JustPearlyThings - November 10, 2023


Panel REVEALS How Marriage-less The Society is Becoming Because of This


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33 minutes

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206.44283

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6,966

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123


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Transcript

00:00:00.000 Oh, you know, so, you know, China, how old are you?
00:00:04.360 I'm just 10, 49.
00:00:05.560 Okay, so you're 39.
00:00:06.700 So I'm seeing this growing number of older men, right?
00:00:10.120 Older, like, around 30 or late 30s, early 40s that have never married.
00:00:15.440 That have been, right?
00:00:16.740 So you're 41, right?
00:00:18.360 You're 30, 47, 39.
00:00:23.280 All of you guys never married.
00:00:24.900 It's interesting, right?
00:00:25.760 I know you married, but you got married later, too.
00:00:28.720 Yeah, I got married at 42.
00:00:30.140 And so, you know, a lot of times they ask the question to the men,
00:00:33.500 why aren't you marrying these women, you know?
00:00:36.160 So why aren't you getting married?
00:00:37.860 And China just had the funniest clip, you know,
00:00:42.960 where he really answered the question, why aren't the guys marrying?
00:00:47.500 Okay, go ahead.
00:00:48.080 Bye.
00:00:54.360 Married.
00:00:57.500 Married.
00:00:57.540 Married.
00:01:08.220 Why are you married?
00:01:09.640 Why are you married?
00:01:11.420 Why are you married?
00:01:12.500 Why are you married?
00:01:13.480 Why are you married?
00:01:13.760 yeah
00:01:14.760 cause look at what I got to pick for
00:01:16.960 look at you and me
00:01:17.780 why went there a riot
00:01:23.700 why went there a riot
00:01:24.860 that girl spinning around
00:01:33.800 I think the first time I saw that I
00:02:02.300 cried laughing that was so funny
00:02:04.400 where was that?
00:02:05.400 that was in Brixton
00:02:06.960 in an event called shout out to pod and party noise and banter
00:02:10.880 yeah that was the event and I was a guest and like you said they asked me
00:02:14.880 I got a question bro
00:02:16.760 how do you have the balls
00:02:19.040 the balls to do that in a full black
00:02:22.240 you know what I'm going to say
00:02:24.660 say it say it
00:02:25.820 you do that in a full black environment
00:02:27.880 with a whole bunch of black women in a black community
00:02:30.200 yeah and have the balls to say that which but she was right
00:02:33.300 yeah you have some points of what she was making
00:02:34.920 but that's some balls
00:02:36.640 that's some balls
00:02:38.400 I'll be honest with you like like like um
00:02:40.380 Poe after Poe was like yeah you're going to need some security
00:02:42.320 yeah
00:02:42.720 yeah we're going to need time you know
00:02:44.480 no did you I remember he was saying I should come to the next one
00:02:47.800 I'm like oh god me and you
00:02:49.260 yeah I think
00:02:50.620 Omar is coming
00:02:51.360 no like yeah Poe needs to come to the next one
00:02:53.760 but 100% yeah we're going to have some security
00:02:55.200 did you expect them to go that mental about it though
00:02:57.980 because it seemed fair enough to me really
00:02:59.460 it seemed fair enough to you said
00:03:00.480 I'll be real with you
00:03:02.140 I was going to answer it completely differently
00:03:03.880 so um um you know
00:03:06.140 another lady on the panel
00:03:07.840 and she from um from my podcast
00:03:10.440 um from not in them
00:03:12.080 and she actually asked me a question
00:03:13.360 why aren't you married right
00:03:14.300 and I was trying to explain
00:03:15.000 so I was about to articulate
00:03:16.080 why I'm not married
00:03:17.360 and explain
00:03:17.960 all my friends which are my age range
00:03:20.360 which are doing well
00:03:20.860 which are not married
00:03:21.420 because of obviously what's going on
00:03:22.780 they wouldn't let me do that
00:03:23.960 they started heckling me
00:03:24.940 they started doing that thing
00:03:26.160 in a room full of women
00:03:27.220 oh so what
00:03:27.980 so then I was like okay
00:03:29.620 well if you want
00:03:30.560 they don't want to get that try
00:03:31.860 they want the menace try
00:03:33.320 so
00:03:33.620 but you went to the ends
00:03:35.320 you went to the ends of Brickson
00:03:36.960 what do you expect
00:03:37.700 well the truth of the matter
00:03:39.580 is we're in a post-marriage society
00:03:41.120 most people just don't know it yet
00:03:42.520 I mean they're predicting 50% of women
00:03:44.660 um at marrying age
00:03:46.020 are going to be single and childless
00:03:47.500 and then on top of that
00:03:48.440 the 50% of women that do get married
00:03:50.320 half will divorce
00:03:51.060 so that leaves one in four
00:03:52.320 that'll be with a guy
00:03:54.020 and their old age
00:03:54.880 what was going to be your other answer
00:03:57.040 um
00:03:58.700 no I've explained it before
00:04:01.440 like end of the day
00:04:02.180 so here's the thing right
00:04:03.180 I can have accountability
00:04:04.620 I've made bad choices in the past
00:04:05.880 with women
00:04:06.200 so that's the first start
00:04:07.780 I think men
00:04:08.820 you know
00:04:09.460 but also for us men
00:04:11.040 we don't really probably get into marriage
00:04:12.520 mind into your 30s
00:04:13.380 I think
00:04:13.700 you know
00:04:14.660 I was literally
00:04:15.380 don't get into marriage
00:04:16.600 I was literally thinking about
00:04:18.120 this particular um
00:04:19.520 situation
00:04:20.360 you know
00:04:21.260 getting to my 30s
00:04:22.520 and I'm thinking like
00:04:23.140 yo um
00:04:23.700 shouldn't I be having kids
00:04:24.860 should I be married
00:04:25.380 at this moment
00:04:25.740 you know
00:04:26.040 it hits into place
00:04:27.460 but then I think to myself
00:04:28.420 I don't think that
00:04:30.640 marrying for men
00:04:32.360 for love
00:04:33.180 is the main priority anymore
00:04:35.320 I think that you have to
00:04:36.200 marry for business
00:04:37.200 and once you think
00:04:38.620 marry for business
00:04:39.700 then your perspective changes
00:04:41.080 oh god
00:04:41.200 that's a nice
00:04:41.500 I might not think like that
00:04:42.420 oh man
00:04:42.860 oh god
00:04:43.740 you should have to marry
00:04:44.340 marrying for business
00:04:45.540 is a bad business
00:04:46.700 you should have to marry for love
00:04:48.480 you should be able
00:04:50.200 to marry for love
00:04:50.780 but unfortunately
00:04:51.320 I mean it's no surprise
00:04:52.360 is it
00:04:52.680 that dudes are getting married less
00:04:53.980 I mean look at
00:04:54.480 look at the laws
00:04:55.300 look at
00:04:55.640 look at how
00:04:56.220 look at how
00:04:56.800 look at how
00:04:57.440 set against guys it is
00:04:59.100 and we take away
