JustPearlyThings - August 15, 2023


Pearl Reveals THIS truth About Women In 2023


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

202.34222

Word Count

2,177

Sentence Count

228


Summary

In this episode, we talk about the things that turn us off a potential partner early on in a relationship, and why they could be a turn off. We also talk about what a girl could do to turn you off early on a relationship and what a guy could do early on to make you feel unappreciated.


Transcript

00:00:00.000 When you're starting to see someone and something they could do to just ruin it up front.
00:00:04.780 Shall I go?
00:00:05.500 Yeah, you're starting to go around.
00:00:07.040 I would say being disrespectful, probably, in any kind of way.
00:00:11.180 I mean, I just don't like disrespect, I think.
00:00:14.800 It's a big thing for me, for a guy to be a gentleman and to be respectful.
00:00:19.420 So I would say that for me, that's a big turn off.
00:00:22.120 Okay.
00:00:22.740 And do you have like an example of a time that's happened where you were into a guy and then he said something?
00:00:28.700 No, just, I suppose it may be like the way that a guy's spoken to me before.
00:00:34.880 It's more like the tone or, yeah, I guess.
00:00:40.700 I don't have an exact example, but I think just any kind of disrespect I don't really like.
00:00:46.580 Okay.
00:00:47.240 Okay.
00:00:48.140 Go ahead.
00:00:49.500 Say the question again, please.
00:00:51.100 So what's something a girl could do to turn you off early?
00:00:54.200 So you're into a girl, you're feeling her, and then she does this, and you're done.
00:01:00.520 It depends, though.
00:01:01.360 I'm not fussy.
00:01:02.380 Okay.
00:01:02.820 I don't think I'm a fussy one, because I'm not.
00:01:04.860 But it depends, car.
00:01:06.780 I could go out with her and she might eat loud.
00:01:09.220 And so I can't stand her.
00:01:11.240 That's annoying.
00:01:12.580 You get me?
00:01:12.980 Or she could just do something what's irritating.
00:01:16.800 But I don't know.
00:01:17.680 There's a number of things what irritate people like me, isn't it?
00:01:21.160 Okay.
00:01:21.620 Yeah, but I'm trying to figure it out.
00:01:23.080 So what are they?
00:01:24.200 That's what I'm saying.
00:01:25.080 I would have to just throw it.
00:01:26.220 Because you're telling me to turn off the top of the dome.
00:01:28.720 I'm just going to go with the eating loud thing.
00:01:31.420 I've been on a date before in the past where I've sat down, got starters, everything.
00:01:37.260 If it was going fine, talking, flowing well, conversations, moving, nice.
00:01:41.100 Yeah, and all of a sudden, my meals come, plates there, boom, drink, whatever.
00:01:46.360 I've just heard bear, and it was just constantly hearing that.
00:01:49.920 And that's a flag for me still.
00:01:52.840 Okay.
00:01:53.420 I think that's a fair flag.
00:01:55.380 Yeah?
00:01:55.600 That's a fair flag.
00:01:56.100 Eating loud, isn't it?
00:01:56.860 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:01:57.160 I was always taught to eat with my mouth closed.
00:01:59.100 I mean, you'd have to deal with that forever.
00:02:00.900 Yeah, that's mad.
00:02:01.700 I mean, that's like every time you guys would hang out.
00:02:03.920 Yeah, I've got a head.
00:02:05.120 Yeah, that's not the one still.
00:02:06.980 You get me?
00:02:08.000 Okay, go ahead.
00:02:08.760 I would agree and say the respect thing, but I'd also say the pet pee thing as well.
00:02:15.160 It's a mixture of both.
00:02:16.860 If someone's, like you said, eating loud, or every time you're talking, they're cutting
00:02:21.420 you off, or they've got the white corners, it could be anything.
00:02:25.580 It could really be anything.
00:02:27.160 It just adds up.
00:02:28.680 Yeah.
00:02:29.140 Do you have an example of maybe, how long have you been with your boyfriend?
00:02:32.300 Six years.
00:02:32.840 Oh, gosh.
00:02:33.520 Yeah.
