JustPearlyThings - July 11, 2023


Modern Woman Admitted to What She DID


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00:00:00.000 coming up next did you did you express that to him like we are not going anywhere past a friendship
00:00:05.520 yeah we can go out and eat no i didn't but so what so so basically you let him believe that okay boom
00:00:12.360 there's a opportunity there's a chance but in your head you know there is no chance bro like you're
00:00:17.460 not going anywhere with me yeah yeah i didn't so basically you used him yeah i did oh can i ask
00:00:22.680 your question did you see that guy ever again after that um no wait wait wait wait wait no
00:00:29.840 no no let me learn i did i don't want to bait out how i saw this how i saw him but he basically
00:00:36.160 came and gave me like a birthday present after that but i never saw him so basically he bought
00:00:42.260 you food you drank it you went home no kiss no hug no nothing or maybe the church hug did he get a
00:00:49.160 side hug i don't even remember i don't even remember that's how that's how memorable it was
00:00:55.580 i didn't even remember so today's topic is a really fun one it's modern modern women don't
00:01:03.360 deserve happiness oh my god um so my first question is what is a modern woman to you
00:01:13.060 um a modern woman is someone who can balance their work and family life uh someone who is
00:01:23.060 willing to grow with time um yeah that's what a modern woman is okay go ahead wow a modern woman
00:01:34.140 is and actually from the guys i want to know if you date modern women is the second question yeah well
00:01:41.400 it's it i mean most virtually all women in a in the western world now under a certain age are
00:01:50.260 modern women to various degrees um i think that modern women are impacted and influenced whether
00:01:59.540 or not they classify themselves as such by feminist ideology um and a lot of the trappings of modern
00:02:09.140 society and culture um some are some adopted all wholesale some are more resistant but overall
00:02:17.600 it's influenced and permeated through society over the last few decades in a lot of ways and i'm sure
00:02:23.920 we'll talk about that okay do you date modern women yeah i guess okay okay go ahead um i think modern
00:02:31.840 women is i agree with what you say um also i think a lot of modern women are now based upon female rap
00:02:42.700 culture so a lot of i get my own shit a lot of independent women um i can do what i want and all
00:02:50.060 of this kind of stuff um so i think the main keyword is like this sense of independence okay
00:02:59.740 uh modern woman there's a million subcategories to that there's the corrupt there's the stuck in the
00:03:05.900 past and old tradition and there's the ones that have evolved is that it yeah i'll say nothing all
00:03:14.060 right so like all right so modern women in my opinion yeah they're independent they make their
00:03:20.460 old money oh i've got bmw i've got my own house yeah boom so i don't need no man yeah and then they
00:03:27.340 throw their box around tell them yeah so yeah the vagina they throw their vagina around yeah and what
00:03:36.380 they do is they sleep with certain types of guys yeah in their prime years and then when they've
00:03:42.940 collected a lot of baggage and they're out of their prime and their value has dropped they want to get
00:03:47.660 with a good guy russell wilson type and then they think that their value is still high when it's low it's
00:03:52.540 dropped significantly bruv you know what i'm saying so so this is what i think are you are you saying
00:03:58.140 that women's value is based on on who they sleep with no no not not necessarily not necessarily that
00:04:04.460 it's based on a lot of things there's a lot of variables okay okay okay like age like the baggage
00:04:09.020 mental and physical you've collected in it like you know what i'm saying so i wouldn't trust somebody
00:04:12.940 that says boom it's my turn it's my turn still it's my turn still i asked you if you finished and you
00:04:19.420 said yes so all right cool libs cool i appreciate that anyway so yeah boom modern women yeah do i
00:04:25.740 sleep with them yeah i sleep with them but like girlfriend like commitment there has to be like
00:04:31.980 you know some kind of traditional values there because boy modern women can be a headache can it
00:04:37.980 like real talk but anyway that's it okay auntie jenny i think modern women are women on the age of 30
00:04:46.940 over independent influenced by social media and spot brats who can't shut their legs and use their brain
00:05:00.780 what damn auntie you sound like villains
00:05:05.740 okay um go ahead what are women now are women are trying to complete with masculine energy
00:05:10.380 feminine energy and masculine energy come they come counter they they go together and a lot of
00:05:16.460 someone said it i don't know who said it said about the whole rap culture the whole women can do it by
00:05:20.860 themselves and the whole like you understand it's like buying a house if you collect if your
00:05:25.660 your like credit score is poor you're not gonna get able to get a mortgage and a lot of women are
00:05:29.900 thinking they could go out there but have the masculine energy collect bare souls and then come back and
00:05:34.940 think a man's gonna value them sadly enough a man's not the value for that so you have to be
00:05:39.020 yourself you have to be independent to a degree but not in the case of being a short chain you're
00:05:42.940 getting a short way to get where you need to get to okay go ahead and make sure you put bring the
00:05:48.780 mic to your mouth yeah there you go in my opinion i'd say it's a lot of well these modern women they're
00:05:55.900 trying to be like men but it's like men and women are different if you really being honest you know
00:06:01.100 i'm saying and then a lot of people aren't living their raps you get me they think they're looking at
00:06:06.620 cardi b they're looking at jada waders they're looking at beyonce's but brother you're not in
00:06:11.180 that 10 percent so just you get me just have to humble yourself and be real so i just feel like
00:06:17.420 a lot of modern women are delusional in it but i guess we're gonna dive into it proper okay
00:06:24.620 i agree with you lot to a point but then i think modern women is a broad statement because you've got
00:06:30.780 different types of modern women you got some that are going out there working getting their bag but
