JustPearlyThings - October 27, 2023


Toxic EX Does The Unthinkable


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Length

10 minutes

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193.03609

Word Count

2,042

Sentence Count

174


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 Can I tell a funny story, Phil?
00:00:01.340 I had a French ex who did basically exactly that.
00:00:04.180 I went out to play poker with the guys, right?
00:00:07.520 Friday night, just me and the boys.
00:00:09.480 Phone died while I was there.
00:00:11.220 Wrong.
00:00:11.860 I get home, plug the phone in.
00:00:15.040 I just start hearing, bing, bing, bing.
00:00:17.480 Just coming through.
00:00:18.400 Just coming through.
00:00:19.360 It did that for about two minutes straight.
00:00:21.460 It wasn't relenting.
00:00:22.980 I'm like, what on earth?
00:00:25.520 I look at it.
00:00:27.220 It's about 40 text messages, about 20 missed calls,
00:00:31.440 and about seven voicemails.
00:00:33.360 And it starts off, I'm doing them in sequential order,
00:00:36.200 and it starts off with, hey, babe, what are you up to?
00:00:39.960 I'm free later on.
00:00:41.040 Let me know when you're finished.
00:00:43.080 And then it came, what are you doing?
00:00:46.200 You can feel the text is getting angry.
00:00:49.560 Who is she?
00:00:51.340 Who is she was the last text.
00:00:53.280 And the voice notes were just her crying into the phone.
00:00:56.620 Like, again, again, again, and again.
00:00:59.160 I'm like, whoa.
00:01:01.160 Broke up with her right after that.
00:01:02.800 That's what you're going to do with a 24-year-old.
00:01:05.380 Right.
00:01:06.940 That girl was older than 24.
00:01:11.960 I've learned my lesson.
00:01:13.560 The biggest misconception is somehow older women are more mature.
00:01:18.620 No.
00:01:19.180 No, no, no, no.
00:01:20.840 Or somehow easier to deal with.
00:01:22.140 No, no, no, no, no, no.
00:01:24.260 I think 100% of the women I've kicked out of here
00:01:27.640 and that have not listened to the rules
00:01:29.620 have been over the age of 25.
00:01:31.780 100%.
00:01:32.980 Like, I can't even think.
00:01:34.340 Oh, no, there was one.
00:01:35.500 Sorry.
00:01:35.820 I thought of one.
00:01:36.520 But.
00:01:37.540 That was one.
00:01:38.740 I forgot about her.
00:01:39.760 But by and large, no.
00:01:44.160 Because when you think about it, when women, like, date,
00:01:46.480 the more people women date, the higher their standards get.
00:01:49.940 And we admit this on social media.
00:01:52.060 You'll see girls say, oh, I accepted all this treatment in the past.
00:01:55.920 I'll never accept this treatment again.
00:01:58.300 It's basically making the men of the future pay for the mistakes of the past.
00:02:02.000 You disagree?
00:02:05.880 I feel like just in general, it seems like we're, like,
00:02:09.060 taking every responsibility of the relationship off of the men.
00:02:13.140 Like, the woman has to be understanding.
00:02:15.320 She has to conform to whatever you want to have going on in your household.
00:02:19.580 Like, I think maybe my idea of a relationship is just a little bit different.
00:02:24.600 Like, I don't know.
00:02:25.560 It kind of seems like you want a younger woman that you can, like, mold
00:02:28.400 or, like, kind of make a certain type of way or that will kind of, like,
00:02:31.680 accept anything.
00:02:32.780 And I don't know if every woman is going to be that.
00:02:35.500 But it's somebody for everybody, so.
00:02:37.960 You think there's someone for everybody?
00:02:40.560 Somebody's going to like something about somebody.
00:02:43.040 No, that's not true.
00:02:44.880 There's a lot of very lonely, socially awkward men.
00:02:48.260 Yeah, maybe they just haven't been.
00:02:49.540 They haven't been everywhere in the world.
00:02:50.660 They probably haven't.
