are sort of pedestalized in mainstream society, the woman is encouraged to think, oh, I'm a princess anyway.
00:00:43.540 I'm somebody's queen anyway, so I don't need to do anything.
00:00:46.540 And actually, really, what we should all be doing is looking at how we can improve.
00:00:50.400 Word.
00:00:51.000 Because I knew.
00:00:52.080 Go on.
00:00:53.000 Do you want to talk?
00:00:53.420 No, I was just going to say, like, for me, I obviously, I'd love to be married, like, in the future.
00:00:58.160 I don't think, you know, I don't know a girl that wouldn't want to be in a happy marriage and this, like that.
00:01:03.280 But I wasn't raised by, I was raised in a single parent household.
00:01:08.080 Like, my mom raised me and my brother.
00:01:09.600 And she's not married.
00:01:10.880 She never got married to my dad.
00:01:12.120 And I couldn't ask for anything more.
00:01:13.960 Like, I think I have, I took some of the best morals from her and my grandma.
00:01:17.820 Like, really, really strong, influential women in my life.
00:01:21.800 And I would take those things that I learned from them into my future marriage.
00:01:26.620 And then anything added is about learning and picking up from other people that are also influential in your life.
00:01:32.500 You know, whether it be friends, family, who you see on social media, who you see just around.
00:01:36.900 That's what I think.
00:01:38.400 Are you saying you don't think you should seek out married women for advice or you do?
00:01:42.600 I'm just confused.
00:01:43.600 No, no, no.
00:01:44.440 Like, I think it does help.
00:01:46.720 But, like, I'm just saying the process is just about learning.
00:01:51.680 If you haven't had that, you know, you don't know.
00:01:54.200 You know what this sounds like to me, right?
00:01:55.460 It sounds like when you ask a student whether they've done extra reading on the topic and they're like, you know, I saw some TikTok videos and YouTube show.
00:02:03.080 And I think, like, Tim was talking about something in the corridor.
00:02:05.100 I think you have to actively look to understand the divine feminine and the role of a woman and a wife and how that can complement a man.
00:02:14.260 I think it sounds like it's very – it sounds like you're not doing that.
00:02:18.580 If you were to be honest with yourself to say, am I looking out, like, am I seeking out that information and really trying to – I'll tell you how a man does it, right?
00:02:27.200 I've read three or four books on how to engage with women because when I was younger, I couldn't get down texting game.
00:02:33.700 I had me and one of my closest friends in uni.
00:02:35.840 Our whole relationship is based on me learning how to text.
00:02:38.780 I'll text people, get no response, and he would dissect the text and be like, you said too much here.
00:02:44.060 This could have been a simple sentence.
00:02:45.600 It was a compound sentence.
00:02:46.900 You kind of gave the impression that you're asking for permission here.
00:02:49.520 And I eventually figured it out.
00:02:51.020 I read The Art of Seduction.
00:02:52.280 I read Bang Volume 1-2.
00:02:53.820 I read all these books to try and understand women.
00:02:56.160 And I feel like you need to do a similar thing to understand what the man – you want, a high-level man, would want from a woman.
00:03:01.700 Yeah, but the problem is, Alex, when we're sold these books like Why Men Love Bitches to understand men.
00:03:08.120 Or the movie Heech.
00:03:09.600 It's like what quality book is there to understand men?
00:03:13.080 You're being misled.
00:03:14.140 You're being misled.
00:03:14.960 Even Heech.
00:03:15.660 Heech doesn't even make sense.
00:03:16.760 So he's this suave guy.
00:03:17.960 He meets a woman who's, like, got basic levels of confidence, falls in love with her, and then gives up his whole life and stability to chase her.
00:03:23.820 It's a movie about ego.
00:03:25.820 It's what these women, like, these women that baby trap athletes think.
00:03:30.000 They're like, oh, I'm going to change him, and then he's going to, like, drop everything.
00:03:32.340 And that's the real message.
00:03:33.800 It's not saying I had to change.
00:03:35.040 I had to meet him halfway.
00:03:36.560 I had to help him feel safe.
00:03:37.820 That's not what it's saying.
00:03:39.120 It's saying you're so cute that top men will eventually fall for you for no reason because you're good enough.
00:03:44.160 I do still think it is a whole process.
00:03:47.460 Like, I'm, like, the youngest person in this room.
00:03:49.560 I'm 20, you know.
00:03:50.280 I'm not looking to get married next year.
00:03:52.740 Like, the whole thing is just a journey, and it's growth, and it's about personal growth.
00:03:58.180 And, you know.
00:03:58.420 Well, the answer, the answer, no, is okay.
00:04:01.040 Like, if you're here, you could just say no.
00:04:03.160 Yeah, no.
