These Stats PROVED Modern Women Are The Problem in Modern Society
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In this episode, we have our first guest on the show, Adebanjo, who is a Christian and a pastor. We discuss the age of marriage in Nigeria and why women should not have to wait to get married until they are 20 years old. We also talk about the benefits of having children at a young age.
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Who's pushing out those kids? You just said that.
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I can't push out seven, but I will be pushing out kids.
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Do you believe in obeying your husband and all things?
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Yeah, I do. But that's because I'm a Christian.
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you women, this, you, because I don't think like the next person.
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So if we want to see how traditional society is,
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And really, these are all down to the women and the women's choices.
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So the more traditional societies tend to have higher birth rates.
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So, for example, like right now, it's roughly 1.8, 1.5, I think, UK.
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And you go to a bit more traditional countries, like in Africa,
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like it's like four, I think, in Nigeria, roughly, right?
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And the other stat you can look at is the average age of first marriage.
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When it's younger, it's typically more traditional.
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because when we have the most beauty and the most youth,
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So what's your take on marriage when, for example, a girl is 13 years old?
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But please, I just want to clarify what I was saying
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because the reality is, yeah, I was born Catholic.
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is not because I wanted to take a religious angle
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because you wanted to make it like, okay, if you want to speak religious.
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Everything I'm saying is actually rooted in biology.
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If we're, yeah, if we're to take away, because she said she doesn't believe
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The reason why she can have a choice to say, well, no, I don't do this.
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And you can have a different opinion is because of the society we have built as men.
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If we're to take away this society, every single woman will revert back to her natural programming.
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And she will look for a man to be under his protection.
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No, because, no, because, no, because that's the way, that's the way you became aware.
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I want to point something out where, again, he's being very direct with you and you're telling
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I'm saying, as a whole, even, I've heard men do it too and say, oh, you're triggered because
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But he's not saying, he's not saying he's against you.
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You literally said something and what you said, I wanted to correct it because it changed
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Yes, because I made a point and what you said tried to change the point I was making.
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No, Pearl was just trying to illustrate something that's going back and forth.
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And if you could catch what she was trying to say, then it might be something you could take on.
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I did say that everything needs to be at the bay.
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Right, but I'm saying you just told him that it's not a debate.
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So you're saying he can't debate you, but he was just talking to you and you took it as a debate.
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And even if I was debating, you were literally on a podcast to debate.
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So I made a point, but you're trying to pick holes in my approach when you can just take what I say.
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I want to point out something that men kind of look for and this is what.
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So it's like, you know, we'll get the Christian chicks that come on and they'll say, oh, I'll obey my husband in all things.
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And when a guy tells them something, they don't listen typically.
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You know, but this is the thing like traditionalism and like true, like true traditionalism.
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You acknowledge that all men are born with respect, like that you have to obey all men to some level because they built the society.
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But the funny thing is I might not even be her man, but literally the way the human being, and this is so funny.
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The way the human mind works is you literally do what you practice.
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So I might not be your man, but trust me, I don't think, I mean, I might be wrong, but you might get, you might find yourself in a marriage and find yourself doing the exact same thing you're doing.
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So, so, so my thing with this is like, it's like, it's like, you don't, I don't want to put it, I don't want to put it.
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And I've had, I've had just, this isn't even, not, not, I'm not trying to take a dig at you, but I've just had so many hundreds of like, super like Christian chicks come on.
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And it actually kind of makes me sad with the state of the church because like, there's just so few that I, that like, I really think are obedient to men.
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Like, I like, and I'm telling you, I had 600 plus chicks on here, probably at least a hundred Christian chicks.
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Wait, okay, wait, wait, wait, wait, this isn't about you.
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But I'm saying like when, when women come in and they say like, oh, I'm a Christian.
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It's like, I don't know what they're teaching in churches.
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So, but Pearl though, I'm actually Christian and, and I'm married.
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I don't want to clap for you because bro, you kept that low.
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So basically I understand the perspective, but biblically women were not actually instructed to obey all men.
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But by understanding where you are coming from culturally.
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Biblically women were, were only, um, you know, um, um, demanded to submit to their husbands.
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Now that does not mean that, that you should be sassy or rude to any other person, even in general.
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But, but I just needed to point that out because, um, I think that there is quite a difference between cultural, you know, conservativeness or traditionalism to biblical.
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It's a base level, like men used to have a base level of authority that they had in society just because they were a man.
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I feel like, I feel like, it's like, so I don't have to, you don't have to be my girl.
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See, let me bring it back to what happened in the lift.
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I had nothing to do with that woman, but yet look how I treated her.
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Look how I treated a woman because she's a woman, right?
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Automatically because he's a man and I don't want to disrespect a man, just like I treat a woman with a level of care.
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If both of these girls that violated me here today, disrespecting me, if I was downstairs now and I saw something happen, I'm going to jump in.
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I'm going to jump in because they women and because how I was raised.
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And that's like, you give, you give women a baseline protection.
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Men in general give women a baseline protection, but women, but women don't give men a baseline respect just because they're men.
