JustPearlyThings - June 08, 2023


Modern Women LOVE Toxic RELATIONSHIPS


Episode Stats

Length

13 minutes

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167.88963

Word Count

2,288

Sentence Count

5


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 so i i have a question have you ever been in a toxic relationship yes or no yeah and if yes
00:00:08.080 what is the most toxic thing he or she did and what is the most toxic thing you did
00:00:13.200 and yeah so yeah so um why don't you start eddie um toxic relationship yeah yeah i've been the one
00:00:23.040 what's the most toxic thing that i did
00:00:25.760 nothing it was all her it was mostly her store i'll be real yeah it was mostly her store nothing
00:00:37.440 it doesn't take two to tango i seriously i think probably the most toxic thing i did was i checked
00:00:42.240 the phone once that's probably the most toxic thing that i did so um i also have a whiteboard
00:00:48.720 for this part of the okay where i'm gonna write things on the whiteboard and we get to decide
00:00:53.680 as a group toxic or not and then the most toxic thing she told me because she told me that there
00:01:01.520 was like a scale of toxicity of crazy that she did like psycho that she did and she was the least
00:01:06.400 psycho thing she did was that she used to message me to ask if i was at home and then she would drive
00:01:11.200 past my window to check if i was actually in wow mad yeah actually that's the least of what she used to
00:01:15.440 to be yeah yeah yeah she's got time i don't know she used to she used to go up to girls that i knew
00:01:21.760 and be like just know that um i know you you're in the same class as eddie this is at uni i know you're
00:01:27.440 in the same class as eddie just just wanting to let you know that i know that she needs to get an sia
00:01:31.680 badge she'd walk past girls do that she's wasted she's wasted she's wasted
00:01:37.280 am i six call her but yeah mad oh what am i going to put on the board so wait what did you do that
00:01:42.640 was toxic that's what i said i checked the phone okay fine okay i'm trying to think i'm in my rolodex
00:01:50.000 you said in a relationship in a relationship mad listen speak your mind man is checking the phone
00:02:02.640 in a relationship toxic very hundred percent i want to do hands so if yes it's toxic raise your hand
00:02:11.680 in a phone okay you're looking for trouble
00:02:14.960 exactly when you when you when you seek you shall find in it but the only reason i did it
00:02:20.880 it's because she used to love doing it yeah so then so then she used to love doing it so one time
00:02:26.880 i said let me check your phone and she got bare defensive oh so i was like hmm something's fishy
00:02:34.720 and then when i preed it my heart sank bruv for real i my immune system shut down i got covid
00:02:40.480 before even called it happened yeah what'd you what'd you find the maddest texas the maddest
00:02:47.440 texas during the matting pictures just the whole do you know what most of all you just find bare lies
00:02:55.760 you just find bare lies saying you're in certain places when you're not and you're with certain
00:02:59.360 people and you're not it was long still okay what about driving did you say she drove by so she said
00:03:06.240 the least toxic thing the thing she could tell me the most sorry the least psycho thing she did that
00:03:10.880 she could tell me about no is that she would text me to check whether i was in and then she would
00:03:15.280 drive past my window to check if that my light was on if i was actually there bruh that's what i said
00:03:20.320 she got time okay raise your hands is checking to see where they are toxic
00:03:31.520 i'll put i know this was a close one but i'll put toxic i'm not gonna lie i went with many a friend
00:03:37.200 back in the day to do checks i remember walking into connell in tottenham in connell college using like a
00:03:45.520 guide you know like id to go and check for my friend to see if he was really there doing his
00:03:55.600 was he no that's crazy i wouldn't do it on on someone i was seeing but i helped my friend out
00:04:05.040 we were like 16. i just want to say i don't have the capacity cheats okay what what about you have
00:04:11.200 you ever been in a toxic relationship and if so what was the most toxic thing you both did okay so
00:04:17.360 yeah of course like because i think everyone said yes um most toxic thing i probably did in that
00:04:23.280 relationship was i mean at that time i was it was many years ago and i was using a lot of coke and
00:04:33.200 different drugs and things like that and i was basically convincing her to sell for me which was
00:04:40.160 hey hey ride or die i'm not i'm not gonna lie i wasn't expected that all right you know what toxic
00:04:48.480 or not toxic you know i don't think that's toxic i don't think that's toxic okay you know you could
00:04:54.080 say you could say you could say you could say hey hey we could phrase it the right way helping with
00:04:58.560 a business yeah that's literally what i was thinking she's supporting her man probably made it sound more
00:05:03.680 coercive than it was like when i was out of town she would when i was out of town she would do it for me
00:05:09.760 she was more than willing but i was still using her for that shut up that's not toxic that's not
00:05:15.280 toxic i don't think that's toxic well we're gonna raise hands anyway that's not about me
00:05:24.320 that's called joint enterprise
00:05:25.920 all right all right having your girl sell drugs for you raise your hand
00:05:31.440 toxic she agreed she wanted to make money did she want to make money and did it all go to her
00:05:36.720 your girl's a hustler bro i took the risk of sourcing it
00:05:40.480 did she did she say i don't know about this did you like you know no no there was no coercion
00:05:45.600 there was no okay okay okay all right all right we're trying this again we're trying to look at
00:05:51.920 that in two different ways all right we're guys guys we're trying this again raise your hand if
00:05:54.880 that's toxic i'm gonna put a like all right i'm a hustler i'm a hustler homie i'm gonna say i'm gonna
00:06:03.840 say no she's an entrepreneur that's it bro if i were you we kindled with her she's a she was a real one