00:04:03.540 I'm not looking to find a married partner like I'm 20, do you know what I mean?
00:04:09.720 But I'm just saying.
00:04:10.900 But it's like you give this, like, word salad instead of just no.
00:04:13.800 Nah, but from someone who hasn't had that growing up, being in a married household, I'm happy with what I got.
00:04:21.080 You know, I can sit and be comfortable with that.
00:04:23.600 When do you want to be married by?
00:04:25.360 I don't know.
00:04:25.860 I don't have a set date.
00:04:27.340 So, 45?
00:04:29.580 Oh, no.
00:04:30.100 Hell no.
00:04:30.500 That's my thing.
00:04:31.040 Okay.
00:04:31.260 So, you do have a rough, okay, so 35?
00:04:34.780 Yeah, I'd say so.
00:04:35.800 I'd say that was right.
00:04:36.000 Okay, so you want to be married by 35?
00:04:37.640 Yeah, I'd say that was right.
00:04:39.160 Well, I'm not putting, like, a...
00:04:41.040 Why?
00:04:41.380 Is that mad?
00:04:42.060 Do you want kids?
00:04:42.840 Because it clearly sounds like there's no women around you who are saying, listen, you're young, you're gorgeous, this is the time you set the foundations for who you want to be.
00:04:49.280 It sounds like they're saying, just chill.
00:04:51.300 Trust me, when women get past a certain age, the pool reduces significantly.
00:04:55.800 No, absolutely not.
00:04:56.920 I disagree with that.
00:04:57.740 But, like, my mom is so, like, you wouldn't cross my mom.
00:05:02.200 Like, she's so strong.
00:05:03.240 I think whether that's to do with her job or just the fact that my grandma was also a single parent, whether that's to do with that or whatever.
00:05:10.660 She is 51.
00:05:12.680 And she has a job?
00:05:13.680 Yeah, she's a lawyer.
00:05:14.120 Then she has failed, as you will.
00:05:16.420 Sorry?
00:05:17.620 Straight up.
00:05:18.640 Your mom's lying to you.
00:05:19.840 You want to get married at 35?
00:05:21.440 No, I never said I'd get married.
00:05:21.740 You're going to put the babies at risk.
00:05:22.920 You want to have children?
00:05:23.940 No, I never said I'd get married at 35.
00:05:25.700 Pearl was giving me an estimate, and she said 45.
00:05:28.320 You said yes.
00:05:29.040 No, she said 45, and I said no, that's too low.
00:05:31.100 And then she said 35, and you said yes, that's about right.
00:05:33.480 Yeah, like, yeah.
00:05:34.340 Yeah, too late.
00:05:35.440 Too late.
00:05:35.880 I'll marry a 20-year-old instead.
00:05:37.640 That's fine.
00:05:38.480 Right.
00:05:38.980 I'm just telling you, like, box wine, cats, that's your life.
00:05:42.820 No, I just, I don't agree.
00:05:44.180 Lip tar.
00:05:44.920 I don't agree.
00:05:45.760 Ask old women.
00:05:46.820 Go to the club.
00:05:48.340 How old is she?
00:05:49.140 How old are you?
00:05:49.820 I'm 37.
00:05:50.680 Are you married?
00:05:51.720 Huh?
00:05:51.860 Are you single?
00:05:53.200 Wouldn't you like to know?
00:05:54.440 Well, I'm just saying, like, as part of the argument.
00:05:55.760 But I'm not the one with the problem that you have.
00:05:56.820 You're not the same, though.
00:05:57.540 You're delusional.
00:05:58.980 And I hate that for you, because you're a pretty girl that's really smart, and I hate
00:06:01.920 that you're saying these things, because you could probably be a hell of a good wife
00:06:05.380 and a good mother.
00:06:06.140 You're not a stupid woman.
00:06:07.480 I think you're misled.
00:06:08.980 It's just sad to see.
00:06:09.720 Have you been married on your 37 years?
00:06:12.040 Have you been married?
00:06:13.000 No.
00:06:13.360 Have you got kids?
00:06:14.880 Listen, let me just say this.
00:06:16.380 I have it all.
00:06:17.560 I got it all.
00:06:19.120 It's not down to personal opinion.
00:06:20.780 No, I got it all.
00:06:21.860 Just trust me.
00:06:22.920 But isn't that down to personal opinion?
00:06:23.880 Are you trying to, like, measure up?
00:06:25.600 No.
00:06:26.260 No.
00:06:26.460 Because it's like a...
00:06:27.060 No.
00:06:27.340 No.
00:06:27.520 He's offensive with her, you know, so don't wait.
00:06:29.500 No, I'm not looking to be...
00:06:30.320 No.
00:06:30.340 Because she can feel offensive.