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And so when she was talking about, oh, if man come in here, I'm not going to talk about what I've been through.
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But I just said to her, what happened in the lift?
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She didn't even want to say it because she got in the lift and she was about to have a panic attack.
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So for my thing, it was like, it was like, like, you women don't understand that us men do a base type of security and a base type of protection.
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You don't realize that, but you just go out in the world and we don't get that type of protection.
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And it's just, you don't realize that even when you speak to him and he's not your man, how your, I don't know, your man could be watching you.
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You know, your husband probably watching this right now.
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Well, I'm saying like, but you know, literally this, this is a big platform.
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Your, your man might be saying, you know, I want to make up the housewife today and get married to her, but he's watching her.
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It's even, it's even her talking there when I was like, wait, wait, wait, it's like, you don't have to be invited here.
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And yet she still felt like she should, she should be able to over talk me just cause she's here.
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And us men, us men, we hate that, but we love feminine energy.
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And part of the thing is, you women get way more out of men being, do you know some women, do you know them girls that just get everything out of their man?
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I'm not going to say because they do nothing mad, but generally don't those girls that tend to be.
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It's about the fact that they give their man respect.
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It's about the way they treat them, the way they speak to them.
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No, he's saying girls that get everything out of their man.
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I think, I think I'm illustrating some of the reasons why.
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Maybe a man just wants to make his girlfriend happy.
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So, don't you think other women could do that and be as deserving as she is?
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Above all else, I think it's mostly because she respects him.
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Maybe she just wants to make you happy as well.
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No, but I'm telling you, the reason why the man gives her everything is not because of all
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It's probably because even on top of the fact that she does all of that, she still respects
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All those guys that you were talking about in Tesco, they all have families.
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The people that are cleaning the streets, they all have families that respect them every
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You guys don't see these guys because you go every single day.
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Next time you're driving on the train or something, night time, whatever it is, just look.
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These are the guys that are literally keeping your lights on.
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If you break down in your car tomorrow, who's going to come out from AA, RSE, whoever
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And if it was a woman, there would be nothing wrong with it.
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But the chances are it's not going to be a woman, right?
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It's going to be a man that's going to be picking you up from the side.
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And you're going to be very happy to see that man, right?
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But let's not miss that beautiful point that he just made about respect.
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I think sometimes we forget what respect really means.
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Even the way you look at your man, eye to eye contact.
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As a woman, sometimes it could be so disrespectful.
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As opposed to a look where you look at him and you respect him.
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And he knows that when he goes out to work, I'm not saying the woman's not working.
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Have you ever looked at someone and they just...
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But she looks at him like he's the only man in...
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Depends on what he does and how bad he messes up.
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Listen, you know when a girl looks at you like she looks...
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And when people talk about marriage, you know, it's a paper...
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I don't prescribe to the western ideology of marriage.
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So like you're doing like something for your man.
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I said, does it not matter that you've got someone that can cook?
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Because every man I had been with before that...
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I'm not enough unless I can do this and I can do that and tick this box and tick that box.
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And Pearl, look at how the energy has changed now in the room.
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I feel like a man, no matter what you do for him, he can do everything clean and cook.
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But if he doesn't respect you, what you do, it just doesn't matter.
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So I feel like the mutual respect, that is the foundation at the end of the day.
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I think like men, they love women and women respect men.
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Like, I think that like, usually when women feel like that, I just think he doesn't like them.
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Maybe he likes what he does for her, for him, but he doesn't actually like her.
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Well, I mean, you know, I don't know how familiar you guys are with the content, but I mean,
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you know, it's like basically most women in their twenties are sleeping with like 20% of
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But it's like, it's like, it's because, you know, women's requirements are so high that it's
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You want a guy that makes over like 70, even just 70,000 pounds a year, which is lower than
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a lot of women say, you know, that's only 10% of men.
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So if you have a guy that's in one of those categories, like most women don't realize there's
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If he's good looking, like women find 80% of men as unattractive, not okay.
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So if you, if you, if you see a guy and you think he's cute, if you actually just think,
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But so the problem is you have girls that are like on a one to 10, one, we're never honest
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So most women have an inflated ego where they think they're hotter than they are.
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So you got girls that are fives, sixes, sevens, eights, all sleeping with the tens, all sleeping
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And then the women come out and they're like, Oh, I hate men.
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But it's like, it's because like, when a girl says that it's just cause she's been like sleeping
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But what about the, they share baby fathers as well.
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Like even historically, most men haven't even reproduced.
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Like it's only been, I think 40% of men have reproduced historically.
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And so that's why a lot of times people think I advocate for cheating.
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And it's funny because they say women don't have any power.
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But the funny thing is women are the reason why we are where we are today.
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Women are the ones that have selected the genes that have survived through time.
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So if, and like I said, even if you look at the stats, most people in the Western world
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So even the men you complain about are being raised by women.
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So these are the conversations that we need to start having.
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But whenever we try to have them, they always tell me, like that girl said, oh, you're
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So when single mothers do good, we praise them.
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We praise them a strong, independent woman, single mothers.
