JustPearlyThings - November 02, 2023


Stirling Cooper Silences Feminist


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

173.02917

Word Count

1,603

Sentence Count

93


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 I'm just wondering what a woman at 24
00:00:02.720 has done to earn a good man
00:00:04.720 because at that point in life you probably
00:00:06.360 haven't had a secure career.
00:00:08.380 You're still young.
00:00:09.240 You haven't stacked up that expectation.
00:00:11.320 I don't care about a career.
00:00:12.980 I make more than enough.
00:00:15.400 So you aren't looking for necessarily a partner.
00:00:17.920 You're more so looking for a wife.
00:00:21.760 It's complimentary, right?
00:00:23.060 I don't need another me.
00:00:24.360 I don't need someone to replicate what I'm doing
00:00:26.120 and not as good as I do it either.
00:00:27.440 I make more than enough money for both of us.
00:00:30.360 I want a woman who's going to be feminine,
00:00:32.280 who wants to be a mother,
00:00:33.140 who's going to provide that nurturing energy.
00:00:35.340 Look after her.
00:00:35.960 Right.
00:00:36.740 And yeah, someone to look after my kids,
00:00:38.660 someone to look after me in the aspect that she can.
00:00:41.900 And it's my job to keep us all alive.
00:00:44.460 And be the man.
00:00:46.080 We've got different roles, complimentary.
00:00:47.560 And you asked what value a girl at 24 brings.
00:00:51.020 I mean, typically they're thinner.
00:00:52.560 Typically they're more pure.
00:00:53.940 Typically they're more youthful.
00:00:55.080 Typically they have less baggage.
00:00:56.280 So I would say like those are the things that men select for.
00:01:00.740 Okay.
00:01:01.360 It just sounds like we're comparing tools or pieces,
00:01:04.800 not women with, you know.
00:01:07.800 But do we, sorry.
00:01:09.520 Are we looking at also what your foundation is?
00:01:13.820 So a lot of people,
00:01:14.640 maybe it's religious or something like that.
00:01:17.000 Those are things that are installed in young boys and young girls
00:01:19.680 to value certain things.
00:01:21.560 And whether it's Christianity or Islam,
00:01:24.080 like you hold yourself in a certain manner.
00:01:26.780 And then it becomes what is valued to you.
00:01:29.900 So if you don't have these things at home,
00:01:31.800 I'm not saying only religion does it,
00:01:33.100 because you don't have to be under a certain religion to do it.
00:01:35.700 But if your fundamental foundations with your parents
00:01:38.620 or whether you're, however you're raising a child,
00:01:40.880 if that's not installed in them from a young age,
00:01:44.340 as they're growing,
00:01:45.480 why would they know to value it?
00:01:47.120 How would they know to value yourself as a woman?
00:01:50.360 They wouldn't know at all.
00:01:50.920 So it all comes back to what your,
00:01:52.580 that entitlement and your teachings.
00:01:53.980 So if a guy was raised by drug dealers
00:01:56.380 and then he chooses to deal drugs,
00:01:58.060 should he not go to jail?
00:01:59.940 For sure.
00:02:00.680 He should still go to jail, right?
00:02:02.340 That's the point.
00:02:03.000 Even if you were raised by bad parents
00:02:04.720 and you don't know how to be a wife
00:02:06.100 and you make certain decisions,
00:02:07.280 like it doesn't alleviate you
00:02:08.900 from the consequences of those decisions.
00:02:13.540 So I'm curious.
00:02:16.880 Now I kind of wanted to go into this, all right?
00:02:18.900 I wanted to, I had some ideas.
00:02:21.440 What could, if you found a woman that was over the age
00:02:24.660 that you typically date for, for this, for the guys,
00:02:28.580 well, she's 32, let's just say, except for you, 50.
00:02:36.100 But she has, that makes up for it.
00:02:42.440 What does she have?
00:02:42.940 Yeah, yeah, could,
00:02:43.680 because there's something that a girl could do
00:02:45.240 if she's over a certain age
00:02:46.480 to make up for the fact that she's old.
00:02:49.960 Company, home cooked food, house clean,
00:02:54.740 day when I get home, you know, going out partying,
00:02:58.540 respect for my parents.
00:03:00.720 Okay.
00:03:01.200 So you would, you would,