00:04:59.780 and the other thing as well
00:05:01.220 is that
00:05:02.020 let's be frank
00:05:03.120 guys are programmed
00:05:04.520 biologically
00:05:05.120 to want to spread their seed
00:05:06.520 okay
00:05:06.940 now I don't think
00:05:08.260 I don't think
00:05:10.260 that that goes away
00:05:10.980 with age
00:05:11.440 personally
00:05:12.060 so you've got to be very sure
00:05:13.860 that the person
00:05:14.320 that you're married to
00:05:15.080 no no seriously
00:05:15.800 seriously
00:05:16.260 no seriously
00:05:16.980 seriously Matt
00:05:17.500 well you know
00:05:18.340 me at 16
00:05:20.220 was completely different
00:05:21.180 than me at 30
00:05:21.940 me at 16
00:05:22.820 I'm 47
00:05:24.100 exactly the same
00:05:25.100 but I feel like
00:05:28.140 a lot of my friends
00:05:29.540 want to get married
00:05:30.180 like you know me
00:05:30.840 I started this journey
00:05:32.080 very you know
00:05:33.100 like I said
00:05:33.920 my three sisters are married
00:05:35.060 my brother's married
00:05:35.620 my parents married
00:05:36.160 for over 40 years
00:05:36.920 that's your culture right
00:05:37.820 yeah that's my culture
00:05:38.680 where you from
00:05:39.140 Cameroon
00:05:39.840 I want to be married
00:05:41.200 it's something
00:05:41.740 it's an ideal for me
00:05:43.640 I won't have babies
00:05:44.420 out of wedlock
00:05:45.000 I don't do baby mamas
00:05:46.560 I put that out there
00:05:47.960 right
00:05:48.180 and I've
00:05:49.740 I've governed my choices
00:05:50.700 by that
00:05:51.180 but at the same time
00:05:52.380 I also understand
00:05:53.340 like
00:05:53.800 see
00:05:54.780 I
00:05:55.180 men actually want to
00:05:56.720 marry for love
00:05:57.320 and that's what
00:05:58.380 really messes us up
00:05:59.300 yeah yeah
00:05:59.700 like because we actually
00:06:00.720 want to marry for love
00:06:01.660 bro you're 100% correct
00:06:03.440 but then when it comes
00:06:04.840 down to the situation
00:06:05.680 you're sitting there
00:06:06.280 you're looking
00:06:06.700 you're like
00:06:07.040 after majority of
00:06:08.560 men get married
00:06:09.260 and then the divorce
00:06:09.960 happens
00:06:10.400 it all comes down
00:06:11.680 to the business
00:06:12.220 oh I own this house
00:06:13.760 you own that
00:06:14.400 the bank account
00:06:15.040 now it's business
00:06:15.900 so that's why I say
00:06:16.800 you have to marry
00:06:17.960 for business
00:06:18.580 you can't marry
00:06:19.340 for love
00:06:19.820 or you'll lose
00:06:20.740 you mean like
00:06:21.300 marry with a business
00:06:22.140 head
00:06:22.700 if you're going
00:06:23.320 if you're going
00:06:23.860 to marry somebody
00:06:24.620 I would assume
00:06:25.600 that the best way
00:06:26.220 at this moment in time
00:06:27.200 because trial and error
00:06:28.640 most of the guys
00:06:29.380 who sit down
00:06:29.880 and get married
00:06:30.460 at any age
00:06:31.500 at this moment in time
00:06:32.100 once the divorce happens
00:06:33.240 it's like lawyers
00:06:34.520 why are you thinking
00:06:35.300 about divorce
00:06:35.640 yeah but what
00:06:36.200 if a woman says that
00:06:37.220 then the woman
00:06:37.440 takes everything
00:06:37.980 because
00:06:38.200 I'll actually
00:06:39.620 I'll actually tell you
00:06:40.860 why they think
00:06:41.580 about divorce
00:06:42.200 because you know
00:06:43.320 the divorce rate
00:06:44.020 is between 40 and 50 percent
00:06:46.040 dating courtship
00:06:47.980 before marriage
00:06:48.880 has extended
00:06:49.680 from average
00:06:50.460 six months
00:06:51.180 a hundred years ago
00:06:52.400 to three years today
00:06:53.400 so it takes you
00:06:54.060 three years to get a ring
00:06:55.160 on average
00:06:56.580 according to Pew data
00:06:58.220 63 percent of men
00:06:59.440 under 30
00:07:00.080 are single
00:07:01.020 and roughly
00:07:01.900 half of them
00:07:02.900 have given up
00:07:03.440 on relationships
00:07:04.180 and in divorce
00:07:05.340 women get custody
00:07:06.160 90 percent of the time
00:07:07.360 only 20 percent
00:07:08.500 of dads
00:07:08.940 get weekly visitation
00:07:10.140 27 percent of dads
00:07:11.560 get no visitation rights
00:07:12.940 yeah so
00:07:14.440 yeah
00:07:15.220 the reason why
00:07:17.340 it takes longer
00:07:18.260 for the courtship phase
00:07:19.100 now
00:07:19.460 is because guys know
00:07:20.480 that they've got to vet
00:07:21.180 more properly
00:07:22.000 because back in the day
00:07:22.920 you know
00:07:23.700 like when my parents
00:07:24.520 got married
00:07:24.940 it was pretty much
00:07:25.840 you know
00:07:26.840 a fait accompli
00:07:27.620 you get married
00:07:28.120 you're going to stay together
00:07:28.760 that's it kind of thing
00:07:29.620 or certainly my grandparents
00:07:30.640 these days
00:07:31.620 because the divorce rate
00:07:32.800 is so high
00:07:33.420 and because of the way
00:07:34.020 the laws are
00:07:34.680 the guy's got to be
00:07:35.840 very sure
00:07:36.500 that he's with the right
00:07:37.160 right woman
00:07:37.560 so he's going to spend
00:07:38.060 a lot more time
00:07:39.060 with that woman
00:07:39.960 and do women divorce
00:07:41.260 for good reasons
00:07:42.400 typically
00:07:42.960 no
00:07:43.540 so i'm going to tell you
00:07:44.960 i'm going to tell you
00:07:45.460 the most frequently cited
00:07:47.180 reasons are trivial
00:07:48.180 they include
00:07:48.900 things like
00:07:49.800 emotional disconnect
00:07:51.420 irreconcilable differences
00:07:53.540 and lack of time
00:07:54.560 together
00:07:55.080 you only give away
00:07:56.080 seven reasons though
00:07:57.240 while they're
00:07:58.060 in marriage
00:07:59.260 you only get seven reasons
00:08:00.480 why you could divorce someone
00:08:01.620 yeah and you would think
00:08:02.740 they would be like
00:08:03.560 you know
00:08:03.900 the big things
00:08:04.640 like adultery
00:08:05.400 abuse
00:08:06.260 you know
00:08:06.600 oh you know
00:08:07.200 i saw that
00:08:07.940 i saw the clip
00:08:08.500 when you were on
00:08:09.220 piers yesterday
00:08:10.060 what was that
00:08:11.000 one of the women
00:08:12.020 told a story
00:08:12.820 about somebody
00:08:13.280 who was 60
00:08:13.960 and she divorced
00:08:14.780 her husband
00:08:15.220 because she was like
00:08:16.520 oh i haven't lived my life
00:08:17.660 i've only experienced
00:08:18.260 life as a married wife
00:08:19.320 and as a mother
00:08:20.500 and now i want to go out
00:08:22.080 and experience life
00:08:22.880 differently as a woman
00:08:23.580 i thought that was
00:08:24.360 an incredibly sad story
00:08:25.740 because she's got to 60
00:08:27.180 you know
00:08:28.340 she spent a lifetime
00:08:29.240 with her husband
00:08:29.760 and then she's just like
00:08:30.400 oh i want to do
00:08:31.400 the eat pray love thing
