JustPearlyThings - June 21, 2023


Pearl Calls Out Delusional Instagram Model On Her BS


Episode Stats

Length

8 minutes

Words per Minute

202.00328

Word Count

1,768

Sentence Count

207

Misogynist Sentences

8

Hate Speech Sentences

4


Summary

In this episode, the lads talk about the double standard when it comes to online dating, social media and dating standards. We also talk about what it means to be a woman and a man in today's society.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I had a question. Do you check a guy's Instagram before you go on a date with them?
00:00:04.160 I haven't before.
00:00:05.760 Okay.
00:00:06.240 But you said you guys meet on there.
00:00:08.260 No, no, no. But that's like the main standard of today.
00:00:11.880 I'm very confused. I'm literally confused.
00:00:13.480 But I have met... What do you mean, babe?
00:00:15.240 Like I don't go out and don't meet guys outside.
00:00:17.580 Come on, babe.
00:00:18.400 So if you go to events or somewhere and you're outside...
00:00:21.000 You said dates, they don't date charge on the dates and all that.
00:00:23.320 And then they ask you to go on a date.
00:00:26.440 I don't always have the Instagram.
00:00:28.360 Really?
00:00:28.640 That wouldn't be the first thing.
00:00:29.720 Can I have your Instagram?
00:00:30.820 I want to see that they're not a serial killer, that they're real.
00:00:34.080 I know, but this just goes back to back in the days.
00:00:36.580 There wasn't social media back in the days.
00:00:38.620 Sometimes you just got to go.
00:00:40.260 Sometimes you just have to go on the date and see the person.
00:00:43.240 I just would like some...
00:00:44.300 This seems a little dishonest.
00:00:46.220 Like I think you're capping a bit.
00:00:48.100 I think you do.
00:00:49.740 Okay, no social media.
00:00:51.160 You just go.
00:00:51.640 We should try the social experiment.
00:00:53.520 Go on a guy's Instagram.
00:00:54.460 But his Instagram, it's like in the first picture,
00:00:56.440 he's like sitting on the floor eating ramen noodles.
00:00:58.460 In the next one, he's stealing ketchup packets from Wendy's
00:01:01.040 because he's like, why spend money at the store
00:01:03.120 when I can just get free ketchup at Wendy's?
00:01:05.240 You know, on the next picture, he's like, I'm on my vacation.
00:01:08.820 And he's like just watching TV in bed.
00:01:10.380 Like this is what I do for vacation, ladies.
00:01:11.980 And then you're like, I want to go on a date.
00:01:13.740 You see that.
00:01:14.240 He's like, but don't judge me based on what I'm putting out in the world
00:01:16.340 and advertising myself as to everybody out there.
00:01:19.040 Like there's got to be some level of understanding.
00:01:21.520 Of course.
00:01:22.360 That's what you're projecting.
00:01:23.060 But what I'm saying is I'm giving you what I have experienced in my life.
00:01:27.960 I've met people outside, not on social media,
00:01:32.340 and I haven't had their social medias,
00:01:34.680 and I've still met them to go on a date after.
00:01:37.080 It's not all on social media,
00:01:39.600 but I feel like a big percentage of people meeting people
00:01:44.740 and going on dates is from social media
00:01:47.380 because that's like, I mean, that's where you just like see people.
00:01:51.060 Yeah.
00:01:51.440 Yeah.
00:01:51.640 Like the whole point is you do judge men.
00:01:53.660 Yeah.
00:01:54.000 Yeah.
00:01:54.320 Yeah.
00:01:54.460 It's okay.
00:01:55.200 Oh yeah, of course.
00:01:56.200 As you should.
00:01:57.000 Everybody does.
