JustPearlyThings - August 05, 2023


She Will Friendzone Her Husband


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

179.0396

Word Count

1,730

Sentence Count

1


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.240 modern women are crappy wives so um today my first question is do you want to be a wife
00:00:06.480 yeah and if so what makes a good wife so starting here and then go around
00:00:13.520 what makes a good wife um i think companionship like definitely friendship i think that's a big
00:00:20.560 thing in a marriage um i wouldn't know that because i'm not married but you know
00:00:24.880 something i want is to be literally my partner's best friend um obviously you think men want a
00:00:30.880 best friend yeah 100 100 okay yeah really i think so men want to talk to women all the time okay yeah
00:00:39.520 not all the time too much is too much yeah even me it's not all the time okay okay anything else um
00:00:48.560 just just to be there to show up okay yeah women don't have to do anything but be a best friend
00:00:54.240 and show up to be a wife okay not just that okay well i need to elaborate so i'm just gonna go off
00:00:59.760 of what you say so um just i i don't know okay i just um because we live in this in a society like
00:01:10.320 this in terms of like cooking and like traditional things i've i genuinely feel like it should be like
00:01:15.440 you know divided it should be half yeah divided definitely so i don't think it's like a compulsory
00:01:20.640 thing do you think all the like fixing stuff around the house should be divided half half fixing
00:01:25.280 the car um should the dates be half half i'm just i'm just you know we're gonna this is the energy
00:01:35.600 right yeah and that would be a good wife yeah i'll split the chores with you i'll be your best friend
00:01:41.120 yeah okay okay go ahead um what do i think a wife do you want to be a wife and what makes a good wife
00:01:50.000 yeah i do want to be a wife um i would say what makes a good wife is being the type of woman that
00:01:59.280 can motivate and inspire a man to be the best version of himself because i feel like with a good woman
00:02:06.960 by his side supporting him a man can do incredible things and i some i feel like some men are lacking
00:02:15.760 that in their lives like they're like they don't have that woman that's there guiding them and like
00:02:21.760 being supportive and motivating him and lifting him up um so how would how would a girl do that
00:02:28.640 just inspiring a man to be the best version of himself like um how so like if i said i want to i want
00:02:35.280 to be a good wife and i'm coming to you how can i inspire well i feel like you you have to be a good
00:02:42.720 woman yourself first like you have to be like you have to be basically having your own things like
00:02:50.720 you have to be independent you have to be like cultured worldly intellectual um you have to have
00:02:58.560 things that also inspire the man and i feel like when you have those things as a woman you can bring
00:03:04.160 those into the relationship and the man sees you he sees your worth he sees your value and he's like
00:03:08.720 i've got to step my game up like i've got to be the best man for her um because you inspire him to be
00:03:15.200 like that you know and where did you learn this was this from your parents or did you learn it somewhere
00:03:18.800 else um i learned it from my parents yeah i did i think my mom really helped my dad become the best
00:03:25.840 version of himself she helped him on the straight road she made him cut out a lot of toxic how did
00:03:32.880 she do that um because of her morals like she had real strong morals he saw her value he saw what
00:03:39.840 type of woman she was and he wanted to lock it down straight away he was like this is like a real
00:03:46.320 good woman like she's you know there for me she's supporting me she's trying to help me build she wants
00:03:53.360 to help me build this empire so i've got to get my act together so yeah i did watch my mom and dad like
00:03:57.760 that because my question is more you said independent and i just went in history have
00:04:02.480 independent women have men wanted independent women like what men have always wanted women
00:04:08.000 yeah that relied on them when i'm when i meant sorry i just want to rephrase that when i meant
00:04:12.800 independent i meant as in like she is able to stand on her own two feet like she doesn't need him
00:04:18.400 she's not constantly needing him she doesn't give off that like needy clinginess like she can do things
00:04:23.920 around on her own but she would rather let the man do things for her if that makes sense but if he
00:04:29.280 wasn't around and god forbid something happened then she'd be able to stand on her own two feet