00:08:32.220 oh it's common
00:08:33.100 it's not
00:08:33.840 oh i'll say
00:08:34.500 it's not uncommon
00:08:35.380 i mean a lot of them
00:08:36.300 just did the separation
00:08:37.340 they didn't like divorce
00:08:38.380 on paper
00:08:38.980 but there's a reason
00:08:40.260 we're in this mess
00:08:41.180 there's a reason like
00:08:41.940 why the younger women
00:08:42.920 are so lost
00:08:43.760 it's because
00:08:44.220 i really think
00:08:45.100 there's been two generations
00:08:46.120 of shitty wives
00:08:47.020 bad wives
00:08:48.340 bad mothers
00:08:49.280 yeah
00:08:49.700 yeah because
00:08:51.080 because um
00:08:51.860 what i see
00:08:52.540 in the generation
00:08:53.780 above us
00:08:55.060 is they had very little
00:08:56.900 wife skills
00:08:57.560 a lot of them tended to work
00:08:58.860 none of them really believed
00:08:59.860 in obeying and submitting
00:09:00.840 to their husband
00:09:01.500 so it's like us
00:09:02.420 we don't know anything
00:09:03.300 then the generation
00:09:04.360 before that
00:09:05.340 tends to be women
00:09:06.660 that stayed married
00:09:07.500 they might know how to sew
00:09:08.440 how to cook
00:09:08.940 but they didn't have
00:09:09.580 the right mindset
00:09:10.280 because the propaganda
00:09:11.180 started really heavy
00:09:12.240 in the 50s and 60s
00:09:13.520 and so they taught
00:09:14.540 their daughters
00:09:15.140 no you always have to
00:09:15.880 have a backup plan
00:09:16.640 you have to work
00:09:17.480 and so you see
00:09:18.740 like the generation
00:09:19.700 above us
00:09:20.420 which i would say
00:09:20.940 like 40 to 60 year old
00:09:22.100 women i call them
00:09:22.960 the generation of shitty wives
00:09:24.280 and the 60 to 80 year old
00:09:28.000 women stayed married
00:09:29.040 more so
00:09:30.100 but they just passed on
00:09:31.240 like the bad mindset
00:09:32.220 to their daughters
00:09:33.060 and when i've interviewed
00:09:34.740 80 to 100 year old women
00:09:36.600 which are less
00:09:37.200 you know they die
00:09:37.840 so they're less and less
00:09:38.760 but but but they seem
00:09:41.280 to be a lot more like
00:09:42.500 they believe in obeying
00:09:43.820 their husbands
00:09:44.360 so it seems like
00:09:45.240 we've actually had
00:09:45.920 not one not two
00:09:46.820 but three generations
00:09:47.740 of shitty wives
00:09:48.400 no wonder none of us
00:09:49.560 are making it down the aisle
00:09:50.640 but as well
00:09:51.560 as well
00:09:51.980 if you're gonna get
00:09:53.040 shacked up
00:09:53.460 if you were to marry somebody
00:09:54.540 you know the whole thing
00:09:55.220 that the track on thing
00:09:56.100 that gets thrown at people
00:09:57.000 when they argue
00:09:57.600 against marriage a lot
00:09:58.460 is like
00:09:58.900 well you're gonna die alone
00:09:59.860 you're gonna be miserable
00:10:00.580 you're gonna be in a deathbed
00:10:01.740 and you're not gonna have
00:10:02.400 anybody there
00:10:02.880 and all of that
00:10:03.380 but the thing is
00:10:04.140 if i marry somebody
00:10:04.900 and then at 60
00:10:05.580 she thinks
00:10:06.820 oh sod that
00:10:07.460 i want to go and
00:10:08.160 you know
00:10:08.400 sow my wild oats
00:10:09.160 for the next couple of decades
00:10:10.540 i'm gonna die alone anyway
00:10:11.760 so what was the point of it
00:10:13.100 so when everyone laughed
00:10:14.120 when i said
00:10:14.640 oh you know
00:10:15.100 everyone got up and uprored
00:10:16.160 oh my god
00:10:16.580 he said
00:10:16.900 you know
00:10:17.720 who wants to marry you
00:10:18.860 but essentially
00:10:19.720 they thought that
00:10:21.060 i was talking about the room
00:10:22.140 see the room represents
00:10:23.780 what's actually out there
00:10:25.140 a bunch of baby mommas
00:10:26.420 were in there
00:10:26.880 and they didn't like
00:10:27.560 the fact that i was telling them
00:10:28.540 that yeah
00:10:28.860 but you are right
00:10:29.660 and it's gonna affect
00:10:30.440 what's going on right
00:10:31.240 then there's a bunch of women
00:10:32.560 that are screaming
00:10:33.240 and they're heckling me
00:10:34.020 when i'm a guest
00:10:34.660 and i'm trying to speak
00:10:35.560 these are all rude things
00:10:36.880 these are very masculine
00:10:37.620 unfeminine things right
00:10:38.740 well yeah
00:10:39.440 so when i'm saying to them
00:10:40.560 that oh
00:10:41.560 you
00:10:42.620 i'm not saying
00:10:43.540 it's because
00:10:43.980 this room represents
00:10:45.320 some of the women
00:10:46.100 and for me
00:10:47.340 i'm seeing the women
00:10:48.420 that i would want to be
00:10:49.220 with a lot of
00:10:49.860 beautiful women in that room
00:10:50.960 yeah yeah
00:10:51.400 when you attach the attitude
00:10:52.620 or attach all of
00:10:53.400 i'm like
00:10:54.100 i'm a guest speaker
00:10:55.480 i shouldn't be getting this energy
00:10:56.800 but i will give the energy back
00:10:58.360 and because
00:10:59.060 and because they're giving
00:11:00.740 all of that energy
00:11:01.680 it just makes you
00:11:02.380 just want to just
00:11:02.940 send it right back
00:11:03.800 and you send it back
00:11:04.600 in such a way
00:11:05.160 that everyone's like
00:11:05.580 wow
00:11:05.920 and they feel it inside
00:11:06.860 because yes
00:11:07.460 nobody wants to marry you
00:11:09.080 because we don't want
00:11:10.120 to deal with this
00:11:10.800 and me as a man
00:11:11.760 i would rather be
00:11:12.560 like
00:11:13.000 i would rather be
00:11:13.920 a 47 year old man
00:11:15.040 that's got my stuff together
00:11:15.980 with no kids
00:11:16.600 and no baby mom
00:11:17.200 well you have to understand
00:11:18.120 a hundred years ago
00:11:19.180 the average guy got a virgin
00:11:21.280 that was roughly 120 pounds
00:11:23.620 that typically could help him
00:11:25.780 maybe like 100 150 years ago
00:11:27.880 but typically was like
00:11:28.820 helping on the farm
00:11:29.920 so she helped him with housework
00:11:31.980 she had all these recipes
00:11:33.180 from scratch
00:11:34.160 where it's like
00:11:35.320 you know
00:11:36.460 today the average woman's
00:11:37.780 170 pounds
00:11:39.040 it's like we can't even do the like
00:11:42.920 not fat thing
00:11:44.380 you know
00:11:44.800 like we can't even
00:11:45.800 that's like the bear
00:11:46.840 and then it's like
00:11:47.540 the average woman slept with it
00:11:49.040 between five and eight partners
00:11:50.540 and this is
00:11:51.180 you know
00:11:51.800 and everyone says
00:11:52.520 that's low
00:11:53.100 so let's be honest
00:11:53.980 it's probably a bit higher
00:11:55.240 you know
00:11:55.680 like just based on
00:11:56.940 what everyone says
00:11:57.760 you know china
00:11:58.280 you made a really great point
00:11:59.560 you know
00:11:59.900 about those particular
00:12:00.780 character traits
