JustPearlyThings - November 26, 2023


She Gets SCHOOLED for Being A Masculine Lady


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00:00:00.000 the topic today is men finding love overseas and yeah we just watched a
00:00:06.120 video which got taken down but we're gonna talk about it it was a video from
00:00:09.960 Good Morning Britain with Piers Morgan and they were talking about finding love
00:00:16.080 overseas there was a guy speaking about him finding Russian ladies specifically
00:00:21.120 and how we found them more attractive and the question I'm going to ask is are
00:00:26.640 women from foreign countries better wives than the ones we currently have
00:00:33.360 let's not let's not limit it to Great Britain in the West in general are women
00:00:39.780 better wives let's go for a guy Banksy what do you say well I've been
00:00:45.780 recommending this for a long time that men in the West due to myriad of reasons
00:00:51.260 should start looking elsewhere I spoke to a gentleman in Australia about four years
00:00:55.740 ago in regards to him he was a pilot he had all his house everything paid fully
00:01:01.980 like stacked the man was rich handsome and generally you know in that top what what
00:01:08.400 you guys call the ten ten twenty percent and he categorically told me that when
00:01:13.560 he is ready to get married he is going to get married to a lady or a wife where
00:01:19.260 he's going to find them either in Vietnam Cambodia Philippines and a country like
00:01:23.820 that he's in Australia himself very wealthy in Australia but he will not bring
00:01:28.500 his wife to Australia he will marry her and he will stay with her and build a life
00:01:34.200 in that country because he knows that if he brings her to Australia ultimately the
00:01:39.360 feminist in Australia will corrupt her and thus she'll be looking for for for the
00:01:44.280 exit door within a few years possibly a visa situation so in order to
00:01:49.140 counteract any of that he will marry in his 50s but he will keep her in that
00:01:54.120 country where the laws are much more favorable in divorce courts to the men
00:01:58.140 Wow ladies so do you feel that like he's marrying her do you think she's gonna
00:02:09.180 actually be marrying him because she loves him and desires him or that she just
00:02:13.980 truly wants to get out of the country or the poverty that she may be living in to
00:02:17.940 get to Australia to wherever you were saying that she what like he's from he's
00:02:22.700 really wealthy so he's then gonna but keep her in a little box in the country
00:02:28.500 that she's trying to maybe get away from just so that in order so he can control
00:02:32.280 that situation no to me do British women marry more for love you think I mean I
00:02:39.900 feel that women automatically marry from a place of feeling rather than logic most
00:02:44.700 obviously there's the difference between logic and emotion and around women that are more
00:02:49.320 pragmatic but I think generally women do go I think I think women marry out of opportunity
00:02:56.520 although so my question is if so they why is the average marriage seven to eight years and
00:03:02.220 why is the number one reason they leave financial if women in the West marry because
00:03:05.580 well because men are meant to be the provider if we're going back to what
00:03:08.580 everyone says we're meant to be virgins
00:03:10.980 it's true it's true but at the same time if we're talking about the polarities of the
00:03:18.720 masculine and the feminine energy if you want your wife or your partner to be in her feminine
00:03:24.000 energy I want to say provider she could still be working she could still be doing her thing
00:03:27.700 but in his energy being the provider so looking after what's the female energy supposed to be
00:03:33.240 in her feminine obviously that doesn't mean virginity but I mean it does it means purity
00:03:39.360 that's what mess if you look at the polarities of feminine and masculine energy even within every
00:03:44.700 single person in this room there is feminine and masculine energy that doesn't say purity
00:03:49.480 you're not any less feminine because you're not a virgin are you a virgin people wouldn't say
00:03:53.940 no I would say I would say I am less feminine than I was like I was more feminine when I was a virgin
00:04:01.320 yeah I definitely wasn't because every every heartbreak makes you a little bit more bitter
00:04:05.520 oh I don't know and then I think just I think honest every every heartbreak comes with some
00:04:10.620 trauma the more penises you have inside you the more masculine you come yes I would say I would
00:04:17.280 say when I when I was a virgin like I was like 100% but it doesn't negate from the fact that you
00:04:23.280 are still able if you do the work to step into your feminine energy if you're with the counterpart that
00:04:28.980 is in his masculine energy I just think women are either feminine or they're not to me and to me
00:04:33.540 like you can learn to fake it but like you'd be like but you can always smell it like no if you do
00:04:38.160 though if you do the true work on allowing yourself when I had my son that forced me into my feminine
