JustPearlyThings - March 27, 2023


Man Exposes The Truth About Modern Marriage


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11 minutes

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202.44165

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2,316

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224


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00:00:00.000 But that's another reason, another reason I'm not keen to go into it, because for guys, it's a bit of a bad deal because, you know, the women are very keen to get married.
00:00:08.380 You know, women will try to push the agenda of like, oh, you know, where are we?
00:00:12.940 Are we going to get engaged? Are we moving in together? Are we going to get married?
00:00:15.840 But then they get fed up, you know, 10, 15 years down the line and they initiate a divorce and then the guy's screwed.
00:00:22.080 So. But why is she fed up? Why is she fed up?
00:00:24.680 Well, I think, I mean, there's going to be many different reasons for that and we could go into lots of different examples.
00:00:30.880 But I think a lot of it is that they lose the, you know, the butterflies go and it's inevitably going to go over a longer period of time because we all know you have that honeymoon period.
00:00:40.540 And then, you know, it gets, yeah, then it gets a bit boring.
00:00:43.980 And the problem with that is that if you're then putting that into a legal contract where one of the parties can just say, I'll sod that and walk out, that's a dangerous ground.
00:00:52.100 I don't know, like, I've got, I don't know, like, I've just got a thought.
00:00:56.060 Like, obviously you said women leave in a marriage, of course, which I understand.
00:01:03.700 But I'm 21, like, I know I'm still young, but I feel like there's a specific time period to have kids and to marry and settle down.
00:01:14.200 And I feel like, I don't know, like, there's a lot of pressure because if I put myself in a guy's perspective or shoes, like, I'm not bearing a child and that changes your body.
00:01:27.340 It does.
00:01:27.760 It changes your body.
00:01:28.640 Of course, we have the biological clock.
00:01:30.820 Yeah.
00:01:31.160 We're all aware of it as women.
00:01:32.980 So, yeah, it's harder for us, I think.
00:01:35.340 That's probably why we want to lock it down so quickly.
00:01:37.760 And, like, with women leaving, again, this is such a broad subject, so I'm not on about just cheating, by the way.
00:01:46.760 But, yeah, one-off, it's, like, I get and understand why men do, like, cheat and leave and go for younger women.
00:01:56.940 Well, one out of, it's actually not.
00:01:58.720 It's such a broad thing, though.
00:02:00.420 Well, men don't typically leave for younger women.
00:02:02.760 They don't even leave most of the time.
00:02:03.420 No, they're just going to cheat and stay.
00:02:05.320 They want to cheat and stay.
00:02:06.140 I mean, but women cheat in their own way.
00:02:08.220 I mean, I think, personally, I think that sex is to men as attention is to women.
00:02:14.540 So, I think women need attention, like, men need sex.
00:02:17.640 But women are never expected to close off their social media.
00:02:21.360 Yeah.
00:02:22.160 But men are expected to stop having sex with other girls.
00:02:24.560 How is that fair?
00:02:25.720 But women can post ass pics on their Instagram.
00:02:29.420 Sorry.
00:02:30.060 That's a lot of ass pics.
00:02:31.420 But, you know, nobody can touch it.
00:02:33.060 What?
00:02:33.440 Nobody can touch it.
00:02:34.660 Yeah, but it's like advertising.
00:02:36.200 I mean, I was even looking at, I was, okay, this is, can we pull up, can we pull up Hailey Bieber's Instagram?
00:02:42.160 Can you imagine?
00:02:43.580 Okay.
00:02:44.300 Team Selena, by the way.
00:02:45.740 Team Selena.
00:02:46.540 Team Selena, too.
00:02:47.840 Okay, I don't know shit about the Selena, Hailey, whatever.
00:02:50.660 I don't care.
00:02:51.640 What I was looking at was her Instagram.
00:02:53.460 I was like, she's married to a world famous pop star.
00:02:56.280 Yeah.
00:02:56.800 And I know she's a model, right?
