JustPearlyThings - November 16, 2023


Pearl COMES OUT Clean To Modern Women


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

238.0775

Word Count

2,343

Sentence Count

187


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 An average girl would have a better chance with any type of guy she would want.
00:00:03.960 Yeah, I'm just going to put this in perspective.
00:00:05.900 I consider myself average.
00:00:07.720 I literally do.
00:00:08.860 No, no, no.
00:00:09.980 I know girls will always correct me, but, like, I'm just being real.
00:00:12.880 Like, I feel like most people are normal looking, and I feel like I'm normal looking.
00:00:15.820 And I've had NBA players slide in my DMs.
00:00:19.460 It's not a flex.
00:00:20.760 It's not a flex.
00:00:21.640 They're looking.
00:00:22.140 It's not.
00:00:23.160 Look at.
00:00:23.460 Look at.
00:00:23.680 Look at.
00:00:24.600 Look at.
00:00:24.840 We're not going to.
00:00:25.700 I'm saying, like, that's not a flex, though.
00:00:27.480 They're just looking for easy sex.
00:00:29.180 Okay.
00:00:29.340 And so I'm saying, like, that would never happen, like, to a guy where, like, a blue checkmark girl is going to slide in his DMs of just a normal guy.
00:00:37.120 I have a question.
00:00:37.780 Would you say body count doesn't matter?
00:00:39.940 I don't care at all.
00:00:41.600 So what's your body count?
00:00:44.800 If it doesn't matter, it doesn't matter.
00:00:48.560 Fifteen.
00:00:49.320 Fifteen?
00:00:50.380 No, one five.
00:00:51.820 Oh, fifteen.
00:00:52.420 Fifteen.
00:00:52.900 Fifteen.
00:00:54.640 Fifteen.
00:00:55.600 Fourteen.
00:00:56.220 Fourteen?
00:00:57.000 Mine's one.
00:00:57.760 One.
00:00:58.080 Really?
00:00:58.340 I have a boyfriend.
00:00:59.640 Okay, okay.
00:01:00.220 For a long time.
00:01:00.760 You know what's crazy?
00:01:01.860 You guys are the most honest.
00:01:03.020 We're like, everyone else have asked virgin.
00:01:04.680 I'm a virgin.
00:01:05.660 Yeah, but, like, why do you care?
00:01:07.620 I don't give a shit.
00:01:08.880 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:09.600 The only reason I ask is because if it doesn't matter, then everyone should just say it.
00:01:13.360 Yeah, 100%.
00:01:13.880 And that's why I hesitated a bit, because I was like, oh, my God.
00:01:16.700 But then it's like, do you actually care?
00:01:18.600 Like, if it doesn't matter, like, why?
00:01:21.400 Do you know what I mean?
00:01:22.340 It makes no difference to my life.
00:01:23.540 It doesn't change me as a person.
00:01:25.040 Like, it has nothing to do with my personality or anything.
00:01:27.160 So, devil's advocate.
00:01:28.900 Do you think that sex is different for men and for women in, like, the way we experience sex?
00:01:33.260 So, like, we have to have more of an emotional connection with a guy.
00:01:36.560 I wouldn't say much of an emotional connection.
00:01:38.500 I'd say it's different in the sense of, like, amounts of effort that are put in.
00:01:42.100 And I think a lot of the industry and, like, the sexual industry is based around a man's pleasure and not a woman's.
00:01:48.360 And, like, there was a statistic and it was, like, literally 65% of women, I'm just saying ballpark, I can't remember it,
00:01:55.660 but they were like, they watch lesbian because it's based around, like, women's pleasure.
00:01:59.860 So, people get off easy to it.
00:02:01.280 Like, most of the marketing is geared towards women, not men.
00:02:04.100 So, not, for corn, you're correct.
00:02:06.480 Like, corn is definitely geared towards men, but 70 to 80% of consumer buying decisions are made by women.
00:02:11.960 Like, women have more debt even though they make less money because we spend more money than men do, by and large.
00:02:16.600 So, like, society actually isn't really geared towards men, it's geared towards women.
00:02:20.200 So, like, that's why we have, like, plus-size models, for example.
00:02:23.560 Like, men typically, like, they date smaller girls.
00:02:26.080 They're, like, just by and large, right, not trying to, you know, but, like, that's for the women, it's not for the men.
00:02:30.980 Yeah.
00:02:31.660 Well, like, I think women want that as well.
00:02:33.500 Like, women want to see, you don't want to go and buy an item of clothing that's shown on, like, a size 4 model because you don't know how it's going to look on your body type.
00:02:41.060 So, I think the brands that show, like, say, even just three different body types, it's, like, so much better because at least people know what kind of ballpark they're going to, especially with buying online and how big it's become.
00:02:52.160 No, you're right, but, like, the only point I was making is that it's geared for women, it's not geared for men.
00:02:56.940 So, like, a lot of times we'll say, like, we're in a patriarchy where everything's, like, geared towards men, but it's not because women are spending the money.
00:03:02.960 Yeah, which we don't even have because there's a gender pay gap in the first place.
00:03:06.720 It's like, ah.
00:03:07.600 You know, the pay, that's a whole other convo.