00:04:43.860 energy what what is like the because no offense I I just hear this like do the work but then like
00:04:49.080 there's no work there is when you go to when you do you work out why you're in your masculine
00:04:54.900 energy because there is always a why to your so so say I'm too masculine and then so like I find
00:05:01.260 out it's x reason then what what do I do what's the work well therapy okay deep trauma work shadow
00:05:07.500 work there's so many different things sound bath healing reiki healing there's so many different
00:05:11.640 types of work that you can do therapy to maybe get over your father wound which are your mother wound
00:05:16.980 which is usually where this I need to be in my masculine energy in order to prove something or even
00:05:22.920 society okay so those phrases yeah but those are like real things I think sometimes women can be
00:05:30.660 quite masculine because they have not met a man that has allowed them to to be in their feminine
00:05:36.900 energy so sometimes they feel like you know they're not with the right man that is allowing them to take
00:05:42.960 a step back and be in that feminine energy and to like lead them so do you think that femininity is
00:05:51.000 conditional then conditional like do you think that it depends on the condition just like
00:05:55.980 masculinity that you know it's not because I've seen many bitches out as a man if I said I'll be
00:06:02.700 masculine for the right woman no no no no you're gonna look at me and say what what would you mean
00:06:09.120 I'll be masculine for the right woman but you say you'll be feminine for the right man and you think
00:06:13.500 that makes sense because he's meant to be the leader is a leader you're meant to lead so if you're if
00:06:18.600 you're you're meant to be in your if I'm meant to be my masculine I think we have meant to be in your
00:06:22.740 feminine yeah but I think we have masculine and feminine energy and I think if you're a woman and
00:06:29.580 you're with a man that doesn't allow you to step into your femininity because he's not masculine enough
00:06:35.280 then your masculine side kind of comes out and compensates for that
00:06:38.920 I disagree I just think that's an excuse that women want to use as an excuse to be masculine
00:06:45.920 I just think that's an excuse like like the most picture-perfect feminine women I know it doesn't
00:06:50.840 matter who they're with they're feminine regardless I just think you're either feminine or you're not
00:06:54.520 feminine for stars I agree with what she just what Pearl just said but do you think it works both ways
00:07:01.940 so basically if you're a slightly masculine female because you're not with the right guy that can bring
00:07:08.720 out your femininity do you think a man will get away with saying he's a slightly feminine man
00:07:14.540 because he's not with the right woman yeah maybe a man can be with a woman that's maybe a little bit
00:07:19.640 too masculine for him and then it doesn't allow him that confidence to step into his masculinity
00:07:26.180 do you know what I mean so it's all about balance and finding the right person
00:07:29.200 the question is would go ahead go ahead would you give a guy who's very much in his feminine energy a chance
00:07:35.540 nope probably not because I just feel like I want a man to lead
00:07:40.780 yeah and I am in
00:07:42.420 alright so that's a bit of a contradiction
00:07:44.000 yeah because I'm sure that uh you know females in their masculine energy would like a man to give them a chance
00:07:49.940 I mean just imagine this imagine if a guy just started like being like hey girls
00:07:55.160 hey girls
00:07:55.880 yeah and because he's like I'm with some masculine females hello
00:08:00.080 that's crazy
00:08:01.100 like that would sound nuts to you
00:08:02.980 crazy
00:08:03.340 but we can like no fat spew this is like nonsense to me
00:08:06.980 I just think you're either a feminine woman or you're not a feminine woman
00:08:09.940 but I think sometimes
00:08:11.120 the thing is um sorry there's a this is something where most people who've done any kind of training martial arts
00:08:16.340 anything else they say you are your habits you are what you train if you train full contact you punch full contact if you train semi-contact you throw semi-contact you are your habits
00:08:26.720 it is incredibly difficult to live your life for most of it or for decades as a
00:08:31.640 masculine woman and then suddenly turn on the feminine
00:08:35.000 but you can train you can train you can train it but the thing is by the time you meet that guy
00:08:41.240 do you not can you not have no but who trains you does a man train you or do you train yourself
00:08:45.320 well it depends if you some relationships can bring out that side of you to do that deep work because a lot of the time when you get into a relationship the reflections and the trauma that is brought up where then it forces you into that space of like you know what actually maybe I am not doing something in this relationship that's not allowing this man to do what he's meant to be doing and so then it forces you to look to get that mirror and be like you know what I need to do the work on me
