Pearl Tried To Reason With this Modern Woman
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Summary
In this episode, we discuss the benefits and drawbacks of cohabitation as a family unit and how it relates to children. We also discuss the role of fathers in raising their children and how they should be treated by society.
Transcript
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what the worst thing for children is to not have a mom and a dad in a house i agree with what
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um i forgot your name what you're saying pierre and what pearl saying it's the worst thing and
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i feel like if you didn't want to have kids of that person then you should have been more careful
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but you need to think about the children because their childhood really shapes the way they are
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especially like not having a dad and i feel like you just need to firm some things and happiness
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it comes and goes can i ask you a question would you rather your mom and dad were together but
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you watch your dad treat your mom like like crap i would rather my mom and dad be together but
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like some people have suggested different ways of going about things rather than
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like someone running away like but with that with the ideology of like cohabitation and like just
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living together and being unhappy and like sleeping in separate beds and like just putting on a front
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for the whole family like he said the ideology of like kids like being like a sponge they absorb like
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what's going on around them they are they're not stupid they are seeing what's happening your parents
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are sleeping in separate beds that literally as they grow up that like tells them like oh that
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like like stops them from being intimate with partners later in life because they don't see
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this intimacy between their parents the two people that are learning from and living with and stuff
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and they're seeing like this unhappiness that whether it's a front or not like they are
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like seeing that your mom and your dad like aren't happy together so how is this like how is that
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better for the kids what's what's the better better alternative they're there wait wait wait wait they're in
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separate they're in separate houses and then they get to meet their girlfriends and boyfriends over
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the years no i don't you should meet their other partners but i think you should be able to see
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your parents happy i think you should see your parents respecting their own boundaries and it teaches
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individualism rather than dependency and quite frankly that is also society now marriage and family isn't about
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individualism and that's my whole point it's a me me me culture but you said yourself you said that this is a post-marriage
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society so why should we be trying to backtrack on society like this is the way society is growing
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like we just have to accept and move on but is it for the better though i think i think it's regardless
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of whether it's for the better of society it's better for the individual like all you should really care about
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is your self-worth and your self-happiness but i don't i think marriage as an institution is dead i still think
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there will be families but i i think um yeah as legally as an institution i think it's dead but how would you feel
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if you saw your your daughter or your son in a relationship but they weren't happy in you wouldn't
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say to them because i mean i would i would rather see if i if i had a daughter let's say was that was with a guy
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i didn't like yeah i probably would have warned her not to have a kid with him i'd like to say
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i probably would have she were women right we do it anyway so so she has a kid with him i warned you
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not to do it now you made your bed like i i would just say lie in it lie in it until he's 18
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you lose so much value for yourself though when you're with someone that you know isn't good for
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you or you know it isn't i don't know what like you lose value for yourself like i don't really
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get that but i'm like a punishment i'm saying yeah yeah and i'm saying it's a it's a you're it's a
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punishment you chose poorly but i'm a big right but i'm saying i'm saying be accountable for what you
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chose you picked it you made that you made that choice and half the wait wait wait and half the half
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wait and half the time women pick men they know would not be good fathers i get it i get the
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value system and i i kind of get where you're coming from like respect the institution family
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first i don't get that but like so what if and i suppose this also goes to the cohabiting thing
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because i get it like you're still trying to make it work even though you're not sleeping together
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like you're there's a separation but there's this idea that we're still here like you you can be
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friends for the kids yeah so but what happens if you can see that and i'm not trying to trap you up
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i'm genuinely asking like if you can see this situation you together even cohabiting cohabitating
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you get along so poorly even when trying that you can see it's making the children unhappy
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at that point then i would say yeah you gotta separate but at least try at least try i give will
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a divorce those kids are happy bro like i've seen it i've seen it i've seen family members literally
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live together for like five years and they weren't together together but they just lived in the same
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house and they slept in separate rooms and i thought as even as a child like why why are they still
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together but it showed like after a while for me personally it just showed strength yeah and then
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after the the situation and that period where they whatever was going on between them i think it