00:06:30.880 I'm almost stressing to you.
00:06:32.740 Like, I don't want to be mean to you.
00:06:34.000 I'm almost stressing to you that this is...
00:06:35.680 Like, it's the wrong path.
00:06:37.780 Like, waiting that lake.
00:06:38.780 Who are you to tell me that it's the wrong path?
00:06:40.000 Because why is your path right?
00:06:41.440 Have you got your life together?
00:06:42.640 But why is your path right?
00:06:43.980 That's funny that a sex worker is going to...
00:06:46.340 Well...
00:06:46.900 Listen here, lady.
00:06:47.880 Look.
00:06:48.160 No, my dear.
00:06:48.560 Yeah, I have my life completely together.
00:06:50.220 There's nothing in my life I would change in any way.
00:06:52.280 So why are you being angry?
00:06:53.520 I'm not the single one on the couch.
00:06:54.020 Why are you being angry now?
00:06:56.060 Because I'm trying to...
00:06:56.720 Because you're angry.
00:06:57.780 This is not true.
00:06:58.220 Because you're angry about your life, my dear.
00:07:00.020 Okay.
00:07:00.740 No, I'm not trying to...
00:07:01.920 Do you...
00:07:02.220 Okay, I have a question.
00:07:03.420 Do you think...
00:07:03.980 What?
00:07:04.360 Did you just say?
00:07:05.500 Quit.
00:07:06.080 So listen.
00:07:07.020 No, I just want to know, like...
00:07:08.300 No, I really...
00:07:09.260 Because I don't want to be mean to you or anybody, and I apologize if I have.
00:07:12.020 I just simply think that waiting until 35 to get married and finding yourself and sleeping
00:07:16.880 with a bunch of people is going to be bad.
00:07:18.540 No, no one said we were waiting to 35.
00:07:20.280 You literally just said that.
00:07:21.620 Like, what is so right about your path that makes mine wrong?
00:07:25.160 No, it's not me comparing myself to you.
00:07:27.200 It's just me saying, damn, that's going to not be good.
00:07:30.920 Because I see it all the time.
00:07:32.380 It's not because I'm not trying to pick on you.
00:07:34.380 I just see these girls.
00:07:35.540 They're on Instagram.
00:07:36.260 They got their boobs out, and they're doing all this stuff.
00:07:38.240 And you're liking them as well at the same time.
00:07:40.520 Look at that.
00:07:41.020 That's the relevant.
00:07:41.740 Because you're a man, right?
00:07:42.820 That's something we've deemed, right?
00:07:44.360 That's the man's thing.
00:07:45.540 What does that matter?
00:07:46.180 What does that matter with what he's saying?
00:07:47.800 Well, he shouldn't be talking like that.
00:07:50.260 Is what he's saying true or not?
00:07:52.540 It can be true, but it can be not.
00:07:54.300 You guys, just listen.
00:07:55.980 Like, listen to what he's saying.
00:07:57.760 He actually, he actually, he, I promise you.
00:08:00.760 And I've agreed with almost half of the stuff he's been saying.
00:08:03.760 But I'm saying, just listen.
00:08:05.340 Before you get triggered, listen.
00:08:07.060 I'm just simply saying that, likely, you're going to want to have kids in a family long before
00:08:12.320 35.
00:08:13.020 That's all I'm saying.
00:08:14.160 For sure.
00:08:14.620 That's what I'm saying.
00:08:15.400 And in addition, and I don't mean to cut you off.
00:08:17.300 I'm sorry.
00:08:18.200 You're going to want a real man.
00:08:19.360 Not a man that's going to come home and cry to you.
00:08:20.760 Not a man that you have to mother.
00:08:22.040 That would just make you a broken bird.
00:08:23.740 You want a guy that you can look up to.
00:08:25.780 And you want to be the, like, the leader in your relationship.
00:08:28.680 Yeah, absolutely.
00:08:29.400 But I'm just saying, like, I wasn't saying, yes, 35 is when I will be married.
00:08:33.380 No, but then the suggestion of, like, well, I'm not going to learn any of these skills
00:08:37.920 because I'm only 20.
00:08:38.940 I think the general point is, like, if you go to other countries, if, you know, Ukraine
00:08:42.400 before the current war and, you know, Russia, I mean, there are women that are getting married
00:08:46.220 at, like, 22, 23.
00:08:47.360 Oh, yeah.
00:08:47.760 No.
00:08:47.900 You know, societally here, we've got this different idea about it, you know, but it's
00:08:52.420 not, it's not worldwide.
00:08:53.500 Yeah.
00:08:53.680 Okay.
00:08:53.840 So, you know, I was just banned on TikTok and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this
00:09:00.920 platform.
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