JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023


Pearl CRASHES Their Ideologies With This Fact


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14 minutes

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196.0981

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2,868

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00:00:00.000 how many i don't know anyone that got married and closed their instagram i don't know anyone
00:00:03.600 that did it like my age anyway actually i told you're right so yeah so i'm saying modern women
00:00:08.880 are shitty wives why would you close your instagram i don't i don't understand that
00:00:12.080 because it's advertised you know i was having more
00:00:14.480 pull up pull this up i mean i i think it really depends you can't tell me that's not advertising
00:00:24.880 i mean she is a model i mean yeah she's a model that's her job you could argue justin bieber's
00:00:31.520 job is to screw groupies on tour what is different he's not a model right so i do get what you're
00:00:42.160 saying he's a world famous pop star he's a singer world famous pop stars to do they screw groupies
00:00:48.640 on the tour bro this is a tale as old as time that's fair i mean it's part of the job yeah it is
00:00:56.480 what does chris brown do on stage come on is that his job yeah yeah and you know you can just tell
00:01:04.800 she would have none of that if he was doing that yeah but it's like we're in the society where men
00:01:09.440 aren't told they can do that they're controlling if they tell a girl to close her instagram but women
00:01:13.840 immediately want you to stop sleeping with other girls and and you can tell like i know so many
00:01:18.560 people in relationships who have told people unfollow her stop liking her yeah i know get
00:01:23.040 rid of her if you do it to a man or if you're in a relationship with another girl and you tell her
00:01:27.840 not to do that you're the bad person well you've got to be careful you have to it goes one or two
00:01:33.040 like you have to look at it see i think that's a standard respect thing you've got to be careful
00:01:38.080 now if you're going to do it one way and not accept it backwards yeah but there's different hold on
00:01:43.360 hold on i feel this might be controversial but i feel like there are different um there are
00:01:48.720 different reasons and there's people with different circumstances for example if there was if you was
00:01:53.680 dating someone and she was for example like a content creator or something and she had she was in you know
00:01:59.920 instagram engagement groups so if she was in an engagement group in an engagement group there are
00:02:04.320 rules you have to like everyone's photo to help each other with the algorithm right so would you then turn
00:02:10.320 around to your girlfriend and say to her i don't want you liking pictures of other girls the standard
00:02:14.720 person isn't honest like i'm not i'm not famous on instagram i don't have to do that i'm just saying
00:02:20.320 but would a good wife argue with him when he asks that and say well but my instagram grouper would
00:02:24.640 she just say okay whatever you say honey yeah in a really traditional setup that she she would give
00:02:30.080 it up probably you know if she's making six figures well regardless of no regardless if he's making
00:02:37.440 six figures she should be like listen you know we're married now that is the i've made this
00:02:41.520 commitment in the in the eyes of the law and in the eyes exactly and in the eyes of god so that's
00:02:46.400 more important to me than having an instagram account you know that's what she would have said
00:02:50.320 in the back of the day okay so i have a question why does he have to be making six figures to have
00:02:54.080 to be listened to and do you have the same energy if a woman's mid does she if she's average
00:02:58.800 looking does she not is she not able to ask for loyalty that's a good question like you know she's
00:03:05.200 average looking so why why does she get to ask for that yeah i don't know i don't i don't really
00:03:11.840 know how to answer that because i just feel like women do definitely look at men's financial status
00:03:19.600 and we can sit here and argue about that all the time but at the end of the day there is survival and
00:03:26.480 women will always try to go with someone above her level or at least on her level she will never go
00:03:33.200 low so you said six figures that's that's that's that's high that's ten percent of men
00:03:39.200 no i know i i was just trying to be funny there but like um no but i'm just saying like realistically
00:03:46.080 she will always go above or on the same level so she's never going to go low so financial status does
00:03:52.720 get looked at and that is actually how men earn respect from women i feel like it's one of the ways
00:03:59.680 that if you want to earn respect from a woman you need to do that you need to be making bank yeah
00:04:07.680 i'm being absolutely real you know i'm not gonna sugarcoat it you do need to be working
00:04:13.200 how much does he have to make what about an average guy um i don't know i don't know what the average
00:04:18.160 salary here is what is it like 40 30. depends on your age so like 25 year olds gonna be earning like
00:04:24.560 35 000 all right um which in london isn't gonna be very much in in the standards of earning six
