JustPearlyThings - July 09, 2023


The TRUE Definition of SUBMISSION


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8 minutes

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183.21938

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1,581

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00:00:00.000 what what is the true definition of submission like what what should a submissive like marriage
00:00:05.940 a marriage look like where the woman submits to her husband the mission in the greek i don't know
00:00:11.860 but i've heard this from my husband he's saying it's mean to come under like in the military
00:00:16.460 to come under and to to submit to them to willingly allow them to lead and to obey them
00:00:24.940 i know people hate that word but two heads make a monster every institution on this planet has a
00:00:31.540 leader you can't have two presidents you can't you know every every institution every every company
00:00:36.860 has a boss and the same the family is an institution and god made the husband the head of the household
00:00:45.980 he leads the household in the way that he wants unless it's in sin like a woman just asked me this
00:00:51.740 morning my husband wants me to take the birth control pill i said well you don't have to do
00:00:56.060 that because it can cause abortions it has horrible horrible side effects that can destroy your health
00:01:01.700 you don't have to do anything that's harmful like that to yourself or murder you know so um but that's
00:01:08.660 it's just letting your husband lead and it's not really that difficult and practice makes perfect
00:01:16.520 and it's funny because even if women are married to disobedient husbands the solution that god gives
00:01:23.560 them to win their husbands is to be submissive to them with you know show them jesus through the way
00:01:29.760 they live love them poor love i know a woman who's married to a difficult man she's winning him because
00:01:36.580 she's constantly she's an example to me because my husband's not difficult to live with he's a great guy
00:01:42.260 you know loves the lord's the great leader my kids adore him but she just pours love and grace upon him
00:01:48.560 all the time and he is just growing up into this amazing man because the way she just lets him lead
00:01:55.640 doesn't nag isn't contentious with them it's just kind um god's ways are just so good they're so
00:02:02.680 they're so different than our natural nature we think that we need to control and manipulate and i was so
00:02:09.360 good at that about my husband and it just made our marriage terrible how did you how did you do it
00:02:15.400 or what are like the common things that women do what before they're submissive yeah like because i
00:02:22.240 think a lot of times i'll see people talk about how they're submissive but and i don't know how i can't
00:02:27.880 tell i can't really explain why but i see the way they interact with each other and it doesn't seem like
00:02:34.320 she is um but it's like subtle i don't know how to describe it though well if um that couple i was just
00:02:42.200 telling you about before we went on that she's marrying this man who has five children who his wife died
00:02:49.260 he went to meet her parents just soon after they met just like six weeks ago they they started dating
00:02:56.980 seven weeks ago he went and saw her parents a week later but they're like 31 34 they're they weren't going to
00:03:03.500 fool around they're not like probably when you meet a guy you're not going to just fool around you just
00:03:07.380 you want to know is this leading to marriage or not you know and so he went and met his parents and
00:03:12.900 after he spent the a couple a day with him he said i love the way your mother is with your father
00:03:18.640 she just never interrupts him she doesn't correct him she listens patiently and looks at him when he's
00:03:25.120 talking she is affectionate with him in every way she modeled that to her children her daughters
00:03:34.220 because one of them is married to my son and so all three of her daughters have had a really easy time
00:03:39.980 being submissive to their husbands just kind and loving um respectful the king james says reverence
00:03:48.560 and it's just such a beautiful thing to see because i've seen couples i saw couples like that when i was
00:03:54.060 growing up but i always in my mind was thinking oh it's because he's just so perfect and my husband
00:03:59.700 is not so but no she it and she is doesn't have the strong personality that i have she's more of a
00:04:08.180 pleaser so it comes natural to that type of personality but even one of the daughters like
00:04:13.800 who my son's married is strong like me but because she was modeled that she's very a very kind and
00:04:19.940 respectful wife to her husband so see you'll know it when you see it you'll know when a wife
00:04:26.760 is letting her husband leave by the way she just treats her husband in public she never say anything
00:04:31.900 negative about him she shows her respect all the time in public towards him and to her children in
00:04:38.300 the home even the children can see that she loves and respects her husband and that he's the leader of
00:04:43.180 the home whatever you want honey you know well yeah i had a recent red pill where i realized i'm like
00:04:51.280 most women lead relationships i think in 2023 because um i even i was thinking about how women
00:05:00.300 make 80 percent of consumer buying decisions and i'm like that means women are making like whether it's
00:05:06.220 a car a house like they sell to the women meaning the women are making all the decisions in the
00:05:11.520 household for the most part and i was like and so a lot of stuff like you think is traditional
00:05:17.600 actually isn't because the man can't make a decision without the woman arguing about it
00:05:23.440 in a lot of relationships i see and you know they um said that before women's right women couldn't
00:05:30.760 have a credit their own credit card and that was really to protect the women because when
00:05:35.160 women didn't even want that because men took their credit when if they got into debt
00:05:41.520 it was the men who had to go to debtors prison you know it wasn't the women who got
00:05:44.880 so now since women have their credit they own two-thirds of the 1.7 trillion student loan debt
00:05:51.820 you know just yeah so well i remember i remember being 18 and like picking a college which i was
00:06:01.820 gonna i'm gonna talk to you about this too but i remember thinking like my dad was like do you want
00:06:06.480 the more expensive one well you'll have debt or the cheaper one where you won't i picked the more
00:06:11.140 expensive but why would i pick that like and luckily like i um my dad's business kind of took off so i
00:06:17.900 didn't end up having any but that was just because you know i was lucky but and i was thinking i'm like
00:06:23.720 even me who you know people would say is more logical i'm still a woman you know i'm still gonna
00:06:30.500 and so you probably thought it was a better college because it costs more me i don't know
00:06:36.300 well no i think i just wanted to go there like i didn't have a good okay i didn't have a good
00:06:43.300 reason i was like oh everyone has debt i'll just pay it off later um and american what it's the
00:06:51.120 american way to have debt now a massive amounts of debt now all these young women i know who have
00:06:56.880 babies have to continue working because of their debt it's like this is just so upside down see when
00:07:04.800 i went to college i went to a private christian college i didn't want to i would have loved getting
00:07:08.980 married right out of high school um and just starting having babies and staying home with them
00:07:13.580 that was always my just what i wanted to do but my dad insisted i go to college even though he didn't
00:07:18.460 want my mom ever to work he wanted her back in those days he wanted them their wives to be home full
00:07:25.540 time he wanted his wife to raise his children so she never worked she was always home full time with
00:07:31.300 us and i called him for dad's day yesterday and thanked him again for that but um um so anyway i went
00:07:37.360 to a christian college small christian college in santa barbara montecito which is beautiful oprah
00:07:42.200 winfrey has a big estate right near there it's gorgeous thirty six hundred dollars a year for
00:07:47.540 everything and so my roommate that and that wasn't even that much money even for if you consider back
00:07:55.860 then my roommate worked in the summers to waitressing to pay for that you know people weren't graduating
00:08:02.540 with mass amounts of debt back when i went to college it was just a thing to do and it wasn't
00:08:06.640 that expensive but it was i just went because i wanted to find a husband you know and find good
00:08:11.680 friends so but now now that it's tens of thousands of dollars and they end up in hundreds of thousands
00:08:18.560 of dollars of debt which keeps them in bondage for many many years or it puts that that burden on their
00:08:26.460 husband the bible says that debt is bondage you're you know bondage to the debt and who wants to be a
00:08:33.820 slave you know so
00:08:35.680 you