00:01:58.160 I feel like everyone judges people a little bit.
00:02:00.280 But now you're switching off of like,
00:02:01.540 you don't want them to judge me.
00:02:02.800 And this is like, I think we don't understand.
00:02:04.680 From that.
00:02:05.440 No, but I think.
00:02:06.300 As a person, like meet me in person.
00:02:09.220 But you can talk to a guy for five minutes
00:02:11.160 and know if you like him or not.
00:02:12.480 You know, you can't.
00:02:13.220 You're a woman.
00:02:13.700 I'm a woman.
00:02:14.260 I know this.
00:02:15.060 Of course.
00:02:15.240 And so it's like, we're asking them to not judge us,
00:02:17.960 but we judge them all the time.
00:02:19.180 It's a bit of a double standard.
00:02:21.500 I hear that.
00:02:22.860 It's true.
00:02:24.240 But.
00:02:25.380 Yeah.
00:02:25.960 So does your,
00:02:26.740 what does your dad think of your Instagram?
00:02:30.800 He, obviously,
00:02:31.960 I don't know what the hell his friends think.
00:02:35.240 I don't care.
00:02:36.300 Why would I ask them?
00:02:37.580 Well, they know.
00:02:38.880 Yeah.
00:02:39.480 That's for them.
00:02:40.580 But he doesn't mind it.
00:02:43.520 I mean, he doesn't,
00:02:44.620 obviously some pictures are not,
00:02:46.100 I don't want to see,
00:02:47.280 but.
00:02:47.800 So your dad's never said anything?
00:02:50.100 Like, that's maybe a little much.
00:02:51.400 Never said anything?
00:02:52.420 No.
00:02:52.720 Obviously, like,
00:02:54.000 there's some pictures that he might not like,
00:02:55.840 but there's people,
00:02:56.740 there's people,
00:02:58.000 guys,
00:02:58.680 there's people posting a madness on social media.
00:03:03.040 More than me.
00:03:03.900 Would you just,
00:03:04.600 would you just,
00:03:04.980 I'm like soft.
00:03:06.180 You're not soft.
00:03:07.040 I do this every day.
00:03:08.160 I do this every day.
00:03:09.100 No, you don't.
00:03:10.760 So wait, wait,
00:03:11.600 would you describe your dad as like,
00:03:13.260 as not overly masculine?
00:03:17.680 Does he have,
00:03:18.280 no,
00:03:18.720 no,
00:03:19.180 he is very masculine.
00:03:20.300 I would say.
00:03:21.320 Okay.
00:03:21.700 I'm just thinking like a masculine guy is usually,
00:03:25.020 it's usually protective of his daughter.
00:03:27.500 So I just wonder like,
00:03:29.100 why is he not protective of you?
00:03:31.220 Cause you know,
00:03:31.760 as his daughter,
00:03:32.340 like he shouldn't.
00:03:33.220 I hear that.
00:03:33.620 Yeah.
00:03:33.880 I'm also a grown woman.
00:03:35.120 I can protect myself.
00:03:36.620 And I understand that as from a father aspect,
00:03:39.680 I get that.
00:03:41.860 But at the same time,
00:03:43.120 I am a grown woman.
00:03:44.780 I can look after myself.
00:03:45.940 Like.
00:03:48.180 Who laughed?
00:03:50.300 Okay.
00:03:50.900 So if he attacks you,
00:03:51.940 how would you protect yourself?
00:03:52.700 First,
00:03:52.940 I wouldn't,
00:03:53.240 I'm not going to attack you.
00:03:53.780 No,
00:03:53.920 no,
00:03:54.080 no,
00:03:54.360 no.
00:03:54.780 But it's the point.
00:03:55.720 Like we say like we can protect ourselves.
00:03:57.260 No,
00:03:57.500 I know.
00:03:58.080 But you don't,
00:03:58.720 you know what I mean?
00:03:59.080 Like,
00:03:59.260 yeah,
00:04:00.000 let's be for real.
00:04:01.440 Of course.
00:04:02.280 Yeah,
00:04:02.480 of course.
00:04:03.080 But yeah,
00:04:04.520 what can I do?
00:04:05.300 I can give it all I can.
00:04:06.340 No,
00:04:06.580 not a question.
00:04:07.280 More of an observation.
00:04:09.020 I think if we put the perfect guy right here in front of you,
