00:01:09.260And I feel like if you're solely by yourself, I don't think you can actually 100% be happy on your own.
00:01:14.940I don't think you have to be married to be happy in particular, but I do feel like you would need some kind of companionship, whether that's a long lasting one or one that lasts two or three years.
00:01:26.520But I feel like everyone seeks to have that kind of someone that they can share part of their life with.
00:01:32.880I think the main mission of women is to be in love.
00:01:39.180And when you're not in love, you will never be happy.
00:01:42.360You can have a career, you can be in Forbes, you can have millions, but when you're not in love, you have one gap inside you and you will be very looking for this because we're born to be in love.
00:01:54.960It's our main mission, even not to be a mother, to be in love.
00:02:01.740Yeah, sort of echo what everyone is saying.
00:02:04.240So I feel that no one wants to be lonely, really.
00:02:08.820I don't think anyone wants to be lonely.
00:02:10.860And I think even if you have everything in life materialistic ways, you want to share it with someone, whether it's family, a companion.
00:02:18.440And so, yeah, whether it's a husband or your life partner, definitely something that adds value to life because we want to share our happiness.
00:02:32.220For me, there is millions answer for this question because there is millions factors that indicate and bring happiness.
00:02:45.640And has a different definition for being single.
00:02:51.280But if the single, your question means not being in a relationship with someone, and which sort of relationship, marriage, being a partner, friendship?
00:03:01.840So, yeah, so when I say single, I say not in a long-term relationship or married.
00:03:05.780I know some people do like the seven, eight-year relationships.
00:03:08.300I think that's a little different, but single for a lifetime or constantly between relationships.
00:03:35.340Yeah, I think it's possible, but very unlikely.
00:03:38.920Yeah, like, I don't think women in general, and I think you can see that because women get on antidepressants when we're old and single over the age of 45.
00:03:47.300That's, like, the most women you see on antidepressants.
00:03:50.200But for me as a healthcare professional, I met many people, many patients, many clients that are single.
00:03:59.060And they're happy, but what is the definition of happy?
00:11:12.280Well, my point is I don't think women typically are happy over a certain age with no man or kids.
00:11:18.180I think women get happiness from relationships.
00:11:20.320And when women don't have relationships, I just don't, I don't think that they're happy.
00:11:23.740When people are in a relationship and are unhappy, I don't see any, you know, scientific logic behind this sentence that we need a man at a certain age.
00:11:34.220Well, I'll say, like, what I would say to indicate that is that women are in antidepressants at a higher rate when they don't get married and they don't have children.
00:11:42.480Like, that is the single most, like, most medicated group.
00:11:53.780Yeah, I'm not, I'm not saying every person has to be a mother, but the majority of women wanted kids.
00:11:58.940So the majority of women that don't have kids, like, initially wanted kids.
00:12:05.060I, you know, in science or in my part, you have to bring the numbers and you have to bring them, you know, you have to bring some, a very strong logic.
00:12:18.340When you said majority of women, where?
00:12:20.920Well, they surveyed, they surveyed, they surveyed, they surveyed a couple thousand women.
00:12:25.180I can't remember the exact institution, but it was a college in the U.S.
00:12:28.020They surveyed, I think, 3000 to 5000 women asking if they wanted, that were single and did not have kids, asking if they wanted kids.
00:12:34.940And I want to say it was 80, 85, I can't, off the top of my head, 85, so yes.
00:12:39.200In many countries, the rate of, you know, having a child is, goes negative, you know, so they are not happy.
00:16:05.960Maybe it's the way I've been raised as well.
00:16:08.400Like, you know, so for me, that urge of, okay, having that protection or leaning on someone when you're finding, like, as a single mom challenges around kids and stuff, who can I lean on?
00:21:36.640When you meet someone at 16, we're both kids, what you're looking for a partner when you're 16 is completely different when you become an adult.