00:12:01.400 and those particular women
00:12:02.280 the hackling
00:12:03.180 the disrespect
00:12:03.780 towards your masculinity
00:12:04.920 and that particular presence
00:12:06.040 when in that video
00:12:07.040 was dominantly female
00:12:08.260 there
00:12:08.560 but you chose
00:12:10.720 that particular area
00:12:11.720 you know
00:12:12.340 you knew going to bricks
00:12:13.360 then you knew
00:12:13.880 that these particular type of
00:12:15.060 I wouldn't say
00:12:16.120 100%
00:12:17.020 then that means
00:12:17.760 that you like
00:12:18.780 more of a
00:12:19.480 if I was to give a perfect type
00:12:21.300 of new modern day woman
00:12:22.480 of a
00:12:23.000 you know
00:12:23.440 not traditional
00:12:24.680 but like a new modern day woman
00:12:25.980 would be like Beyonce
00:12:26.880 see
00:12:28.020 oh please sorry
00:12:28.700 that's not an example
00:12:29.420 I think Beyonce's a perfect example
00:12:31.280 I think Beyonce's
00:12:32.400 I'll be real
00:12:32.840 I didn't see no Beyonce's in there
00:12:34.880 let's come back to reality
00:12:36.960 no no no
00:12:38.040 let's come back to reality
00:12:39.080 so you don't think
00:12:40.980 there are independent women
00:12:41.960 who are actually intellectual
00:12:42.980 who can hold
00:12:43.560 what does independent mean for you
00:12:44.200 first of all
00:12:44.720 explain what independence means
00:12:46.060 for me as a guy
00:12:47.040 for you
00:12:47.380 in your perspective
00:12:48.340 because we're all talking
00:12:49.180 from our own expectors
00:12:50.180 I can explain
00:12:52.080 for me as a guy
00:12:53.080 when I look at a female
00:12:54.020 one of the things
00:12:54.860 that matters to me is
00:12:56.080 on my worst day
00:12:57.520 can she be there for me
00:12:59.140 you're talking from self
00:13:00.880 yeah as a guy
00:13:02.180 like I said
00:13:02.640 for me as a guy
00:13:03.800 when I look for a woman
00:13:06.000 or I think about a woman
00:13:06.900 I need to know
00:13:08.020 is she thinking about the future
00:13:09.680 or is she thinking about
00:13:10.380 her emotional now
00:13:11.180 on my worst day
00:13:12.000 can she be there for me
00:13:13.040 and if I want to say
00:13:14.080 oh I want to build
00:13:14.660 this corporation
00:13:15.380 is she going to say
00:13:15.940 good luck
00:13:16.320 or she say
00:13:16.620 well what's the first
00:13:17.240 couple steps
00:13:17.800 there's a different type
00:13:18.860 of mentality of women
00:13:19.800 and when I reference
00:13:20.900 Beyonce
00:13:21.320 I'm not talking about
00:13:22.060 her star power
00:13:22.720 I'm talking about
00:13:23.540 how she can look
00:13:24.220 at a corporation
00:13:24.980 or a business
00:13:25.540 and say
00:13:25.920 you want to own title
00:13:27.180 Jay-Z
00:13:27.520 well this is what
00:13:28.160 we're going to do
00:13:28.600 I know a couple
00:13:29.160 of artists
00:13:29.540 we can bring them here
00:13:30.340 and work with you
00:13:31.300 to actually become
00:13:32.120 that massive
00:13:34.180 male masculine figure
00:13:35.660 that's the type of woman
00:13:36.760 that I believe
00:13:37.380 in this modern day
00:13:38.260 generation
00:13:38.800 is outshined
00:13:41.600 I would say
00:13:42.100 at this moment in time
00:13:42.800 so it's not like
00:13:43.820 oh it's not realistic
00:13:45.120 no there are women
00:13:46.120 out here
00:13:46.540 in this world
00:13:47.120 but you just have to
00:13:48.060 you're not going to
00:13:48.820 find them
00:13:49.080 I'm not saying
00:14:01.400 I'm not saying
00:14:02.020 you're in London right now
00:14:03.740 hold on
00:14:05.700 hold on
00:14:05.980 hold on
00:14:06.480 the girls
00:14:08.500 the girls that
00:14:09.160 I'm saying
00:14:09.800 the girls that
00:14:10.580 are chilling
00:14:11.280 and hanging out
00:14:12.160 the girls that
00:14:13.000 have this type
00:14:13.600 of character trait
00:14:14.180 they're not going to
00:14:14.520 be sitting on a block
00:14:15.300 in Brixton
00:14:15.660 they're going to be
00:14:16.140 in different environments
00:14:16.720 let me just
00:14:18.980 let me just speak
00:14:19.840 on behalf of the girls
00:14:20.820 in Brixton
00:14:21.200 because I love the girls
00:14:21.980 in Brixton
00:14:22.320 shout out to the girls
00:14:23.160 in Brixton
00:14:23.500 where is Brixton
00:14:25.000 South London
00:14:25.580 South London
00:14:26.500 South London
00:14:27.140 like what
00:14:28.340 so you know
00:14:29.280 what it is
00:14:29.660 yeah
00:14:29.840 they're not chilling
00:14:30.440 on the ends
00:14:31.000 alright so
00:14:31.420 okay so
00:14:32.420 you know what I mean
00:14:33.560 okay so
00:14:35.000 what I would
00:14:35.800 what's wrong
00:14:36.560 with Brixton
00:14:37.160 not as long
00:14:38.120 it's not wrong
00:14:41.520 with Brixton
00:14:41.860 we're just talking
00:14:42.380 about like
00:14:42.800 babies you're from
00:14:43.600 the US
00:14:43.960 you can't come
00:14:44.480 in London right now
00:14:45.200 so
00:14:45.440 we're talking
00:14:46.240 about the demographic
00:14:46.720 so what he's done
00:14:48.420 is right
00:14:48.700 he's seen
00:14:49.160 he's seen all the
00:14:49.940 women right
00:14:50.420 and it seems
00:14:51.120 like it seems
00:14:51.940 very loud
00:14:52.700 it's like a lot
00:14:53.560 of people said
00:14:54.000 I can't believe
00:14:54.460 you was there
00:14:54.900 like I don't know
00:14:55.500 how you handled it
00:14:56.120 I felt bad for you
00:14:56.560 yeah yeah
00:14:56.980 a lot of people
00:14:57.400 did say that to me
00:14:58.160 right
00:14:58.400 and I get it
00:14:59.200 and I get it
00:14:59.680 right
00:14:59.900 but part of what
00:15:00.940 I'm doing
00:15:01.220 as the mandem's
00:15:01.820 voice is I believe
00:15:02.820 that like in the UK
00:15:04.380 not a lot of people
00:15:05.400 there's a lot
00:15:05.820 it's like crabs
00:15:07.340 crabs in a bucket
00:15:08.220 I don't know
00:15:09.220 how it is over there
00:15:09.980 you chose an environment
00:15:11.400 where there's a lot
00:15:12.000 of females
00:15:12.420 having fun
00:15:13.000 but on podcast spaces
00:15:14.260 there tends to be
00:15:15.080 this very this thing
00:15:15.940 where people like
00:15:16.580 to keep their
00:15:17.100 like what I like
00:15:18.200 about Pearl
00:15:18.700 is Pearl puts
00:15:19.400 people together
00:15:20.000 and sit people
00:15:20.480 together not
00:15:20.960 necessarily that
00:15:21.580 you might not
00:15:22.220 sit with right
00:15:22.800 so what I do
00:15:24.560 is Pearl's got
00:15:25.060 a very big platform
00:15:25.820 and I also feel
00:15:27.280 as a black content
00:15:28.160 creator
00:15:28.460 that I like to
00:15:29.060 take myself
00:15:29.820 when I go viral
00:15:30.540 and take my platform
00:15:31.440 to other smaller platforms
00:15:32.620 and take some
00:15:33.480 of the things