00:06:36.780 then they'll be committed at home looking after their man doing everything do you know what i mean
00:06:41.260 so two types of modern women i think it's a broad statement do you do you date them do you date
00:06:48.620 modern women okay okay go ahead like you know no he has a mic i have my own are we defining modern
00:06:58.380 women as uh i'm asking what you would define what i would do yeah how would you describe a modern woman
00:07:03.820 i don't know because uh like a lot of you guys say the times have changed right so if the times have
00:07:08.860 changed then what you would define that as is also very different than what my mom or my grandma would
00:07:14.380 have been back then they might have been but my mom might have been a little more progressive than
00:07:19.180 you know what you would consider modern what i would consider modern today um the everyday woman if
00:07:26.460 i'm looking at numbers from around the globe if i'm not just looking at my little bubble that i'm in like
00:07:30.620 in london or somewhere um yeah modern women are people haven't changed people think they've changed
00:07:36.700 because they like auntie said they're in um social media bubbles they think that things are different
00:07:41.820 than they are but they've never been to cities and countries where it's very much the same as
00:07:46.860 it's always been so modern women and modern men same thing that it really hasn't changed why date yeah
00:07:52.700 of course um i don't think that the average person is caught up with what media and social media is put
00:08:01.740 out so do i think that people go like you know everyone's like you were saying men and women are
00:08:06.540 different i think most of the world still agrees with that from where i've been where i've seen i think they
00:08:10.540 they still agree with that so uh yeah would you date of course yeah yeah easily alex uh the modern
00:08:19.660 woman is a walking contradiction so they are generally narcissists um and they are the first
00:08:27.340 women in i think probably most of history that they tend to destroy what they love and chase what they
00:08:32.300 hate uh they have a number of things they want but generally i think the modern woman doesn't want to
00:08:38.140 love i think the modern woman wants to feel more than anything i have a question for you who hurt
00:08:41.980 you emotional defense do you say the same thing when women say men are trash you say you say the same
00:08:53.500 thing okay okay who broke your heart sister are you gonna mend it do you have do you have a response
00:09:00.060 to that alex who hurt me yeah yeah i do the hurting oh yeah maybe it's karma then
00:09:05.820 what is the modern woman i think there are different forms of a modern woman but i think a lot of it
00:09:27.820 now is to do with money morals go out the window in replacement for money and i often look at people
00:09:33.500 and what they're flaunting and think it's basically prostitution like you're saying you'll do this give
00:09:38.220 this in return for a bag i don't understand that like if you're gonna have sex with someone do it
00:09:42.780 because you want to i don't agree with doing it in favor for material items but then on the other
00:09:49.100 side there's also other modern women who exist coexist alongside them women who are good women they've
00:09:54.940 also had to obviously move through the times and become independent but they're also taking care of
00:09:59.740 all the other traditional aspects at the same time that's the type of modern women that i rate
00:10:05.740 okay so next question talking about happiness now do you think that marriage relationships are about
00:10:12.780 happiness um i think they're more about compromise and with compromise comes happiness and kind of
00:10:22.140 i guess understanding having that connection having that empathy having that chemistry is all ingredients
00:10:29.980 towards happiness but yeah it's a work in progress it's a journey that's how i feel um a relationship to
00:10:38.460 some degree a marriage specifically actually no i think that happiness is a part it's a component and
00:10:47.420 it's obviously a byproduct of a happy and healthy marriage but i think if the primary goal of a
00:10:53.580 marriage is just based around happiness emotions are fleeting so if the only thing holding your
00:11:00.220 marriage or long-term relationship together is both people feeling happy all the time then that
00:11:06.860 marriage is going to fail because it's not a realistic goal and i think it's actually a very childish way
00:11:13.260 to go into it i think if you have a good happy healthy marriage then of course you will overall
00:11:18.220 be happy and be content but i don't think it should be set up with the intention that that is going to
00:11:23.820 be the goal all the time or you're going to fall short of that because no one can be happy all the time
00:11:30.140 yeah i agree i don't think the primary goal is happiness um i think it's more about you know how you
00:11:37.180 develop independently and then how you develop together as a unit um you're never going to be
00:11:43.180 100 happy i mean that's the one person that's gonna annoy the out of you like no one
00:11:50.140 else that's gonna push your buttons but how you come back from that is basically what's going to
00:11:55.420 bring that happiness you know like you know makeup sex and stuff like that you know so i don't think
00:12:02.060 yeah like you said if if you're striving for 100 happiness i just think that's fake that's a fake
00:12:07.340 marriage so i just think that's not idealistic at all to me happiness is peace of mind so a marriage
00:12:15.340 is for you to be in a partnership that no matter how difficult or how amazing things are you always
00:12:21.340 have that peace of mind if things are bad you're going to work together to make them better if things
00:12:26.140 are happy and good and positive you enjoy them together but happiness doesn't necessarily mean you
00:12:30.860 need to have positive things all the time it's just how you look at things so my husband baby
00:12:35.260 support me into feeling positive about most things even when things are bad what's the question
00:12:47.660 is marriage um is marriage relationships about happiness because nowadays people don't even get
00:12:53.340 married it's about duty okay you know what i'm saying because obviously when you get married yeah like
00:12:58.220 obviously it's basically a business transaction when you think about it like people get gassed
