JustPearlyThings - March 25, 2023


Modern Woman Tries to Corner @RealTroyFrancis


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10 minutes

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206.56227

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2,216

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Summary


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00:00:00.000 uh what do you look for um i look for someone who can match me in terms of um like for example
00:00:06.680 i drive i want a man that drives i live alone i want a man who lives alone i work i want a man
00:00:12.580 what that works um and then on top of that he needs to be at least like five foot ten
00:00:18.300 yeah and yeah that's it and when it comes down to money i don't really have a figure
00:00:25.180 on that the same as um like uh 40 40 40 000 i'm okay with that like i've noticed in london the
00:00:34.680 girls aren't as picky about money well except her but i get a lot more 40 50 thousands like here than
00:00:44.620 i do when like i was doing podcasts in miami like here i don't know why it's a lot lower here
00:00:49.540 because i think the percentage there's not that many men like you said that are making too many
00:00:54.660 it's not a higher percentage i don't know what the difference is i could look it up maybe but
00:01:04.200 it's it's similar in the u.s it's still only five ten percent of men that make over six figures
00:01:08.920 that's interesting
00:01:11.640 so we're not that picky then are we
00:01:16.300 i mean well i i think if women weren't picky then like we wouldn't be single
00:01:21.960 because there's always a guy there's always a guy that wants to date you yeah yeah miami does seem
00:01:28.700 to be particularly like money focused though not that london isn't in certain pockets but there's
00:01:33.120 also a lot of more regular people in london who maybe they're you know they're not as bothered
00:01:36.740 what do you look for troy what do i look for are you are you picky it's strict well no
00:01:43.500 it's kind of an open it's extremely open it's it's an open door policy basically um i mean look
00:01:51.180 as a guy i mean what do i look for obviously i look for somebody that i'm attracted to you know
00:01:55.700 somebody who i think is aesthetically nice you know um but equally it's about is she pleasant you
00:02:02.900 know is she cool to hang around with i think that's really what it comes down to it's like you said
00:02:06.160 before i'm not i'm not bothered about what she makes i'm not bothered about her job i'm not bothered
00:02:11.140 about really any of those things but is she somebody that i can chill with and she's just
00:02:15.960 going to be pleasant and it's not going to be you know hard work basically it's a pretty low bar
00:02:21.300 really but that's that's kind of what it is you know i mean but but there has got to be that initial
00:02:25.800 attraction to be fair um so yeah i would say that really you know i don't think guys have a huge
00:02:32.660 shopping list of things that they're looking for really right so can i ask why you're single then
00:02:37.740 if your standards are not that high just haven't met the right woman yet
00:02:40.520 then if your if your standards are low but you're single that means you're somewhat picky
00:02:46.440 i am no i am somewhat picky and um i was no of course i'm somewhat picky because no i was joking
00:02:53.820 before i'm somewhat picky because like i mean look i'm i'm at an age now i mean when i was in my 20s
00:02:58.760 you know running around like a lunatic and you know whatever these days i i'm slightly less
00:03:05.600 motivated by that you know what i mean so if i get to spend time with somebody they've got to have
00:03:09.000 certain you know they've got to have a certain quality about them you know and that and for me
00:03:12.280 the most important thing really is pleasantness and also do we vibe you know that's that's important
00:03:16.120 as well it's not like she has to be super intellectual or she has to know about certain
00:03:20.260 things that i'm interested in but if we vibe do we have a good chemistry you know that's that's the
00:03:24.540 important thing that's what i'm looking for um but i'm single for for other reasons i mean i was in
00:03:29.120 a relationship for a couple of years um i came out of that a couple of years ago i just haven't really
00:03:34.180 wanted to really get serious with anybody do you know what i mean and also the nature of my job i'm
00:03:38.260 traveling quite a lot and stuff like that so you know it's a number of reasons really what are what
00:03:41.820 are some turn-offs for you well a friend of mine um james tusk uh who's a who's also a dating coach
00:03:50.120 uh he's got a youtube channel he was telling me about this uh he went on a date with an american
00:03:54.160 woman in uh it was in uh tulum i think in mexico and he went on a date with this american woman she
00:03:59.440 was like from new york bit of a ball breaker you know whatever and they played the question game so he's got
00:04:03.460 this like thing where say right i'm gonna ask you a question you'd be completely honest answer the
00:04:08.280 question then you get to ask me a question and you get to know each other like that so he's doing this
00:04:11.660 question game with the girl her first question was what did you make last year so he was just like in
00:04:18.720 the bar and and he was just like all right isn't that rude yeah no completely no completely but so he
00:04:24.520 was like well all right this date's over and then he just walked out and left her to it really yeah so
00:04:28.900 that would be a massive turnoff for me that kind of ball breakery sort of very and it's very
00:04:34.600 transactional as well isn't it do you know what i mean like really really transact even if that is a
00:04:38.720 obviously yeah you know you want to have a certain life maybe in the back of your mind but to come out
00:04:42.440 with it like that i mean that so that that sort of behavior it's almost like entitlement
00:04:46.140 absolutely she feels entitled to your money yeah completely and and look i mean i'm sure british women
00:04:52.540 would do that as well this is an american woman from one of the big cities it's just that whole