00:03:10.460 I know it's closing, but, you know.
00:03:12.700 No, it's, like, based on the industries we pick.
00:03:15.180 Like, so, like, women pick jobs that make less money, like, by and large.
00:03:19.120 Like, for example, do you want to be a plumber?
00:03:20.680 No.
00:03:21.340 How many bodies is too many bodies for someone you want to date?
00:03:24.140 Like, if they said a thousand, would you be cool?
00:03:26.040 A thousand, I'd just be shocked.
00:03:27.600 I'd be like, how the fuck do you have the time to sleep with all these people?
00:03:30.640 You must be sleeping with, like, one person a day and different people all the time.
00:03:33.820 Like, just how do you have the time in your personal space?
00:03:36.320 I just think as long as you're up to date with your sexual health and as long as you care about your body and care about the people you are sleeping with and have respect for them,
00:03:44.100 I don't care how many people you've slept with as long as you just have respect for my sexual health on your own.
00:03:49.560 That's it.
00:03:50.200 A thousand, you'd be chilling.
00:03:51.920 A thousand, I'd just be like, what the fuck?
00:03:54.220 Like, how on earth could you possibly get to that point?
00:03:57.760 That would be my only reservation.
00:03:59.860 But I'd be like, look, have you been to the clinic?
00:04:02.120 Like, do you, you know, look after yourself?
00:04:03.920 If you look after yourself, I don't care who you've slept with, how many people, whatever,
00:04:08.480 as long as you're, you know, just respectful of us in, like, an intimate space.
00:04:12.480 Okay.
00:04:12.740 That's it.
00:04:13.080 Yeah.
00:04:13.600 No, I agree.
00:04:14.220 I don't think, like, for me, it's not really a factor that I consider.
00:04:17.540 If I'm in a relationship, like, as long as I'm, like, the only person, that's fine.
00:04:22.140 What they did in the past, like, it's their body, it's their life, they can do what the fuck they want.
00:04:25.920 Yeah, I think, I don't think it'd be, like, a deal breaker, but, again, I'd be shocked.
00:04:30.200 Yeah.
00:04:30.580 I'd probably question, but I just think, like, as well, it's also nobody else's business how many people you've slept with.
00:04:35.900 Because I think the person that you're sleeping with that's new, their only business with you is to be, like, well, are you, like, are you within sexual health or are you sexually ill in that sense?
00:04:46.160 Yeah.
00:04:46.340 Yeah.
00:04:46.520 I don't think it's anyone's business to even ask you, like, how many people have you slept with?
00:04:51.440 Because, like, that's a new partner.
00:04:53.340 Like, you shouldn't be talking about past sexual experience.
00:04:55.300 I mean, you can talk about past sexual experience.
00:04:56.620 I always, I always ask.
00:04:58.280 Yeah.
00:04:58.480 I always ask.
00:04:59.260 But, like, it's, like, the only thing I'd ask them when it's, like, have you got anything?
00:05:03.440 Are you sexually safe?
00:05:04.480 You know, whatever.
00:05:05.380 And, like, I would never be, like, oh, how many people have you slept with?
00:05:08.240 That's disgusting.
00:05:09.020 You know what I mean?
00:05:09.600 I have a question.
00:05:10.080 When I'm asking, like, I ask a guy that sometimes.
00:05:12.840 But the reason I do is because I'm trying to gauge if he's ready to settle down.
00:05:16.620 Yeah.
00:05:16.860 Because to me, like, I really want to get married and have a family.
00:05:19.780 And, like, if a dude's up with a thousand girls, I'm, like, I'm going to be a thousand and one and lock you down.
00:05:25.100 Yeah.
00:05:25.660 And, personally, like, I was single for a really long time.
00:05:28.260 And I'm just really picky with relationships.
00:05:30.420 Yeah, you should be.
00:05:31.540 Yeah, exactly.
00:05:32.760 And, like, everyone was just kind of, like, and there was a lot of boys that were, like, oh, she sleeps around.
00:05:37.220 And I don't even, like, sleep around that much based on, like, say, the general population.
00:05:42.100 Not that I care if I did.
00:05:43.540 But they were kind of, like, oh, well, she, like, it's almost, like, the connotation that you'll cheat on them because you're sexually active.
00:05:49.800 And it's, like, faithfulness in a relationship has no correlation to how many people you've slept with, like, within, you know.
00:05:57.120 But divorce rate does.
00:05:59.640 Yeah, yeah.
00:06:00.320 It's, like, if a girl's a virgin, she has an 80% chance of a happy marriage.
00:06:03.880 Where if she's slept with more than five, it drops to 25%.
00:06:06.820 But also men, too.
00:06:08.040 They don't talk about this.
00:06:09.040 But, like, men, like, the longest, the best results are when both are virgins.
00:06:13.200 Is that not the sense of, like, kind of the science of it when it's, like, did it say it releases, like, oxytocin or something like that?
00:06:20.640 And then you become, like, attached to that person.
00:06:22.760 So if you're a virgin and you marry someone and then they take a virginity, like, you have that, like, mental attachment literally through science.
