JustPearlyThings - October 25, 2023


Modern Wives GO BROKE For Beauty


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

174.7866

Word Count

1,447

Sentence Count

85


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 This weekend I spent a lot of time thinking about what true femininity is and I thought about how
00:00:06.020 you have these women that sell femininity courses and they typically have on a lot of makeup and
00:00:12.160 maybe they sell courses on makeup, getting your nails done and looking elegant and really there's
00:00:18.940 nothing wrong with that. Image matters, image is important but a lot of times I'll meet these women
00:00:23.920 and there's not an ounce of femininity in their body and I was trying to understand like why are
00:00:29.060 these women not feminine. I can see that they're not feminine but I can't exactly explain to you why
00:00:34.500 and I thought about how one of the most feminine women I have ever met in my life really she didn't
00:00:41.240 have the latest fashion trends and she was overweight. She wasn't what these women sell and I thought to
00:00:48.140 myself what makes her selfless and the conclusion I came to was when you think about our great
00:00:55.440 grandmothers and our grandmothers they didn't care about the latest fashion trends. They didn't
00:01:00.940 care about being all polished and proper. What was most important to them was the men in their lives.
00:01:07.880 True and this is what I tweeted, true femininity is actually women serving men. It has nothing to do
00:01:14.300 with clothes, fashion or having your nails done. If you go get your nails done they are serving you
00:01:20.940 therefore it is not feminine. And my thought process was is all of these girls that are really
00:01:26.720 into fashion typically live very selfish lives and the things they do are typically for them and
00:01:34.140 therefore it makes them unfeminine. So J.O. responded to this and he said femininity doesn't expand it
00:01:41.280 enhances masculinity. So then I had another tweet. This made some people mad. I said I heard married wives
00:01:49.180 and mothers are getting Botox. Why? He already married you. What more do you need? Spend that
00:01:55.260 money on your children. And I thought about the women that invest a lot into their looks. Again it's not
00:02:00.960 feminine. It's one thing if you are investing into your looks for the man in your life. But men have
00:02:07.460 overwhelmingly said we do not want this. We do not want Botox. We do not want fake hair extensions.
00:02:15.600 We do not want a ton of makeup. No, no, no. We do not want this. And it really just leads me to the
00:02:23.120 conclusion that really most of these wives that are spending all of this money on their appearance
00:02:29.960 are doing it for the external validation rather than their husband's validation. Therefore making it
00:02:38.160 not feminine. Women that are getting work done if you polled their husbands. What percent of them would
00:02:44.320 say yes? I am so happy my wife is putting in injections into her face. The mother of my children.
00:02:52.240 Yes, I am so happy that the mother of my children is tattooing eyeliner. Yes, I am so excited that the
00:03:01.040 mother of my children spends two hours every day on her makeup. Do men really want this? And the common
00:03:09.120 argument that I hear is yes men want it but they don't know that they want it. And what that tells
00:03:14.960 me is I get more attention from men when I do these things. And my question is if you're married
00:03:22.720 why do you need attention and validation from the outside world? Why is your husband's opinion not the
00:03:29.040 most important? It really if you want to belong to a guy the question is what is he like when I wear it?
00:03:35.440 What does he want me to do? And most men look at all of this stuff as an expense. And and I expanded
00:03:42.400 on this in my tweet. I said the wives and mothers that are wasting all of this money on Botox nails
00:03:47.840 fashion are telling on themselves. It shows their priority themselves their looks attention from men
00:03:54.720 and not what ding ding ding their family. And we have to talk about ideals on this show when we talk to
00:04:00.240 women that are actually the ideals that really are the most selfless feminine women that you have met.
00:04:06.720 Are they typically women that are worried about the latest fashion trends? They are typically worried
00:04:11.680 about their children and typically they don't want to spend money on themselves they want to spend money
00:04:17.840 on the children. That is a true feminine women. A woman that puts the family above herself. And what we
00:04:24.640 have now is a bunch of Kim Kardashian wives that are playing pretend. It's me me me me me. My career
00:04:31.360 what I want and it doesn't matter what my husband wants and the kids want. And we saw this when Kim
00:04:37.040 Kardashian and Kanye were married. And Kanye repeatedly told Kim that he didn't want her wearing certain
00:04:42.720 types of outfits. And her response is that well I was like this when you married me. And while that is a
00:04:48.720 valid point my question is are we all going to be exactly the same all through marriage? And isn't
00:04:54.320 it your job as a wife to submit to your husband's authority even when he changes directions? And again
00:05:01.280 it shows the problem with the modern wives. It's a lack of control. They need to be in control of
00:05:05.920 everything. Everything needs to be the same from the day we get married till the day we die. Otherwise I
00:05:11.520 have been deceived. Now I got a response from Free Ashley. She says women need to work on their appearance
00:05:17.680 through marriage so their husbands remain attracted to them physically. Also women spend too much money
00:05:23.040 worrying about their appearance after they are married. Pick one you can't have both. Yes I can
00:05:28.320 and I'm going to tell you how I can. When I say worry about your appearance focusing on fitness and
00:05:34.560 being healthy will actually put you in the top 25 percent of women because 70 percent of women are
00:05:40.400 overweight in the United States. So you actually can't have both. You can focus on your appearance
00:05:46.480 wanting to look good for your husband without spending hundreds of dollars a month on face
00:05:51.520 creams, moisturizers, heavy makeup, and Botox. We don't need this. And typically women that are
00:05:59.680 heavily invested in their looks are not happy with the option they have. They simply want a better one.
00:06:05.040 I asked my producers to give me an example of a woman in the media that has done a ton of work over
00:06:09.920 time. Do you see on the left how she almost has this like feminine essence of her? And it's interesting
00:06:16.960 because even when women age and they get older but they don't get work done, there's something more
00:06:22.080 pure about the way they look. There's something more feminine. And then on the right it's almost like
00:06:27.200 an older woman trying to cosplay as a younger woman. And we can all see it. Maybe it's more visually
00:06:33.120 attractive slightly. But there's a difference between attraction and beauty. And there's something
00:06:39.120 about a woman that has gotten very little work done that just ages, I don't want to say better,
00:06:44.480 but more gracefully over time. And you start to see these women that are too invested in their looks.
00:06:51.280 And I think a lot of women have been lied to. And they end up at 50 just looking kind of nutty,
00:06:56.720 looking kind of crazy because eventually the Botox starts to fade. And then when you think about it,
00:07:04.080 how much money did you spend on yourself that you could have really spent on your family? So
00:07:09.760 Monica Crowley, a prominent conservative political commentator and talk show host,
00:07:14.320 has been a fixture in the American media for decades with a career that spans on
00:07:17.920 radio, television, and various political roles. She's gained recognition for her sharp
00:07:22.560 intellect and articulate communication. However, over the years, the topic of Monica Crowley's
00:07:27.440 appearance has become a subject of speculation leading to rumors of plastic surgery. I think it's
00:07:32.320 pretty obvious this chick has said plastic surgery. But it's almost like they switch their faces switch
00:07:39.280 from beauty to I don't even know what to call it like fake sexy. And it's sad because it's like God
00:07:47.680 gives us this natural beauty and we continue to manipulate what God has given us. I would argue
00:07:55.200 this is a telltale sign of a lack of femininity. Most women that have had heavy work done that are ultra
00:08:00.960 focused on their appearance are not overly feminine because they are focused on themselves and not their
00:08:07.200 husbands in general.