00:09:08.720 outside of therapy what else
00:09:11.000 because I just imagine like if you're going to change your whole temperament like there's a lot that's in it
00:09:16.360 so I mean I'm sure it takes well no it does take many years therapy is that probably
00:09:20.560 so not outside of outside the therapy um
00:09:24.000 a lot of stuff I can't say
00:09:26.840 I wouldn't like to
00:09:28.700 but do you think like this is the thing about like women that say this kind of stuff
00:09:32.080 men here we don't want masculine women
00:09:35.420 no we don't want to be masculine either
00:09:37.440 but what I'm trying to say what I'm trying to say is like you said oh we've got to train ourselves to be feminine right
00:09:42.980 reprogram or reprogram yourself or rejig yourself whatever it is get yourself download a new program
00:09:48.960 well it's like going to the gym
00:09:49.940 but men generally don't they ain't got time for it
00:09:53.180 like if it's for instance if if if we take you on a date
00:09:56.520 for instance right and we see that you're more masculine than you are feminine
00:10:01.620 we're already calculating like this is going to be a problem
00:10:04.620 it's going to be a problem and I haven't got time because I don't know you
00:10:08.540 like that
00:10:09.740 we haven't got time to be trying to program you
00:10:12.560 and you're trying to train you into being more
00:10:15.560 feminine
00:10:16.740 like we want if we go on a date with you
00:10:18.640 we want a woman that we can see
00:10:20.620 she's kind of feminine I kind of like this
00:10:22.780 do you know what I mean and then we'll pursue it
00:10:24.340 but masculine women we don't want to train you
00:10:26.420 because if we say the word because you use the word train
00:10:28.560 I didn't
00:10:29.240 yeah but you said that you asked me a question whether a man can do can help you in that
00:10:34.880 and so I I didn't say because a lot of the work the deep work that I've done I've done on my own
00:10:39.460 not fro like yes relationships have presented these mirrors for me to have which every relationship presents mirrors
00:10:45.780 it could be a relationship with your mum your friends can present these spaces of where you're like
00:10:51.420 okay I've got to work on myself in this and understand sometimes you don't need to say this
00:10:56.460 or you don't need to say that or you can take a step back and understand that yes this man can lead me
00:11:00.760 so I'm not saying that it's a man's role or job to do that
00:11:04.760 that's a twist of words
00:11:06.180 do you think you need a man to co-sign it though
00:11:08.300 so like if you know you did this not just you but anyone that does like the deep work the femininity training
00:11:15.160 like would you say that there has to be a man that co-signs it because like women lie to each other
00:11:19.500 well I think that when you get into a relationship you'll then when if you take time out maybe after a relationship
00:11:25.140 and then I think a relationship will let you know how successful your deep work has been
00:11:29.740 because you're not going to know how successful you're going to be in a relationship
00:11:32.740 so you're in a relationship right so the thing is I wouldn't say a man because you could be a lesbian
00:11:37.180 this is like beyond cap um
00:11:40.060 it's like the amount of cap here is I or cope I don't know
00:11:44.340 are you married um I was engaged for a long time
00:11:47.380 but the thing is that's that the what I see here is like the women saying oh when I meet the right guy
00:11:53.560 I'll then turn it turn on the femininity whilst actually in the realities they don't actually even turn on the femininity
00:11:59.380 They just go you just can't handle a strong woman
00:12:01.720 Yeah
00:12:02.120 and then you as a man are berated and ridiculed because you can't handle this
00:12:07.900 incredibly masculine energy of this woman that's coming at you all day long because you don't want that you want feminine submissive
00:12:14.540 beautiful women and so that's I think part of the reason why men in the west are actually going abroad
00:12:20.720 whether it be Dominican Republic, Brazil, certain parts of Africa, Eastern Europe, Thailand, Philippines
00:12:29.540 that's why they're going there to kind of find wives because what what a lot of them are saying and I've heard it a lot from men
00:12:36.720 that Western women are too much work so I'm too much work sorry so I'm interested to know like what do we feel is
00:12:45.600 femininity and what a feminine traits and what
00:12:49.200 considered too masculine
00:12:51.480 for a female to to kind of be I think from one of the traits the femininity community is so interesting to me
00:12:57.660 I was going on a rant on Twitter about this because they're just so they're so broad they just say like a lot of nothing in different ways
00:13:04.160 when I when I think of femininity I think of like nurturing I think of like typical like motherly traits
00:13:11.540 however, I found that there's no real way to like measure it or show anything or show any work or really