00:04:33.760 because i feel like men do want that they don't want to know that you like constantly like need them
00:04:40.240 emotionally mentally everything i've never heard a guy say that he doesn't want a girl that needs him
00:04:45.520 but there's so many guys that get turned off by it if they don't like you
00:04:49.120 if like usually it's like a girl that's like a little bit too ugly for him like typically like
00:04:54.800 she's a little bit below his typical league and like that's why she's annoying to him because she's
00:04:58.560 not in his like league yeah like have you ever said a guy that was into a girl that's like oh she's
00:05:05.520 too needy she wants me too much i mean i have heard men say that but i guess maybe they're with the wrong
00:05:12.560 woman i guess i don't know okay okay what do you think well i think the woman needs to look after
00:05:20.640 the house i think she have to um be there for him like to support him and i think the friendship
00:05:29.440 it's important as well um i don't know the respect as well okay so you think she should take care of
00:05:37.680 the house she's respectful to him yeah friendship i think that's important okay they can be friends
00:05:43.440 they can do things together they can even house things they can do together okay all right go ahead
00:05:49.920 it's a weird one for me well do you want to be a wife and did you say do you want you want to be
00:05:55.120 well it's a tricky one for me because i actually was a wife okay uh but now i'm single so yeah i want
00:06:03.280 to be a wife okay all right go ahead sorry i just love love i love love i love love um i kind of like
00:06:11.200 the idea of being a wife equaling things if that makes sense like paying for dates supporting our
00:06:20.240 family supporting a house when it comes to building stuff and i think so i like it though
00:06:25.040 um so you'll half the money yeah you'll do 50 50 on the money but again i i understand it comes to
00:06:34.640 some extent because obviously we get pregnant we um leave obviously because we are with child um
00:06:44.400 um what's your question actually what makes a good what makes a good wife makes a good wife morals
00:07:00.640 morals and i think would you include like loyalty in that absolutely okay so you'd say a woman's a bad
00:07:05.920 wife if she leaves no right no i i disagree no you disagree yeah but how are you a good wife if you
00:07:12.880 leave well if you don't have the reason to stay you you have to leave you know commitment vows
00:07:23.840 i think like um to be married and to have a family like i think that's beautiful and they call me
00:07:30.800 beautiful um it's it's commit it's a commitment and it's hard and i feel like a lot of people
00:07:39.760 don't like to go through the hardship but the hardship makes you stronger but the good wives
00:07:45.280 go through the hardship and the bad wives leave no i was asking her but you can
00:07:53.600 i'm gonna think about that one i'm just i'm trying to i'm trying to understand i don't know like
00:07:58.640 this i just think if you're good at something you get it done yeah i feel like um it goes down to
00:08:05.200 like being a team you know and like working on things together and progressing the relationship
00:08:13.200 together you know so if someone's slacking
00:08:17.680 fair enough and if it is a long period of time or it does affect the relationship or you know
00:08:25.200 you know then you got to cut it basically all right all right what do you think makes a good
00:08:31.680 actually i want to do the girls first in the video so what do you think do you want to be a wife and
00:08:35.360 what makes a good wife i'm going to be controversial and say not really don't want to be a wife no i
00:08:41.600 only want i would only get married if it was something that the other person felt really strongly about
00:08:47.840 but to me if you're in a relationship and you're that committed to that person what what is a marriage
00:08:53.600 going to do like what is that commitment saying to other people exactly yeah and if i'm not
00:09:00.400 committed to someone that i feel like i should be married to them unless i believe in the religious
00:09:06.080 beliefs behind it i just don't see it as being a bigger progression in the commitment i should be
00:09:12.320 committed regardless okay and there shouldn't be something on paper to state that i have to be that way
00:09:17.520 it should just be a mutual agreement that you're both just a few and committed and committed and
00:09:23.440 nothing's going to change about that so personally it's not something that i like will ever try to
00:09:29.120 force down someone or something that i really want but if they feel very passionately about it
00:09:33.760 and i feel like it's the right time i'm okay with that okay it's just something i don't feel like