Pearl EXPOSES Men From Single Mother Homes
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Summary
In this episode, I sit down with my daughter's dad and talk about his life growing up without a dad and how he dealt with it. We talk about how he handled it and how it affected his relationship with his daughter. We also talk about the importance of a good relationship with your mom and how important it is.
Transcript
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Just look how happy you were, well, it wasn't being recorded, but even when it wasn't being recorded, how happy you were when you were elated when you said, oh, my father, he was really happy, though, when I came back.
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Not just you could go back, but you genuinely felt warm and welcomed.
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Imagine if you didn't have a father that did that.
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You know what I notice when you're talking about mommy issues?
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Well, I can hear it in a guy's voice if he doesn't grow up without a dad a lot of times.
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Usually they have a slightly higher tonality and they kind of speak like a woman.
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Like there's just certain like mannerisms you kind of pick up on, especially when they're
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But one thing I noticed was that a lot of times when guys have a visceral reaction to
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like defend promiscuity or defend like single mothers to different.
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Because, you know, you know, and the red pill space, you'll say like, don't date single
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mothers, don't date whore, you know, just basic stuff.
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And I'm like, why do I get this visceral reaction from the men?
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Like they should agree with like, there's a group of men that just should agree on this
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But what I realized is that they're defending their moms.
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Like out of respect for my wife, I don't put my ex-girlfriends who are in Vogue magazine.
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But if you were to go on Google and put my name and go Google images, you will see at
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least two of my ex-girlfriends who are in Vogue magazine.
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I lived in London for a little less than two months because my ex-girlfriend was modeling
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You know, I literally threw parties bringing a lot of fashion models.
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So I really had to figure out how to talk to women to be able to get women to come out.
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And I'm also a happily married man and I love my daughter.
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So I'm looking, I talk about the game, like a lot of my Alpha King rules and stuff like that.
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Now I'm in my forties, but I still live that, that lifestyle.
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And, and, and when I see men a lot, some of the stuff, Pearl, it is immaturity.
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Also, some of the men that talk a certain way and women, some of it is just maturity.
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It's, it's not, I also said stuff in my twenties and, you know what I mean?
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Or my, I also said stuff that I might not feel now today.
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You know, some of the guys, maybe they didn't get love from their mom.
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And they're also not getting love in the nightclub.
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They're also not getting love from the girl in their college.
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They're just not getting love in general from a woman.
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She wants, she wanted, you think, you think during the holiday, during her birthday, she didn't wish she had a father or a boyfriend.
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My dad to this day, it's, you know, he, it's, it's crazy.
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Like I went out with my wife and this lady that he's with, my dad's a little bit of a playboy now, but he's traditional in the sense of when we went out, he refused to let me pay.
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He refuses to let me pay for meals when he's with his, with a woman.
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You know, so I had a great relationship with my dad.
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I love her so much, but I also have accepted for some people in your life.
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I love her, but I think we've both realized it's okay to love each other.
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from a distance and appreciate if we can just have one.
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And, and, and, and I've, you know, I think when you lie on social media or you lie on TV,
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You're really just showing you're a coward, you know, like you're showing, like, like if you're
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a man and you're not acknowledging you had issues, you know, it takes more bravery to
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show, you know, that stuff, you know, like, yeah, like I, I handled my mommy issues by fucking
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Like people will say, oh, you have mommy issues.
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Someone will say, oh, go make money, go to the gym.
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Working, making money cannot cure all mental health issues.
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That's something I know that's popular on social media.
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I think you can work hard, make a lot of money, go to the gym.
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There's guys that are, that are suffering from depression.
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Yeah, I think a mental health professional and faith can help anybody, you know?
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And I think if you're going through something hard, get some help.
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I wish I would have spoken to somebody earlier about my issues with my mom instead of fucking
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I don't think it really necessarily, I just delayed growing up.
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Well, see, the issue though with therapy nowadays is, don't you think there's so many crazy therapists?
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My therapist was a gay man who was a Bernie supporter who became a Trump supporter.
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And I just thought it was, he was very unconventional.
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I just, I'm actually, I went to school for psychology this year because that was part of like the
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Like they gave, like when I came here, they gave me like free school with it.
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I didn't end up finishing it because this kind of got too much for me to handle, but I just
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saw the women becoming therapists and I was like, Jesus Christ, these are who is helping
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So like, how does a guy differentiate the difference between a good one and a bad one?
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I've been in school with the people becoming therapists.
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The thing is, is that now education has become like something else.
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Like, yeah, like I would say like I graduated high school, 1998.
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Well, back in 1996, 1997, the idea of, you know, being a man and woman, having marriage,
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So now I can imagine how, how the people in 2023, my therapist was like,
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So in his generation, it might've been even more traditional.
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Uh, but, but, uh, I could imagine the ones now in 2023.
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Oh, just now at high school now and college now is not how it was in the 1990s.
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It's become very, very, very, well, it started before that when they subsidized education in
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That's when you start to see the drop off and test scores.
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When like, they made college free and then they put all the woke stuff in the colleges.
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It's like way, it's, it's definitely not the same, but it did start in like the sixties,
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Well, I never remember, uh, in high school or middle school or elementary school seeing
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But even like sex ed as a whole, I don't know if that was around when you were in the
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nineties, but that was like one of the things they put in schools.
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They start with sex and they add sex, like they start with sex ed, then they add in the
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But even the sex ed, like that's kind of part, I think anyway, that's like part of the indoctrination.
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Well, I mean, I, I've, I've heard that was like before even like I heard those in the nineties too.
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No, no, honestly, I would tell you if they did.
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But so, so you did in New York, you did, you worked in finance.
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That was cause, but, but it was also like the environment, you know, like you're working
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at a nightclub, you're working at popular nightclubs.
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I'm just, I'm just saying back what you told me.
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Um, and also we're working in finance and not the nightclubs finance.
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I met, I, I, I got into finance from, because I was working and met a lot of billionaires,
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literally, you know, and, uh, you know, just some of the wealthiest people in New York,
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because they were the ones that could afford a five, 10,000, $15,000 table, not just from