00:13:02.220 about love love love bro like bro love is is not unconditional but there's conditions to that bro like
00:13:08.140 everyone has to play their position do you know what i'm saying if you mess up whether it's the man or
00:13:12.540 the woman brother someone's gonna should hold you accountable like you know i'm saying like bro like
00:13:17.500 this is not what i signed up for yeah then especially if you have children involved but there's even a
00:13:22.620 a larger amount of duty involved do you get what i'm saying a lot of us we didn't even come from
00:13:29.020 families where we come from marriage you know i'm saying like i know me personally and most of my
00:13:34.940 friends didn't come from no home where we had our mom and our dad most of us was just like our mom
00:13:39.260 you know saying like so a lot of us don't even know what it looks like we've not experienced it so
00:13:44.620 like not to not to be funny but like when i hear people's um like idea of what it is like
00:13:52.460 most of us don't even really know we're just we're just saying what we think in it like but is that
00:13:56.700 really what it is because um if you ask people from the 1950s they probably have something different
00:14:01.820 to say you know i'm saying so like that's just realistically i'm not married i haven't been married
00:14:07.500 i don't have kids so i don't know you know i'm saying like i just got an idea of what it may look like
00:14:12.460 but but when i get into it if i ever get into that yeah it might it might be something else
00:14:17.180 like you know i mean but i think more than anything it's duty in it like do you know what
00:14:20.620 i'm saying if you have that mindset if it's duty you're more inclined to stick with it
00:14:24.780 you get what i'm saying so that's what i think i just think that when two people get together
00:14:33.020 but when they go into marriage i just believe that a man can't make you happy you're supposed
00:14:37.340 to be happy and he's supposed to make you happier same thing goes
00:14:41.820 their way around because a lot of people go into relationships or marriage thinking
00:14:45.980 oh he or she's gonna make me happy and they're not happy to start with so i just think
00:14:51.660 in relationships happiness is a bonus it's something that you grow to have but you've got to be happy
00:14:58.300 before you enter a relationship and then the person make you happier like me i was always happy my man
00:15:03.980 makes me happier if i wasn't with him i'd still be happy but just not as happy as i am when i'm with him
00:15:09.820 like a little auntie said you have to like and love yourself before you can like and love others
00:15:15.340 isn't it so if you're going into a relationship like she said it's a bonus so they're added to
00:15:19.340 your bonus you're not going in there like respecting them to make you happy you should be happy in
00:15:23.420 yourself however that person you meet you have to understand the uncompromisables and stuff you
00:15:27.980 compromise on so when you get into a relationship you have to understand that i will compromise with
00:15:31.820 this i won't compromise on that that's the reason you get into relationship knowing that they're
00:15:34.700 good they're bad and they're uglies you get in there naked and you go in there blindsided you're
00:15:39.340 going to be oh my god i can't believe this person like that but when you get into a relationship it
00:15:43.100 again my son brother said it's a it's a financial commitment it's a partnership commitment it's all
00:15:48.540 these things mixed in one to get to where you need to get to and that happiness comes from yourself
00:15:53.420 but when they're together and you understand what they're like that's an added bonus to yourself
00:15:56.940 that's my opinion on it anyway yeah well just touching up on what he said and what auntie said
00:16:02.700 literally like if you're not happy within yourself way it's going to be very hard to make yourself
00:16:07.900 happy you know i'm saying and if you rely on someone else for the happiness you've already felt
00:16:12.460 so a lot of people they don't see that a relationship is they have their self and then
00:16:18.780 they've got the relationship you get me so it's like when you come into a relationship you should
00:16:23.500 both be complementing each other in different ways and you should understand and no one's perfect
00:16:27.580 you get me some people got everyone's got flaws but you need to understand the flaws that you can
00:16:32.140 tolerate you know i'm saying because you can't just be like oh from the start in the first three
00:16:36.700 months it was all good everything did it do it's always always it's always good at the start you
00:16:40.300 get me you know delve into stuff you see true people's colors and stuff like that you now have
00:16:45.420 to understand that yo boom this is the flaws this is the good you put that together that's what makes
00:16:51.260 the person the person you get me you can't pick and choose what you like from someone and then have
00:16:55.420 an ideology of someone that's where it just starts getting into that you're never going to be happy if you're
00:16:59.900 chasing happiness it's like fucking sorry for the swearing but it's like people that take them
00:17:05.100 mad drugs heroin and they always say like the first time's the mad and they chase the hit if you're
00:17:09.100 going to get happy from the first time you butt that person and then you're just chasing the happiness
00:17:13.180 all the time you ain't ever going to be happy so you just got to make sure you're happy from the start
00:17:16.780 um for me the main thing really is that it's more of a conscious effort to make your partner happy
00:17:27.820 you know what i mean so there might be things that you don't want to do but you do it anyway because
00:17:32.860 you know it's going to make the person you're happy so that's the main thing
00:17:37.100 i um do not like the word compromise because compromise means one if not both members of
00:17:46.220 the party do is not happy with the agreement i prefer cooperation right you have to cooperate
00:17:51.900 to get to an end goal of what you want you know what i mean so i removed that from it as a quick
00:17:56.700 little story i had an uber driver one time who he i asked him he was driving and he was missing his
00:18:03.100 thumb i said what happened to your thumb just tell me what happened to your thumb so we can do this drive