00:02:51.320 You know, that's how people find their second wind.
00:02:53.820 That's why people do get remarried.
00:02:55.020 But how do people get around the world by being rich,
00:02:57.620 which means that they're the top 10, 20% of people,
00:03:00.800 which most people aren't going to get to?
00:03:02.360 I mean, I've traveled.
00:03:03.500 I live in another country.
00:03:04.400 I'm not rich.
00:03:05.800 So, I mean, I'm not saying that.
00:03:06.920 How have you traveled?
00:03:07.480 I'm not saying that you have to be all around the world,
00:03:09.520 but I do think, you know, if you put forth that effort,
00:03:12.260 if that's what you want, if that's what you're seeking,
00:03:13.820 if you're going to put every energy.
00:03:16.340 Yeah, explore and meet people and date people and find people.
00:03:19.260 Like, it's going to be, and it might not be your choice,
00:03:22.120 but there might be somebody who is into you
00:03:24.560 and wants what you have to offer.
00:03:25.840 Yeah, but it's not the people that women want.
00:03:29.460 So the difference between men and women
00:03:31.680 is men already conform to what women want.
00:03:34.460 So men know they have to be tall.
00:03:36.520 They typically have to be in good shape.
00:03:38.580 They typically have to have a good job and make money.
00:03:41.080 They typically have to be charismatic
00:03:42.380 to get women to even talk to them.
00:03:44.380 The difference is women don't know what men want
00:03:46.540 because they'll still sleep with us and give us attention.
00:03:49.160 So women are not forced to conform to what men want
00:03:52.200 because we'll get the attention anyways.
00:03:53.780 And there's evidence that suggests that 50% of women
00:03:57.160 are never going to have kids or get married.
00:03:59.620 And then you take the women that do get married,
00:04:01.660 50% of them will divorce.
00:04:03.340 And that's by 2030, so it's not even that far away.
00:04:06.460 So, like, if we take this room, for example,
00:04:08.300 how many girls are there in this room?
00:04:10.020 Two, four, six, seven.
00:04:12.240 At least, let's make it nicer than it is.
00:04:16.560 At least three of us will never get married
00:04:18.260 and never have kids.
00:04:20.100 And that's a fact.
00:04:21.160 Yeah, and that might be true.
00:04:22.120 I'm not saying just because there is somebody for everybody
00:04:23.940 that's going to find that person.
00:04:25.160 You might not have the opportunity.
00:04:26.400 Like, I could go out in the street and get hit by a car
00:04:27.920 and I can die tomorrow
00:04:28.600 and I didn't have my opportunity to meet my soulmate.
00:04:31.520 But just because I might not be everybody in this room's cup of tea,
00:04:35.340 that might not be my ratio.
00:04:36.840 That might not be my room to be in.
00:04:38.940 And, you know, I actually agree.
00:04:40.800 There's always a guy that will date a woman.
00:04:43.500 Yeah, and there's a woman who will accept a man.
00:04:45.240 No, but that's the difference.
00:04:46.740 Women will not accept the man.
00:04:48.040 There are, and that's why there's so many divorces.
00:04:49.500 So, I'll tell you, what percent?
00:04:50.900 So, they surveyed 5,000 men
00:04:52.640 and they asked what percent of men
00:04:54.440 have had more than one sexual partner in the past year.
00:04:57.820 What percent of men said that they did?
00:05:00.480 Guess.
00:05:01.860 I would say 80%.
00:05:03.680 10%.
00:05:04.700 So, women, it's basically 100% of women
00:05:08.540 are sleeping with 20% of men.
00:05:10.880 And it's the same when you look at dating apps.
00:05:12.820 Women swipe no on men 80% of the time.
00:05:17.400 And they only swipe right 5%.
00:05:19.400 So, that's the problem.
00:05:21.920 It's not that the women can't get anybody,
00:05:23.580 but it's once we've hit a certain level,
