JustPearlyThings - July 08, 2023


This TRAD- WIFE Said This About Women That WORK


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00:00:00.000 What do you think about women working?
00:00:03.920 What are your opinions on women?
00:00:05.800 Well, like I said earlier, women have twice the stress-related diseases, heart disease,
00:00:10.540 cancer, and diabetes as men in the workforce.
00:00:12.660 We weren't created for the stress of the workforce.
00:00:15.520 And they miscarry.
00:00:17.900 They're more infertile.
00:00:20.200 Their marriages are, their divorce rate is higher.
00:00:25.260 So, you know, even single women, it's hard.
00:00:28.400 I, for them to be in the workforce, just, we, we were created for the homes because
00:00:34.780 biblically we're supposed to be under our dad's authority until marriage.
00:00:39.320 And then under our husband's authority, God wants men, good men, protecting and providing
00:00:45.300 for the women.
00:00:45.980 And even in first Timothy five, we're given instruction for widows.
00:00:50.640 The older women are supposed to be taken care of by their families.
00:00:53.900 And Paul never says, go out and find a job.
00:00:56.360 And the older, the families are first supposed to provide for them.
00:01:00.920 If they don't have family, then relatives, if no relatives in the churches are to provide
00:01:04.420 for them.
00:01:04.980 And the younger women, he says, get married, get married, have children, guide the home.
00:01:10.420 He doesn't say, go out and get a job and support yourself.
00:01:12.820 And never in scripture does it, is, is there a command for women to go out and provide?
00:01:18.340 That's the man's job.
00:01:20.600 And it's, but now with women having the earning power that they have, and it's only because
00:01:25.780 of men and what they built for us and daycare, the birth control pill, public schools, women
00:01:32.400 could not have the careers that they have and do what they do without what men have invented
00:01:36.560 and built and sustained.
00:01:38.100 So it's all a kind of a fantasy, actually, because I watched this reality show years ago.
00:01:44.020 I wish I, I wrote a post about it, but this couple of modern day couple, she's very leftist.
00:01:49.960 They're very leftist.
00:01:50.940 An old couple, more traditional, went back to living like the 1800s for a month.
00:01:57.140 And I'll never forget a scene.
00:01:58.340 She's in the kitchen and the guys are doing a plow out in the field with a horse.
00:02:03.400 And she goes, I'm stuck in the kitchen because I can't do most of that stuff.
00:02:07.960 I, all, all I have to do is in the kitchen, you know, and, and taking care of the home.
00:02:12.400 It's like, yeah, that's how it was before men invented all these things that allowed women
00:02:18.120 to act like their men and leave their homes and go into the workforce and all the, all
00:02:24.620 you see, you, I don't know you, I drive by where they're up on telephone poles, electric
00:02:29.720 things.
00:02:30.260 And it's always men and doing construction and rebuilding roads and buildings.
00:02:34.340 It's always men up on the high tower.
00:02:36.380 It's never a women.
00:02:37.060 They're the ones that are on the oil rigs and doing the hard sustaining work of culture,
00:02:42.160 not women.
00:02:43.360 I'm waiting for the, there's a building being built next door.
00:02:47.160 I'm waiting for all the women, the feminists to line up and go build that building.
00:02:53.540 No one's equal.
00:02:54.680 And that's when I realized I was like, women are fighting for equality, but we can't have
00:03:00.740 it because we literally cannot do the jobs that make society run.
00:03:05.340 So why are we being paid more now under 30 in major cities?
00:03:11.060 When I know, think if, think if all of a sudden men just disappeared, all men just were taken
00:03:16.100 away.
00:03:16.460 How long do you think women would survive?
00:03:19.320 Not long.
00:03:20.700 Like all of a sudden electricity is out.
00:03:23.280 How do we fix that?
00:03:24.360 You know, who knows how to go to the major electrical things or whatever, or plumbing or the sewer
00:03:30.600 system or whatever.
