Single Mother GOT REDPILLED on Cheating
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In this episode, we discuss cheating and the double standard when it comes to cheating amongst men and women. We discuss cheating as a woman and a man and how cheating is viewed by men and how to cheat as a man.
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um so today's topic cheating yep yep so yeah yeah okay so so my first question is have you ever
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been cheated on and have you ever cheated um yes i've been cheating on and i never cheat
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you never cheat how did you find out he cheated uh painful uh well i find out
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i don't know it's just like sometimes god loves me too much and they just show me little things you're
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right god god brought you cheating no no no it just happened and i knew he was cheating because
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i think men when they are cheating their way um they they feel guilty and then try to make it up to
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you oh so he was he was like buying you stuff and treating you well yeah out of nowhere okay and so
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then how how do you get evidence or well i just i'm not a person that go into someone's phone
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okay so phone but yeah but it just it just happened for me to see okay you saw like a message yeah and
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i i saw a message and then from there obviously i checked and yeah and then like what it was him
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like messaging come over or something uh no it was more i can't really say it because it's a bit
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inappropriate so oh it was like some sexual stuff okay i feel like we've got to qualify the question
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what do you mean by cheating as in going the whole way or what's cheating is such a loose film that's
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a good that's a good question when i think of cheating i think of like stuff that's like sexual
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you know i would say kissing someone else is cheating unless you're in like an arrange it's not
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cheating if you guys agree to the you know what if it's like uh just a flirty text message yeah like
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text messages like instagram like you replied to something yeah but from there it's starting right
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premeditated not necessarily because for me there's also emotional cheating like if you invest your
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emotion emotional energy in someone else that's also cheating because i could be with a guy and then
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i'm investing my emotional energy into another guy you're still i think i think that emotional cheating
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that's that's a woman thing i think you know like just you don't really care as a man isn't it
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see men men when it comes to men men cheat for different reasons from when women cheat you understand
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what i mean yeah that's why when women cheat people say that it hurts more it hurts the man more you
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know what i mean because men it's like our penises kind of talk for us you know what i mean like our
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penises are the ones that are making the decision certain times you know and once you've bust that
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knot you're like you you snap back to normal you could go back to loving her i still love her though
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yeah yeah after you bust that knot you're like oh you come what am i doing here yeah you come to
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your senses you come to your sense of your senses no pun intended so that's why you're saying man do
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it just to go bust it or not and then after they come there's a double standard for sure guys guys
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can have sex without emotions but with females it's different they need emotions it's very much
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different yeah men men can can have full-blown sex with a woman and feel less than a woman sending
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a flirty text message exactly like we can be more upset over them sending a text message yeah than us
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having full-blown sex with my mom my mom broke it down from a practical standpoint right this is
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genius if you let someone into your home that's slightly more personal than you going into someone's
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home and women from a practical standpoint they are allowing you access to their insides yeah you're
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just visiting you can visit 100 houses in a day not that i recommend you do that i don't do that by the
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the way just so big up my mom for that and um but i don't condone it i don't i don't i don't suggest
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you do it that's it i'm trying to there's some study i'm trying to find it that like backs up what
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you guys are saying where they asked like married men that cheated if they still loved their wives and
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it was like 85 percent or 85 80 percent roughly still said they did i mean it's not like they don't
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they don't love them anymore it's like maybe they want to try something different maybe
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bro so true have you guys cheated have you guys cheated yeah i've been a serial cheater man
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come on any man says that haven't cheated they'll lie you but not every guy can't cheat
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that's true but on the subject that you just said of um married men i remember being in the lift i
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went to go clubbing with the guys who was in the um lift and we seen all the guy must have been around
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about say about 65 years old and he was like oh lads you're gonna enjoy like have a good night tonight
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was like yeah then he was like yeah i'm gonna prom looking for a for a woman tonight and we're like
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okay he's i'm married by the way but i'm i'm bored he was like she don't do nothing for me but i love my
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wife a friend of mine once said behind every great looking woman is a man sick of shagna and i'm sorry to
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like because i know women don't want to hear that but like and it's not all true like obviously there's
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exceptions there's all good there's good guys out there but i do feel like men we are programmed to
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want to multiply that is like not it's not a choice we wake up every morning with a full sack and we're
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ready to go and unfortunately for women if you're not there like that's why women unfortunately have
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to be on their a-game because it's not fair but it's just the way it is yeah i beg to differ on that one
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for the simple fact of you can be that woman or that man absolutely you could be everything that he
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dreams of i agree and yet still somehow some way i can be submissive i can give it to you as and when
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you want it multiple times out of the day but the truth is if you want to go out and do that you're
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going to that works both ways no no and i was going to get to that point um you know it to me it's like
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i've always looked at cheating i've been on the receiving end of that and i've been there multiple
