Modern Women GOT SCHOOLED on Men's NATURE
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Summary
In this episode we discuss cheating in relationships and how to deal with it in the modern dating world. It's a topic that has been on my mind for a while now and I think it's one that many of us should be talking about. In this episode I talk about cheating and how it's a huge issue in the dating world and what to do about it.
Transcript
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it is black and white so so listen to this and this is why i say women love love the street so
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much because because you have a man that's prepared to to marry you he's prepared to
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literally take you on as his wife all the things you've been talking about for the last 10 years
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you haven't had and the simple thing he says is you've got an ex that used to blow your back out
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i don't want them around you no more like no no but this is how men think you want me to talk
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about how this is how we think we think some okay this is how some men think but the types of men
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you are attracted to think like that because if not you would have picked one of these guys in
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your comments on your dms for years i've won it uh no that's desperate i would never see you're
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doing it again this is you haven't given them a chance because these are the guys you do you don't
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see you don't see these guys but the guys you do see are the ones that speak like this and think like
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this i'm being honest with you and if you want to look at it look at it as this is new information
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you've never heard before take it in as new information i am unless you're willing to go
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for the guys which you'd never look at these are the guys which will let you have him as a friend
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because they've been trying to try to take you out for years and they want to see you the types
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of guys that meet you and they speak like me they would never allow him to be your friend they'll
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just say look that's your boy you can if you see him that's cool but all of that stuff cuts off now
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that i'm involved i think the bigger issue is that he might be cool with it he might not but the whole
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point is that his girl won't listen to him facts that's the big problem right there as far as i'm
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concerned you know he might be called he might meet the guy and say yeah you know i respect your
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relationship but if he turns around and says i'm not comfortable with it and the girlfriend turns around and says
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she's not going to listen to him she doesn't respect him and she doesn't value the relationship
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enough you know that's that's the message the moment a girl says that to me bro i can't lie like
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yeah she's single man yeah so what you are saying yeah basically that if your girl said that she had
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a friend that is an ex but she would like to bring him around you though you would feel some type of
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way because me personally if my girl that i'm seeing said that she has a friend and she doesn't
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mind bringing me around him then it's like it proves to me that there's not really nothing to hide what it
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proves yeah because that you're around me 24 like me i i like my girl to be around me 24 7 so if she
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now then brings the like they're not there i'm not expecting them to be close because me and i don't
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speak every single day and i'm phoning her 24 7 because that's how you are making it seem no but
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you're fighting for it like you do that if this is just a thing where so for example if you guys were
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friends and you might occasionally bump into each other and you know you know maybe a family barbecue or
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we don't even have to have this conversation but the conversation you guys are giving me is the one
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where you know what we know we played in the sandpit together we dated for this with our family still
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close you know that's my i'm like hold on a second why don't you just get with him then and just fix
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like i don't know what i'm here for that's really sad it's not sad it is because why can't it be a
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thing where i respect his mom enough to call her auntie and go over for some jollof and and have a
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good time with the family because i don't have my mom in the picture but you have a man who you're
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supposed to be building that relationship and that's still fine i believe in him and i and i will
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definitely go through that journey but to think i'm disrespecting my husband because i'm friends
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with a man but i think though it's not that you're friends with a man the point is you're not listening
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to him like again love to men is respect it's saying you know what i might not agree with this
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but i respect your judgment so i'm gonna go with it i'm gonna do what you say but like men don't want
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an argumentative woman and what you're doing is rather that you're not listening to me you keep trying
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to say but but you're actually not listening to me men and women are fundamentally different we look
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at cheating differently by the way you're acting and what you're saying to me we classify that as
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cheating you don't know but you have to listen to it you don't have to i'm listening so i just don't
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agree so it seems like i'm not listening no but you don't see not agreeing is that part where you're
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going to kick back men are not going to change and the types of men that will allow you to do
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this you do not check for you don't look at you see past they're invisible to you so the types of men
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that will allow this to happen you do not check for so what i'm saying as a man and what this
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other gentleman is saying as a man is that if you if i take it as my missus and i'm serious about you
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and i want to introduce you to my family i want to marry you if you cannot do something like this
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to go into the then it's fine but this is why i say modern women are for the streets and they want
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to stay in the streets because when you've got a man that's all you want to show is that a bit of
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commitment from you you're like no no no no no the rave is so important i'm going up my girls are so
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important my men but that seems a little bit far-fetched because nobody said i'm going out
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no matter what you said or i'm gonna go into this but it's when we asked you the question
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when we we asked you if he said this what would you do yeah and you said no i would still do what