00:18:06.700 because i'm an and uh he was like oh i got cut off when i met my wife i said what happened he said oh
00:18:13.420 dude she was dating cut my thumb off at a bar fight he's from saudi arabia or somewhere
00:18:18.460 um i don't remember because i don't pay attention to where people are from i don't care and um
00:18:24.140 so he got his finger cut off and he was 14 when he met this woman she was 14 the guy she was dating
00:18:29.020 was 20 uh but you know r kelly and so uh it is what it is and uh he was like 60 at this point
00:18:36.620 and i said well what did you do he goes you know we got this thing it was a whole thing eventually
00:18:40.780 long story short she saved my finger she took my finger to the hospital where i was they tried to
00:18:45.260 sew it back on but where i'm from the medicine was not where it should be and i said so how long have
00:18:51.100 you been married he said i've been married 50 years and i go how did you not cheat he goes what do you
00:18:56.220 mean i go i mean how did you not cheat or leave like 50 years is a long time to not put your penis
00:19:00.380 somewhere else no offense ladies uh i'm sure it's the same for you but it's a long time to get along
00:19:05.500 he said oh i don't compromise my wife we cooperate and it's my duty is what he said and he said the
00:19:11.580 other thing is there's not happiness there's not love every day i don't love her every day i'm not
00:19:17.180 happy with her every day but i respect her every day he goes if you don't respect the person that you
00:19:23.420 meet and that you marry and that you're with forever it'll never work he was like some days i want
00:19:28.380 to throw her through a wall because i don't like her i don't love her she said something she pissed me
00:19:34.060 you know she pressed me and i'm over it he goes but you know what she's the mother of my children
00:19:38.860 she's been with me for 50 years she took my finger to the hospital to try to get it sewn back on
00:19:45.260 i respect this person he goes so that's why i'm with it and that's why i'm together with her i forgot
00:19:51.260 the question but that's all i had to say can i ask you a question about that yeah what age group was them
00:19:56.220 oh he was i was 27 at that point that was 10 years ago and he was almost 60 then yeah so it's
00:20:03.900 that it's an older it's an older mindset it's an older mindset where he said i don't compromise
00:20:09.260 because that doesn't make any sense i cooperate with her so we can get to an end goal because it's
00:20:14.220 that's our duty and i respect her no matter what she respects me as well but i respect her but like
00:20:19.740 my point was like them women of that generation that's that's different women bro it's very different
00:20:24.860 it's a very it's also a very different culture than what we're used to in the west they're the
00:20:29.100 same women that raised us though it's very true it's very true but but the same but i don't
00:20:35.260 wouldn't that be our grandparents generation almost because i don't because it seems like there's like
00:20:40.540 a change when it's like uh our parents like it seems like our grandparents were the ones like man had
00:20:48.300 side chick across town she still stayed yeah my my my granddad has a whole had two other whole
00:20:54.460 families yeah and it is what it is but i don't i don't like growing up my grandma was my rock right
00:21:02.220 anything my mom and dad told me get out of here like i don't they weren't the parents that they
00:21:06.780 could have been no offense you know what they could have been so the way i look at it is i look at that
00:21:11.660 older generation and i go okay respect duty and cooperation is the only way that long-term thing can can
00:21:20.060 possibly work like auntie was saying like everybody was just saying the happiness is fleeting that's
00:21:25.260 not gonna stay like even today like we was all joking and laughing in there but if people saw that
00:21:30.060 part they would be like how are they different now like we're very calm everybody cool now right
00:21:34.700 we were talking earlier everybody's having a great time we could talk a little more
00:21:40.700 but i'm saying like even in this moment even in this room we switched up didn't we everybody switched up to
00:21:45.180 be oh i'm gonna be on camera i gotta be cool so it's like that kind of that energy so i really
00:21:50.300 respect that everybody you know yeah i'm not gonna overtake you go ahead they got two more just quickly
00:21:56.460 so you know like this is why it's nice to look at the women but look at the men as well he said the
00:22:01.820 man the uber driver said it's about compromise iris not compromise it's about cooperation i respect her
00:22:08.140 so it's a duality we can never just look at the modern woman to be the one that doesn't know how
00:22:12.140 to cooperate because the man the ones that say submission so did all of this type of stuff so
00:22:17.020 ham he's that's the problem well but i think i think the idea is that if 70 to 80 percent of women
00:22:22.060 are leaving then like you start with the 70 to 80 percent before you look at the 30. yeah that's great
00:22:28.460 but surely we want the 70 to turn into like the 30s everybody to get married his wife was a housewife
00:22:35.580 she did submit i don't know if that's important well i don't know if that's what he's saying he said
00:22:39.500 the operation but they cooperated like how they wanted their relationship to work so she
00:22:45.340 how does it get to a point where sometimes you be like sometimes i want to throw it through a wall
00:22:49.900 50 years exactly so is that constant submission i don't think so because challenges in marriage
00:22:56.780 come from those things it's respect i i think the idea is though in a long marriage like at the end of
00:23:01.900 the day someone has to make the final decision exactly like like someone has to lead the relationship
00:23:07.340 in cooperation and respect it doesn't come to a veto well yeah somebody's the captain but there's
00:23:12.940 different ways to do it like okay if there's a ceo of a company and he knows that this employee is
00:23:17.500 like disgruntled when he works this way he may compromise what he wants to do in order to make
00:23:21.580 the employee happy at times but it's still his decision sucks yeah but i still get my will which
00:23:27.740 means that the disgruntled person the one that made the complaint and said this is not cool ceo