00:05:25.260 we can't go down.
00:05:26.960 And women admit this, right?
00:05:28.860 They go around and they say,
00:05:30.260 raise your standards.
00:05:31.280 You're a queen.
00:05:31.860 You're amazing.
00:05:32.400 And then, like, don't accept the treatment
00:05:34.700 that you accepted before.
00:05:35.780 But the problem is,
00:05:38.060 you, there's not enough men
00:05:40.200 that women want to go around.
00:05:42.900 Well, I think that might have something to do
00:05:45.220 with the way our culture and mindset
00:05:48.080 around relationships have definitely changed.
00:05:51.060 Like, you guys are saying
00:05:52.180 you are wanting a traditional relationship.
00:05:54.500 Well, nobody is moving in a traditional way these days.
00:05:58.060 So, that's why you're not going to find people.
00:05:59.740 You have older men looking for someone half their age
00:06:02.700 because, you know, they're not,
00:06:04.600 they're clashing with the women
00:06:05.560 who have these mindsets
00:06:06.780 that they've gathered from pop culture
00:06:08.800 or whatever that's going on today.
00:06:10.660 So, you know, if we have this imbalance
00:06:13.160 of people who are agreeing on
00:06:14.600 what they want out of a relationship
00:06:15.820 or what they actually can provide
00:06:18.080 in that relationship,
00:06:18.940 because I think a lot of people
00:06:20.200 also aren't realistic with themselves,
00:06:22.500 then, of course, you're going to have
00:06:24.200 some type of imbalance
00:06:25.380 in the amount of people
00:06:26.220 that want to be married
00:06:26.940 and the people that will get married.
00:06:28.540 No, but the reality is women today
00:06:30.740 don't even understand
00:06:32.020 what traditionalism is
00:06:34.140 because when women say
00:06:35.840 they want to be traditional,
00:06:36.900 they always have this idea
00:06:38.020 of the man pays for everything,
00:06:39.680 the man earns so much money
00:06:41.180 that he can cater for the family.
00:06:42.440 But the reality is
00:06:43.220 most people that were traditional
00:06:44.520 back in the day
00:06:45.540 weren't even living that kind of life.
00:06:48.060 The women were literally
00:06:49.900 working alongside their husbands
00:06:51.380 and still giving them the respect
00:06:52.760 of being the man of the house.
00:06:54.460 They weren't living any soft life.
00:06:56.000 Most people were poor
00:06:57.460 for most of humanity.
00:06:59.240 So every family you see
00:07:01.020 that have come through time,
00:07:03.020 there's only a few of them
00:07:03.960 that actually lived a soft life.
00:07:06.160 So women today
00:07:07.380 all want to live like
00:07:08.680 the queens of the past.
00:07:10.480 I agree.
00:07:11.000 And so do the men.
00:07:11.900 That's why you have something
00:07:12.520 called the sassy man apocalypse.
00:07:14.120 Like men are literally
00:07:14.760 running around
00:07:15.520 bragging about
00:07:16.820 finessing dates out of women.
00:07:18.540 I actually disagree
00:07:19.240 because all throughout history
00:07:20.720 only 40% of men
00:07:21.940 have ever reproduced.
00:07:23.740 So the reality is
00:07:24.760 throughout history
00:07:26.640 men have never really been
00:07:29.220 at the table
00:07:30.200 like women think.
00:07:31.220 The only reason why
00:07:31.720 you think men have been
00:07:32.720 is because it's the men you see.
00:07:34.640 And those are the men
00:07:35.160 that are actually desirable.
00:07:37.480 Like what percent of men
00:07:38.660 do you even think
00:07:39.360 can finesse dates?
00:07:41.520 I think, like I said,
00:07:42.760 it's somebody for everybody.
00:07:43.740 Like you literally have stuff
00:07:44.800 like people that come out of prison
00:07:46.140 and they find women on Facebook
00:07:47.680 and now a woman is
00:07:48.680 taking care of them