00:06:11.840 she was a keeper bro we haven't got on to why she was toxic yet all right this is evidence she
00:06:17.200 probably rubbed your money or something i did something many years ago that they've got nothing
00:06:22.720 else for all right so so what'd you say um i would say yes evidence but the thing she did that was
00:06:28.800 toxic was she she didn't take responsibility for her emotions but what she would do is when she would
00:06:33.840 get upset she would do everything she could to try and make me lose my temper so she would like shout
00:06:38.640 and scream at my face and if i went i'm not having an argument and try and walked away
00:06:41.840 she would like follow me out into the street and like grab hold of me screaming and shouting the
00:06:46.000 road down trying to make out like you know you fucked up bro you meant to choke her and say bend over
00:06:50.640 and that will calm her down straight yeah choke and say babe shut up and then give her a little bit
00:06:56.640 of wood and see she don't say baby i love you baby i'm sorry i said that
00:07:02.640 okay so making him lose his temper yeah yeah yeah i'm just gonna put talk yeah yeah yeah okay so so what
00:07:32.400 about what about you no bro say with chest
00:07:41.600 come on
00:07:44.560 he lied he lied he lied to be fair he lied about his name
00:07:49.520 making him making him babysit while i went to go cheek with my sugar daddy
00:07:58.720 i need to take another second of a kobe test
00:08:01.920 i think my immune system's playing up
00:08:09.120 so so no women scare me man i had the reason to be scared this is why i'm scared this dude was a
00:08:15.280 whole different someone with a fake passport okay okay and a baby and a baby in ghana
00:08:24.080 so
00:08:24.480 that was compensation what you still did was worse yo yo well you said you cheated is worse
00:08:31.680 she was young she was young i was young i don't give a
00:08:34.400 like i mean you knew what you're doing like honestly when you're over like 17 you know it's 16.
00:08:48.000 he's a big woman i mean i denied it at first and you lied because he owned up to his life
00:08:56.560 i owned up eventually
00:09:01.440 but thugs don't cry
00:09:05.840 i'm gonna just put talks
00:09:08.880 because think about it wasn't just another guy it was a sugar daddy yeah man was funding the thing
00:09:14.400 so he's not only getting the tuntun he's paying for the tuntun
00:09:16.800 he's having no ashes honestly i feel like i feel like 19 i'm thinking like we're talking to women
00:09:22.800 from the 1920s they'll be like oh you're you're you're dude at a family crosstown mine had three
00:09:30.000 but we used protection i didn't violate there was always protection
00:09:34.880 i don't need the details you did you did the crime b you're guilty guilty
00:09:40.720 you know what here hold on i'm gonna i'm gonna put a red flag
00:09:43.600 if you're speaking that's what they're saying
00:09:49.680 yeah yeah i'm sorry i'm gonna i'm gonna put i can't even think of anything now
00:09:53.920 anyone that was thinking to start in the dms cancel the mission
00:09:57.520 mission
00:09:58.160 yeah that was a long time ago
00:10:05.120 i'm backing you here people
00:10:06.080 i don't i was in a relationship i want to be honest there's not an excuse you could say an
00:10:11.760 excuse i had checked out you can how old was the sugar i just i can't it it was a daddy
00:10:18.400 information is classic no he was like 12 years older than me okay okay okay 15.
00:10:24.640 okay okay hold on hold on hold on one second
00:10:34.960 you've got more red flags than a golf course
00:10:41.760 yeah you know i'm gonna i'm gonna draw you two i was in pain
00:10:44.720 i was in pain i'm gonna draw the ladies of the show why not the men
00:10:50.800 i actually just kept quiet like now i'm like no no i respect the honesty but i'm terrified
00:10:56.880 i've got a green flag yeah yeah yeah you're the married one she's trying to find a husband at
00:11:02.160 24. you did it properly i feel bad there's no halves go all in i went to i went to therapy for
00:11:08.320 three years i have to yeah i have been to therapy since oh oh you went to therapy okay hold on hold
00:11:13.520 hold on hold on you can't pretend to be okay i want to pretend to be okay okay i want perfection
00:11:32.000 i'm trying to be my best let's take off one let's take it take off one yeah just one well can i say
00:11:38.960 what he did today go ahead go ahead what'd he do what'd he do monitoring spirits he there was one
00:11:46.880 time like basically he used to eavesdrop on my conversations he this is before i cheated on him
00:11:52.240 right so paranoid about me yes because some guys when you get with them the nice guy the one that
00:11:58.080 doesn't get the girls they can't believe they've got you so they become your surveillance and this is
00:12:04.560 where he wasn't my type i said you know what i want the nice guy but the nice guy couldn't believe
00:12:09.760 he won what is your time oh but see that's what they say i was dating bad boys i had daddy issues
00:12:15.840 so he was the guy he was the guy that was quiet he was respectful he was kind he was calm but he
00:12:22.000 couldn't believe in himself that he actually got me but then he started being extra with monitoring
00:12:27.280 my phone checking my phone to the point where i went out one time to use the payphone to have a
00:12:31.840 private conversation with my girlfriend and i turned around and this dude is standing by the
00:12:37.840 glass fan i was like with that breathing in the window but this is why they say you can't this is
00:12:43.840 why they say you can't date a girl after she's dated bad guys because she'll cheat on the nice guy with
00:12:48.800 the bad boy no but look what he was doing yeah i mean it doesn't it doesn't matter it doesn't matter what
00:12:54.400 he was doing like he lied about his whole life i mean i understand the leave but if you choose to
00:13:00.160 cheat your cheater i mean yeah it's like and i understand like i'm not saying you enjoyed it
00:13:04.800 i'm not i'm not saying you will be forever but like there's you can't not take accountability and
00:13:09.040 say i was young she cheated and she enjoyed it as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we
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