00:03:32.040 Let's say all the women are taken out.
00:03:33.840 How long would the men survive until they died off?
00:03:37.860 What is your advice for picking a husband?
00:03:40.500 My advice to women is that they be godly because when they're godly, they're good.
00:03:48.100 When they definitely love the Lord and his ways, kind.
00:03:51.700 All I know are good men in my life.
00:03:55.000 My husband, my dad, my sons, they're just, my son-in-laws, they're just good men.
00:04:01.780 They wouldn't think of actually harming a woman.
00:04:04.940 They protect, provide, they work hard, and then working hard.
00:04:11.680 You must marry a man who works hard.
00:04:13.900 You want a man who provides for you, and you must find one who wants you, doesn't expect
00:04:18.600 you to work and provide and do any of that, but wants you to be able to be home, have children,
00:04:24.320 take care of the children.
00:04:26.580 That's always what I, those are the two.
00:04:28.400 If you can find a godly man, a true godly man, and a man who works hard, that's why I
00:04:33.480 told my daughters, look for that.
00:04:35.860 No, no six foot, six figures, nothing.
00:04:40.220 No, no, my husband had no money.
00:04:42.920 My husband was going to be a missionary.
00:04:45.360 My dad warned me about marrying him because I was always going to be poor.
00:04:49.380 And I said, Dad, I, you know, he works hard.
00:04:53.440 He's incredibly intelligent.
00:04:55.120 He didn't turn out to be a missionary.
00:04:56.400 He didn't want a different route, but, um, so, and we had zero money.
00:05:02.840 I didn't marry for that at all.
00:05:04.560 And I did want tall because I'm, I'm, I was five, eight, I'm five, seven now, but I, I
00:05:10.360 wanted to tell a guy at least taller than me.
00:05:12.900 Um, he's six, one, but, and, and I, you know, I think you have to be attracted to them
00:05:18.300 somewhat.
00:05:19.800 I feel that when women are in their thirties though, and they've met a man who's really
00:05:25.480 good, godly man works really hard and she, they meet all of his qualifications, but they
00:05:31.240 say, I'm not attracted to him.
00:05:32.820 It's like, well, you can become attraction because attraction comes and goes.
00:05:36.800 I mean, you don't have attraction.
00:05:38.220 I've been married almost 43 years.
00:05:39.800 You don't have constant attraction for your husband when you're mad and angry with him
00:05:43.080 or whatever, you know, or sick and suffering.
00:05:44.960 So, um, the good godly and working hard are far more than attraction.
00:05:51.140 But if you've really prayed about the spouse, you like my husband, I, we just connected when
00:05:56.900 we met.
00:05:57.540 This is the first man that we just connected.
00:06:00.440 We just had a really good time.
00:06:02.440 We had the same goals.
00:06:04.200 And that's another thing is having the same goals in life, wanting the same things.
00:06:09.180 And we, I just wanted babies and be home and he wanted that too.
00:06:15.320 So I'm shocked.
00:06:18.200 No six figure athlete entertainer.
00:06:21.100 No, no, no.
00:06:23.660 I don't know if you want that kind of guy there.
00:06:27.380 Um, and this is a Tim Tebow, godly man, but most of them had slept with a ton of women.
00:06:34.440 And I don't know, I, I think you just want it, a good man.
00:06:39.660 You don't want a man who's used women.
00:06:43.000 You want a man who's treasures, will treasure his wife, will treasure you.
00:06:48.480 You might not be able to find a virgin, you know, um, but God redeems and restores that.
00:06:54.720 And even women who aren't virgins have, can be great.
00:06:58.980 God's transforming power can be great wives and mothers, you know, he, anything we've
00:07:04.900 done in our past, God can, none of us are perfect.
00:07:07.460 We're all, we all have baggage somewhere.
00:07:09.980 We've all done things we regret, but you'll still never find a perfect man.
