JustPearlyThings - May 08, 2023


She Got TRIGGERED When Pearl Said This


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Length

10 minutes

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207.66316

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2,083

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1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 you know what i noticed though it's like the women that because i always hear this on the
00:00:03.980 shows where it's like oh i gave him everything or i did all this for him and i realized the girls
00:00:08.420 that say this they're actually spiteful and they keep score because the most giving women i know
00:00:13.220 they don't keep score and they never talk about what they did for a guy and so that's what i
00:00:18.380 realized it's like it's actually a red flag when she's like oh i did all this because she views
00:00:22.780 herself as the victim and like she did nothing wrong it was all him yeah a million my my experience
00:00:29.360 when women like women be like detectives they start digging up old shit that they did for you two
00:00:34.480 years ago that you've forgotten about and and that i think that that's a really bad a point scoring
00:00:39.540 like when you're in an argument and you start going back and forward and it's like well you did this
00:00:44.080 no you did that and what started and it's like i'm never getting a sorry so fuck it fuck it
00:00:48.820 i think sometimes as well like women can't help it that we just store this like in the back of our
00:00:54.700 heads because we're so like emotional yeah and in that emotion i personally feel like when women
00:01:00.900 are really upset with men like you guys uh you you want to vent and you want to like take that out
00:01:07.260 on us and i understand that but you're not we're not solving anything right yeah but that's why i think
00:01:11.800 like women having women friends that actually want you to win is so important like they have to be
00:01:17.200 married they can't be single and they have to be happily married because it's like we don't we can't dump
00:01:21.900 all our problems on the guys they don't want to hear about it that's why i was saying earlier i
00:01:25.500 don't think men and women are like supposed to be best friends yeah it makes sense but wouldn't it
00:01:29.600 be beautiful if they were exactly i mean i think i think that's what like society's been pushing to
00:01:36.880 be honest and i don't think it's working like you know like marriage now people are closer to best
00:01:41.600 friends than they were a hundred years ago and marriage doesn't work now that's true yeah i think
00:01:47.160 you should be able to yeah enjoy stuff together but marriage doesn't work for so many other more
00:01:51.480 profound reasons the likes of social media the likes of promiscuity yeah i think marriage not
00:01:57.260 working is women's fault wow yeah you are amazing you're like a breath of fresh i've never heard of
00:02:02.940 women confess no i'll tell you why because look at the numbers okay look at the numbers if you look
00:02:08.700 at okay no fault divorce got initiated in the 90s and what did women do they left 80 of the time
00:02:14.760 women are leaving and when men leave like the number one reasons it's like abuse infidel it's
00:02:20.020 it's not that they're more serious where women's it's like financial and one other thing i'm butchering
00:02:25.180 them but the last time i checked that's what they were and so it's like women like the average age
00:02:30.480 or the average length of a first marriage is eight years it's not marriage anymore marriage is not
00:02:34.180 marriage today because you change the whole institution by letting people be divorced because
00:02:38.460 marriage is supposed to be for better or for worse forever forever and so when women got the chance
00:02:44.160 to leave they did yeah because women don't need men financially as much and that's one of the
00:02:49.360 main problems is now women are out here earning as much if not more than men equal they're looking
00:02:53.920 at men like well what do i really need them for yeah and women would rather be alone than be with
00:02:59.040 a guy that's that she views as equal or less and and that's what you see because that's the general
00:03:04.800 trend since women started entering the workforce in the 20s yeah society's fucked
00:03:10.160 and that's when women list their things that they're looking for in a man it'll be taller than
00:03:14.080 me makes more money than me bigger stronger than me more intelligent than me like they want a superior
00:03:18.640 yeah in a lot of ways and and most most women won't ever settle if they don't get like and that's the
00:03:24.400 partially that social media came in and said oh you should all and disney you should all have prince
00:03:28.960 charming he should sweep you off your feet he should do all of that that's why i said we've been
00:03:33.600 conditioned yeah but disney never said what did cinderella bring to the table exactly again we've been
00:03:38.960 conditioned we've seen this from young so automatically we're like oh that's what i want
00:03:42.720 it's conditioning we've all been conditioned to think that's the norm the whole thing about bringing
00:03:46.320 stuff to the table like i'm just confused by it because when our parents got together they came from
00:03:56.160 nothing and came together and made something so i don't know maybe okay okay i was just about to say
00:04:08.240 that but our very old school but and our parents generation is the first generation that got
00:04:12.000 divorced like like our parents aren't the ones we should be taking advice from it's more of our
00:04:15.920 grandparents or our great-grandparents yeah they didn't have context and the thing is and the thing
00:04:19.760 is too like that women did bring they were more in shape they were they were more they were younger
00:04:24.880 they were better looking like the question though like those people they did not have instagram so
00:04:30.480 they didn't understand the lay of the land you could meet a nice guy he just works as a