00:02:33.720 So you don't really have much dating experience outside of that?
00:02:38.880 That's great.
00:02:39.460 That's longer than like most marriages nowadays.
00:02:42.040 Thank you.
00:02:43.740 Okay, so eating loud and disrespect is a no-go for you.
00:02:47.580 I'm curious, what made your boyfriend different than, I'm sure there was other guys approaching
00:02:51.420 you at the time.
00:02:52.180 I met him when I was young, so it was in school, so that was like the main point of it all.
00:02:57.920 He wasn't new to my school, so everyone in my secondary school were kind of like really
00:03:03.400 similar, and because he come from a different area, he was quite different to everyone.
00:03:06.940 He treated me different to how everyone else did, so yeah.
00:03:10.180 Okay.
00:03:12.080 A pet peeve, or something that a girl could do to turn you off.
00:03:17.180 I'm really easy getting, but hygiene would be a big factor for me.
00:03:20.800 Yeah, personal hygiene is going to be a big issue if that's not going to, if that's not
00:03:26.820 straight.
00:03:27.960 Okay.
00:03:28.500 Have you ever been like with a girl and then she just stank, so you got to?
00:03:33.780 Yeah, I've slept with a girl before and the hygiene weren't up to speed.
00:03:38.940 Okay.
00:03:39.720 Is that common?
00:03:41.640 No, I don't know.
00:03:42.940 I'm not too sure.
00:03:43.600 It was a one-off scenario.
00:03:44.920 Oh, it was just a one-off.
00:03:46.160 Yeah.
00:03:46.260 But yeah, it was, yeah.
00:03:48.500 It wasn't a, yeah, it wasn't good.
00:03:51.200 Okay.
00:03:52.980 Okay, go ahead.
00:03:54.400 Yeah, I would say pettiness and I would say clinginess as well.
00:03:57.820 Both, I think clingy as well.
00:03:59.960 Extremely clingy.
00:04:01.220 Like, way too soon.
00:04:03.120 Can I have an example?
00:04:04.200 Like, for instance, like, if you're on WhatsApp and then, like, you're online but you're not
00:04:07.960 even responded, do you know what I'm saying, to you straight away.
00:04:10.720 And it's just like, oh, you're blanking me, you're airing me.
00:04:13.340 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:13.740 Do you know what I'm saying?
00:04:14.240 Oh, so you get mad?
00:04:15.800 Yeah, create a whole situation from that.
00:04:18.440 Oh, what?
00:04:18.820 That's kind of petty, stuff like that.
00:04:20.800 That's kind of crazy.
00:04:21.820 Yeah.
00:04:21.960 Is she just sitting there looking if you're online?
00:04:24.280 No, just like, maybe she's online and I'm online at the same time.
00:04:27.120 And it's like, they're both online and it's like, maybe she messaged me and then I haven't
00:04:31.320 messaged her straight away, but I'm online.
00:04:33.140 And then there's just assumptions that, oh, yeah, you know, why have you messaged me?
00:04:37.460 What are you doing?
00:04:38.080 Do you know what I mean?
00:04:38.960 I'm curious from the girls.
00:04:40.220 Have you ever done that to a guy?
00:04:41.540 Like, get mad at him for not messaging you fast enough?
00:04:44.320 No.
00:04:44.900 No.
00:04:45.120 It's not really my style at all.
00:04:49.440 Yeah.
00:04:49.900 I feel like I'm really busy as well and I just wouldn't do that.
00:04:53.680 I feel like it's kind of like a bit cringy to do that and it seems like desperate.
00:04:58.280 It's just, it's not.
00:04:59.860 And also, I feel like it also probably pushes the guy away because he needs to come to you
00:05:06.180 naturally.
00:05:06.600 What do you guys think the biggest challenges are in dating in 2023?
00:05:16.640 Being faithful.
00:05:19.020 That's a challenge?
00:05:20.580 Yeah.
00:05:21.060 Why?
00:05:26.960 I didn't even know he was going to do that.
00:05:28.460 Sorry.
00:05:29.080 If I put man under the bus.
00:05:30.160 No, no, no.
00:05:30.620 I'm just thinking about it because I ain't going to split out anything.
00:05:33.380 Well, yeah.
00:05:34.200 I think being faithful is the biggest challenge in relationships.
00:05:36.600 In this day and age.
00:05:38.300 Do you mean to find someone that's faithful?