00:15:33.860 that I've learned
00:15:34.440 and that's what I do
00:15:36.360 so I get my energy
00:15:37.560 and I try to
00:15:38.460 follow it to little things
00:15:39.380 so the reason
00:15:39.940 why you're going
00:15:40.400 to see me
00:15:40.780 somewhere like that
00:15:41.400 because those
00:15:42.260 I just think
00:15:43.320 all women
00:15:43.760 are pretty much
00:15:44.380 the same
00:15:45.000 yeah I mean
00:15:45.700 let me finish
00:15:50.640 let me finish
00:15:51.180 let me finish
00:15:51.600 I think there's
00:15:52.440 better choices
00:15:53.540 and worse choices
00:15:54.840 but I've seen
00:15:55.700 I'll give you
00:15:56.780 an example
00:15:57.280 you know
00:15:57.560 I interviewed
00:15:57.900 a guy last week
00:15:58.940 right
00:15:59.260 and he married
00:16:00.780 a girl
00:16:01.380 that was homeschooled
00:16:02.520 and a virgin
00:16:02.960 and you know
00:16:03.560 what she did
00:16:04.160 she did
00:16:04.640 fucked his ass up
00:16:05.960 in divorce court
00:16:06.720 now he hasn't seen
00:16:07.420 his kid in three years
00:16:08.360 I've seen
00:16:09.160 I've seen women
00:16:09.960 that are Muslim
00:16:11.000 that did it
00:16:11.760 I've seen women
00:16:12.480 that are from Africa
00:16:13.580 that did
00:16:14.080 I've seen it
00:16:14.900 so it really just
00:16:16.020 led me to the conclusion
00:16:17.080 there's no good women
00:16:18.300 because I've also seen
00:16:19.560 you know
00:16:20.380 absolute whores
00:16:21.380 make really good
00:16:22.240 long term girlfriends
00:16:23.480 so my thing is
00:16:26.240 I think there's
00:16:26.720 high risk women
00:16:27.640 and low risk women
00:16:28.820 but you never really know
00:16:30.540 absolutely
00:16:30.940 Brixton is very gentrified
00:16:32.900 I mean like
00:16:33.320 my father was brought up
00:16:35.080 was born near Brixton
00:16:35.980 and you know
00:16:36.520 shout out to the Brixton Massive
00:16:37.760 because it's
00:16:38.140 it's a good place
00:16:40.360 it's a fun place
00:16:41.320 but look the point is
00:16:42.200 if he'd have done that
00:16:43.120 that talk
00:16:43.640 and it had been in Chelsea
00:16:44.520 do you think it would have been
00:16:45.760 a lot different
00:16:46.260 probably not
00:16:47.320 because like
00:16:47.980 one of my best friends
00:16:49.020 who lives in
00:16:50.560 you know
00:16:51.400 he's from that side of town
00:16:52.340 he lives in Chelsea
00:16:52.960 he's just been
00:16:53.560 completely screwed over
00:16:55.100 by a woman
00:16:56.040 from that demographic
00:16:56.940 who's basically
00:16:58.200 taken his kid
00:16:59.360 he hasn't got access
00:17:00.200 to the kid
00:17:00.640 he's been completely
00:17:01.680 screwed over
00:17:02.260 there's a reason
00:17:02.920 there's a reason
00:17:05.800 it's a glo
00:17:06.340 I'll get to this
00:17:07.040 but there's a reason
00:17:07.840 it's a global movement
00:17:09.100 it's because women
00:17:10.120 aren't special
00:17:10.840 we're freaking all the same
00:17:12.080 but that's a culture
00:17:12.920 that's a culture
00:17:14.140 that's a culture
00:17:14.980 difference
00:17:15.320 what I'm talking about
00:17:15.900 with you
00:17:16.200 when it comes out to you
00:17:17.040 you knew
00:17:17.680 and the reason I reference
00:17:18.580 Brixton is because
00:17:19.260 you know 100%
00:17:20.480 you're chilling
00:17:21.140 with the community
00:17:23.220 you know what I mean
00:17:23.840 so you know
00:17:24.920 they're going to get banned
00:17:25.700 but on some level
00:17:28.240 is I don't separate
00:17:29.700 myself from the community
00:17:30.620 so it's like
00:17:31.500 it's like
00:17:32.380 those are still my women
00:17:33.520 so they might be lost
00:17:34.760 or they might be
00:17:35.340 they're not lost
00:17:35.920 they just
00:17:36.320 you know
00:17:36.660 but part of my job
00:17:38.480 is that I have
00:17:39.120 I have to do that
00:17:40.080 and yes
00:17:40.840 it may come with a target
00:17:42.040 on my back
00:17:42.640 but at least
00:17:43.640 gotta say it
00:17:44.160 so I'm gonna
00:17:44.660 answer your question
00:17:45.680 you said
00:17:46.020 what did he do
00:17:46.840 for the kid
00:17:47.900 no a lot of times
00:17:49.020 nothing
00:17:49.480 a lot of times
00:17:50.480 women just get angry
00:17:51.660 and spiteful
00:17:52.440 and just decide
00:17:53.180 no no
00:17:53.720 thank you
00:17:54.300 yeah
00:17:54.600 and I do understand that
00:17:56.720 I've got also
00:17:59.360 male friends
00:17:59.860 who's definitely
00:18:00.580 experienced that
00:18:01.340 but then on the other hand
00:18:02.620 you do have the men
00:18:04.080 who will fuck over a woman
00:18:05.720 and turn a woman
00:18:07.620 into doing
00:18:08.540 such spiteful things
00:18:09.460 so there needs to be
00:18:10.360 a company on both sides
00:18:11.540 I'll get to you
00:18:12.280 wait what do you
00:18:12.880 what do you think
00:18:13.940 he would have to do
00:18:14.740 to deserve to not see
00:18:16.280 his blood
00:18:16.860 DNA
00:18:17.300 okay alright
00:18:18.100 fair
00:18:18.340 alright
00:18:18.760 nothing
00:18:20.760 there's no reason
00:18:21.980 there isn't no reason
00:18:22.680 there isn't
00:18:23.920 no reason
00:18:26.620 for you
00:18:27.540 not to see your blood
00:18:28.480 but
00:18:28.860 okay
00:18:29.440 so it's unacceptable
00:18:30.860 no it is unacceptable
00:18:32.060 however
00:18:32.540 where accountability
00:18:34.380 needs to be taken
00:18:36.980 is
00:18:37.340 there are things
00:18:38.280 that men
00:18:38.720 will poke
00:18:39.320 and keep on doing
00:18:40.180 at a woman
00:18:40.620 remember
00:18:41.060 we are women
00:18:41.660 we're females
00:18:42.360 yeah
00:18:42.620 we've got emotions
00:18:43.400 we're not like
00:18:44.340 a male
00:18:44.800 yeah
00:18:45.440 so
00:18:45.920 we're not going to tolerate
00:18:47.220 we're not going to tolerate
00:18:49.320 so
00:18:49.420 I have to disagree with you
00:18:53.200 I think there is no reason
00:18:55.320 for a woman to ever
00:18:57.040 like there's nothing a man can do
00:18:59.420 to deserve that
00:19:00.160 I think women that do that should
00:19:01.380 like and I don't even think
00:19:02.760 we should give them an out
00:19:03.900 or an excuse
00:19:04.560 like you're poking the bear
00:19:05.660 no
00:19:06.380 I'm not saying it's an excuse
00:19:08.180 I'm just giving you the scenarios
00:19:09.920 which happen a lot
00:19:11.960 so like what
00:19:12.740 so in regards to
00:19:15.120 like two people
00:19:16.580 in a relationship
00:19:17.160 let's say if a guy
00:19:18.160 is constantly cheating
00:19:18.980 on his woman
00:19:19.500 if he's constantly
00:19:20.520 disrespecting her
00:19:21.320 if he's constantly
00:19:21.940 not showing any attention
00:19:24.500 or emotion
00:19:25.080 why'd she make a kid
00:19:25.920 with a cheater?