00:04:36.720 baker he's doing nothing wrong yeah you ain't got a clue that you could potentially have a guy like
00:04:42.720 this rich guy sliding in your dms you are none the wiser so you are happy and ignorant
00:04:47.680 exactly you have less opportunity women a catalog of men that they could never have and made them
00:04:53.200 think they could and and also like our grandmothers and our great-grandmothers like they could cook
00:04:58.080 things from scratch like i see girls on instagram like sometimes i'll follow y'all after the show
00:05:02.800 but i'll see them out to eat like every day but i've never seen them cook anything on their store
00:05:06.320 and then they worry that they're getting cheated on that now that there you have to agree
00:05:10.880 if you don't want to be cheated on you best believe that you're doing every single thing
00:05:13.920 correctly but i mean the important things i'm not on the platforms like that like i said i like to be
00:05:18.800 you should be you might find your prince charming oh no you've got your prince charming sorry sorry
00:05:26.480 if you're watching this girl i love you i see you but no i mean i'm i'm content i'm secure i'm okay
00:05:32.480 in that side of things but i mean with me i've never i don't know maybe because of when i was growing
00:05:38.480 up there wasn't anything called like the internet i remember when the internet came in and
00:05:45.200 i feel that you know i just don't yes i love cooking and i love baking and i love doing all
00:05:52.480 of those things but i just don't put myself out there like that it's your own yeah exactly and i
00:05:58.800 don't knock anybody who has the confidence to go out and do that me personally i just couldn't put
00:06:05.040 everything out there like that me personally but like sorry go no no sorry go ahead oh so yeah so you
00:06:12.080 know back to the point that i was trying to make like it's just we're in a different time now where
00:06:17.920 we are under pressure we are you know like our great grandmothers and great grandfathers yeah they
00:06:25.440 were married until like they parted man and like i come from a stock where that was instilled in me
00:06:34.080 where that's what i saw and they were still madly in love with each other and yes they may disagree but
00:06:40.240 they still came together and they you know like you said there's a time where he could have just
00:06:45.680 been a baker she could have just been a you know a stream rest and you know but they built something
00:06:51.840 right but this is be this is it's genuinely because of like do you guys agree that in general sex comes
00:06:56.320 before relationships nowadays yeah in general now yeah got some cappers on the couch sometimes sex happen
00:07:05.120 just if you're just usually yeah but women are in control of who they sleep with like women are in
00:07:09.600 control so if relationships are failing like and women's are the ones leaving relationships
00:07:15.200 so it's unfortunate so when we get all the power go boy we abused it let me tell you but we use it in
00:07:20.800 the wrong way do you think it's fair for women to expect monogamy if they have children from a previous
00:07:25.760 guy i mean i think you should expect monogamy if the conversation hasn't been had otherwise
00:07:33.360 you know i mean just generally exactly yeah um it's more likely if you i feel like if you've got
00:07:38.640 children from a previous relationship um i think it's probably more likely that you're going to get
00:07:43.520 cheated on um because you're going to know that that person probably has less option to just walk away
00:07:49.200 after that it's more it's more likely that they will try and work out if they've already got children
00:07:54.000 from a past relationship they don't necessarily want to lose that person that they've been in a
00:07:57.920 relationship with you know what i mean so um yeah i i think that as long as there's honesty you know
00:08:04.160 then anything's possible but without that then you know and don't ever undermine the power and
00:08:09.680 influence of a stepfather or a stepmother yeah i came from a single parent family who'd shout my mom
00:08:15.680 my dad ran away and this man came into my life and he's the biggest blessing that's ever happened to me so
00:08:21.760 like honestly don't i know this is a random spur sorry it's just emotion speaking it's the most
00:08:26.160 important thing it's the only thing that could potentially eclipse the heartbreak of not knowing
00:08:32.000 your real father or your real mom yeah if someone's strong enough manly enough or willing enough to
00:08:36.160 come in and take that role it doesn't fill the void it permanently but it does help it helps heal the
00:08:42.800 hurt so much and it brought that male energy as well you probably need yeah but the issue is it's just a
00:08:48.560 bad deal for guys to be honest to date a single mother but you say that though yeah but i could
00:08:54.320 call my stepdad right now and i'll tell you for a fact i know i'm not talking about he hit the jackpot
00:08:59.200 right i'm not i'm not talking about you i'm talking about in general it's not i'm a hypocrite on that
00:09:04.640 because i was raised by a single mother my mother to me is an angel but i wouldn't want to go with a
00:09:10.720 woman who already has a child and that's just no disrespect it's just like yeah for me yeah that makes
00:09:14.960 sense for me i'm uh i just wouldn't want to do that because it's a lot to take from and there's
00:09:20.640 another man in the situation i don't want to have to deal with that at the same time i'm a single mom
00:09:25.840 yeah i'm a single mom and at the same time when you want to meet me you already know that i have a
00:09:31.120 child and obviously she will be my number one priority it doesn't matter no matter what even myself
00:09:36.960 i'm gonna put myself last and that's why it's it's kind of a respect from me is because i'm like as many
00:09:41.840 of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a daily basis on this platform
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