00:02:58.460 But he's a world, but he's got groupies.
00:03:01.480 Yeah, and he's also very religious apparently, so I don't know what's going on there.
00:03:06.280 And so it's like you're married to a world famous pop star and you still got, look at, look at the booty one.
00:03:14.060 Look at it.
00:03:14.720 Yeah.
00:03:15.160 Look at that.
00:03:15.800 Yeah.
00:03:16.180 Okay.
00:03:17.240 And the funny thing is, he comments on it as well, so it's bizarre.
00:03:20.680 As long as he's okay with it.
00:03:22.120 He's like, oh my God.
00:03:23.500 Yeah, but would she be okay with it if he was to be commenting under somebody else's post?
00:03:28.800 No.
00:03:29.040 Would she be okay with it?
00:03:29.900 I doubt it.
00:03:30.200 I think it works one of two ways.
00:03:32.420 Like you can't take one side just because one's a female and then not back the other side.
00:03:38.380 Like pick your own battles all the same, but don't come at the man for cheating if she's
00:03:45.740 going to put it out there as if she's going to cheat as well.
00:03:48.160 Well, interesting that you say that.
00:03:49.840 Well, I just think of it as like, like mating strategies.
00:03:52.060 Like women want to get attention from high status men.
00:03:54.260 That's Instagram.
00:03:55.720 Yeah.
00:03:56.240 Where men want to screw as many people as possible.
00:03:58.880 So like how many, I don't know anyone that got married and closed their Instagram.
00:04:02.400 I don't know anyone that did it.
00:04:03.560 Like my age anyway.
00:04:05.060 Actually, I told you about it.
00:04:06.860 So, yeah.
00:04:07.380 So I'm saying modern women are shitty wives.
00:04:09.000 Why would you close your Instagram?
00:04:10.340 I don't understand that.
00:04:11.480 Because it's advertised.
00:04:12.640 You know.
00:04:12.800 I was having more.
00:04:14.140 You're booty.
00:04:15.380 Pull up, pull up, pull up.
00:04:16.640 Did you just say that?
00:04:17.900 I don't get that.
00:04:18.900 Pull up, pull this up.
00:04:20.800 I mean, I think it really depends.
00:04:22.580 You can't tell me that's not advertising.
00:04:25.020 I mean, she is a model.
00:04:26.220 I mean, yeah, she's a model.
00:04:27.220 That's her job.
00:04:28.180 Like, you know what?
00:04:29.140 You could argue Justin Bieber's job is to screw groupies on tour.
00:04:33.040 Yeah, but he's a singer.
00:04:34.280 That's different.
00:04:35.660 He's not a model.
00:04:36.960 What?
00:04:37.660 It's different.
00:04:38.360 He's not a model, right?
00:04:40.240 So.
00:04:40.820 I do get what you're saying though.
00:04:42.000 He's a world famous pop star.
00:04:43.760 Yeah, but still, he's a singer.
00:04:44.900 What do world famous pop stars do?
00:04:46.820 They screw groupies on the tour, bro.
00:04:49.060 This is a tale as old as time.
00:04:50.920 That's fair.
00:04:51.460 I mean, I do agree.
00:04:53.460 It's part of the job.
00:04:53.900 Yeah, it is.
00:04:55.800 What does Chris Brown do on stage?
00:04:57.640 Come on.
00:04:58.100 No.
00:04:58.640 Come on.
00:04:59.800 Is that his job?
00:05:01.540 Yeah.
00:05:01.900 Yeah.
00:05:02.700 And you know, you can just tell.
00:05:04.200 She would have none of that if he was doing that.
00:05:06.120 Yeah.
00:05:06.940 But it's like, we're in this society where men aren't told they can do that.
00:05:09.920 They're controlling if they tell a girl to close her Instagram.
00:05:12.500 But women immediately want you to stop sleeping with other girls.
00:05:15.320 Go ahead.
00:05:15.440 And you can tell, like, I know so many people in relationships who have told people, unfollow
00:05:20.160 her.