00:04:31.520 figures and then it's on it's unfair to expect that off someone you've got the average you've got the
00:04:37.440 average uk wage though which is probably like it's gonna be weighted higher in london yeah well yeah
00:04:41.360 because you've got extremities you've got you know if you're looking at the mean it's going to be taking
00:04:46.400 both the i mean does the man expect us to be top 10 20 30 percent of beauty no but why should they
00:04:53.200 not if we're expecting them to be in the higher range i think they do want that yeah they might
00:04:57.840 want it but they're not they're not going to hold out for it because most guys are quite thirsty do
00:05:01.440 you know what i mean we were talking about this the other the other night most guys are quite thirsty
00:05:06.880 they're gonna take they're gonna take what they could get you know oh oh i mean that's a good
00:05:12.000 point it's a good point have you heard the husband store analogy no oh there's like i hope i say this
00:05:18.080 right there's like a husband store analogy in the manosphere okay and basically every every store or
00:05:24.480 every floor is a different set of husbands okay and you go up a floor um and the only rule is you can't
00:05:31.760 go back down so there's five floors total and you can go up but you can't go down so the first floor
00:05:36.640 is guys that love kids and are and are loyal to you oh that's sweet and so the women go to the
00:05:44.400 first floor so they go to the first floor and they say you know what i want more i want to i want to go
00:05:50.640 up so they go to the second floor and then they find the shitty one no no no it gets better it gets
00:05:56.000 better so these guys love kids they're loyal and they're hot oh yeah so but they're like well
00:06:05.600 what's on the next floor okay then they go they're just curious yeah yeah so they go there what's
00:06:11.360 what's what's what's next curiosity and they say they say they say okay the next floor these guys are
00:06:16.080 hot they make 70 000 a year they love kids and they're loyal but she's on the third floor and she's
00:06:23.680 like well what's what's up what's on the next floor and so then she goes next they make six figures
00:06:31.440 love kids love kids loyal everything but she wants to go to the fifth floor and on the fifth
00:06:40.080 unfaithful all the husbands are sold out
00:06:42.240 and there's dogs because die alone i mean so so so to make it fair they did a wife score or a wife
00:06:52.800 store right so on the first floor there was women good sex loyal sixes and they never found out was
00:07:02.880 what was on the second floor i think modern day woman no offense and i know i'm a woman but are
00:07:17.680 super like materialistic i don't agree i really i i i love i love most of my friends but i know if they
00:07:25.920 were given the opportunity to go with someone who aren't like over a million they will take it they'll
00:07:29.680 take it and they'll cheat on the person that they love and they feel committed to and they won't
00:07:35.600 and that's such an issue well they cheat for money so i mean they would yeah yeah yeah yeah and i think
00:07:40.560 that's a gucci bag a lot of people but people people now have a gucci bag but it's been normalized
00:07:47.280 it's seen as normal now to cheat and it's seen as normal to like be like oh yeah but he's better
00:07:53.920 and they won't and why why not just she found it better because he had money exactly why is that
00:07:59.440 why is that important i don't know exactly and that's why guys shouldn't get married because
00:08:07.840 that's the dynamic but you're as a guy you're entering into a contract with somebody when that
00:08:12.960 is the dynamic that's going on in society and that's and that's very problematic because you're
00:08:17.600 you're basically marrying into it's like it's like buying a house that it's got loads of faults with the
00:08:21.600 house and you're going to have loads of money to pay further down the line it's like you're buying
00:08:24.880 you're getting into a contract with somebody who is being influenced by the society that's basically
00:08:28.800 saying to you there's always going to be better there's always your and and not only is that
00:08:32.960 always going to be better but you deserve better you know you go girl you go on to the next dude
00:08:37.360 you just want more and more it's nearly like a mobile phone contract
00:08:46.080 my grandma had 13 kids for a fireman and she submitted to him and that's and that's the thing
00:08:51.280 like modern that's a good job but that's so no but that's beautiful that is what it should be it was an
00:08:56.240 average salary back then and so i'm i'm just saying like you know i think it's this generation this
00:09:02.880 generation is just getting worse but but money shouldn't be the end all and be all of it and
00:09:08.960 and it is what it is now if you feel that emotionally attached someone like if you're someone like me
00:09:15.120 that doesn't want to particularly get married if you feel that emotionally attached that you're willing
00:09:19.600 to get married you should not just up and leave because someone else has more money or someone else
00:09:25.040 maybe is is more attractive like it should be all taken as i've committed to this person for a reason
00:09:31.120 there was something there unless there's something a lot deeper going on like abuse or or something