00:06:30.940 Yes, yes.
00:06:31.620 So that's my only explanation for it.
00:06:33.380 No, no, that's, well, I think it's the psychology of choice.
00:06:36.300 Yeah.
00:06:36.560 Like, if you'd slept with a hundred guys, like, you're, you're gonna, there's gonna be a lot of them that you liked.
00:06:41.540 Yeah.
00:06:41.880 And so it's, like, when you're with the new guy, like, you can't help but compare in some way.
00:06:45.520 Like, people, people act like they don't, but, like, I'm sorry, you're, you're going.
00:06:48.440 I think it's also good to have a comparison, though, because you kind of, as you're going along and as you're growing up and as you're with different people, like, you get to know what you like and what you deserve as well, which is, I think, is really important.
00:06:59.900 Yeah.
00:07:00.600 And, like, you know, like, the kind of personality you want and, like, it's not even down to, like, a lot of the time, it's not, for me, it's not down to, like, attractiveness or anything because, like, somebody, we could be absolutely gorgeous and be boring or not have the same music taste as me or not, like, the same events as me and, like, do you know what I mean?
00:07:17.020 I'd rather go for someone that I'm necessarily not, like, oh, my God, I love you, like, you're so attractive, but more, like, oh, my God, you have a sick personality, you're really funny, you're, like, the same events as me, the same music as me.
00:07:29.440 Like, we're going to have so much fun and, you know.
00:07:32.080 I'm curious, how old are you?
00:07:33.480 21.
00:07:34.260 Okay, okay.
00:07:34.980 I hear that from girls when they say that, usually they're, like, 27, 28, where they, like, don't want the, like, the bad boys anymore, like, the hot guys.
00:07:43.860 But I'm just.
00:07:44.520 So you're early.
00:07:45.880 I'm over it.
00:07:46.660 Like, I'm bored.
00:07:47.560 Like, I don't mind a bad boy if it's not going to be a long-term thing because then I'm, like, I don't have to deal with your shit.
00:07:53.520 They don't make good boyfriends.
00:07:54.680 Yeah.
00:07:55.000 And I'm, like, I don't care about a bad boy, like, I'll sleep with them, but if they're, like, oh, do you want to go on a date?
00:08:00.380 I'm, like, no.
00:08:01.320 Like, I can read you straight away and I know exactly what kind of person you're like without being judgmental.
00:08:06.440 But how they speak and how they act, I'm, like, this is not going to be a relationship, mate.
00:08:10.360 This is over.
00:08:10.900 I'm curious.
00:08:11.640 Would you sleep with a bad boy quicker than you would sleep with a nice guy?
00:08:15.040 It depends.
00:08:15.900 Like a guy that you want to date, actually.
00:08:17.420 It depends, like, personality-wise.
00:08:20.100 I, like, sleeping on the first date, I don't care.
00:08:22.300 Because it takes, this big discourse about, like, women sleeping with someone on the first date and it's, like, oh, you're not desirable anymore.
00:08:27.860 But it's, like, it takes two to tango.
00:08:29.680 The man's also slept with somebody on the first date.
00:08:31.780 Like, does it matter?
00:08:33.240 Like, oh, as if I turn around and be, like, oh, you slept me on the first date.
00:08:36.960 What the hell?
00:08:37.980 At the end of the day, sex is such a natural thing.
00:08:40.980 Like, if you want to, if you're, like, on a date with someone and you're having such a good time and you get to that stage, why not?
00:08:47.340 Because at the end of the day, if you want to be together, you're going to end up having sex along the line.
00:08:51.140 So why does it matter the amount of time?
00:08:53.160 Like...
00:08:53.280 I mean, that's one, like, trait of thought I've heard a lot of people say is because, like, it's, like, he's either going to stay or go after you sleep with him.
00:09:00.540 So it's, like...
00:09:01.740 I don't care.
00:09:02.460 Yeah.
00:09:03.040 But then at the same time, it's, like, you also don't know him that well.
00:09:06.020 So, like, I don't know, either is both.
00:09:07.820 Yeah, I think I've never slept with a total stranger.
00:09:11.800 Yeah, yeah.
00:09:12.240 I've met people, even on dating apps, but, like, we've had mutual friends.
00:09:16.060 So, like, out of a point of safety, maybe if I completely didn't know someone, I wouldn't sleep with him.
00:09:22.060 But only out of a point of safety, not out of a point of being, like, oh, I slept with him on the first date.
00:09:25.880 That's the only reason.
00:09:26.900 Yeah.
00:09:27.720 Like, I've literally only, like, kind of, say, gone back after a first date with people that, like, I know have mutual friends with me.
00:09:35.700 And I know that they're, like, fine.
00:09:37.040 I've asked my friends about them.
00:09:38.240 If he tries to steal you, like, they'll know where you were.
00:09:40.800 Yeah.
00:09:41.040 Like, you have to think about that.
00:09:42.600 Like, if I met a random guy on a date, I'd be like, oh, yeah, maybe we'll chat a bit more.
00:09:46.120 And then I'll let you know my address.
00:09:47.620 But until then, fuck no.
00:09:49.820 It's not happening.