00:05:20.680 Stop liking her photos.
00:05:21.920 Oh, yeah.
00:05:21.960 I know.
00:05:22.300 Get rid of her.
00:05:23.240 If you do it to a man, or if you're in a relationship with another girl and you tell
00:05:27.020 her not to do that, you're the bad person.
00:05:29.420 Well, you've got to be a bit careful.
00:05:30.180 You have to, it goes one or two, like, you have to look at it.
00:05:33.720 See, I think that's a standard respect thing.
00:05:36.280 You've got to be careful now, though.
00:05:37.460 It is, but if you're going to do it one way and not accept it backwards.
00:05:41.540 Yeah, but there's different.
00:05:42.440 Hold on, hold on.
00:05:43.380 This might be controversial, but I feel like there are different reasons and there's people
00:05:49.420 with different circumstances.
00:05:50.720 For example, if you was dating someone and she was, for example, like a content creator
00:05:56.180 or something, and she was in, you know, Instagram engagement groups, so if she was in an engagement
00:06:02.200 group, in an engagement group, there are rules.
00:06:04.140 You have to like everyone's photo to help each other with the algorithm, right?
00:06:08.220 So would you then turn around to your girlfriend and say to her, I don't want you liking pictures
00:06:12.760 of other girls?
00:06:13.360 But the standard person isn't on its, like, I'm not famous on Instagram, I don't have
00:06:18.040 to do any of that.
00:06:19.120 But would a good wife argue with him when he asks that and say, well, but my Instagram group,
00:06:23.760 or would she just say, okay, whatever you say, honey?
00:06:26.180 Yeah, in a really traditional setup, she would give it up, probably.
00:06:30.720 You know, she would just say, listen.
00:06:31.680 If she's making six figures.
00:06:33.500 Well, regardless of, no, regardless of if he's making six figures, she should be like,
00:06:37.880 listen, you know, we're married now.
00:06:39.560 That is the, I've made this commitment in the eyes of the Lord.
00:06:42.660 That's the commitment, exactly.
00:06:43.980 And in the eyes of God.
00:06:45.240 So that's more important to me than having an Instagram account.
00:06:48.160 You know, that's what she would have said in the back of the day.
00:06:50.360 Okay, so I have a question.
00:06:51.480 Why does he have to be making six figures to be listened to?
00:06:54.340 So, and do you have the same energy?
00:06:55.960 If a woman's mid, does she, if she's average looking, does she not, is she not able to
00:07:00.060 ask for loyalty?
00:07:02.540 That's a good question.
00:07:04.020 Like, you know, she's average looking.
00:07:05.300 So why, why does she get to ask for that?
00:07:06.860 I don't know.
00:07:10.200 I don't, I don't really know how to answer that because I just feel like women do definitely
00:07:16.000 look at men's financial status and we can sit here and argue about that all the time.
00:07:22.560 But at the end of the day, there is survival and women will always try to go with someone
00:07:28.220 above her level or at least on her level.
00:07:31.360 She will never go low.
00:07:33.520 So you said six figures.
00:07:34.960 That's 10% of men.
00:07:38.540 No, I know.
00:07:39.200 I was just trying to be funny there, but like, um, no, but I'm just saying like, realistically,
00:07:45.260 she will always go above or on the same level.
00:07:48.400 So she's never going to go low.
00:07:50.380 So financial status does get looked at.
00:07:53.060 And that is actually how men earn respect from women.
00:07:56.980 I feel like it's one of the ways that if you want to earn respect from a woman, you need
00:08:01.860 to do that.
00:08:02.620 You need to be able to provide.
00:08:04.080 Yeah.
00:08:04.680 No bro keys.
00:08:06.300 I'm being real.
00:08:07.120 I'm being absolutely real.
00:08:08.700 You know, I'm not going to sugarcoat it.
00:08:10.940 You do need to be working hard.
00:08:12.680 How much does he have to make?
00:08:13.820 What about an average guy?
