JustPearlyThings - August 02, 2023


The TRUTH On Why Men End RELATIONSHIPS


Episode Stats

Length

9 minutes

Words per Minute

231.10464

Word Count

2,279

Sentence Count

2

Misogynist Sentences

13

Hate Speech Sentences

6


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 um okay for the guys have you ever stopped dating a girl because of her past yeah what happened
00:00:07.840 what'd you find out um so i found out uh i was 18 found out that the girl
00:00:16.960 yeah is that better for you tell it yeah okay cool um 18 i found out the girl had slept with
00:00:25.360 like multiple men and this was through a conversation that i had heard from one of my
00:00:31.840 friends saying oh what's that girl like i know she's been with like this guy and that guy and as
00:00:38.720 soon as i heard that i said to the girl why did you tell me a strange number you told me this number
00:00:43.600 and now i'm finding out it's more than likely this and she broke down and said oh i didn't want to
00:00:48.400 talk to you about all these girls and blah all these men sorry blah blah blah for me that was the
00:00:52.880 end of it why do women say body count doesn't matter if they don't want to tell you what it is
00:00:57.520 exactly it does matter as far as i'm concerned it does matter a woman wouldn't tell you i've slept
00:01:04.080 with 8 000 men and i still want to be with you she won't say that at all a woman will keep it at a
00:01:09.520 certain level like i understand what you're saying about it doesn't matter it shouldn't matter etc but
00:01:13.680 when push comes to shove if you get the ideal man in front of you you're not going to tell him
00:01:18.240 i have slept with 800 men you're not going to do that there is no woman on this earth that's
00:01:23.920 actually going to do that you're going to downplay or you're going to gaslight like you were saying
00:01:27.760 before and you're going to say actually do you know why are you asking me these questions it's
00:01:31.040 the modern day era you should have asked me this that's what i think is going to happen there's
00:01:34.960 actually something we say that's kind of funny i'm like there is a kind of girl that will lie
00:01:38.960 about her number and lie up and that's a whale and it's and it's sad why are you nodding now
00:01:55.360 at me personally i think like because me i've broke it off one time with a girl but it was mainly
00:02:03.440 it wasn't even the body count like i knew it was high ish but it's like doing something with someone
00:02:11.600 i know i think who was it um it wasn't like a it was a friend but he's not like one of the brothers
00:02:19.040 but it's like a friend like i know him but it's more like you've done stuff for him and i don't think
00:02:25.920 i can be with you after that i know what he's like as a person you know you're eating the same hole
00:02:30.400 is he kind of like a player the guy yeah he's more like a player like i know him from being a
00:02:37.920 player you know i mean but it's like you've been with him i mean like for me my like standards i
00:02:44.240 think that's where like standards comes in like you've been with that guy and now i'm with you
00:02:48.560 like come on like what's going on you know what i mean but i think that was one of my was he kind
00:02:53.200 of a loser like was it because he was more high status than you or less high status i think it was
00:02:57.760 because he was less so if you thought he was a quality guy would have been different um
00:03:05.280 i wouldn't think it would have been different but just because i know him i think that makes
00:03:10.240 a big difference if i didn't know the person then probably like i would have been like okay fair enough
00:03:15.200 that can slide i don't know but because you knew just because i know him personally it's like yeah
00:03:19.680 that guy really you know what i mean uh what about you have you ever stopped speaking to a woman because
00:03:24.880 of something she did before uh no that never happened to me i only had one girl which was
00:03:29.760 like the secondary so it was a proper relationship that's about it okay yeah um did you have any other
00:03:36.560 girls that happened to you or the one yeah i just learned to recognize it's like you just learn to
00:03:40.160 recognize the sign quicker uh but you know as a man when i was single it doesn't mean that i disqualified
00:03:44.320 her from sex it just means um that's what it was and that's all it was what what signs for
00:03:50.000 guys that are watching this like what signs should they look out for man that's a i mean
00:03:54.320 i'm gonna yeah tattoos would be a pretty big sign um just any like i'll tell you why tattoos are big
00:03:59.840 so you might say well that's not nice because i have tattoos i'll tell you why it's a big sign
00:04:02.480 because if you had a good relationship with your dad he would not let you get tattoos when you're 18.
00:04:06.560 that's what it means that's what that's why i don't have tattoos right yeah it's like that's
00:04:11.360 literally it's like it just tells me you don't have a good relationship with your dad which it
00:04:13.920 doesn't mean for everybody but it raises those numbers there's there's obviously um the thing about
00:04:18.480 social intelligence it's very hard to describe it because it's so nuanced like and you really
00:04:22.640 have to sort of um conflate a big number of variables all into one and that's what comprises
00:04:28.400 like the social intelligence thing so it's hard to say like oh because of this and this and this and
00:04:31.840 that um but there's definitely signs and when you know you know it's like the dad thing or like
00:04:37.920 what if she didn't have a dad like no i felt he goes to the shop and don't come back you know what
00:04:42.640 i mean like what if she didn't have a dad like how would you look but that also tells me of course
00:04:45.680 look i'm not saying it's her fault it's still her responsibility there i understand it's not her
00:04:49.680 fault but it is her responsibility and it may be like well i was young whatever okay fine i'm not
00:04:53.200 responsible for that thank you i'm not i think you are now you are you are responsible for your life
00:04:58.240 you are responsible yeah of course but i'm not responsible for walking out but i know you're not
00:05:02.240 responsible for that but even when i hear you talk like you you sort of blame it on everyone else but