00:19:27.640 maybe she didn't know
00:19:28.780 the cheating
00:19:29.020 is actually
00:19:29.700 you don't know
00:19:30.280 the cheating
00:19:30.620 either happens after
00:19:31.760 or
00:19:32.260 I don't believe it
00:19:34.300 I actually
00:19:35.680 to her point
00:19:36.640 I once had a niece
00:19:38.060 on her 18th birthday
00:19:39.860 she said
00:19:41.500 maturing
00:19:42.220 is realizing
00:19:44.040 you don't need
00:19:45.060 a man
00:19:45.960 that's when her father
00:19:47.900 and I
00:19:48.340 looked at each other
00:19:49.240 in disgust
00:19:50.580 later that night
00:19:52.520 two robbers
00:19:53.760 broke into the house
00:19:55.360 and threatened
00:19:57.240 to kidnap her
00:19:58.460 that's when she screamed
00:20:00.340 and pleaded
00:20:01.420 for her father and I
00:20:03.080 had come save her
00:20:04.320 that's when
00:20:06.160 we took off
00:20:07.580 our
00:20:07.920 our
00:20:08.420 our hat
00:20:09.360 and showed that
00:20:10.620 we were actually
00:20:11.220 the robbers
00:20:11.800 oh my god
00:20:12.620 you know
00:20:12.920 but my niece
00:20:16.240 but hold on
00:20:17.500 hold on
00:20:18.220 hold on
00:20:19.220 hold on
00:20:19.780 hold on
00:20:20.060 but my niece
00:20:20.760 but my niece learned
00:20:21.860 a very big lesson
00:20:23.340 that night
00:20:24.040 don't be a bitch
00:20:25.880 now she hasn't
00:20:26.800 now she hasn't spoken
00:20:27.780 to us
00:20:28.260 since then
00:20:29.040 I don't blame her
00:20:30.740 and now she does
00:20:31.600 only fence
00:20:32.300 whoa
00:20:32.820 you sent her
00:20:34.940 over the edge
00:20:35.460 wait we need to talk
00:20:36.860 about this
00:20:37.400 but a lot of that
00:20:40.000 is because
00:20:40.460 I don't think
00:20:41.640 I think she's just
00:20:42.200 too embarrassed
00:20:42.660 to admit
00:20:43.160 she was wrong
00:20:44.360 and ladies
00:20:45.180 maybe she doesn't
00:20:46.040 no no
00:20:46.420 maybe she thinks
00:20:47.200 that that behavior
00:20:48.020 was like
00:20:48.540 messed up
00:20:49.700 it's traumatic
00:20:50.660 this is for y'all
00:20:56.260 this is alpha king
00:20:57.120 rule number 344
00:20:58.540 women don't need
00:21:01.240 a man
00:21:02.120 but statistics have shown
00:21:04.000 if they don't have one
00:21:05.480 they become bitter
00:21:06.740 overweight
00:21:07.900 and bitchy
00:21:09.540 plus
00:21:10.400 I disagree with that
00:21:11.420 they're more likely
00:21:12.200 to be kidnapped
00:21:13.660 take it
00:21:15.380 take it
00:21:15.940 take it
00:21:17.920 take it
00:21:18.500 take it
00:21:20.680 take it too
00:21:21.080 and you know
00:21:21.640 they tried to
00:21:22.080 kidnap me
00:21:22.540 all the years
00:21:23.060 I've been single
00:21:23.640 nah you can't say that
00:21:24.800 you can't
00:21:25.420 you know
00:21:25.900 there's a lot of
00:21:26.820 there's a lot of
00:21:27.280 things you have to
00:21:27.760 back up
00:21:28.260 you can't say that
00:21:29.020 what the culture
00:21:29.540 of that woman is
00:21:30.140 the way she's brought
00:21:30.820 up
00:21:31.060 there's a lot of
00:21:31.580 factors
00:21:31.920 you can't be like
00:21:32.660 oh vulnerable woman
00:21:33.400 she's been single
00:21:34.080 boohoo her
00:21:35.000 no
00:21:35.320 I've been okay
00:21:36.740 I've been single
00:21:37.400 a long time
00:21:37.860 that's wild
00:21:38.780 so I have a question
00:21:40.100 but then you come
00:21:40.660 into the masculine energy
00:21:41.600 I have a question
00:21:41.940 I have a question
00:21:42.640 so
00:21:43.440 what happens
00:21:44.400 if someone breaks
00:21:45.100 into your apartment
00:21:45.840 you get to let them
00:21:46.920 I just call
00:21:47.460 you think you can
00:21:48.720 wait wait wait
00:21:49.620 wait please
00:21:50.500 go ahead
00:21:50.920 what do you do
00:21:51.560 there's a few steps
00:21:53.200 I'll take
00:21:53.580 okay okay
00:21:54.000 what's step one
00:21:54.720 try to be brave
00:21:56.000 and head on
00:21:57.040 okay so Omar
00:21:58.000 is in your apartment
00:21:58.840 yeah I'll try to
00:21:59.720 throw something at Omar
00:22:00.460 what
00:22:00.840 I'll be tactical
00:22:01.660 that's gonna fail
00:22:03.440 okay okay
00:22:04.260 so when that fails
00:22:05.140 what do you do
00:22:05.760 call the men
00:22:06.560 the Albanian men
00:22:07.540 they'll come and rescue me
00:22:08.660 how long will the
00:22:09.820 Albanian men
00:22:11.040 take to get there
00:22:11.500 when Omar's right in front of me
00:22:12.420 okay so
00:22:13.220 okay
00:22:13.880 we'll find out what
00:22:14.680 over my lips
00:22:15.120 don't worry
00:22:15.680 okay so you do need that
00:22:17.500 of course
00:22:17.920 I'm not disagreeing with that
00:22:19.540 I was just adding
00:22:20.420 but it's so crazy
00:22:21.480 how confident
00:22:22.280 and comfortable
00:22:22.940 you know
00:22:23.600 as a guy
00:22:24.740 as a guy who sits down
00:22:25.620 in this particular situation
00:22:26.640 you know
00:22:27.380 every day when I walk out
00:22:28.860 it's a possibility
00:22:29.720 of getting into a
00:22:30.520 confrontational situation
00:22:31.580 without me actually
00:22:32.540 wanting to be in that
00:22:33.440 particular situation
00:22:34.160 and every day
00:22:35.240 mentally
00:22:35.680 as a man
00:22:36.760 we are prepared
00:22:37.800 to deal with whatever
00:22:39.220 whatever situation happens
00:22:40.960 you have to
00:22:41.700 automatically think
00:22:42.920 of the negatives
00:22:43.520 before you think of the positive
00:22:44.500 while being a man
00:22:45.540 the fact that you can sit here
00:22:47.420 and say
00:22:47.920 if Omar
00:22:48.680 if me looking at Omar right now
00:22:51.420 so Pearl
00:22:52.020 so Pearl
00:22:52.920 if you remember last week
00:22:54.040 you was
00:22:54.620 literally having this conversation
00:22:56.220 with the
00:22:56.860 that was sat over there
00:22:58.800 and then she was saying
00:22:59.540 oh they would do this
00:23:00.440 and do that
00:23:01.000 if a man slept in the room
00:23:02.160 and all of this stuff
00:23:03.020 and in actual fact
00:23:04.000 oh yeah shout out to
00:23:04.660 it was Jazz
00:23:05.280 she was saying that
00:23:06.120 because King actually
00:23:07.480 pulled her up
00:23:08.020 and she was like
00:23:08.680 she'll get involved
00:23:09.300 if her brother was doing something
00:23:10.360 she'll get involved right
00:23:11.300 unfortunately you've heard
00:23:13.000 about that 15 year old girl
00:23:13.980 that got stabbed
00:23:14.580 R.I.P.
00:23:15.160 to I think her name was
00:23:15.840 was it
00:23:16.460 was it
00:23:17.340 Ileana
00:23:17.780 Ileana
00:23:18.240 R.I.P.