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But when they do bad, and we try to critique them, all of a sudden we're the demons.
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So if you don't like the men that are being raised, if you're saying the current men are
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abusive, if you're saying they're emotional, if you're saying all of these things, then we
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And the thing is, what I had, I had like kind of a, and this is why, you know, all these
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chicks get so mad that I advocate for virginity.
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Weren't you the one that was like, Pearl, are you?
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She said, I kept telling you, wait, wait, wait.
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The reason I advocate where I say, you know, a lot of problems would be fixed if men married
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They're like, Pearl, like, isn't that hypocritical?
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Women that have five sexual partners, guess what?
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Well, guess what percent go on to have a happy marriage?
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If you're a virgin on your wedding day, guess, guess what percent will have a happy marriage?
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So that's a different kind of, but I'm going to get to that.
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So what happened was I started looking at basically every problem in society, homelessness,
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mental health, school shooters, all that shit is linked to promiscuous women because
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So the end creates single mother homes or do only fans and like get pregnant by someone,
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So basically all of society's problems are really from us women being promiscuous.
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So you want to talk about the, the virgin thing, right?
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The issue is again, before our dads would help us.
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So our dads would say when the eight, nine and 10 guy came by and most of our dads still
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will, we just don't listen, but like the eight, nine and 10 guy will come by and say,
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And the dad would be like, Oh no, stay away from that boy.
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You know, there's a reason they used to have songs about that.
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We make, that's why I think women aren't that smart.
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What's the most important decision that you can make the father of your kids and now my question
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Would you say more of us make good decisions with boyfriends and partners or bad decisions?
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So, so, so that's why, and I don't say it to hate on women, but it's just like,
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I think the thing here is to educate ourselves in a different way.
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Probably not put everyone down and say, you're dumb.
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You're not smart enough to do this and other, but empower us in a way that can be like,
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Some people might not have the courage to leave.
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Like, again, I just, to me, it's like women, we just don't get it.
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And I just think we used to, they used to kind of say that women were dumb.
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And I think we should, I think we should bring it back.
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And I don't think it's, and this is, you know, you know, this is coming from someone,
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honestly, I've gotten good at everything I've tried at, to be honest.
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And so I'm not saying no women can, or there aren't smart women, but as a group,
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Because, because for five minutes, we see a guy, he's fits the criteria.
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And there are red flags, but we ignore them because we like him.
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And you know, we're hook, line and center for how gorgeous he is.
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And we're ignoring the fact that maybe we're just not compatible.
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Maybe he's a good, he's a good for a season, but he's not actually the father of the child.
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A lot of times when you meet women, they'll say that, you know, obviously I've been cheated on,
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or I have trust issues, I have trauma, what have you not.
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This comes from all the, all the guys they picked, right?
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And before what used to happen is like, you said you got brother, you got older brothers?
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Um, I would come round to your house or whatever.
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Your older brother would check me over your dad, your uncle, what have you not.
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There will be no, there will be no sexual activity going on.
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Once I do that and they check me over, this involved checking over my family, checking
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Then they will say to me, right, I didn't, I didn't need to have money.
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I need to have good promise about me and had to be a good man.
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Then me and you were going to go together and was going to go and build it on.
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So you women now can pick and you don't pick what makes sense.
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You pick what makes your fanny float apart in the language.
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But it's because you pick what makes you excited, right?
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You see that feeling, that tingling that you get?
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Well, no, and that actually comes women in their 20s.
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So, and women only find maybe 5 to 20% of men as attractive, good looking.
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So we're picking for the wrong things, but go ahead.
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Do you think that by having that approach, the more traditional courting kind of approach,
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do you think that that would solve all these problems that we're having?
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I think it would, but not, but not for the women that are, I think like, honestly,
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I wouldn't even touch them because most of most women.
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But I'm saying like, if I was a guy, really, you just got to go younger.
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Cause most of the, most of the chicks are too programmed.
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But we're just too programmed that we're just like done.
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Do you think a man is ready to be married at 22?
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and then they have such a tough time with women.
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Because what man doesn't want a hot young chick?
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So some studies have said even younger than that.
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And so it's like, okay, they want the hot young chicks.
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No, I know some women that are begging to get married.
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Because typically, one, women aren't adding as much value
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Where a man, you know, I've interviewed men all the time
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So, you know, where a woman can ruin a man's reputation
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by calling him an abuser with no evidence, right?
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I mean, we see a woman can take a half of a man's shit.
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A woman can take the house, put him on child support,
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if in the next two, three years they committed suicide
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So one way that guys mitigate risk is they say,
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So what I'm gonna do is I'm gonna date the chick
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And that's why I say women have to give up power
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because I don't think we'll see the family structure
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men only get custody of their kids 10% of the time.
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Because women are obviously seen as more nurturing.
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So sometimes girls just assume that she's gonna be...
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And there's no evidence that women raise better children.
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Yeah, it's actually that men raise better children.
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willingly have their children every other weekend.
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And I don't say this to be a doomer and gloomer,
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Like, that's why we get the latest fashion trends.
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like, men are a little bit more, like, tactful.