00:03:02.480 if she was really respectful,
00:03:03.720 you would date a 32-year-old
00:03:05.140 if she had all that stuff.
00:03:06.760 I need to come home to peace
00:03:08.120 without someone complaining about something
00:03:10.560 or someone, you know,
00:03:12.400 whinging about her friends or gossiping.
00:03:14.260 I don't need all of that.
00:03:15.220 Do you know what I mean?
00:03:15.520 I just need to know that I'm comfortable
00:03:17.380 when I get home.
00:03:18.660 Okay.
00:03:19.420 As long as she's bringing me comfort and peace,
00:03:21.300 yeah, that's all right.
00:03:22.120 But then I would normally go for someone a lot younger.
00:03:25.160 I probably wouldn't even pay attention to her at first.
00:03:27.280 Okay.
00:03:28.480 So no.
00:03:29.140 No.
00:03:32.020 Okay.
00:03:32.480 What about you?
00:03:32.940 Um, basically I was with someone that was 35, yeah,
00:03:37.520 for three years.
00:03:38.280 So she's like 38 now, nearly 40, yeah.
00:03:41.340 And she's got four kids.
00:03:43.020 And like, I stayed with her because of the companionship
00:03:46.840 and we was good together.
00:03:48.960 She could cook.
00:03:49.800 She was doing everything right.
00:03:51.780 So like, I wouldn't read,
00:03:53.680 this is why I'm stressing the fact of this expiry date thing
00:03:56.500 because at her age and the age she's at now,
00:03:59.320 obviously if we did stay together,
00:04:00.620 then it would have been good.
00:04:02.100 But for me,
00:04:03.020 it's just a case factor of she did everything
00:04:05.880 that was okay for me.
00:04:07.840 So, yeah,
00:04:09.120 I didn't drop her out because of the age.
00:04:11.400 Okay.
00:04:12.160 Sterling, what about you?
00:04:13.200 She's, she's 25 and a month.
00:04:15.440 Out the door.
00:04:20.660 Not a chance.
00:04:22.420 Her birthday's next week.
00:04:23.980 She's almost 25.
00:04:28.300 Throw it out the rest of the trash.
00:04:30.160 No.
00:04:31.920 I'd say, okay,
00:04:33.360 can she milk a cow?
00:04:35.320 All right.
00:04:36.460 She's 20.
00:04:37.480 She's 29, but can milk a cow.
00:04:39.860 That's 49.
00:04:41.120 It's too many years.
00:04:41.920 Bring that, bring that number down a bit.
00:04:43.220 So 20, all right,
00:04:44.280 28, but can milk a cow.
00:04:46.100 25 and can milk a cow.
00:04:48.600 And knows how to garden.
00:04:50.840 Okay.
00:04:51.840 We might go.
00:04:52.960 If she has a garden,
00:04:54.020 that's like a flood.
00:04:54.700 No, no, knows how to garden.
00:04:55.380 Yeah, it was a good green thumb.
00:04:56.660 Right?
00:04:56.960 Okay.
00:04:57.420 Knows how to make grows veggies.
00:04:58.640 Knows how to cook.
00:04:59.760 I mean,
00:05:00.520 a lot of these things
00:05:01.380 I'm only going to select for things like,
00:05:03.120 even in the 24 year old,
00:05:04.140 it's not just the fact that she's 24.
00:05:05.700 Yeah.
00:05:06.000 Like there's other things
00:05:06.860 that go into that.
00:05:07.740 It's not just like the age
00:05:09.040 I'm looking for, right?
00:05:09.800 there's like obviously like purity
00:05:11.840 there's like
00:05:13.560 political leanings towards my kind of political
00:05:16.160 leanings or at least like
00:05:17.500 you know
00:05:18.800 maybe conspiracy
00:05:20.900 I'll add numbers, I'll add age here
00:05:23.540 if she's like a conspiracy theorist she gets at least
00:05:26.080 27
00:05:26.600 she's like a full blown conspiracy theorist
00:05:29.800 alright, this girl's kind of crazy
00:05:32.140 in a good way
00:05:32.820 I could get a kid
00:05:36.140 in her real quick
00:05:36.940 she's like alright we ain't got time
00:05:39.540 the world's ending, yes
00:05:40.940 alright that's fine
00:05:41.780 what else do you select for
00:05:47.260 give me your list of standards
00:05:49.620 cool, so we went over age
00:05:51.900 ideally like
00:05:53.520 not college educated
00:05:55.280 ideally, like in fact if she
00:05:57.200 went to like a really big college that would be a
00:05:59.540 massive red flag, like a mainstream college
00:06:01.880 she's 22
00:06:02.580 but she went to a mainstream college
00:06:05.540 like if she went to like, in America for example
00:06:07.520 if she went to like a big college
00:06:09.520 with like fraternities and sororities and shit