00:13:19.100 so I don't know it's so broad that's why it really confuses me as that that community
00:13:23.480 I'm interested because I think sometimes I can be seen as being in my masculine energy because
00:13:29.880 why why would you say that for a while I was a single mother and I was doing everything by myself and I was very much used to
00:13:36.540 Okay, this is down to me. I'm going to do this by myself. Everyone's relying on me. I can get on with it
00:13:42.440 You're not a single mother anymore. No. Okay. You're married now
00:13:45.780 I'm not married, but I have a partner. Yeah, so I was very kind of used to doing everything on my own
00:13:51.880 That's me. I've got this kind of thing and some some people some men would consider that too masculine
00:13:58.800 So I'm just interested
00:14:00.800 I looked at God is it okay? Yeah, I looked it up
00:14:03.920 I was just I saw this chart when I was going on my rant on Twitter that I tweeted
00:14:09.600 Feminine I'm not aggressive dependent easily influenced I'm submissive passive home-oriented easily hurt emotionally
00:14:16.400 Indecisive talkative gentle sensitive to others feelings very desirous of security cries a lot emotional verbal kind
00:14:25.040 nurturing tactful another chart says intuitive generous
00:14:29.000 Nurturing creative collaborative caring receptive grateful, which I agree with those. I agree with those statements, but like
00:14:37.200 When you said that for me when I had my son
00:14:41.660 was when
00:14:43.660 my
00:14:44.920 Level of femininity had to come out automatically just because you just said that when you had your children your masculinity came out
00:14:55.420 Because I felt like I had to be I was a single mom before that, but I had a girl
00:15:00.180 So my first my first child was a girl, but when I had my son
00:15:03.820 Mm-hmm art like my son is very very affectionate very very he he just
00:15:09.720 Brought out that side of me that needed to nurture him in a way and also I didn't want him to
00:15:18.200 Grow up thinking that men women have in their masculine angry
00:15:21.480 Like I wanted him to see the calmness and the stillness and for him to be able to communicate with me openly
00:15:28.600 Because it's not taught to young men that you can communicate you could like if he's upset
00:15:33.320 I don't go in shouting at him. I don't shout. I don't raise my I'd like I very much bring the femininity to my son all the time
00:15:40.240 I have a question
00:15:42.240 All right, so you're not in a relationship
00:15:58.240 There's a guy you like yeah, okay, okay, okay, okay, okay, and then you're in a relationship
00:16:03.480 No, you're not you're in a relationship. Would you guys
00:16:06.680 Um if you guys were to marry the person you're talking to or talking to in a relationship with
00:16:12.820 Would you quit your job if you told you to?
00:16:15.460 No questions asked if if I'm married here if I've married him if I
00:16:20.440 If I've married if I've married him it means I trust him
00:16:24.480 To lead and I would trust his decision in that and I would trust that it's for the best interest of our family
00:16:30.820 Okay, yeah, you would yeah, so if he said to me, I'm sorry
00:16:34.000 I'm sorry, so if he said to me, you know, I think you should
00:16:39.740 Work and I'd be like yeah again
00:16:41.820 I trust him in that and I'm ready for that because I feel like
00:16:46.280 He's allowed me to step into that feminine energy and I don't I no longer have to be like right
00:16:52.060 I need to be on it. I need to do this. I need to do that
00:16:54.060 I'm on my I'm on my own. I'm not on my own anymore
00:16:56.240 I can trust him lean into him and yeah, so I would I'd love that actually
00:17:01.980 I would really love that
00:17:03.980 I think I would be like I'm really ready to settle down now
00:17:07.420 Like I would think about kids. So I think yeah, like if he is in control and if he's leading this
00:17:14.940 Whole marriage then I would say yeah
00:17:17.620 What if what if what if the pen is we're not we're not the window
00:17:23.360 What if he made 40,000 a year
00:17:25.360 I
00:17:27.360 Mean
00:17:29.360 No
00:17:31.360 I'm just curious
00:17:33.360 He still would in the father
00:17:35.360 But there would be lots of
00:17:37.360 No, no, no, no, no objections. This is you're trusting him. I have some questions. No, no
00:17:41.560 Okay, that's a mission. We already know that he's gonna lead the family. So yeah, I was like 40,000. Yes
00:17:50.240 Okay
00:17:52.240 No, you said no, you said but I would yeah say you know like because no, no's your answer
00:17:57.240 I wouldn't yeah, yeah, no's your answer. That's fine. Yeah, so
00:18:01.040 She's I feel like that's kind of a no
00:18:03.680 No, no, but then yes, no
00:18:06.380 Yeah, because I feel like he must have worked something out
00:18:11.560 And I'm a trust and believe I think the difference between Western women and women from abroad like taking it back to the subject is
00:18:22.380 that the women from abroad
00:18:25.120 Would probably be more submissive and not question as much and I think I don't know I will ask the guys here, right?