00:04:12.300 you would not be able to tell he's a good guy.
00:04:14.900 Cause I don't think.
00:04:15.460 Would you be able to tell?
00:04:16.740 I don't think if we put the perfect guy right here in front of you right now,
00:04:21.160 I don't think you would be able to recognize the characteristics that he has that make him the perfect guy.
00:04:28.240 Would you be able to recognize the same if I put a woman here in front of you that was perfect for you?
00:04:32.840 Most likely would you judge that from experience or just because you just know you was born with it?
00:04:41.520 You just know.
00:04:43.240 No one's born with it.
00:04:44.640 I don't think it was.
00:04:45.620 Experience has to be experienced.
00:04:46.780 Exactly.
00:04:47.320 So that's what I'm saying from my,
00:04:49.260 everything is from my own experience.
00:04:50.900 That's what I'm saying.
00:04:51.900 My point is,
00:04:52.860 it sounds to me like you haven't had a strong guy in your life ever.
00:04:59.280 Not your dad,
00:05:00.180 not your grandpa,
00:05:01.580 nobody.
00:05:02.280 That's what Pearl was going at with this Instagram and asking you,
00:05:06.440 why is your dad not taking care of you?
00:05:09.300 Obviously.
00:05:10.060 So following up of the question that I asked before,
00:05:12.400 if you like that tension that you get from the Instagram,
00:05:15.380 that kind,
00:05:16.600 that tension that you will get from this kind of Instagram are those guys that you're dating today.
00:05:21.360 Yes.
00:05:21.720 So you will never be able to experience a high valuable guy treating yourself like that
00:05:27.440 because all the guys that will treat you will be like that.
00:05:30.900 Okay.
00:05:31.600 Based on that Instagram.
00:05:33.060 That's fine.
00:05:33.540 That's your opinion.
00:05:35.080 That's the truth.
00:05:35.960 You know,
00:05:36.140 guys,
00:05:36.440 one thing,
00:05:36.780 one thing too,
00:05:37.340 like there's a,
00:05:38.080 we've had like three very different interviews and one thing for this one,
00:05:40.780 like,
00:05:41.960 I don't know,
00:05:42.660 maybe there's no nice way to express it.
00:05:44.300 I'll just tell you the truth.
00:05:45.560 How I feel.
00:05:46.260 It's like,
00:05:46.380 I just feel a little bit sad because like,
00:05:48.660 um,
00:05:49.640 I'll tell you why,
00:05:50.420 because you're well-spoken.
00:05:51.480 Yeah.
00:05:51.880 Thank you.
00:05:52.300 Um,
00:05:52.700 because you're probably in the top,
00:05:55.620 let's say 10% even for beauty that you see in this country.
00:06:00.420 Um,
00:06:00.860 and there'd be a lot of dudes that like,
00:06:02.880 if you had at least signaled like more traditional submissive feminine values,
00:06:08.600 you would probably attract like a really,
00:06:11.220 really different kind of guy and it wouldn't take you long.
00:06:14.040 Yeah.
00:06:14.420 But the problem is you're,
00:06:15.720 you know,
00:06:16.060 at 30,
00:06:16.880 90% of your eggs are gone by 34.
00:06:18.680 If you're single and childless,
00:06:19.660 the percent of the chance of you having kids is I think now statistically zero by 34.
00:06:24.620 The unhappiest,
00:06:25.460 the unhappiest demographic that we have right now in the Western world are single women age 40.
00:06:30.400 And we see that because the,
00:06:31.880 uh,
00:06:32.220 antidepressants that are being prescribed are now significantly more for women than for men.
00:06:36.180 So there's an epidemic happening there for the first time ever this year in 2023,
00:06:40.600 binge drinking for women has exceeded binge drinking for men.