00:06:11.220 that's a giant red flag
00:06:12.580 huge red flag
00:06:13.980 that woman has
00:06:15.500 partied a lot
00:06:16.800 is she off the table completely?
00:06:19.820 basically yeah
00:06:20.880 so she says I went to
00:06:22.040 unless
00:06:22.260 if I can
00:06:23.800 I mean look
00:06:24.560 a girl's Instagram will give a lot of this stuff away
00:06:26.960 yeah
00:06:27.580 like I can tell if she was in like a sorority party
00:06:30.100 I can tell if she was like
00:06:31.100 going up and down Bermond Street
00:06:32.800 or whatever
00:06:33.600 like that's
00:06:34.540 they'll tell on themselves on their Instagram
00:06:36.660 that's a big one
00:06:37.880 does she have an Instagram?
00:06:39.240 if she doesn't have an Instagram
00:06:40.460 we'll push that
00:06:41.420 we'll push that
00:06:42.100 that age right up
00:06:43.380 no Instagram
00:06:44.420 could you
00:06:44.900 no social media at all?
00:06:46.320 27
00:06:46.800 no problem
00:06:47.300 what about
00:06:47.980 okay no social media?
00:06:49.340 yeah
00:06:49.540 30
00:06:50.160 yeah
00:06:50.640 I put one
00:06:52.840 this ain't a negotiation
00:06:54.180 alright
00:06:54.640 this is a dictatorship
00:06:55.840 we ain't negotiating yet
00:06:57.540 I just want to know how many years it gets ya
00:07:00.040 what about 30
00:07:01.720 but she's a virgin?
00:07:03.680 that's pretty hard
00:07:04.640 that's pretty great
00:07:05.620 we're talking
00:07:06.300 oh what if she's a magical unicorn?
00:07:13.220 it does happen
00:07:14.680 but I mean
00:07:15.340 she has six tits
00:07:16.660 we're talking in fantasy land
00:07:19.820 someone said if she went to ASU
00:07:21.580 she's done for sure
00:07:22.840 Arizona State
00:07:24.020 definitely
00:07:24.840 yes
00:07:25.360 definitely
00:07:25.900 okay
00:07:26.780 so what else
00:07:28.200 what about
00:07:29.000 okay go ahead
00:07:30.260 let's say
00:07:30.640 let's say
00:07:31.220 she likes
00:07:32.360 she wants to be a mother
00:07:33.580 okay
00:07:34.060 she wants to be a mother
00:07:34.900 and have a family
00:07:35.400 that's a giant green flag
00:07:36.780 like cause she's looking for the same thing
00:07:38.480 I'm looking for
00:07:39.080 a family
00:07:39.540 right
00:07:39.840 she likes to cook
00:07:41.380 right
00:07:42.220 doesn't have to be the greatest cook
00:07:43.540 but she's willing to learn to cook the things I like
00:07:45.260 excellent
00:07:46.260 random acts of kindness
00:07:48.520 so like something as simple
00:07:49.820 something as simple as like
00:07:51.400 I'm sitting down and working at my desk
00:07:52.840 and she comes up
00:07:53.380 and just gives me a nice shoulder massage
00:07:54.540 out of the blue
00:07:54.940 that is a giant like winner
00:07:57.420 that'll add a year
00:07:58.840 that'll add a year
00:07:59.260 not two years
00:08:04.440 you got one more year run away
00:08:07.100 all right
00:08:07.540 these kind of things
00:08:09.280 not two though
00:08:10.240 we don't want to get carried away
00:08:11.420 what is
00:08:15.780 prefers like country life
00:08:18.340 over city life
00:08:19.120 okay
00:08:19.640 or like quiet town
00:08:21.800 small town life
00:08:22.580 over city life
00:08:23.260 okay
00:08:23.700 not a giant partier
00:08:25.000 not a big heavy drinker
00:08:27.000 doesn't do drugs
00:08:28.400 doesn't do weed
00:08:29.100 that's a big red flag for me
00:08:30.180 the girl does weed
00:08:30.920 nope
00:08:31.740 I don't care how young she is
00:08:33.100 nope
00:08:33.520 20
00:08:34.220 20 but weed
00:08:36.260 out
00:08:36.580 you can't negotiate with me on this
00:08:40.420 I don't negotiate with terrorists
00:08:41.500 all right
00:08:45.360 20
00:08:45.880 22
00:08:46.660 but
00:08:47.820 but
00:08:48.460 goes to the club
00:08:50.400 twice a month
00:08:52.680 I would have to
00:08:56.580 find some of her friends
00:08:58.780 for the people she's hung out with
00:09:00.480 and get like the dirt
00:09:02.140 get some like insider intel
00:09:05.100 are women snitches
00:09:07.280 100%
00:09:09.120 100
00:09:09.720 everyone's nodding
00:09:11.140 100
00:09:11.680 they snitch on themselves
00:09:13.620 of course they're going to snitch on their girlfriend