00:18:32.380 Do you think that the women?
00:18:35.060 From the West or women abroad would make better wives for you guys
00:18:38.640 Do you know what? For starters, I haven't had problems getting submissive women in the UK
00:18:47.140 but
00:18:48.140 I think I'd say 50% of the
00:18:51.780 people I've been in long-term relationships with have been
00:18:55.260 Even if they live in the UK, they've had their formative years in another country, right and
00:19:02.260 Very I'm not gonna say submissive. I'm gonna say very feminine like I've heard people say, you know
00:19:07.640 We both have masculine and feminine energy in us, but
00:19:11.320 All the women have been with I can't even imagine them being supremely masculine at all
00:19:16.520 Like they're so feminine that even when they're trying to do masculine type things it just comes off feminine and that's feminine
00:19:22.520 Do you mind me asking like what countries they were from respectively?
00:19:26.400 The one I'm really thinking about now
00:19:28.520 She was based she was brought up in South Africa
00:19:31.140 Okay, and another one. I'm thinking of she was like heart. She was written her mom's Filipino. So right, you know
00:19:38.180 And a Filipino that wasn't born here. Yeah, right. So she's got that influence
00:19:42.160 Yeah, I think I think ultimately women in the West are brought up to be more independent
00:19:47.580 Whereas women in different cultures may be brought to be independent, but ultimately are brought up to serve the man
00:19:52.720 So mmm based on that they're wired differently and they have different
00:19:56.600 Goals into or they have to play different roles in comparison to women in the West when it comes to marriages and relationships
00:20:02.940 so it's just
00:20:04.680 Yeah, that's just what it is basically. Yeah, and also I just want to piggyback off that and say
00:20:09.040 I
00:20:11.040 Think a lot women in the West they look at it as it's almost like a job that they're they kind of have to do to look after a man
00:20:18.180 Whereas other women raised in other parts of the world
00:20:21.940 They look at it like they want to do this
00:20:24.180 Yeah, and I find whenever I've been with a woman long term or just even dated them short term
00:20:29.560 They all seem to want to do feminine things for me. Like you know, they wouldn't do my hair
00:20:34.860 They want to cook for me. I've never had to ask a woman to cook for me. I mean, it might be something about my energy as well
00:20:40.360 I don't know, but I think that factors into it as well. Yeah
00:20:42.960 Yeah, well that that brings me to another point, you know
00:20:47.020 The guy on the clip that we can't show yeah, you know, he said he did well over here
00:20:52.520 but
00:20:54.520 It's just that he russian went to russia because there's more there's just more of what he wants and I really don't see a problem with that
00:21:00.220 By the way, you know, if you think that you're gonna have more options more of what you like in a certain country
00:21:06.040 Why why wouldn't you go but from what I've seen is that there's a lot of women?