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times now it does two things it makes you look inside yourself and think okay have i done something
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in order to not satisfy him what drove him to look at me but you're telling me that you love me
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you care for me oh you know you're my world okay show me that i'm your world but then you still show
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me that but then you still feel all right i'm gonna go out and demand him yeah different area
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cold they ain't gonna know no it's not about that do you get done something i'm saying it's the same
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with women as well women i believe if you feel that you have to get to that point where you're cheating
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why are you still in that relationship why haven't you sat down and had that a and b okay well i could
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flip it on you and say why did you choose the wrong men multiple times in a row then okay no no no no
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disrespect no no no and that's a fair um because they're all good guys out there no no no and that
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is a very fair question every man cheats no i said every man has the urge in them they're programmed
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to want to fuck every day that's well generally i'll answer because women in general like men that cheat
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like it's not like a good thing that makes women look good but look at who women pick
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like more two women have always reproduced for every one man and while there have been there
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have been monogamy like throughout the last two million years there have been monogamous societies
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um and the majority like of the population has been monogamous but the top 15 percent of men
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um have never been monogamous ever and now what's the difference today women um now are completely in
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control of sex which has never happened in all of history right and what has happened since we've
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gotten in control of sex we have been sleeping with a smaller and smaller percentage of men so what
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does that mean we could have the monogamous guys but none of us pick them so and we don't when we
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have the most youth and the most beauty because usually like we do go into monogamous relationships
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but we do it in our 30s because the average age of first marriage isn't 31 so that means we're
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non-monogamous in our 20s i have a question for the ladies if this is okay have any of you ever
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knowingly like deep deep down inside been a booty call knowingly have you ever been have you ever
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knowingly been a booty call like a guy who's just you're you're a side piece you're not serious
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but you're turning up and you know he's calling you at 11 o'clock for good reason like he ain't
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taking you out he ain't doing all the nice things you're turning up knowing what this is really about
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he may be lovely to you he may say all the nice things to you but you deep down in your i'm just
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i'm just gonna say i'm just gonna say no no i haven't i personally haven't been in that situation
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um but each people or persons or people that are in that setup yes what about situationship anyone
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raise your hand situationship never whatever every you every guy you've slept with you've been in
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a relationship with 100 plus okay okay yeah yeah you have been in a situation no of every person
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i've okay fine i've had any interviews with i've been with these recruiters need to stop their game
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they're too nice you see what he's saying though because a situationship is the same thing
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you are both single yeah and if you both agree it's like if you know what the setup is and you're like
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okay look i've got an itch i need you to scratch i'll call you if that's the setup then fair enough
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each of their own but personally i've never been in that situation were you married are you you're
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married am i you're married somewhat i just couldn't remember what you said in the beginning i didn't
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answer that question okay i see a ring i'm just not yes there is a ring there okay yeah no it just
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surprises me because if you're still single at 35 i'm like every guy you're in a relationship by 35
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i wouldn't say every guy that i've been with i would say in my younger days um you know when you're
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finding yourself and you don't really women sometimes want a little bit more than men and
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what i wanted is not necessarily what he wanted but they sell you this dream take you down the stream
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oh and kind of just leave you there kind of thing you know and that was my experience right but but
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that's still a situationship if you weren't together no we was in a relationship oh you were in a
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relationship yes we were in a relationship and then he then went on to go and find what was
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appealing to himself and that's how that relationship dissolved he cheated on you yes i i've never gone
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out i've never cheated on an individual but i have had it happen to me twice i'm not picking the wrong
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guys because it doesn't matter if you're you could be a really good guy i mean like what one of you
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said where you know they went out and this guy was married but he was still out there looking for
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something else do you know what i mean so sometimes you can't really how how tall were the guys how tall
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um oh i don't know i'm like five two so they were a little bit i don't know probably six okay six
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foot and like how much money did they make roughly well at the time we were like teenagers so we were
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all just grafting we arrived some of us were either still in college or you know doing a little saturday
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job and stuff like that we wasn't in a state where as i am now in my 30s where i'm more established
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so give and take you know we were still in college working so they had a bachelor's degree or they're
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in college so they got a degree yeah so they were yeah they were working i have i have a point i'm
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just gonna i'm just gonna read i'm just gonna read some stats so once once a man earns over 300k um
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the odds of him cheating increased by roughly 50 percent with a third of men um in that in that higher
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income bracket cheating on their wives only six percent of these unfaithful men report that their
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marriages were coming to an end or didn't love their wives anymore not the remaining 94 percent