00:23:32.140 actually you're making the wrong decision the ceo will analyze and say okay cool which means that
00:23:36.620 the lack of submission from the employee actually made the ceo reconsider his decision and that's
00:23:41.660 what i'm saying right but there's a way to like bring up your your disagreements in like a submissive
00:23:47.500 way where it's like it's like you you bring it up politely but you still know he's making the final
00:23:52.460 decision not you that then comes down to respect and not submission but why is being polite submissive
00:23:57.900 exactly is respect i i think the idea i'm sorry i might have misspoke but i'm saying like like
00:24:03.020 because a lot of girls will come off very argumentative and they they just want to like
00:24:06.220 get their point across and just like they're frustrated and i'm saying like like you can bring
00:24:10.460 up a concern but the idea is like i trust you to make the decision i i think a lot of i think a lot
00:24:15.740 of women i think a lot of modern women get hung up on the word submission yeah it's it's it's the word
00:24:25.500 itself can we correct that to our body gets a bit confused with submission because not just the
00:24:30.540 girls i'm telling you now i brought that up because the mandem thinks submission is shut up your mind
00:24:35.100 well no but you you get to no no no that's the guys that you date yeah no that's not the guys
00:24:41.260 that they that's the kind of guys you told me i don't know you last time man was here some guy was
00:24:48.780 telling bitch your mind that's what submission is and people like yeah like shut up who said that last
00:24:53.340 show do you remember that who said that last show i was here the guy that was sitting here was that
00:25:01.660 and that's what a lot of men think that they think submission is that you tell your woman to shut up
00:25:05.180 because i'm the man okay no but i'm saying i'm saying okay that's what other guys say they come
00:25:09.420 for me on the on the comments all the time no no no no no that's that's why i'm not moving like i just
00:25:14.620 said the right things no i think i think the idea last show was that you you were talking about like you
00:25:20.380 you dated the rapper right no we're talking about submission okay
00:25:34.700 what do you actually have a question what do you think of michael just like do you know why
00:25:40.780 why are you doing that why are you doing that i love this question oh you're trying it you're
00:25:48.140 trying it listen yeah is this like a match look at we said michael can i say wait he didn't even yeah
00:25:56.140 he didn't want to give his government name in the beginning but wait wait wait why are you getting
00:26:03.180 michael is a libra right now i'll tell you what that means because i i i tried trouble with
00:26:09.100 okay okay okay it's a good way it's a point of reference for description so i i approached him
00:26:15.500 first he's got like the tattoos the gold teeth the gold jewelry's hands did you say you you approached
00:26:20.620 him first yeah yeah i spoke to him okay okay okay of course i'm a confident woman i'm not afraid
00:26:27.580 and i was like okay so he fits a certain stereotype he looks like a certain way so you may come across
00:26:32.540 you can make a judgment but actually hearing what he has had to say and how he has spoken
00:26:37.420 he's quite balanced he's he's just a hard cover but sweet story can i ask can i ask
00:26:44.060 can i ask you a question don't worry i've got the socials already
00:26:50.460 is he like a libra though well yeah yeah okay of a sweet story is that what a libra is
00:26:56.220 because i've lied tons of times just to get some about my horoscope
00:27:02.860 you're a pisces isn't it no oh then gemini nope gemini nope nope see but i would be all those
00:27:10.460 things back in the day
00:27:17.100 what is all right guys what is the biggest lie you've ever told to get laid that's a good one
00:27:21.420 the biggest okay okay okay you said you said i love you you said my dad dad he might as well be
00:27:39.660 see now i'm up on the down see man they're in trouble why was the boy then then hey i wanted to
00:27:48.220 say they didn't get to go okay they didn't get to go
00:27:56.780 an initial question on whether love relationships and marriage were based on happiness yeah uh no it's
00:28:03.340 it's based on practicality and you know offspring etc outside of that i have no real interest
00:28:07.820 i think marriage you have to actively get up and say i want this to work like it's not just going
00:28:25.960 to fall into your lap you have to look at it like almost a job like you're going to commit to this
00:28:30.180 person respect them take their feelings into consideration you have to literally get up and
00:28:34.860 actively work on it every day or it's not going to work basically okay so what do you guys think
00:28:42.160 of women that say never settle you know i want to hear from the guys first that means their men
00:28:52.880 have settled zuby why don't you start i'll start yeah um they're gonna end up very lonely for a long
00:28:58.660 time um it's it's not realistic look the truth is everyone there's always some degree of settling
00:29:07.780 it's a bit it's a little bit of a weird term like i know what people mean when they say never settle
00:29:12.820 but if you were to take that literally nobody is perfect you're not going to find anyone who
00:29:18.700 takes absolutely every single box and never annoys you and doesn't have little habits and quirks and
00:29:26.360 personality traits that bother you at times that's just the reality we have this with our own
00:29:30.600 friendships we have this with our own families right um so i think it's good not to settle on
00:29:38.280 your non-negotiables right if you've got certain deal breakers or there are certain red flags and
00:29:44.220 i don't recommend settling on a massive red flag or something that just is not going to work
00:29:49.600 but when it comes to the smaller minor stuff if someone still has that never settle mentality
00:29:55.000 then you're never going to you're not going to be happy with anybody in any relationship for a long
00:29:59.240 period of time because they're always going to do certain things that annoy you and there's going
00:30:02.920 to be stuff you're not totally happy about so yeah it's like a polite it's like a polite way of saying
00:30:08.660 die alone yeah there's cats sometimes dogs but cats seem to be the preferred nowadays you got only