00:06:43.280 So we're seeing a lot of depression in women because we were sold,
00:06:45.740 women were sold this dream that you're going to be a bad bitch.
00:06:47.980 You're going to be a boss babe,
00:06:48.940 blah,
00:06:49.160 blah,
00:06:49.280 blah,
00:06:49.420 blah,
00:06:49.440 blah,
00:06:49.560 blah.
00:06:50.200 And you're out there,
00:06:50.920 you know,
00:06:51.120 and you're like,
00:06:51.480 well,
00:06:51.560 I'm smart and I look nice so I can be a bad bitch and I can be a boss babe.
00:06:55.440 Yeah.
00:06:55.640 But the problem is,
00:06:56.420 you know,
00:06:56.620 the guys that are taking,
00:06:57.300 but the guys that are taking you on dates,
00:06:59.440 you wouldn't marry them,
00:07:00.560 forget them marrying you,
00:07:01.520 you wouldn't marry them.
00:07:02.640 So,
00:07:03.020 but,
00:07:03.160 but,
00:07:03.360 but here's a statistic and I just,
00:07:05.020 I know this,
00:07:05.560 I'm not going to change your life here.
00:07:06.700 I was going to give you some numbers.
00:07:07.480 90,
00:07:08.780 sorry,
00:07:08.940 85% of millionaires are married.
00:07:11.780 85% of millionaire men have the lowest divorce rates out of any other class of men.
00:07:18.940 He has to get divorced.
00:07:19.920 Yes.
00:07:20.340 85% of billionaires are married.
00:07:22.560 So it's not like there's no good,
00:07:24.420 successful,
00:07:25.260 loyal guys out there.
00:07:26.520 There's an entire class of men that are successful and married and staying loyal to their wives and raising empires and families.
00:07:34.380 And they're not choosing to date you.
00:07:36.760 And,
00:07:37.240 and,
00:07:37.460 and the only reason that's happening is because you have this perception that,
00:07:40.760 um,
00:07:41.640 I can do this stuff on Instagram and have no consequences,
00:07:44.420 but there are consequences.
00:07:45.780 No,
00:07:46.040 no,
00:07:46.660 I do believe there are consequences.
00:07:48.200 Like I do know that there's some men like,
00:07:50.720 for example,
00:07:51.020 like yourselves like that.
00:07:52.320 No,
00:07:52.660 like you're like a guy that was born 6,
00:07:55.140 10,
00:07:55.480 and super athletic.
00:07:57.380 He gets put in the league.
00:07:58.300 I did tell you like,
00:07:59.380 it might be me.
00:08:00.140 That's the man.
00:08:03.040 That's,
00:08:03.480 that's very self-perceptive.
00:08:04.840 And that's incredible,
00:08:05.260 but,
00:08:05.860 but man,
00:08:06.460 but that's,
00:08:06.880 but if you want to get married,
00:08:07.800 like guys,
00:08:08.500 do you want to marry a girl that you compete with on male criteria?
00:08:12.280 And we don't want that,
00:08:13.120 right?
00:08:13.340 Like we just don't.
00:08:14.900 No,
00:08:15.080 I definitely understand that.
00:08:17.120 But like I said,
00:08:17.820 what's theort replacing?
00:08:21.640 Yeah.
00:08:21.920 Yeah.
00:08:23.620 Yeah.
00:08:24.200 Yeah.
00:08:24.300 Yeah.
00:08:24.640 Yeah.
00:08:24.900 Yeah.
00:08:25.420 Yeah.
00:08:25.960 Yeah.
00:08:27.000 Yeah.
00:08:27.360 Yeah.
00:08:27.860 Yeah.
00:08:28.140 Yeah.
00:08:28.860 Yeah.
00:08:29.060 Yeah.
00:08:30.260 Yeah.
00:08:30.380 Yeah.
00:08:30.840 Yay.
00:08:31.120 Yeah.
00:08:31.360 Yeah.
00:08:31.940 Yeah.
00:08:32.060 Yeah.
00:08:32.520 Yeah.
00:08:33.020 Yeah.
00:08:33.100 Yeah.
00:08:33.680 That'd be like,
00:08:34.440 Yeah.
00:08:35.140 Yeah.
00:08:35.900 Yeah.
00:08:36.540 Ha ha.
00:08:37.120 Again.
00:08:38.160 Oh,
00:08:38.520 yeah.
00:08:39.300 Yeah.
00:08:40.180 Yeah.
00:08:41.280 Yeah.
00:08:42.080 So let's,
00:08:43.440 yeah.
00:08:44.040 It's up.