00:08:16.020 I don't know.
00:08:16.780 I don't know what the average salary here is.
00:08:18.380 What is it like?
00:08:18.960 40, 30?
00:08:20.060 Depends on your age.
00:08:21.100 So like 25 year olds can be earning like 35,000.
00:08:25.800 All right.
00:08:26.580 Which in London isn't going to be very much in the standards of earning six figures.
00:08:32.340 And then it's on, it's unfair to expect that off someone.
00:08:35.540 You've got the average, you've got the average UK wage though, which is probably like, it's
00:08:38.840 going to be weighted higher in London.
00:08:40.160 Yeah.
00:08:40.320 Well, yeah, because you've got extremities.
00:08:42.560 You've got, you know, if you're looking at the mean, it's going to be taking both the.
00:08:46.340 I mean, does the man expect us to be top 10, 20, 30% of beauty?
00:08:50.580 No, but why should they not if we're expecting them to be in the higher range?
00:08:55.040 I think they do want that.
00:08:56.740 They might want it, but they're not, they're not going to hold out for it because most guys
00:08:59.940 are quite thirsty.
00:09:00.800 Do you know what I mean?
00:09:01.440 We were talking about this the other night.
00:09:03.680 Most guys are quite thirsty.
00:09:04.680 I love how you said that as well.
00:09:06.340 They're going to take, they're going to take what they could get, you know?
00:09:08.680 Oh, oh.
00:09:09.980 I mean, that's a good point.
00:09:11.800 It's a good point.
00:09:12.660 Have you heard the husband store analogy?
00:09:15.120 No.
00:09:15.440 Oh, there's like, I hope I say this right.
00:09:17.640 There's like a husband store analogy in the manosphere.
00:09:20.420 Okay.
00:09:20.920 And basically every, every store or every floor is a different set of husbands.
00:09:27.020 Okay.
00:09:27.720 And you go up a floor and then the only rule is you can't go back down.
00:09:32.000 So there's five floors total and you can go up, but you can't go down.
00:09:35.060 So the first floor is guys that love kids and are, and are loyal to you.
00:09:41.680 Oh, sweet.
00:09:42.440 And so the women go to the first floor.
00:09:44.360 So they go to the first floor and they say, you know what?
00:09:48.220 I want more.
00:09:49.040 I want to, I want to go up.
00:09:50.240 So they go to the second floor and then they find the shitty one.
00:09:53.440 No, no, no, no.
00:09:54.500 It gets better.
00:09:55.220 It gets better.
00:09:55.720 So these guys love kids.
00:09:57.100 They're loyal and they're hot.
00:09:59.420 Oh, they're sexy.
00:10:01.140 Yeah.
00:10:01.920 So, but they're like, well, what's on the next floor?
00:10:06.900 Okay.
00:10:07.540 Then they go.
00:10:08.320 They're just curious.
00:10:09.380 Yeah.
00:10:09.580 Yeah.
00:10:09.860 So they go, what's, what's, what's next?
00:10:11.520 Curiosity comes out.
00:10:12.200 And they say, they say, they say, okay, the next floor, these guys are hot.
00:10:16.220 They make 70,000 a year.
00:10:18.620 They love kids and they're loyal.
00:10:21.300 But she's on the third floor.
00:10:22.820 And then she's like, well, what's, what's on the next floor?
00:10:26.280 And so then she goes next.
00:10:29.400 They make six figures.
00:10:32.080 Love kids, loyal, everything.
00:10:34.880 But she wants to go to the fifth floor and on the fifth floor, unfaithful, all the husbands
00:10:40.680 are sold out.
00:10:43.240 And there's dogs because die alone.
00:10:47.640 So, so, so that, to make it fair, they did a wife score, a wife store, right?
00:10:53.200 So on the first floor, there was women, good sex, loyal, sixes.
00:11:00.080 And they never found out what was on the second floor.
00:11:04.520 That's what they did.
00:11:06.400 And all of them grabbed their girl and they're like, good enough.
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