00:30:19.200 fans as well don't forget that yeah that's only going to work for a couple years as well you'd better
00:30:24.320 you'd better be young and you'd better be hot okay bruv invest in cat food bruv
00:30:32.240 hey there's stocks in petco all of that bruv because at the end of the day all this never settle
00:30:37.280 and all of this like bruv like you're just going to be old on your own drinking wine yeah like eating ice
00:30:42.960 cream and bruv like you're gonna lose bro simple like all these girls need to understand because
00:30:49.280 it's like what i said earlier yeah a lot of these girls get older they collect baggage and they think
00:30:53.120 their value goes up or it stays the same no it don't as you get older yeah the guys on your level
00:30:59.360 especially if you make a lot of money because of hypergamy you're going to want to date up a lot of
00:31:03.280 them guys on your level or higher are going to want younger women bruv yeah so understand this thing
00:31:08.640 like bro like all this never settle thing everybody settles bro it's just and it's the same for guys
00:31:13.600 as well like you might be a guy that oh yeah i just want to get with big tits and a big bum bro
00:31:18.240 like and then down the line you see them with a girl that's flat you know what i'm saying like flat
00:31:22.400 or like pancakes and fried eggs like that that's like bro like no but it's real though like even some
00:31:27.440 certain times you see rappers like you see rappers you look at their wife and you think raw like you're a
00:31:33.200 rapper you're whoever and then your wife is like kind of playing because he's settled and and bro
00:31:38.560 like bill gates like all these kind of people mark zuckerberg you see their girlfriends they're not
00:31:43.200 bad bitches like that do you get what i'm saying so everybody settles but the problem is with a lot
00:31:48.240 of these girls who make bare money and all of this i'm not gonna settle until i get this guy that makes
00:31:52.080 six figures a year and or six figures a month yeah bro like i'm sorry it don't go like that and
00:31:57.600 there's always new 18 year olds that come out every year bro so stop chatting or you can be on your own
00:32:05.120 and yeah as i said invest in pet food bruv pet stocks get me they're going up still
00:32:12.000 some women built up a delusional mindset because they spend a lot of their time banging the one
00:32:19.040 percent of guys that will bang them anyway because that's what guys do pump and dump it's cool pump
00:32:25.280 and then they think because they're banging with these guys in the top one percent that they should
00:32:28.880 be able to settle i have a question for the guys have you ever slept with a girl that you wouldn't be
00:32:35.760 seen in public with have you ever slept with a girl that you wouldn't be seen in public with
00:32:50.400 multiple times yes
00:32:53.680 have you have you ever had a long-term situationship with a girl you would never be
00:33:10.560 you know why they maintain because they stay stay in that lane like
00:33:13.680 they know you don't want to be seen with them and they just they just come to the crib and kick
00:33:31.840 they're happy to be around high energy my guy exactly so they're thinking i'm not gonna get a
00:33:34.960 guy like this in my life i'm gonna stay around him and smash him i'm i'm happy to be around him that's
00:33:39.280 good and us man like you just said the people they normally like it's not on the level not on the
00:33:44.080 same and they're not on the level as a man you want to bust your nut and go listen it's a certain
00:33:49.680 thing and this is a a a odd term it's called a human jerk off don't worry
00:33:55.680 it's a lot listen i said this to my friend today i was like you've been
00:34:11.760 but you've been in a situation where you've been done having sex and you go to the bathroom and you
00:34:17.280 look at yourself in the mirror and you go i'm not coming back here
00:34:20.320 and then you find yourself back there on tuesday wednesday thursday
00:34:36.160 hey hey because they wasn't answering the phone and they told you to wait for some you gotta wait
00:34:41.760 for me you gotta wait for this you're gonna wait i'm gonna go up this fat bitch right now
00:34:45.600 wait wait wait say that say that in the mic you gotta you say oh you gotta wait you gotta
00:34:49.920 wait i'm waiting i'm you go we're gonna go on a couple more dates cool i'm gonna go fuck this
00:34:52.960 fat bitch uh and then you get your dick in somebody's sink like an and you're just washing
00:35:00.400 yourself like why am i and you talking you know what i'm talking about you having this prep talk
00:35:04.560 like i'm not gonna do it i'm not gonna do this no more
00:35:06.960 it's called cls consequential loan of standards i call it pnc pulse nut clarity
00:35:27.440 forget the one where you're looking in the mirror
00:35:29.360 go ahead go ahead forget the one where you're looking in the mirror you know how the one like
00:35:31.760 bro you've done your deed and that but bro you've gone to the edge of the bed and you just put your hand
00:35:35.680 hand in your hand in your fingers yes do it do it do it do it you're doing your
00:35:42.160 strokes you're doing your thing what am i doing why am i here help help somebody i need help i need
00:35:52.640 uh you guys you guys you guys need to stop settling
00:36:03.040 you guys you guys need to stop settling stop selling wait how do you 27 27 that's why
00:36:11.120 that's when i was 27 i was like if you think i'm about to settle for you but do you see how fine i am
00:36:14.880 absolutely not as soon as i hit 30 i was like who wanted i'm tired i don't have time to be doing
00:36:22.240 this so your standards went lower oh my god absolutely my standards i was like i'm trying
00:36:27.200 to come i don't have time for this i don't have time to know your name what is your name stop
00:36:30.480 telling me your name let's go dude okay so you keep to like your mid-20s absolutely yeah i'm
00:36:35.920 yeah i'm black you're just admitting hell no because i'm black and well yeah but american
00:36:39.920 my life rate is my ability to die is a lot sooner so i was like well i got to get this in i don't
00:36:48.160 have time to be doing this i have to do it i gotta hurry up and get these nuts in because i'm about
00:36:54.000 to die any day now this is police or somebody but no but just to end it to be serious to be very serious
00:37:00.240 it is a very serious thing where as a as a guy i always say i wish there was an invention that