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still love their wives goes without saying that men don't cheat more um or women don't cheat more
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when they're in a higher income bracket beyond wealth the men who are over six foot tall are
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statistically 38 percent more likely to cheat which is presumably just down to the opportunity
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intriguingly um university degrees are 34 percent more likely to cheat
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okay so it's like if we're going after the guys with all of these qualities like do you think we
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should maybe expect it on some level yeah i reckon of course you can expect it more if a guy's over
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six foot kind of thing he he believes he's got more power if you're making more money then that female
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you know you've got more power so girls have no i feel like all of these external things right
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they only draw out what is innately in you already yeah you can be a billionaire and seven foot five
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but if you have morals and principles and you genuinely love the woman that's with you you're
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not going to go it's just it's just nowadays bro there's there's there's so much options
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accessibility i disagree with that i'll tell you i'll tell you why because if you if you look at like
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nba players and like and professional athletes there are women that go to those games and seek
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those men out trying to get them to cheat on their wives like there are girls that have said word for
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word i i it took me years but i finally got him to cheat yeah but what is it so so my point is even
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a good guy if you're telling me some of the most beautiful women you've ever seen in your life are
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chasing you down hunting you they know everything about you trying to get you to cheat i i think like
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people are human over the course of like a 20-year career not once yeah but if your relationship is
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solely based around a sexual experience then of course there's always going to be someone with
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more curvaceous booty just around the corner but if you're dealing with a actual woman on a spiritual
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financial physical realm then there is nothing that you're going to give me that this woman doesn't
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satisfy me with already and i'm talking from experience i'll be honest before any of my ex-girlfriends
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call me out in the comment sections i was a serial cheater when i was young but i've seen firsthand my
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elder sister my youngest sister what they've gone through and the heartbreak that a man was able
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to cause and it was almost god's way of showing me this is what you're doing to these other women
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i can tell you i can tell you you're pretty to be speaking
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can i just ask you a quick question what's the longest you've been monogamous to a girl
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five years five years okay but that's not 25 that's not no no but in the last in the last four year in
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the last three and a half years in the last three and a half years yeah i've never ever ever ever
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cheated it's never been across my mind and because of my line of work i can go on my instagram right
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now and i've got blue ticks with two three million followers asking me to go to the estates to have
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sexual intercourse and i say no why because from a mature standpoint i know that what i want in a
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woman isn't just sex you know look at your mother look at you it's so much deeper than sex yeah but i'm
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saying like that happens but i'm just saying like i think that even a good man can do it on a bad day
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facts yeah that's my point like it's not that it's not that you should or you shouldn't not if you're in
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love martin luther king didn't you know he had a stable of hoes bro muhammad ali was out here every
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other day with a different one the one thing i want to say is that um when you talk about these high
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achievers these men who earn over 300 000 those men they they don't like that doesn't just happen overnight
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you have to train your brain into being a mogul and all of this like you be selfish every single
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day you're thinking me me me me me so any woman who wants to then weave in with that's that way of
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way of life you can't just come up here and expecting a man to change who he is and be a different
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person because he needs you to weave into his life and a lot of women aren't willing to do that these
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days you know and also part of the problem is these men are like the alpha males and i know that's
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such a like a ridiculous word to use these days because people have used it and bastardized it but
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i feel like these men like they're bred to be as successful as possible to provide and also part
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of the problem is they all want to like every day and they like they're not in control of themselves
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around women in the way that a man who well actually i wonder a lot of these men who aren't in that
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situation who are like slugging these men off if they were in that situation would you have these
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morals that you claim to have when no one's trying to you i don't know i just think cheating is wrong
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man just like even though i've done it before i've done it before there's nothing cool about it should
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not be glamorized we should not normalize it we don't know i'm not saying to glamorize but i'm
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saying the last two million years the world has been one way i'm not going to tell the world how
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to be and i think a lot of times women go into relationships with like delusional expectations
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like the top 15 of men for the last two million years have always cheated and now you're coming
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in and saying well he's going to be faithful to me okay good luck my message to women is conduct
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yourself in a certain esteem yeah and if a man is cheap enough into cheating he's going to lose out and
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he will potentially go with a woman who's going to cheat on him don't don't change your standards
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by any way and i think that sounds really nice but it's not nice when they can't replace the guy
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and that's the sad thing is like i'll talk to girls and they'll talk about how their mom or their mom
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left their dad because he cheated and now she's dying alone and so it's like is it is it really a
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better option and that's why they don't talk so you'll be happy staying with someone that's consistent
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