In this episode, we're joined by our good friend and dating coach, Sophie, to talk about what it means to be a woman in the modern dating world and why women need to level up in order to be more attractive to men.
00:00:00.000I was gonna say well at least a man has options I feel like women we are our
00:00:04.020options are very very limited so even if even if a man is getting rejected at
00:00:08.040least he knows okay fine I can find another woman who is maybe like a woman
00:00:11.680that I'm interested in but for a woman it's very very difficult I feel like
00:00:15.580the options for men are very very low in the UK. It is not difficult you just go outside
00:00:18.880It's true but it's like for me it's not gonna be a guy that I want. But whose fault is that?
00:00:28.140Isn't that your own fault because that's your standard? It's definitely not my fault I'm not selling for anybody that I'm not attracted to what I don't want. Absolutely I agree. We need better options so yeah I think you should keep coaching men to level up. So the men need to level up. But then don't you think the women need to level up? I mean how many women? The women are leveling up. I'm leveled. What percent of women have cookbooks? What percent of women are homemakers? What percent of women really work with kids and can be good mothers?
00:00:51.540There's percentage but you just have to find your percentage. What? Go ahead. You just have to find your percentage. You have to find your percentage? You have to find it. There's women out there you just have to find. Yeah but is it common?
00:01:04.480But that's for a certain type of man. There are some men that like boss babes who have businesses who are grinding and stuff like that. No no no no no. There are 100%. Bums. Broke men.
00:01:14.480If that's who you did, that's who you did. So you don't think men like women that are boss babes? Men don't give a shit about our money. Exactly. They literally don't care. It's like okay if this guy ever told you about a shoe collection and you're like oh that's cool but you don't really care. That's how men view our money. They don't care. It's nothing. True.
00:01:34.480But you prove the point what you said just now though because what you're saying is that you could walk out theoretically you know hypothetically you could walk out and get some guy maybe come and chat you up or whatever but you're looking for a certain percentile of guy. Yeah.
00:01:46.480So you're basically saying oh you know this group of guys who might hit on me randomly in West London. I don't care about them because I want this top tier. And that's the thing. I'm not saying that's a bad. I mean that's absolutely everyone's prerogative. But at the same time I think a lot of guys are finding it increasingly difficult in this dating marketplace. You know because women are the gatekeepers basically.
00:02:07.480Yes. So I'm curious because I hear this a lot like I'm not going to get a guy that's not on my level or is that what you said? I don't want to misquote you.
00:02:15.480Yeah I just don't want to be with a guy that's just not up to the standard that I want.
00:02:19.480So when as women do we lower our standards and decide that they're too high? If all the guys we're talking to don't live up to the standards that we want when do we lower them?
00:02:28.480When you're getting old and there's no more time. When your body clock is giving up and you can't have children.
00:02:35.480So 90 percent of your eggs are gone by 30. So at what age would you say that women should start lowering their standards?
00:02:42.480Because that would be 30 then if that's the case. Because I need children. Do you know what I mean?
00:02:47.480Because it's geriatric pregnancy starts at 35. Wow.
00:02:50.480So I think a lot of times like women we think our biological clock is a lot longer than it really is.
00:03:22.480It's quite it's you know it's like a 50-50 shot basically whether it's gonna it's gonna work or not.
00:03:28.480I mean yeah it's a bit of a tricky one. I mean yeah I don't know.
00:03:37.480But no one can help who they're attracted to I mean you can't say to somebody what well you know it's very hard to say to somebody look you should lower your standards.
00:03:45.480Because we are attracted to who we're attracted to and that's just that's just the reality of it isn't it.
00:03:51.480I'm curious would you guys rather be like so at 60 65 would you rather be by yourself or be with someone you're not attracted to.
00:04:30.480I mean you just told me the age of 35 so.
00:04:34.480No but I'm saying so in one scenario at 65 you have a husband you're not attracted to and children and a family and at the other one you're by yourself.
00:04:41.480So I'm saying like as women we keep saying we need our standards to be on a certain level right.
00:04:45.480And I hear this is super common it's not just you.
00:04:47.480So it's like but when do we start lowering them if the men aren't meeting them?