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i'm gonna do okay no i that's that's not agreeable that's that's not feminine that's argumentative
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okay and i like you i think i think you know what it is you you remind me of a lot of women that i've
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met and i've dealt with and like you look the part so i'm saying i look the part what do you mean by
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that what do you mean you're very you look very feminine okay yeah you look very feminine you're
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you know i mean you're made well you're presented very well so you look very feminine and when you
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talk you have a nice tone of voice but when we say certain things as soon as we say i get to see your
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eyes start rolling back and you want to kick back with it but but what are you really kicking back for
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i'm i'm do you know what i've never heard these point of views and it's good to be open about
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these kind of conversations i do how old are your brothers they are 24. um they're twins
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shout out the twin brothers so have you ever spoke to your brothers about relationships yeah
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and what do they say they have their different twins we're sisters yeah they have um you guys are
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sisters yeah oh there's a whole back story i was wondering i was like oh they must have been friends
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for a while she's my sister i guess they have their own different views on relationships but
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when you say what what do they think what do you mean by that like obviously you're the um okay so
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you're there you're the oldest yeah older sister so obviously they're slightly um they're slightly junior
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to you they're still quite young so a lot of the times is brothers would would speak to their sisters
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but they're the young they're younger so obviously you're so you're older than my thing is this i
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don't know obviously your relationship with your father like i don't know any of those types of stuff
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but i tend to think that a lot of times girls have had friends that are men and they tell
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and they speak to them at least one or two guys will be real and be like yo yeah this is what it is
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like like so when you have a real guy that's real then he should be saying to you everything i'm saying
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is it's not some it's not some fallacy it's not some idea that that i've just just just create
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essentially create out my head a lot of men will lie as you said they're not going to care about
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body count you know why because they're not going to be around long enough to care about it they're
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going to run it up and give it to your husband he's the one that's going to care about it so when
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mana when you're saying oh i've never heard this before it's because why would they say it men never
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speak about how you women supposed to learn about it if you don't say it because okay more men need to tell the truth
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that's that's really what it is and there should be a father in the home but a lot of like women
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weren't raised by wives and they don't have a dad in the home so they have no one to teach them this
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i was i'm not saying you i'm sorry sorry i don't know anyone's backstory here but i'm just saying
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in general like your dads are supposed to teach you this stuff okay and your brothers i mean i don't
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have all the same views as her so what so so your sisters um so what do you think um i i kind of
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agree with what you're saying but only because i know the relationship like the friendship between
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them i would understand why it would be hard for her to just like kick him to the side for a man who
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possibly could be gone one day whereas he's probably never gonna leave her life and also just to say if
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the guy did have a problem with me being in the situation i would be happy taking a step back
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yeah but they're saying you're not no bro you're not the problem no it's not yours yeah i'll be
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disrespectful yeah yeah like so yeah it's not you it just comes down to um comes down to the to the
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woman's decision and the willingness to get like to put that aside for to make him happen i'll be
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honest a lot of times men don't we don't even care oh sorry a lot of times men we don't even care we
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just want to know you would do it we just ask you and then soon your first answer is the answer that
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lets us know and when we start kicking back it's like it's like if you're going to wear something
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out i love the fact that my girl's going to send me what she's wearing out i can pick oh do you think
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and if i do you think this is too much too much skin and if i say that she's going to change it not
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because not because i'm trying to stop off from wearing something no i'm just like oh maybe that
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one's a little bit you know i'm trying to say yeah like you're giving a bit too much of what you
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shouldn't be giving all right cool so i'm saying yeah um and men we like to be a part of the process
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we're not stopping you we see you can go out but when you start going out too much or if you start
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going out with single friends or potentially you go to places where you know maybe the vibe isn't
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right or they've heard they could have been drama or things have happened in the past that's when we
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get worried you know i'm trying to say to you but we're not trying to stop a woman from ever going
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out but we'll get concerned when you start going out too much and you put yourself in situations
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where men can start hitting up to you and then there's alcohol flowing and and you know whenever
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people say i made a mistake or i was drunk that's never happened when someone wasn't drunk and they
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didn't make a mistake so you have to take a lot of these scenarios out and we know women cheat as
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much as men do so there has to be someone doing the cheating and if we talk about women having
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women are the ones with the gateway gateway sorry the gatekeepers to sex then once you're adding
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nightclub once you're adding out with a single whole friends once you're adding alcohol once you're
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adding all these other factors and the fact that you can make a mistake we're human how about we just
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try to just take away some of these factors that's all i'm saying respectfully as many of you know i was
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