00:21:10.840 Because they called the passport bros shout out to the passport bros
00:21:15.960 Shout out to the passport bros
00:21:18.440 There's a lot of women in the West now
00:21:21.500 Trying to shame
00:21:22.900 Passport bros men who actually go
00:21:24.840 I know yeah, yeah, and they look like bullies going up
00:21:28.520 I think it's a delivery
00:21:29.720 I don't necessarily think you can have a choice and a preference of whatever you want
00:21:33.880 I think it's a delivery of shaming another type of woman just because you like something else
00:21:38.840 It's like the oh, I like this because this part that you don't you your preference if that's your preference
00:21:44.600 You like women from Russia then say that and say I what I want to go here
00:21:49.080 But you don't have to like give the reason is because of just say you like that
00:21:53.320 So yeah, I think but I think the stuff he said was true was true
00:21:56.920 Yeah, and like we we are more overweight, you know UK they always talk shit about the u.s. But y'all ain't here
00:22:10.040 Your obesity stats are better, but not much
00:22:12.440 And I wouldn't follow America. We're like little puppies after America
00:22:16.120 And that's the thing like when we are less submissive in the west the women of the women
00:22:20.760 Outside of here were raised more to be wives
00:22:23.720 Like instead of instead of shaming men for like saying what's true
00:22:26.920 I think we should say, you know, maybe we should try to learn from them. What exactly
00:22:31.320 Shout out to pearls white school. I'm gonna be on it
00:22:38.840 The thing is is I was engaged to get married, but it's like do I stay in that relationship where he's gonna
00:22:44.920 Continuously cheat on me just so that I can be a why don't you don't get points for almost
00:22:50.040 I didn't ask for pine. No, I'm just saying I ask I've been engaged to you, but I never got my point
00:22:54.440 Is is that do I like for me to get across that line of like yay? I can be married
00:22:59.560 Do I then have to be that submissive that I then put up with being?
00:23:05.480 What sort of I was yeah, what are you but you're not a virgin you weren't a virgin for him, right?
00:23:11.080 You had children we've got children. Yeah, were you no, I'm saying were you a virgin?
00:23:14.840 No, no, no, no, no, no, no, no
00:23:16.040 And that's what I'm saying like in a way we cheat on our husbands by not saving purity for them
00:23:20.680 And we're gonna shame them for cheating. No, I would cheat on us too
00:23:28.200 Would you stay in a marriage if he cheated on you you got kids
00:23:32.760 No, that'd be free. Yeah, I oh, yeah, if you got kids
00:23:36.360 You got kids it's not about you anymore
00:23:38.920 It's also then teaching your son that it's okay to be
00:23:43.000 in that way
00:23:45.000 Why would your son know about that? Why would he be exposed to that?
00:23:48.760 He's a blueprint so automatically
00:23:51.640 His dad is constantly cheating. I'm not gonna be happy
00:23:53.640 Yeah, but are you gonna tell your son that his dad cheated?
00:23:56.360 No, I haven't told him but at the same time, I'm not gonna be happy
00:24:00.360 Yeah, it just looks like mommy's not happy
00:24:02.120 It doesn't look like my daddy's cheating
00:24:04.120 Why should the child see that he's happy?
00:24:06.360 Don't you think you're in control of your happiness?
00:24:09.960 You don't think it's a choice?
00:24:10.360 Yeah, my choice is to not stay in that relationship that's gonna continuously cheat on me
00:24:15.240 So I'll be happy my son has brilliant
00:24:17.240 Right, but that's that's what I'm saying
00:24:18.600 So like you're putting your happiness over what's best for the kids
00:24:21.640 And that's like a while a lot of time
00:24:23.640 And that's that's why a lot of times like men are leaving for the west because it's like women here
00:24:27.960 Like think it's about us when it's not about us. It's about the family first
00:24:31.800 And and I know like and the other thing is one out of three men are either virgins or haven't had sex in the last year under 30
00:24:37.400 Like there are men that you could pick that would be faithful to you
00:24:40.440 But if you if you go for a guy that's attractive to you, he's gonna be attractive to other women
00:24:44.360 That's what I was gonna. I was gonna ask you was he a top 20% man?
00:24:48.760 We were both in the military. I was like 18 when I'm yeah, but was he good looking?
00:24:51.880 Okay, so I'm saying if you look if you looked at your man, you looked at your man
00:24:56.280 Was he the type of man that other women wanted of course right?
00:24:59.480 Okay, so what happened is you probably chose a top 20% man because you were attracted to him
00:25:04.600 But he was and who is also attractive to other women caveat women find 80% of men as unattractive
00:25:11.080 So if you found him attractive, he's probably in the top 20% of right
00:25:14.200 So so so what happens is there's a top 20% man who's got 80% of women to choose from right?