00:07:15.080 If you just find one that, um, you connect with, you have the same visions and goals,
00:07:20.840 a good man, you want a good man, make sure your dad.
00:07:24.260 And I know you love your dad.
00:07:25.220 You told me that make sure your dad, he can, your dad can ask him any questions he wants
00:07:30.800 and that your dad loves him and approves of him because you love your dad so much.
00:07:35.720 You definitely, absolutely want his approval for the man that you marry.
00:07:40.460 That's really important.
00:07:42.620 What about for a wife?
00:07:45.460 A husband looking for a wife.
00:07:47.180 Yeah.
00:07:47.400 Um, have her read my stuff and, and if she doesn't like it, don't marry her.
00:07:52.920 That's what I tell men.
00:07:55.740 Have her read my books and if she, or just one of my books, and if she is repulsed by
00:07:59.500 it, don't marry her, you don't want to marry a feminist.
00:08:03.820 And then that's so hard for men to find.
00:08:05.720 Even in the Christian schools, my, one of my nephews just said, they're all feminists.
00:08:10.080 Well, they're in college to be career women, you know?
00:08:13.480 Yeah.
00:08:14.500 No, in the other thing that's tough is like women have so much more power in like from
00:08:20.960 a young age when it comes to like sexual options.
00:08:24.200 So I almost feel like sometimes young men in the church get taken advantage of by predatory
00:08:29.080 women because they don't know any better because, you know, she's been sleeping around since
00:08:33.960 she was like 15 because she can, but the average 15 year old, it's just not the same, you know?
00:08:39.540 And then, you know, 10 years later, whatever it is, he comes in and like, they kind of do
00:08:45.660 the whole, not that, how do I put it?
00:08:48.120 Not that I'm against like redemption, but I think sometimes like the church kind of tells
00:08:53.140 guys to be naive.
00:08:54.460 Like they don't warn them about predatory women as much as I think they should.
00:08:59.140 I warned my sons.
00:09:01.000 My sons had eyes wide open.
00:09:03.220 It's the parents' responsibilities to warn.
00:09:05.940 I did the whole purity culture thing and had them read books and went to a purity camp
00:09:11.060 and, and talk to you, you know, and I just said, you don't date a woman until you're ready
00:09:15.980 to marry her unless you want to marry her.
00:09:18.520 They're not, you're not to fool around with them.
00:09:21.860 Um, you know, and I, if they, so we were real, we weren't like they had to, we didn't
00:09:29.620 were, they didn't have to have a chaperone or anything, you know, but I don't think those
00:09:34.900 are bad.
00:09:35.500 I don't think like what the, how the Duggars raised their children were bad because they
00:09:38.520 all have great marriages.
00:09:39.380 They did, they kissed the first time on their wedding date and they were, they were very
00:09:44.740 serious about purity and sexual purity.
00:09:47.200 And I think that's admirable.
00:09:49.420 And, um, but I just taught my kids, they knew that beauty of sex in marriage and the destruction
00:09:57.800 of sex outside of marriage, how, what, how much it could cause.
00:10:01.920 So they were all, well, that's what men need.
00:10:05.080 They, they need teacher boys from the time they were little from the time, you know, they
00:10:09.620 were little.
00:10:10.420 And so they knew and they were thankful there, you know, none of them say we're, we were considered
00:10:16.220 the strict parents, but none of them say we were too strict.
00:10:19.600 They were there.
00:10:20.200 They thank us for the boundaries that we set around them.
00:10:23.340 And even in high school, my boys had to be home.
00:10:26.700 I think at 10, you know, that was, I, I just wanted, I just knew nothing.
00:10:31.060 I, one of my cousins is a copy says nothing happens good after midnight, never, but so
00:10:35.920 special times I'd let them stay out later, but we just, we protect, we did everything
00:10:40.000 we could to protect our kids as long as they lived under our roof.