00:23:18.740 to 15 year old
00:23:19.520 Ileana
00:23:19.840 initially we
00:23:21.320 it was said that
00:23:22.600 she was stabbed
00:23:23.740 because by her ex-boyfriend
00:23:25.020 but now it's found
00:23:25.660 that it wasn't even
00:23:26.480 had anything to do with her
00:23:27.380 she was protecting her friend
00:23:29.140 protecting her friend
00:23:30.440 yeah
00:23:30.840 it was a guy
00:23:31.740 yeah
00:23:32.140 he was a 17 year old boy
00:23:34.260 and she was a 15 year old girl
00:23:35.880 and he stabbed her yesterday
00:23:37.120 but initially it was
00:23:38.440 he tried to give flowers
00:23:39.960 but we thought that
00:23:40.820 he stabbed his girlfriend
00:23:42.040 I knew there was more to the story
00:23:43.560 that didn't make any sense
00:23:44.580 okay but what I'm trying to say is
00:23:45.960 yeah
00:23:46.240 women you have to understand violence
00:23:48.500 you don't understand violence
00:23:50.200 her friend tried to step in to help
00:23:52.340 because you know
00:23:53.900 but us men know
00:23:54.960 when you step in to help
00:23:56.140 this is the result
00:23:57.540 yeah
00:23:57.900 and I'm trying to make you understand
00:23:59.980 when you're talking about this
00:24:01.080 oh I will do this
00:24:01.940 I will be brave
00:24:02.680 you don't understand violence
00:24:04.040 bravery has nothing to do with violence
00:24:05.820 when real men step in violent men
00:24:08.240 your life can be on the line
00:24:10.280 and the reason why I want to say this
00:24:11.680 is because women seem to have some
00:24:13.100 idealistic
00:24:13.980 some imaginary thing about beef
00:24:15.760 I'll do this
00:24:16.320 I will hit him in the nuts
00:24:17.280 no you won't
00:24:17.980 you're not prepared
00:24:18.580 you're not going to do this
00:24:19.660 with real violent people
00:24:20.780 and we just
00:24:21.620 I need to put that out
00:24:22.420 there's a lot of violent people out there
00:24:23.760 because even as a man
00:24:24.740 even as a man
00:24:25.540 we're not prepared
00:24:26.440 or we're not sure
00:24:27.280 if we actually are ready
00:24:28.200 for that particular
00:24:28.760 whenever you go to a man
00:24:30.620 you don't know
00:24:31.420 this is the last
00:24:32.160 this could be your last breath
00:24:33.080 yeah exactly
00:24:33.820 it can be
00:24:34.680 and men understand this
00:24:35.740 but women don't realize that
00:24:36.940 no they don't
00:24:37.200 so the only reason I'm saying it to you
00:24:38.360 my dear
00:24:38.600 it's only because
00:24:39.540 I understand
00:24:40.200 I get it
00:24:40.960 but part of the reason
00:24:42.000 we speak like this
00:24:42.740 is because us men
00:24:43.400 we understand violence
00:24:44.200 and the ideal thing
00:24:45.340 women are supposed to be protected
00:24:47.020 they should have a man in the home
00:24:48.480 they should have
00:24:49.460 if you haven't got a man
00:24:50.980 you should have a son in the home
00:24:52.040 because us men
00:24:52.700 with sons
00:24:53.020 will defend our mothers
00:24:54.160 but if you have nobody
00:24:56.000 in your community
00:24:56.860 to protect you
00:24:57.520 then when you get a son in the home
00:24:58.360 which can happen
00:24:59.580 ultimately you will start
00:25:01.120 looking to men
00:25:01.800 because it's not women
00:25:02.880 you're looking to
00:25:03.460 so that's all I'm saying
00:25:04.200 and obviously RIP
00:25:05.020 to that young girl man
00:25:05.900 it's just so sad
00:25:07.240 so sad
00:25:07.800 so I'm curious
00:25:10.120 so back to the
00:25:11.320 the marriage topic
00:25:12.640 who here thinks
00:25:14.000 they'll be married
00:25:14.860 raise your hand
00:25:15.820 1, 2, 3, 4, 5
00:25:19.560 oh you're already married
00:25:21.580 Ping you're not involved
00:25:23.040 okay okay
00:25:24.040 you two don't
00:25:24.840 I don't think so
00:25:27.420 not legally married
00:25:28.340 okay do you think
00:25:29.300 you'll have like kids someday
00:25:30.820 it's not top of my list
00:25:33.940 okay
00:25:34.420 to be honest
00:25:35.000 it's just
00:25:35.640 that's just a personal thing
00:25:36.860 I think it's a very personal thing
00:25:38.020 for each individual person
00:25:39.680 you know
00:25:40.940 I get a lot of pushback from that
00:25:42.260 because people say
00:25:42.900 that your life is not complete
00:25:44.400 if you don't have children
00:25:45.620 I personally don't believe that
00:25:46.900 I think that you can make
00:25:47.800 create meaning in your life
00:25:48.940 with multiple ways
00:25:50.220 I mean Jesus did it
00:25:51.820 absolutely
00:25:52.460 absolutely
00:25:53.280 but that's just a personal thing
00:25:54.960 and you know
00:25:55.800 I mean I've got my nephews
00:25:56.960 and all that
00:25:57.480 and also
00:25:58.340 I've got this
00:25:59.560 my second family
00:26:00.420 who've got like loads
00:26:01.400 and loads of kids
00:26:02.080 that I've known since birth
00:26:04.080 so
00:26:04.620 okay
00:26:05.180 so what makes you guys
00:26:07.620 want to have a family
00:26:08.940 oh what
00:26:10.320 oh
00:26:10.700 that's amazing
00:26:11.760 I've got a daughter already
00:26:12.760 okay you've got a daughter
00:26:13.660 why don't we
00:26:14.440 I'm going to start with the men
00:26:15.380 and then we're going to go to the women
00:26:16.220 so why don't you start
00:26:17.200 I grew up with a single mom
00:26:21.380 and a brother and a sister
00:26:23.300 and just to watch her struggle
00:26:24.540 but the feeling that
00:26:25.780 to see
00:26:26.800 how
00:26:28.160 there's a different type of feeling
00:26:29.480 that you have
00:26:29.840 when you have a child
00:26:30.600 and I can see other parents have it
00:26:32.480 I can see this different type of feeling that
00:26:34.220 a feeling that you just don't experience within life
00:26:37.100 I want to get married
00:26:38.180 I want to have
00:26:39.240 but I have to be very selective
00:26:40.280 I'm not going to just marry anybody
00:26:42.440 I have to make sure
00:26:43.240 like I said earlier
00:26:44.140 to you guys
00:26:45.280 I have to do it for business
00:26:47.520 it's not for love
00:26:48.760 I have to think about
00:26:49.680 no seriously
00:26:50.640 no
00:26:51.720 for real
00:26:52.660 I really think of it
00:26:53.580 like
00:26:53.980 I can only
00:26:55.820 I want to marry
00:26:56.680 for love
00:26:57.660 but for business
00:26:58.520 can we grow
00:26:59.620 a million dollar corporation
00:27:01.220 can we
00:27:01.700 I don't start relationships
00:27:03.220 money isn't everything babe
00:27:04.240 it's not about money
00:27:05.020 I agree with you
00:27:06.440 but I just think
00:27:07.060 it's how you're attaching
00:27:08.120 it to money
00:27:09.980 maybe phrasing
00:27:10.320 yeah it's a phrase
00:27:11.440 but I
00:27:11.820 you understand what I'm saying
00:27:12.800 it's not about
00:27:14.040 for me
00:27:14.340 Troy what do you think of that
00:27:16.220 well I think
00:27:17.500 I mean I'm a bit of an old romantic in a way
00:27:19.520 I think you should be
00:27:20.360 I think it's a shame
00:27:21.760 no no seriously
00:27:22.660 I think it's a shame
00:27:23.560 that we can't marry for love
00:27:24.720 I think
00:27:25.080 I think the ideal for me
00:27:26.340 if I was going to get married
00:27:27.360 I would want it to be for love
00:27:28.660 and I would
00:27:29.460 but unfortunately
00:27:30.260 the culture doesn't seem to support that
00:27:31.880 yeah exactly
00:27:32.380 you know what I'm saying
00:27:33.100 like I don't want to be
00:27:33.880 I don't want to
00:27:34.480 be dealing with a woman
00:27:35.500 I don't want to be dealing with a woman
00:27:36.760 and thinking
00:27:37.220 hmm you know
00:27:37.940 can we
00:27:38.260 can we become this amazing power couple
00:27:39.960 are we going to do the Jay-Z Beyonce thing
00:27:41.520 like I don't want to be thinking that
00:27:42.760 because I see love as something pure
00:27:46.160 and something distinct from that
00:27:47.520 but that's one particular moment
00:27:48.980 my biggest fear
00:27:49.820 I don't know if
00:27:50.600 I don't know if most women
00:27:51.700 make good business partners
00:27:53.140 guys guys guys
00:27:56.300 honestly
00:27:56.700 I actually relate to the black people here
00:27:59.040 what
00:28:00.060 I can actually relate to the black people here
00:28:04.720 because many women have told me
00:28:06.780 the size of my cock
00:28:08.580 is like a black man
00:28:09.640 I mean
00:28:10.680 bro
00:28:11.200 pause
00:28:11.660 you have to say pause
00:28:12.340 you have to say pause
00:28:15.300 you have to say pause
00:28:16.640 I mean
00:28:17.160 I mean
00:28:17.580 I don't know
00:28:18.640 I don't know
00:28:19.360 I mean
00:28:20.580 how do you respond to that
00:28:21.460 I don't know
00:28:22.140 exactly
00:28:22.440 how do you respond to that
00:28:23.600 I mean
00:28:23.900 ladies
00:28:24.420 how do you respond to that
00:28:25.280 hold on
00:28:25.860 maybe just don't
00:28:28.860 no no no
00:28:29.640 you have to respond to that
00:28:31.180 you have to respond to that
00:28:32.140 alright first
00:28:32.820 first
00:28:33.140 I'm just going to say this
00:28:33.960 I'm
00:28:35.080 you know you can't
00:28:36.680 you can't respond to that
00:28:37.660 you can't respond to that
00:28:38.880 you can't refer to black people
00:28:39.920 as black people
00:28:40.420 yeah
00:28:40.660 I was just
00:28:40.960 you can't
00:28:41.700 you can't refer to it
00:28:43.140 I was going to say
00:28:44.180 hold on
00:28:44.480 let me just say this
00:28:45.080 let me just say
00:28:45.440 I love you
00:28:46.340 I swear
00:28:46.960 no homo
00:28:47.980 pause
00:28:48.320 you know what I mean
00:28:49.560 just the
00:28:49.940 but
00:28:50.480 you just can't refer to black people
00:28:51.800 as black people
00:28:52.340 that's the only thing that fit
00:28:53.940 but we understand what you're saying
00:28:54.900 we understand your attention
00:28:55.860 we rock with you
00:28:56.800 I don't know, man. What's the obsession with our black men's tings? I don't know, man. What is it, man?