00:37:05.440 would allow men and women to switch bodies for like 24 hours and you could understand like the
00:37:12.080 difference but there's self-control my penis doesn't but you say that's what i mean so you
00:37:17.520 say self-control because you don't you're a human being because we don't know each other's biology and
00:37:23.040 you're right there is self-control but it's to a limit of can i tell you a secret you can't compare
00:37:28.480 yourself to a man and a man can't compare yourself to a woman she's been trying to go ahead yeah i've
00:37:40.560 been patient you've been good this stream you've been good go ahead go ahead i i learned the rules
00:37:45.360 now so basically let me tell you something yeah with that number one girls also do that but on a more
00:37:52.080 superficial level they just use the man that is just somebody that is definitely not my level but i'm
00:37:56.240 bored and i need lunch so we'll do that so that goes on both ways and then let me tell you something
00:38:00.720 about that as a man if you can practice sexual discipline i feel like that's one of the most
00:38:05.520 attractive things you can ever ever do a woman will look at you differently and that happened to me i
00:38:10.800 actually i moved to a guy for the first time ever because he has sexual discipline and i thought
00:38:16.800 you're special because that means that you are not one of them weak ones that you know the mind works
00:38:23.440 your body you you you why is it weak to you it's weak because if you are with a woman and you can't
00:38:30.720 keep it in your pants because you see somebody with a big batty or that's a problem you said that guy
00:38:35.040 was this um had sexual discipline um yeah which means that when he's in a relationship and even
00:38:39.920 for girl comes to tempting he says no devil i won't kiss you tonight what about your sexual discipline
00:38:45.360 he's a liar listen you just said that you need a man for that that's what i said that's what i said
00:38:51.840 if you have met me already you know i'm a bit troublesome i know you're trouble i definitely
00:38:56.240 know you're trouble to that stage let them fail a lot of men will say what sounds good i was
00:39:02.880 he's about it yeah but her point is valid in the sense that like what you're so a man normally hits his
00:39:08.880 prime right like in his 30s right 32 35 so if if you're out here saying that your standards actually
00:39:14.320 got lower when you're supposed to be in your because you don't hit your prime at 32 35 you hit
00:39:19.360 your prime in your 20s and you're a sexual marketplace you're a sexual marketplace you're a sexual
00:39:24.240 marketplace but what is different primes exactly so what she's saying is very different and what
00:39:30.720 you're saying i i agree with the control aspect but i'm gonna be honest with you
00:39:34.640 i don't know how old you are but i'm gonna be very honest with you this lying is very easy
00:39:41.520 and if you say something like oh he's controlling himself i have to be very i'm being i don't know
00:39:46.960 you and i'm not trying i'm being honest i'm not trying to sleep with you so i'm being honest with you
00:39:51.280 um i know that sounds up but i'm being i'm being 100 honest with you there's a lot of way you guys do
00:39:58.640 not hunt there's a lot of ways to hunt and there's a lot of ways to get away with what you want to get
00:40:05.760 away with if you want to get away with it and that's all we spend our time doing now he's a very
00:40:10.080 intelligent brother this is very smart so he's not on the same playing field as a lot of guys like he
00:40:16.720 might have sexual discipline because he wants to write and do other amazing things but the average
00:40:22.080 brother that you run into guy or whoever you want rappers rappers rappers if they're telling you
00:40:29.200 i'm going to have discipline and hold in myself and not have sex with 40 puerto ricans trying to
00:40:34.960 have sex with me all right you can listen you believe what you understand now that's why you
00:40:42.960 i have a question for the guys what's the longest you've had a situationship with a girl that you
00:40:48.160 wouldn't be seen in public with like how long she's trying to get man in trouble
00:40:55.040 10 years on some of them are still up and like five months solid five months
00:41:03.120 they all look disgusted
00:41:04.080 you're talking about i feel like they wouldn't graduate to a situation ship okay they wouldn't
00:41:30.960 even get to that stage and they did for some of them be capping just a motive i'll be real i'll be
00:41:38.080 real i'll be real i'm looking at ut i looked in your eye and he flickered a little bit a couple
00:41:43.920 months a couple months for it uh um what's it uh not that long man because if the girl's dead yeah
00:41:52.320 if the girl's dead yeah like my motivation is low fam like do you know what i mean like if she says
00:42:02.400 anything stupid oh yeah what are we bruv like my guy my guy my guy my guy my guy my guy my guy
00:42:10.480 it's put this on the tap whenever you're ready it's there for you exactly that's the problem that's
00:42:15.600 what's my mind lasts so long it's just on the tap yeah yeah don't worry don't worry i'm a man i'm a
00:42:20.640 man i'll be real i'm not judging you but yeah like literally like one two smash like boom like
00:42:32.000 that's it bruv like i'll tell you one little quick story there was one girl in uni like boom like my
00:42:37.360 bridging had a little linkage bought the friend the friend was a bit chubby you know not really
00:42:41.760 nah anyway smashed on the floor in the kitchen no bed no because it was uni innit like it was just
00:42:51.200 his room innit like do you know what i'm saying were you wearing shoes when you did this what was
00:42:59.280 i wearing when i was smashing on the floor was the floor clean these guys have to surprise like they
00:43:03.760 don't got bad stories they don't got bad stories anyway trust me that's not even the worst story
00:43:12.880 but anyway so smashing on the floor yes my shoes was on bruv yes in the kitchen boom um what's it
00:43:20.400 smashed in the toilet as well and then like boom like she was like messaging me i was just like bruv
00:43:25.520 you're dead bruv like what am i gonna do like bro like like you're gonna bring my ratings down
00:43:31.600 like my status is gonna reduce significantly so but like i i think if it goes dead yeah at most