00:25:20.120 And so I'm saying and I'm not condoning what he's doing
00:25:23.640 I'm just saying if a man is in the top 20% and he's got 80% of women throwing in throwing their panties at him
00:25:29.960 Right at some point in time. He might take that option and I'm not saying that it's right or wrong
00:25:36.440 I'm saying women generally go for men right that other women find attractive of course
00:25:42.680 Because you don't go for men who you know work at starbucks and they're stacking shelves generally and you don't go for those men
00:25:49.560 So what happens is part and parcel of choosing a guy that other women like
00:25:54.760 Is it you've got to put up with being cheap? I'm not saying you've got to put up with it. I'm saying
00:26:02.600 Me as a parent now in comparison to me as a parent when I was because obviously I had a daughter
00:26:07.560 Me as the the mother that my son has
00:26:11.080 Now and my ability to give him the calm from my feminine energy
00:26:17.240 I wouldn't have been able to do in that relationship
00:26:19.240 So for me 100% my son gets the best of me out of that relationship
00:26:24.520 Can I can I just simply say for the lady with the son?
00:26:27.720 I
00:26:28.920 Don't think you'll have to worry about any influences from outside
00:26:33.960 Of your husband or anyone else that your son's gonna learn how to cheat your son will know how to cheat
00:26:41.160 When he gets older when when women simply offer themselves to
00:26:44.600 Yeah, so there's no this again. I see that as a cope. It's it's like I think I got my happiness
00:26:50.200 I got rid of him because yeah, exactly again
00:26:52.680 It comes down to you. So it was actually your personal choice for your
00:26:57.480 Well-being not your sons not your daughters. It was really your
00:27:01.800 I'm sure
00:27:04.360 So do you I'm just curious do you you think your happiness is more important than the family and your son's happiness
00:27:10.520 My ability to feed into my children determines my 100% if I my cup's not full
00:27:16.360 Okay, then I'm not able to fill my children
00:27:18.360 And you don't you don't you don't you don't you don't and you don't think you control your emotions in any way
00:27:24.440 Not back then. No, I was so young. I was like in my early 20s
00:27:27.320 Which I understand maybe it was like in hindsight. Would you say it was a mistake?
00:27:31.720 Being with him 100%
00:27:32.920 No, not being with him leaving him. No
00:27:34.760 No, not at all. I would do it exactly 100%
00:27:38.440 You know what's interesting is because like even last week I was I was talking about um, I actually watched a tick tock video
00:27:44.680 And I say it was on tick tock, but it was actually a
00:27:48.280 Conversation between a man and a woman who had just divorced her husband. Yeah, and he was asking her
00:27:54.440 Why did you divorce your husband?
00:27:56.440 And she was saying
00:27:58.760 He was too
00:28:01.000 Good with money
00:28:03.480 And this is what she was saying. She was saying he was he liked to save
00:28:07.800 Didn't like to spend
00:28:09.640 You know, he was a little bit. He was always talking about. Oh, we got a safe for a rainy day blah blah blah blah, right?
00:28:14.440 And she left him
00:28:16.600 Because he didn't do the things that made her happy
00:28:21.000 But what he was actually doing
00:28:23.480 Was doing that
00:28:25.480 To secure the family unit
00:28:27.480 Right and so when when a woman says if i'm not happy
00:28:31.480 Then i'll do x y and z this men have to watch
00:28:34.360 I would say men have to really watch out for women who care about their happiness
00:28:38.520 Over the actual family structure because that means that because you know as a woman your happiness fluctuates from week to week
00:28:45.400 From day to day from month to month as a woman
00:28:47.400 Right deep depression. They're two different things
00:28:49.400 But i'm trying to but what i'm trying to say is a woman is
00:28:53.480 So led by her emotions, right and the man is more so led by logic pragmatic pragmatic, right?
00:28:59.880 And so we when a woman says things that oh because I wasn't happy
00:29:04.040 That's why I left in in my in my head. I don't know about the other men. I'm like
00:29:08.920 Red flag alarm bells
00:29:10.920 Happiness and then there's being cheap like if your concert it's not like i've left at the first cheat
00:29:16.120 Like I didn't just be like yo, bye peace out. Thanks. This is fantastic
00:29:20.760 Not at all
00:29:21.560 It took a lot for me to get to that point to what I do
00:29:24.520 I did not want to be a single parent again. How did you find out about the cheating?
00:29:28.680 Um, he had a whole relationship with her my son was and she phoned him and I answered and we were
00:29:34.520 And she was having a whole affair. Yeah, and she was crying down the phone saying oh he told me that you's two weren't together and
00:29:42.200 Um, yeah as many of you know, I was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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