00:29:00.780 Come on, you know the bars.
00:29:01.700 A lot of black men are not passing.
00:29:03.640 You man and Adam 22. What's up with you, man, man? You man and Adam 22, man? What's up with you, man?
00:29:07.820 You man love our tings, man. Well, I'll go out for that one.
00:29:09.580 Well, that's a whole other story, isn't it?
00:29:11.280 Wait, okay.
00:29:12.720 We need to get back onto the chat.
00:29:16.080 Marriage. Marriage. Kids.
00:29:17.660 Okay, so...
00:29:18.560 I think people should be able to... I think the problem is the culture is fucked. That's the problem.
00:29:22.760 People should be able to marry for love. It shouldn't be this big business thing.
00:29:25.400 It shouldn't be like, oh, my God, like, what's our 10-year plan going to be?
00:29:28.460 Why?
00:29:28.800 It should be because... I don't know, because that's what love is.
00:29:31.240 Love is something that comes in and it can eventually go in, like, a month or a year or two years.
00:29:36.860 Honestly, honestly, okay. I've interviewed hundreds of chicks. Hundreds, okay.
00:29:41.900 I've talked to lots of entrepreneurs.
00:29:48.500 Only fans.
00:29:49.280 And no, even outside of that, women that make money through Instagram.
00:29:55.400 And the women that I actually believe make money, like, I believe it, talking to them, maybe 5, 10 out of hundreds.
00:30:08.540 I think if you're looking...
00:30:09.460 Women tend to make terrible financial decisions, actually.
00:30:12.460 It's why we have so much debt.
00:30:14.340 I think, like, honestly, if you're looking for a business partner...
00:30:18.620 So are you saying that you're not a good business partner?
00:30:22.740 I would say, you know, I'm a bit of an exception because I was raised by a guy that's extremely successful.
00:30:31.700 I don't think most women come from that.
00:30:33.480 There are exceptions to every rule, but what women have had the upbringing with 10 siblings and a bunch of entrepreneurs in the family that were actually...
00:30:43.260 Like, the people that have achieved my dad's level of success is, like, 1%, half a percent.
00:30:50.180 So, okay, miracles happen.
00:30:52.080 The other problem, though, the other problem, though, the other problem, though, is that...
00:30:56.560 And my dad helps me a lot, too.
00:30:58.380 The other problem, though...
00:30:59.100 And no, he doesn't bankroll everything you ask.
00:31:02.980 Bank of mom and dad.
00:31:04.220 Bank of mom and dad.
00:31:05.140 The other problem is that having a woman in your life, having a close relationship with a woman, can sometimes get in the way of your career aspirations.
00:31:14.080 And you could say, okay, if you pick the wrong woman, whatever.
00:31:16.720 But I think that, in my experience, I think women like the results of the work.
00:31:21.420 You know, they like you to be successful.
00:31:22.840 They like the...
00:31:23.780 Maybe they like the money.
00:31:24.700 They like the fact that you've accomplished certain things.
00:31:26.600 They don't quite so much like you actually doing the work.
00:31:30.340 So if I say to the woman I'm with, right, this weekend I'm going to be working.
00:31:33.900 I'm going to be sat in my room.
00:31:34.840 I'm going to be writing a book.
00:31:35.740 I'm going to be there 12 hours a day.
00:31:37.280 You can go and do your own thing.
00:31:38.500 A lot of the time, they're not very happy with that.
00:31:40.520 You know, because they want the attention.
00:31:43.400 So that is an actual detriment to my career aspirations.
00:31:47.560 And even just hiring men and women, it's like women always want vacation.
00:31:51.500 Jesus Christ.
00:31:53.220 Women need vacation.
00:31:54.420 They need vacation.
00:31:55.180 Then he goes to it.
00:31:55.960 Then he goes to it.
00:31:56.600 No, look at it.
00:31:57.020 Look at it.
00:31:57.360 I mean, it's just...
00:31:58.840 And I'm not, like, you know, I'm not saying there aren't smart, talented women out there.
00:32:03.580 I'm not.
00:32:03.980 Like, there are.
00:32:04.640 There are exceptions.
00:32:06.340 But they don't.
00:32:06.780 Like, I'm like, if you want, as a rule, a guy's looking for a business partner.
00:32:10.460 I'm like, I'd say that's a terrible plan.
00:32:12.440 You think so?
00:32:13.400 I think that if you're with a woman that supports you in your business and is, like, there for you through the growing of the business and is there to support you, then I think it absolutely can work.
00:32:25.420 And that's what I think you're trying to say.
00:32:27.760 I'm going to be honest with you.
00:32:29.800 No, no, it can.
00:32:30.280 It can work.
00:32:31.480 It can work.
00:32:32.200 Let me just clarify this.
00:32:34.060 That's my advice.
00:32:34.720 Let me clarify this.
00:32:36.060 I grew up with a single mother.
00:32:39.500 But my mother was a ride or die.
00:32:41.240 She was literally that type of woman, you know?
00:32:43.400 And that's the type of woman I want.
00:32:45.020 A ride or die woman who goes wrong.
00:32:47.280 I'm going to be honest with you.
00:32:49.080 Wait, wait, wait.
00:32:49.820 King, what were you going to say?
00:32:51.060 I think it's...
00:32:52.500 They don't make it like that anymore.
00:32:52.880 I listened to what you've said.
00:32:54.860 But I just think you really don't understand the true nature of women.
00:32:57.440 Because the reality is, what you're saying you want, I think what you should be asking for is a submissive woman, not a business partner.
00:33:06.980 Yeah.
00:33:07.200 Because a business partner isn't necessarily a submissive woman.
00:33:10.380 She could be submissive and a business partner.
00:33:11.740 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no.
00:33:13.580 Because you mentioned Beyonce and it's funny that you mentioned Beyonce because you have this perception that Beyonce is this business mogul.
00:33:19.660 But do you actually believe that Beyonce is the one that has pushed her career to where it is right now?
00:33:24.180 Or do you believe she has a team of men that have helped her push?
00:33:26.980 No, Beyonce...
00:33:27.480 Jay-Z being one of them.
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