00:43:37.120 like a beat for that night like one night special and then really and truly what are we gonna do
00:43:42.080 after that nothing innit like maybe maybe honestly probably three three smashes and then after that
00:43:48.880 like bro like you're gonna catch feelings or something stupid but you would go back if she could for you
00:43:52.720 though probably not no no no my god the glock glock three thousand my guy my guy the glock glock
00:44:03.120 3000 is a bit different no but the thing is no disrespect i'm being no i hear you i hear you but
00:44:12.800 the thing is while i'm smashing the dead thing i'm still patterning other things that i actually like
00:44:17.280 like that makes sense i've got projects bro you know what i'm saying so you can say investments
00:44:37.440 did she ever like graduate into a bedroom or that not
00:44:39.840 no no no no okay so well when i did that yeah uh 22 how are you now oh classified
00:44:53.760 let's talk to the let's talk to the the women okay so questions um i have two questions so i'm gonna ask
00:45:00.720 both at the same time okay the first have you ever gone on a date with a guy that you did not find
00:45:05.520 attractive yeah because you wanted a free meal yeah and the second one is have you ever had a friend
00:45:11.680 that was the whale in this situation that they're all describing and did you tell her the truth about
00:45:17.360 what was going on okay uh first question um i may have been out with a guy that i didn't find
00:45:23.280 attractive initially but it wasn't for the meal um basically i think that like looks aren't everything
00:45:30.400 in a relationship if if someone has personality integrity like has a brain then that could take
00:45:37.200 you places you don't necessarily have to look like a hundred million dollars for me to kind of like
00:45:41.840 there's other there's other factors other ingredients that would make a man my type
00:45:48.160 um in terms of the second question um i'd say no because all my girls are paying like nah
00:45:53.840 there's never been a situation there's never been a situation that's my best friend
00:45:58.400 oh my god all your girls are paying hey beautiful all my friends are paying oh is that okay i didn't
00:46:04.320 know that oh my god oh i'm with the i'm with the slang now okay there's always the ugly one in
00:46:15.840 yeah like yeah i mean your friend can be pretty but she could still punch out of her league yeah
00:46:21.840 like she could be a solid seven punching a ten but my girls are smarter than that they would never put
00:46:26.320 themselves in a situation where like they're just kind of like okay a hole i'm sorry like no i disagree
00:46:33.200 i disagree i've i've gone out with a guy yeah just for a meal i mean the guy i knew what his intentions
00:46:39.280 were but for me it was never going past friendship because i wasn't attracted to him and you just didn't
00:46:48.880 tickle my fancy i mean you were short you was like nearly just a bit taller than me
00:46:58.800 if i'm wearing heels and i'm and i'm like a skyscraper over you
00:47:02.800 how tall are you how tall are you i'm five foot two you're five foot two
00:47:07.600 maximum you're going to be five foot five yeah was the guy taller than you in heels
00:47:11.520 you said no no how tall was right about i don't know how tall he works but he was short and yeah
00:47:17.520 i went out for a meal i was like you know what he was a persistent guy as well he kept on like
00:47:22.880 responding to my stories and stuff like that so i was like you know what that's it
00:47:29.440 it's really easy to swipe up yeah that's persistent you thought yeah let me use man for a free meal
00:47:35.920 because i just want to eat yeah after work that's deep fair enough it wasn't a waste of time because
00:47:52.160 for me like i said i never saw it past anything being a friendship you're a cool guy but me and
00:47:57.680 you will never did you express that to him like we are not going anywhere past a friendship yeah we can
00:48:03.360 go out and eat no i didn't but so what so so basically you let him believe that okay boom
00:48:09.600 there's an opportunity there's a chance but in your head you know there is no chance bruh like you're
00:48:14.640 not going anywhere with me yeah yeah i didn't so basically you used him yeah i did oh okay
00:48:25.520 can we admit that like this dating thing is transactional because the man will take on
00:48:29.760 loads of dates these fancy restaurants to smash and this is why i say like as a man you have to
00:48:35.920 set your standards like some guys in the beginning they'll take them to the shard yeah you can't you
00:48:40.960 can't blame a woman after that to be expecting fancy wine and dining and stuff like that you've got a
00:48:46.160 you've got a you know feel it out first build it up a bit a bit a bit and then see if she's actually
00:48:51.200 you know worth this you know what it is yeah sorry sorry to cut you off my guy a lot of men are simpson
00:48:55.360 in it they they see bum breast and face and they lose themselves in them a lot of men forget that
00:49:01.120 what a woman's personality is like will make me take her to the shard i personally i don't take
00:49:05.600 girls on dates unless i know they're serious on my girlfriend level but these simps they see your
00:49:09.760 pretty face your bum your breast whatever it is i don't know what is and i'm not saying that you ain't
00:49:13.520 going but i'm trying to say men in general and they'll take you to these places to try to have a
00:49:17.120 transactional experience and try to smash you yeah and now for you you're looking at the experience
00:49:21.200 in itself in general right yeah so even though you don't rate him you don't see me need potential
00:49:25.280 you're saying it's just a three mil right yeah so i think it's a fair game i don't know what are you
00:49:29.280 saying can i ask you a question though can i ask you a question did you see that guy ever again after
00:49:37.200 that um no wait wait wait wait wait wait no no no no let me lie i did i don't want to bait out how i
00:49:46.000 saw it how i saw him but he basically came and gave me like a birthday present after that but i
00:49:51.520 never saw him he bought you food you enjoyed it you went home no kiss no hug no nothing or maybe
00:49:59.440 the church hug did he did he get a side hug at least i don't even remember that's how that's how
00:50:07.040 it remember what it was i don't even remember guys guys guys guys guys guys i probably did you
00:50:14.160 probably okay okay okay