JustPearlyThings - July 15, 2023


Men Are Forced To Accept This RAW DEAL


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7 minutes

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162.93236

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1,275

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00:00:00.000 i was scrolling through my timeline also on twitter sorry guys i've been tweeting a lot
00:00:04.720 you better follow my twitter pearly things with a z and i found this picture of a girl
00:00:10.400 that was a before and after of when she met her husband to now hold up hold the picture
00:00:18.000 all right so that was her when she met her husband pull it up what would you rate her one to ten
00:00:24.480 the girl he thought he'd be with forever seven years and two kids all right this is too much
00:00:33.520 fat for two kids if you're gonna get this fat you should at least give him five okay like my mom
00:00:43.280 did not gain this much weight and she gave birth to seven children seven and you're getting this fat
00:00:51.920 with two kids really now my question to you guys is this a fair deal for men
00:00:59.280 why do men have to love us when we change physically and completely look they expect us to get a little
00:01:06.880 wrinkly you're telling me the men will accept you being a not virgin they'll accept you not really
00:01:15.440 having any domestic skills like they have been accepting a lot from us all they ask is please
00:01:23.760 don't get that please and this is what we do it's like ladies ladies i i don't understand like it's one
00:01:35.840 thing if he bought you at that size like if he married you and that's how fat you were okay that's
00:01:41.680 what he signed up this is what he signed up for on the left and on the right this is what he got now
00:01:48.960 seriously is this a fair deal for men i think this should you know i want to ban divorce however i do
00:01:55.840 think there may be some exceptions maybe maybe if you get over a certain weight your husband can divorce you
00:02:03.360 and no the men can get fat the women can't yes ladies double standards because we are supposed to
00:02:12.960 be the beautiful ones we are supposed to be the good looking ones that is not men's job but yet
00:02:20.160 women the first gut reaction well what if he gets fat what if he gets obese no the equivalent would be
00:02:26.800 what if he goes broke and stops working and refuses to work i don't say men just leave your
00:02:32.800 wives immediately but it's like if a woman refuses to lose weight what is a man supposed to do
00:02:40.640 anyway so the next the next the next clip um so this was overweight therapy in the 1970s
00:02:51.520 so as you've seen the body positivity movement has been going forward it's been doing really well
00:03:00.160 all these women have been saying i'm beautiful at any size and i wonder what was it like in the 70s roll
00:03:07.680 the clip overweight people tend to be dishonest inconsistent and irresponsible how often have we
00:03:16.000 said or heard people say i don't know why i can't lose weight i hardly eat a thing or i was nervous and
00:03:23.440 upset i just couldn't help myself all kinds of alibis and excuses our sessions together tend to debunk
00:03:32.320 these excuses and instead focus on behavioral consistency control and commitment with an emphasis
00:03:39.760 on action okay what are you going to try um you've heard a lot of people talking about state where you
00:03:45.120 going to try all right well i'm going to go on the quick weight loss diet and you know that's where
00:03:50.080 you eat water that's what i'll do i think you've been sitting around karen waiting for something to
00:03:54.480 happen to you that'll never happen you've got to make it happen yeah losing weights work i mean
00:03:59.920 it's not easy the only way you can do it just you can't don't even get exercise i mean it just
00:04:04.160 doesn't oh i want to lose weight it just won't come off that way you just can't lose weight by not
00:04:10.080 doing anything it's hard we had a turkey dinner for our family on um on saturday and then i went out
00:04:17.840 to the a movie and i just forgot that whole day that i was on a diet i just put it right out of my
00:04:23.360 mind i know because what we're doing is is an occupation not just a hobby it is this is a whole
00:04:28.720 way of life that we're building for ourselves at times i felt like well why do i have to lose weight
00:04:34.880 you know people people look at me but it doesn't really bother them so why should it bother me that
00:04:42.400 i have to have a motivation this is part of our commitment action approach to weight control
00:04:47.680 the girls meet weekly in therapy sessions where behavioral change is emphasized
00:04:53.440 you see the difference now that's my question like what is kinder is it kind to just let these
00:05:00.320 chicks live in delusion they're dishonest they're dishonest people it's so true because that's what
00:05:09.520 they'll do they'll be like oh oh i just can't lose weight i can't i don't even eat that much it's like
00:05:17.760 well if you didn't eat that much you wouldn't be fat like i don't and this is the thing guys look
00:05:24.240 you know i'm addicted to my sugar coffee all right and it's a choice and i just cannot stand living in
00:05:34.000 delusion that is my biggest pet if fat people want to be fat i wish they would do it like not in front of
00:05:40.560 me right i mean but it's like they can live their life whatever but what i can't stand is pretending
00:05:50.160 they're not fat and saying that they don't eat a lot and acting like they can't lose weight when it's
00:05:57.680 really just a choice so that was in the 70s let's see how this has progressed today what is what is it
00:06:04.720 like now the only reason people admire bodybuilders and not obese people who have built their body with
00:06:11.840 eating huge amounts of food is because there's prejudice against fat people so bodybuilding could
00:06:16.800 benefit from including the non-competitive display of fat bodies alongside muscular ones that paper
00:06:22.960 just has an awful lot of silliness in it and i take that one quite personally because i don't
00:06:27.680 precisely have thin privilege myself for people who are trying to lose weight or trying to get healthy
00:06:33.120 this kind of activism going on in the background preventing them getting the right advice and the
00:06:38.160 right medical treatment is is i think it's going to be much more of a problem than is currently
00:06:42.480 recognized fat studies is one of the smaller and newer fields that is is really quite worrying
00:06:48.800 because it explicitly rejects that obesity is unhealthy and it puts pressure on medical authorities
00:06:55.120 not to advise people to lose weight a privilege is something that's like it sounds like something
00:07:00.720 just given to you but it's earned and this is the thing like the women are fatter today and they're
00:07:07.040 more delusional like one of the chicks in that fat acceptance group like she wasn't even big by
00:07:12.480 today's standards but back then they're like she's got a little gut we gotta send her to fat camp
00:07:18.800 immediately imagine i was thinking about this imagine if we could get like a pool of money that paid women
00:07:26.640 like a fat foundation that would pay women to lose weight i genuinely think i may start this okay because i i
00:07:36.400 think a lot of guys would donate to this group where they literally paid us to stop being fat i was like
00:07:47.520 solutions people