00:09:36.320 that is a lot deeper and it's a lot more complex if it's something as simple as that person earns
00:09:40.960 more i'm gonna go with them that's really sad so do you think that the woman so would you say
00:09:46.800 you think that the woman should stick it out basically even if there is like a period of suffering
00:09:51.600 not necessarily stick out but don't work through it say this man that she's with is like literally not
00:10:00.000 hardly making any money they are really struggling like times are really tough for her and do you
00:10:06.400 think that she should just stay and stick it out or do you think she should want better for herself
00:10:12.480 can i can i can i just read something really quick okay go for it all right um
00:10:16.720 um i take you for my lawfully wedded husband to have him for better for worse for richer or for poorer
00:10:30.640 and sickness and health till death do us part if you believe in leaving the second there's a rough
00:10:35.680 path but the whole point is like if if you believe in divorce then why get married there's
00:10:51.280 no point just be in a relationship because you're not a wife i mean you you're getting married and
00:10:55.840 then you think oh i'm gonna divorce one day that's why i don't have some prenups though because it's
00:10:59.920 like i don't think anyone wants to get divorced when they get married they think it's forever but
00:11:04.640 i think things happen yeah and you have to be realistic that but that's i'm not saying that
00:11:10.080 maybe you marry someone and in the beginning it's all good and then suddenly when you get married he
00:11:14.960 might lose his money and then leave him no i don't agree with that but i feel like yeah i feel like you
00:11:20.160 should still stay with that person but if there's no progress there's no sign of him you know working
00:11:26.160 hard or trying or trying to get back to that level that he was at before you know it's time to call
00:11:31.920 it this is what that's one more time one more time for better or for worse for richer for poorer
00:11:40.880 yeah in sickness and in health until death do us anyways that's it this is what roland tomassi the
00:11:47.280 the author of the rational mail who talks a lot about this kind of these kind of intergener
00:11:51.120 dynamics he talks about the burden of performance on men and that's exactly what you're talking about
00:11:55.120 then there's always this there's this burden of performance on men it's like okay well he could
00:11:59.040 have a rough patch but if he doesn't shape up after two years you know she's going to be like
00:12:02.240 thinking well hang on what's going on which is i understand why you would say that but that is
00:12:07.280 contrary to what pearl right now because the agreement is for better or worse for sick sicker and poorer
00:12:11.440 because it could be he's got some underlying issue like he's got maybe some underlying like like
00:12:15.600 depression or something like that he's trying to deal with some trauma and he's not working he's not
00:12:19.840 pushing himself to the degree because of that but you know the the woman who disregards that could
00:12:25.200 just say well sod it you know i'm going to go for steve over here because he's making six figures so i
00:12:29.360 have a question so the same way you believe that um if he's not making more money or working or whatever
00:12:35.760 you should leave should he leave her if she gets fat wow i mean
00:12:45.120 if that's the standard he went for yeah yeah why not it just depends if you're if you're gonna flip
00:12:50.400 it i'm looking i'm just asking yes um i think he's he's allowed to to bring it up yeah for sure
00:12:58.080 i think no no out out oh well give her some chance you know to get in the gym she got like three months
00:13:05.360 six months no well no because she's not gonna leave him like if the woman is like in that situation
00:13:11.840 she's not we're not saying the woman's just gonna go right oh you're not working for three months off
00:13:15.520 i go like it's not gonna happen like that she's obviously gonna stick it out she's gonna try and
00:13:20.480 help especially if you've got kids it's different like she may not be able to go back to work
00:13:24.640 they may have to find alternative ways of surviving i don't know it's very difficult
00:13:29.200 but she's not going to leave straight away it's it's you know over a few years three four years
00:13:34.720 maybe i don't know um and in the same yeah same energy for for the man as well if the woman's
00:13:40.720 completely let herself go and you know she's not taking care of herself forget the man it's not even
00:13:46.400 good for you as a woman forget him like it's about you like you want to be able to look yourself in
00:13:51.200 the mirror and feel confident and happy and you know comfortable in your skin so go out and do
00:13:56.640 something about it so i yeah but he have to make sure you you get like some compliments about it
00:14:03.360 you know so he can make you feel better but are you gonna give him the same compliments if he has no
00:14:08.160 job oh yeah yeah you know what i mean i think it works i have a question do you genuinely do you genuinely
00:14:15.520 think most women nicely ask or do you think most women nag let's just nag about
00:14:26.240 okay yes baby i'm so happy you didn't do that thing i asked you to do last week
00:14:30.640 yeah very happy i mean that's the woman condition yeah it should be a way