00:05:40.300 Do you mean?
00:05:40.920 Well, when you're already in the relationship, being faithful is going to be the biggest challenge.
00:05:45.080 Vote the viewer.
00:05:46.300 Say again?
00:05:46.780 Vote the viewer.
00:05:48.380 Yeah, I think.
00:05:50.320 I mean, maybe not so much.
00:05:52.620 Yeah, both parties, women and men, that's pretty much the same.
00:05:57.260 You think it's equal?
00:05:58.160 I think women cheat more.
00:05:59.680 I think so as well.
00:06:00.540 Yeah.
00:06:00.980 Yeah, I agree.
00:06:02.020 I think women are big cheaters in 2023.
00:06:04.040 I actually agree with that.
00:06:04.460 Well, there you go.
00:06:05.280 That's it.
00:06:05.560 Coming from a woman, then, yeah, that's good to hear for us.
00:06:09.160 I would have said 50-50.
00:06:10.900 Why don't you tell it how it is?
00:06:13.100 You know?
00:06:13.520 You got to be honest.
00:06:14.160 We're honest here.
00:06:14.720 No, that's good.
00:06:15.320 I'm loving it.
00:06:16.200 I'm loving the fact that you're honest.
00:06:17.460 Yeah.
00:06:17.860 I mean, before it used to definitely be, I would have thought the other way around men cheating
00:06:21.220 more.
00:06:21.940 Now, I thought it was kind of evened up.
00:06:23.300 I think most men would cheat, but not most men can cheat.
00:06:29.840 You know what I mean?
00:06:30.360 It seems like it's a lot of effort to get to that point for a lot of guys, from what I'm
00:06:35.220 hearing.
00:06:35.740 You know, you can correct me if you think I'm wrong.
00:06:37.560 No.
00:06:37.780 Again, it depends what kind of guy you are and what status and position you're in, I would
00:06:41.860 say.
00:06:42.520 Okay.
00:06:42.660 Not everyone's going to talk about their own personal experience.
00:06:46.380 So, have you cheated before?
00:06:48.500 I have definitely, yeah.
00:06:49.780 Is that like an every relationship kind of thing or just a here and there kind of thing?
00:06:54.940 What are side chicks like?
00:07:01.240 Are they happy to be there?
00:07:02.700 Are they always trying to like vie for the first spot?
00:07:04.900 I just got questions.
00:07:07.960 Good question.
00:07:08.900 I mean, I think they're happy to be there.
00:07:10.320 You know, in my younger days, cheating was more of a cheating thing.
00:07:16.120 Nowadays, I don't see it as cheating if you're honest and open and, you know what I said to
00:07:20.680 you at the beginning, I'm exploring, you know what I'm saying?
00:07:23.360 Having fun.
00:07:24.440 So, if people know you're having fun from the beginning, then you're not necessarily going
00:07:27.880 to be deemed as cheating.
00:07:30.080 But I think that is a hard place to get to in today's, you know what I'm saying?
00:07:35.400 Yeah.
00:07:36.360 Nowadays.
00:07:36.760 So, now you tell the girls up front, it's not you.
00:07:40.000 If there's going to be multiple and they're cool with it?
00:07:42.980 Yeah, something like that.
00:07:44.340 I mean, again, yeah.
00:07:45.920 It all depends.
00:07:46.540 It's verbals.
00:07:47.380 It's verbals.
00:07:48.720 But, yeah.
00:07:49.060 He's laughing.
00:07:49.900 What's the joke?
00:07:51.280 I'm not in on it.
00:07:52.580 Why are you putting the camera on me for?
00:07:55.240 You're not meant to do that.
00:07:57.080 You're not meant to do that.
00:07:58.400 No.
00:07:58.860 I hear what my man's saying, isn't it?
00:08:00.460 Big up Bushkin, isn't it?
00:08:01.420 I hear what he's saying.
00:08:02.200 But you see what it is, blood?
00:08:03.840 In my eyes, yeah.
00:08:05.680 Like, the cheating thing, it's an old school thing and everyone's cheated in their life.
00:08:10.160 Come on.
00:08:10.380 We've all been there.
00:08:11.380 Do you understand?
00:08:11.980 But as time's gone on, I think 2023, if you're not grown, I think the youngest, them, are more
00:08:17.800 likely the ones to keep up this type of fuckery.
00:08:20.420 You understand?
00:08:20.800 What, cheating?
00:08:21.460 The cheating thing.