00:21:44.940You know, who now knows in a way what they want because they become, they come into their own adult or they, you know, who they are as a person.
00:21:53.060So, in that time, as we're growing up, when we became adults, we got to a point where we both knew in a way, because I think someone mentioned about compatibility, right?
00:22:03.740There is more to marriage and relationships than love.
00:22:07.240There's other thing that constitutes marriage.
00:22:09.220We both didn't understand what constituted marriage, maybe because of our age at the time.
00:22:13.640We didn't have, we weren't equipped with the right mindset when we got into the situation because it's not just, oh, I love you.
00:22:22.760So, what I'm saying to you is if you, if two people that are not compatible end up in the marriage, there are things that are going to happen eventually that's going to bring up issues.
00:22:31.780It's either resentment towards each other because one person is expecting that person to mirror the other person that's going, and that goes vice versa between male and women.
00:22:38.360What is the, can I have a specific example of what this means?
00:22:41.320Because I, it's just, this is very broad, so I need, I need to.
00:22:43.940So, for example, a man, for example, you're in a relationship and let's say you start earning more than your partner because we're growing slightly more than your partner.
00:22:53.840You know, you both grow halves on each other, but for some reason that man feels less than a man because he's earning less than you.
00:23:03.520Now, this is nothing really that I can actually do because that's an individual thing for a person to do.
00:23:09.960Well, I would ask why he feels that way because a lot of times what women do is they throw it in the guy's face and they constantly bring it.
00:23:18.140But I'm not, I'm not talking about you though.
00:23:20.560It's wrong and it's unfair and I think.
00:23:23.300I'm not, but I'm not talking about, a lot of women do, but I think sometimes as well, we have to be very balanced in terms of sometimes we push this narrative that women, there's a hundred percent toxic women that you're speaking of, but we're not talking in this context.
00:23:37.740So there are, there are sometimes that men within themselves feel that they haven't found themselves, which is in a way in our twenties, we're still finding ourselves and then they may feel inferior because they might be earning less.
00:23:48.900I've never heard a guy talk about finding himself.
00:23:51.240That's like, that's like, that's like a, that's like a, I've heard guys talk about maturing, but I've, I've.
00:24:02.720Typically when men talk about finding themselves is because they've heard it a lot from women and they know that that is a language that works with women.
00:24:08.620So most of the time they're just lying to you because they want to get something from you.
00:24:14.580When you're talking about, um, they've heard it from women.
00:24:16.660Sometimes it's not, it could be a very, it could be various circumstances that come about that a man has to find himself.
00:24:22.620It could be, yes, he's come out of a relationship.
00:24:24.420It could be, he's trying to find the right career path to go down.
00:24:27.380It could be, it could be, it could be a religious, from a religious perspective, he needs to look within himself to, to, you know, become this greater being.
00:24:34.880It's not just, and we're putting a lot of things, oh, it's the woman, it's the woman, and not a woman throwing something in the mouth.
00:24:39.800The reason we say it's the woman, because the data indicates that it is.
00:24:54.180For example, you, what I'm saying to you is, you said statistics, statistics might be fact, in the Western world, because that's what the stick, but I don't know.
00:25:04.260But there is no context as to the reasons why, because I'll tell you something, why I, why I'm saying this, a woman will stick more in a relationship, a toxic relationship, an abusive relationship, for many, many, many, many, many, many more years than a man would.
00:25:40.100This is an excuse that women use, this is an excuse that women use to justify picking poorly.
00:25:46.10090% of the time when women are in toxic relationships, it's because they didn't get their father's advice, their brother's advice, or their friend's advice.
00:25:54.100Half the time, everybody is warning them, telling them not to date them, and they do anything.
00:25:59.100Yeah, you are, Perra, are you the same person you were ten years ago?
00:26:17.100Because nobody, when you take vows, it's for better or for worse, and sickness, and it's not, it's not, it's not, it's not for when, for when we grow apart, no.