00:05:06.160 you but you kind of you kind of blame like your situation and like this is like like
00:05:10.480 like instead of it's my life choices who have i blamed um it was just earlier when you were saying
00:05:17.440 it's because of like this or because of that like you know it adds to it my my my my child and stuff
00:05:23.200 it's kind of molded me into a bit of a mess and i'll admit that i think she means like if you if you
00:05:27.920 get like a young guy who doesn't have his dad there some of those guys end up like alcoholics in
00:05:32.560 prison and some of them end up like amazing dads do you know what i mean so like you can come from the
00:05:36.720 same background and have two different completely and that's choices definitely life choices i came
00:05:41.920 not getting at you but that's just i came from a life which was if i put like i said i put on camera
00:05:48.160 before and what the reaction from people i came from a life that was an absolute mess and i chose
00:05:54.720 not to go down a certain path like i didn't want to be like the man that brought me into this world
00:05:59.360 and i didn't want to be and let my mum down even though my mum i haven't seen her for 13 years
00:06:04.160 because she's schizophrenic so i decided i'm not going to prison so i i have no remorse for people
00:06:09.200 when they say oh well this happened so therefore i've become this i got no remorse for that because
00:06:14.240 you don't have to one of the best one of the best women i know came from a single parent home
00:06:18.400 and she was abused as a kid and she's like genuinely one of the best women i know because
00:06:21.760 she like went to the church and she sought after like women she could look up to and she ended up
00:06:26.080 getting married and having a family but it's like you can go down you can be from the same situation
00:06:30.000 and have completely different life outcomes and that's what he's saying he's saying like it's
00:06:34.000 your responsibility what you do with your life it's your responsibility but not everyone's strong
00:06:38.080 like sure not everyone has that mindset some people are actually weak and i'll admit it i've had times
00:06:43.840 in my life where i've felt so weak i don't want to be anymore but why would i want to be with a girl
00:06:47.760 that's weak that's going to don't be with me no i'm not but i'm saying that's what that's his point
00:06:52.080 yeah yeah okay cool cool when he's speaking to men like a lot of men watch this show it's like these are
00:06:56.960 the signs and it's not even even for women like honestly like i think it's better to date people
00:07:02.640 from two parent homes yeah no definitely definitely definitely because it's easier when you've had a
00:07:07.440 model like something yeah yeah yeah definitely there is a way so i i've spent significant amount of
00:07:12.480 my time in my youth thinking thinking about this because i realized i was a really bad judge of
00:07:16.640 character of women because when i was like young like coming out of high school going to college and
00:07:20.240 stuff i remember the girls i was falling for and trying to be in relationships with they just were
00:07:24.800 horrible people and i think i think the good lord above every day that i didn't get what i wanted
00:07:30.800 when i wanted it at 20 because if i had gotten what i wanted i would have signed up for a life
00:07:34.320 of massive regret you see a lot of those guys that get married young and then they just get wiped out
00:07:39.200 right and sometimes you know i'll go on the show and then guys will comment like that guy is gonna get
00:07:43.760 what's coming to him blah blah blah it's like no and i'll tell you why not here's here's if you're a guy
00:07:48.240 here's how you can tell what a girl is like okay make it your mission to go out in your early 20s
00:07:54.240 and and just sleep with as many girls as you can and you might say that's horrible advice no that's
00:07:58.080 great advice because what you're gonna learn first of all you're gonna learn about the nature of women
00:08:03.120 and i'm not saying do that for your whole life like eventually you will grow up eventually you will
00:08:07.360 want to pursue a higher purpose but in order to pursue that higher purpose valiantly you have to
00:08:13.680 understand the game you're playing and you don't understand the game you're playing if you've been
00:08:17.360 with one or two girls and you might say that's bad advice that's exactly the advice i'll give my
00:08:21.360 sons now i'll give my daughters the opposite advice if you want to know about the seriousness of men
00:08:26.160 don't put out with them then you'll absolutely learn what men are really after but if you want
00:08:30.240 to learn what women are after go out as a man remember it's not your job to protect the sexual
00:08:34.400 marketplace as a man it's the woman's job to protect the she's the guardian to that you're the
00:08:38.640 guardian to relationships you want to get socially intelligent do it lots of times
00:08:42.560 what do you guys agree with that or disagree i know what he's saying but obviously back when
00:08:49.200 say my nan and granddad got married my granddad picked a lady and they got and they were like
00:08:53.840 teenagers got married back in those days marriages worked without men having to go and do that so
00:08:59.680 it isn't the only way but i do understand the difference is women today aren't the women no no no
00:09:04.080 absolutely the women are like that's what i realized i used to hear that like i'd hear myron say
00:09:08.320 sleep with 50 women before you settle down i'm like why would you do that you know what i realized
00:09:12.640 is like men can be manipulated by a woman that's more experienced than him like you know imagine
00:09:18.560 you you date a virgin right you you you would eat him up you would get him to do exactly what you
00:09:25.440 wanted when you want yeah yeah she's not i can understand that yeah yeah it's like like it's not
00:09:30.880 good for us to be in relationships with men that have less experience no i do agree the guy has got to
00:09:35.520 be more experienced more powerful more anything the woman has got to feel lower and it she has to
00:09:42.320 tame your devil she has to tame your devil not you team but not an actual devil like well it's it's a
00:09:48.560 danger it's a danger it is it is