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lasted like five years maybe even longer but they ended up coming back together afterwards and for me
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actually witnessing that was a beautiful thing can i can go ahead i just want to put a total spin on it
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something that's sort of related but unrelated what about i'll say girls women however you want to
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describe them the ones that get pregnant on purpose to keep the man that i baby yeah so i i i've been
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waiting to try and get my voice heard here it does happen i know women that have done it i know men
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that have done it of course yeah but but how does a man do it how does a man do it purposely coming
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inside a girl yeah to get her pregnant so that she'll stay with her oh yeah but a woman can still get
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rid of it the man doesn't have a choice yeah but the man can pressure them into keeping it but you still
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don't have to yeah but you know men influence women no but no but you literally right but you still
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literally don't have to guys let her let her finish you don't have to i knew this was a lot of
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discussion so yeah so this is this is a big thing and um women will do it on purpose it doesn't matter
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what age you are what background they think that's the way to keep a man to retain a relationship to
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perhaps even force a man into marriage for some years that may not even last and where you were
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talking about the parents staying together if that's what happens then man feels they've got
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no other choice but to okay i've got married this girl she's pregnant how long is that going to last
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because they're then forced into the situation they actually don't want to live together but then
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they understand the responsibility of co-parenting you know if the woman has done that and the and their
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father has tried and they said right i'm going to marry you or i'm going to move in with you we're
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having a child together i don't like what you've done you know you forced me into it but i'm going
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to try that's that's that's an exception i'd say yeah it's a good question though they're forced into
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living it living with each other for the sake of the children where you said the children have to
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stay together that's was he dating her first was he like dating her was it a situation there was um
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one of i say one of the gyms that i used to go to um the the girl got pregnant on for purpose
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thinking that would enhance a relationship force them into marriage and being able to keep the
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relationship she was like dating her yeah they were dating they were dating and um they split up
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and all i can say is you know there are exceptions uh the most amazing father ever he took up his
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responsibilities he absolutely adores his son but he was forced into that situation but all that did
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is you know they end up breaking up did they did they get married and then separate or just like
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they just agreed that they couldn't make it work that they weren't interested in each other they just
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decided to raise his child but like separately they were raising the child separately she forced
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him into situation to try and retain the relationship yeah that's an exception i think i think the
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main the main point here is like taking accountability of your purposeful actions so what
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happened to the relationship like what happened to the relationship after like she like basically
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baby trapped him like it broke down yeah it broke down and then did they did they try to did they
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decide to like force themselves to live together and no none exactly no no none of that she forced
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the situation she forced the situation which obviously he was not happy about yeah but despite the
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situation and then breaking up he stepped up as the one of the most responsible amazing fathers that
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you could ever meet whilst living separately though yeah yes okay most men most men would though
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like most like the majority of men yeah like we think logically right and we we go out to cover
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the bases i want to make sure that my child can eat i want to make sure that my child has a roof over
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there and i want to make sure that my child has an education the other comfort bits we may not all be
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so good at that but i'll say that in no such situation is speaking to all women who are thinking of
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doing this right now to trap a man that is the best way to terminate your relationship because
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that guy right there he may have he may with patience he may have he may have loved you for
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life right yeah but trapping a man is a is almost the most certain most surest way to create an enemy
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of like that guy will hates hates hates her existence yeah but loves his child i'm saying so it's a thing
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where like that's that's that's it's it's an unproductive strategy and it doesn't work because
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it's not sustainable because you haven't built that foundation and all of a sudden you're in a
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really high pressure situation where you're like oh my god i'm going to deal with the child
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that's a horrible thing that's a horrible horrible thing do you know what it is as well that's that's i'm
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really conflicted on that because i don't really like rewarding bad behavior but at the same time like
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i think it's about the kids first i don't know because you know what it is men men are more
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accountable for their actions so a man in that situation is going to think do you know what
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i'm not in her so i gotta look after the kids you know what i mean like no one told me to do it i did
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