00:08:22.220 Yeah.
00:08:22.360 It's the new generation, blood.
00:08:23.580 That's having too much fun.
00:08:25.100 They're out there whipping all that in anything.
00:08:26.940 Gala digging up anything.
00:08:27.900 I think this girl fucked that girl, fuck your friend, this friend fucked that as well.
00:08:32.500 I'm sorry.
00:08:33.320 It's the younger generation.
00:08:34.560 That's your opinion.
00:08:35.080 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:08:35.180 I'm not going to take it as the older ones are doing that.
00:08:37.860 But I think it's a small percentage of men that can do that.
00:08:42.040 Nah.
00:08:42.260 Because one out of three men under 30 are virgins or having sex in the past year.
00:08:46.360 So it's really the women that are sleeping around when you think about it.
00:08:49.880 Well, that's bad on the women, you know?
00:08:51.340 I feel like women do it more.
00:08:52.580 They just hide it better than men.
00:08:54.600 How?
00:08:55.380 Would you mean how?
00:08:56.140 What do you mean by hide it better?
00:08:57.120 Well, I wouldn't know because I've never cheated.
00:08:58.660 No, but I'm saying from what you've heard, from your theory, what you're hearing, how
00:09:02.160 does that happen?
00:09:04.000 Women like better than men, in my opinion.
00:09:06.220 Women like better than men.
00:09:07.420 And I feel like, well, I can't give an example because then I'm going to be putting up.
00:09:11.520 No, I just wanted to know.
00:09:12.860 I'd love to know.
00:09:13.720 As a man, I want to know.
00:09:14.600 Could you tell me?
00:09:15.440 I mean, because you've got this opinion from somewhere.
00:09:17.920 I know it's not you.
00:09:18.840 You're the faithful girlfriend.
00:09:20.440 Yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:09:20.860 But I'm sure in six years, right, you know someone that's cheated, right?
00:09:26.580 Yeah.
00:09:27.120 Okay.
00:09:27.600 So what's the question?
00:09:28.540 So like what happened?
00:09:29.720 Why did she cheat?
00:09:30.580 How did she cheat?
00:09:31.620 I feel like people in my generation think that they can go find better quick because
00:09:37.940 they're still young.
00:09:38.740 So like you have your variables.
00:09:41.660 It might be they're good looking.
00:09:43.280 I know men like good looking, young, healthy, whatever it is.
00:09:47.480 Women are in their prime when they're young, right?
00:09:49.300 So does that make sense?
00:09:50.860 No, but I was asking about it.
00:09:52.240 You seemed like you said that women, you said women cheat more than men.
00:09:54.740 So I'm asking like, do you know someone who cheated?
00:09:56.660 How do they cheat?
00:09:57.760 They just go out and do what they want to do.
00:10:00.220 Like, yeah, it's not like.
00:10:02.320 No, I'm asking is it like, are they sleeping with random men every night?
00:10:06.160 Is it the same guy?
00:10:07.220 No.
00:10:07.420 So say like a girl could go out.
00:10:08.800 Say like she's going out with her friends or whatever.
00:10:10.920 And let's say she's talking to two people.
00:10:13.060 One, she's actually been in a relationship with on and off.
00:10:16.080 On an off weekend, she could go out with her friend and go do something with the second
00:10:19.760 person.
00:10:20.260 Wow.
00:10:20.460 But in the first person's head, they think that they're maybe like still together or
00:10:25.440 whatever.
00:10:26.540 Okay.
00:10:27.040 So the first person, is she in a relationship with them or two?
00:10:29.520 So she's on and off.
00:10:30.740 She's on and off with the first person.
00:10:32.320 Okay.
00:10:32.740 But in that person's head, she's, they're on.
00:10:35.800 Does that make sense?
00:10:36.740 Mm-hmm.
00:10:37.220 Yeah.
00:10:37.820 Oh, okay.
00:10:38.460 So, so really like they both think they're the only one, but there's two.
00:10:43.080 Yeah.
00:10:43.600 Yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah, yeah.
00:10:44.480 Kind of, kind of, yeah.