00:07:49.400 and paying all their bills.
00:07:50.780 Women do love...
00:07:52.300 Women do...
00:07:53.160 You've been watching FBI.
00:07:54.940 Girl.
00:07:55.320 No, no.
00:07:55.640 She's actually...
00:07:59.940 Love off the look up.
00:08:03.640 That's true.
00:08:05.460 So you're actually...
00:08:06.500 You're not wrong about...
00:08:07.640 You're not wrong about criminals.
00:08:10.000 Like violent criminals
00:08:11.020 are more likely to reproduce
00:08:12.300 but that's because women
00:08:13.340 are attracted to men
00:08:14.400 that can protect them
00:08:15.380 and there's some biology
00:08:17.000 where women, you know,
00:08:18.380 think that if a guy
00:08:19.220 kills someone else
00:08:20.380 for some reason
00:08:20.860 that they can kill for her too.
00:08:23.060 Yeah, that's not...
00:08:23.980 And women hate to admit this.
00:08:25.640 Women absolutely hate to admit
00:08:27.240 that that's what we find attractive
00:08:28.640 but there is a reason
00:08:29.780 that every single girl
00:08:31.320 loves watching horror films
00:08:33.480 and documentaries
00:08:34.280 about serial killers.
00:08:35.540 No, no, that's true.
00:08:36.500 Thank you.
00:08:37.020 It's absolutely true.
00:08:38.400 What percent of men
00:08:39.880 do you think women find attractive?
00:08:41.980 What percent of men?
00:08:42.880 Um, probably like 25, 30 percent.
00:08:47.300 You're close, 20 percent.
00:08:48.660 But I also feel like
00:08:49.760 that's an issue as well.
00:08:51.260 Like, we think we have
00:08:52.380 so many choices
00:08:53.060 and we don't have
00:08:54.020 everybody on the hinge.
00:08:55.340 It's not your choice.
00:08:56.560 Like, you're not going to meet
00:08:57.780 everybody in the world
00:08:58.580 so you can't just base it off
00:09:00.180 of who you're attracted to.
00:09:01.200 Like, there's so many more things
00:09:02.120 that go into a relationship.
00:09:03.400 Only a woman can say that.
00:09:04.360 You're right,
00:09:05.460 but the problem is
00:09:06.380 that's what women select for
00:09:07.740 in their 20s.
00:09:08.680 That's the number one thing
00:09:09.740 women select for in their 20s
00:09:11.260 is looks.
00:09:12.140 And money goes higher
00:09:13.380 in their 30s.
00:09:15.060 And so when women
00:09:16.000 have the most options
00:09:17.060 they're selecting for looks
00:09:18.380 and they're only dating
00:09:19.780 and sleeping with the top
00:09:20.800 20 percent of men.
00:09:21.920 Wow.
00:09:22.580 That's why they know
00:09:23.060 And that's why
00:09:23.500 that's why the women
00:09:24.740 will say men are trash,
00:09:26.040 men are the problem
00:09:26.680 because they're all sleeping
00:09:27.580 with 20 percent of men
00:09:28.680 where 80 percent of men
00:09:29.680 aren't really getting play at all.
00:09:31.320 No, I agree.
00:09:32.100 Yeah.
00:09:32.520 80 percent of men
00:09:33.240 on the hunt for these women.
00:09:34.400 I agree.
00:09:35.260 You don't got as many
00:09:35.980 places as you think.
00:09:38.060 You need to settle down
00:09:38.760 with the scrub
00:09:39.340 with the bag.
00:09:40.080 Benzo is not coming.
00:09:44.900 Like, he's not coming.
00:09:46.080 And that's why people
00:09:46.900 think that women expire
00:09:47.800 so early
00:09:48.300 is because you're looking
00:09:49.180 for somebody
00:09:49.760 who has this certain image
00:09:51.320 that you've seen
00:09:51.780 on Instagram
00:09:52.200 you've seen on social media
00:09:53.240 where you're sleeping
00:09:54.320 on, you know,
00:09:55.100 every other aspect
00:09:55.880 that is the important things
00:09:57.400 in a relationship
00:09:57.960 looks will fade
00:09:58.920 because if you ask me
00:10:00.600 if women have an expiration date
00:10:01.980 so do men.
00:10:03.240 Like, just because
00:10:03.760 you can keep going
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