00:04:56.440 thing it's not very feminine and it's it's not very attractive you know what are some other
00:05:00.580 masculine things that you see women do often oh geez um i mean i think it's not even so much
00:05:10.520 masculine things it's sort of like turning up late it's being disrespectful it's like being on their
00:05:15.760 phone during the day you know anything like that it's just like look this is this is game over do you
00:05:21.200 know what i mean like there's got to be an element of sort of give and take in that well you're laughing
00:05:25.800 is that what you do no like on the date i'm sorry i'm on tinder sorry um yes just just general sort
00:05:33.580 of bad behavior and i'm not saying like oh you know she's she's got to you know live up to this
00:05:37.980 strict code or something but it's a bit like come on you know um and just being difficult as well not
00:05:42.920 allowing the thing to flow easily because we're both here we're both trying to communicate see if we
00:05:46.520 can get on whatever so just you know just just just be chill you know um what do you guys look for
00:05:52.500 um i feel like i look for someone who um will provide me with emotional support um someone
00:05:59.700 who's supportive someone who does work i mean i don't want to be someone who hasn't got a job and
00:06:04.080 has no money you know um yeah someone who's just respectful has money um you don't have to be the
00:06:10.840 richest guy in the world for me personally as long as you've got some sort of income coming in that can
00:06:15.220 support himself and me once in a while you know it doesn't have to be a thing where he's taking care of
00:06:20.360 me because you know i do make my own money but it's just always good to have a man that who has
00:06:25.400 his own money and he can take care of the both of you as well so yeah that's what i look for and
00:06:30.160 someone who's not shorter than me yeah how tall are you i'm five foot five five five so five six is
00:06:36.880 good no at least five seven yeah five seven yeah okay good um i'm not gonna say what i look for
00:06:44.940 because i already have a boyfriend oh what made your boyfriend different you could say that
00:06:48.780 right he ticks all the boxes you know he's ambitious he's intellectual he's successful
00:06:54.920 he looks after me um you can tell she's happy she's got like
00:07:00.980 what's he first what i want i get um he just makes me feel special and that's what i think a man's
00:07:10.680 supposed to make you do i don't feel like you should settle i feel like everybody has someone
00:07:14.960 out there for them um and that's what i believe because i found mine so i think everyone else
00:07:21.700 you think you think everyone has someone out there for them absolutely i feel like you know
00:07:26.480 absolutely i definitely i gotta say this i feel like a lot of people would say my list is very
00:07:31.860 very very very picky but i found mine he's got fear in so i can't go wrong i gotta i gotta say that
00:07:38.320 how can everyone have someone out there for them when there's more women than men
00:07:42.260 um some of them are incarcerated right now so you got y'all gotta wait
00:07:46.580 no no don't do that even even if you just look at the population there's 55 women 45 men what are
00:07:54.580 the five percent of women what are we doing i feel like some women then choose to just settle for
00:07:58.580 anything some women don't want men yeah some women don't want men and um when you take out the
00:08:08.700 percentage that don't want men and don't wanna but then there's there's also guys that don't want
00:08:13.300 girls right yeah so you gotta there's it's on both ends you know yeah i feel like it just depends
00:08:19.580 um but i definitely feel like this if if you're on here and you're on this earth there's definitely
00:08:25.700 someone for you and i don't feel like anyone should sell definitely not i don't agree with that
00:08:30.440 yours is to come so what what if what if you think you deserve someone that's six five makes
00:08:37.060 250 000 a year um yeah let me tell you how my god works my god works your god my god
00:08:45.440 he might not give you 250 but he might give you 200 and baby you're gonna settle if that's what you want
00:08:53.260 like there's different attributes when it comes to people you might not be higher yeah but he might
00:08:59.100 not be you might want like 250 in regards to money and he might have the best personality so you know
00:09:06.900 it's gonna accommodate the 50k less than what he initially owes but what you initially wanted
00:09:12.720 you know so it works so then you do have to settle in some way don't you think yeah but it just
00:09:19.440 depends on how it just depends how much you settle yeah how much yeah yeah i don't agree in selling
00:09:24.380 less no it's not too much yeah why don't why don't women always talk about we can't settle instead of
00:09:30.460 maybe we should bring more no i bring to the table that's why i can have such i'm not talking about you
00:09:35.720 i'm just talking about women in general like because i always hear like and again i do these panels
00:09:40.100 so much so we always like i always hear that we can't settle but we never talk about like bringing
00:09:43.940 more to the table for men no so like getting in better shape you know learning how to cook
00:09:48.580 learning how to clean like offer i do all of that that's why i feel like i'm allowed no but
00:09:53.520 me personally that's why i feel like i'm allowed to have such high requirements because i play my
00:09:58.760 part why do you play yours why do you think women in general don't talk about self-improvement other
00:10:03.440 than surgeries mostly i feel like some women are entitled um i feel like again the woman's gonna hold
00:10:13.140 home and they will kids so they feel like they have the i can look or i can be a particular way
00:10:19.560 and you just adjust to that but i feel like that's what that's how society has created women
00:10:24.840 society has created that yes as many of you know i was just banned on tiktok and we are demonetized
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