00:00:00.000You ever noticed that when women talk about, when a lot of women talk about kind of these single season and taking time for themselves, it's never any kind of improvement that benefits their future partner?
00:00:11.720It's never like I'm training, I'm trying to develop qualities that my man was like, I'm trying to be the kind of woman, it's always like I'm just letting myself be me, you know.
00:01:34.280It's always accept who you are, whatever you are, all the time, and wait for the world to come to my doorstep.
00:01:39.820No, it's true, because even in my last relationships, I was realising I was the one always making the decisions or, like, in, like, literally all of my past relationships.
00:01:49.680So I was the one making decisions, and that's more of, like, a masculine trait, yeah?
00:01:53.600So what I had to realise was how to have a conversation in a way that was more feminine.
00:01:58.000Like, what you were saying earlier, like, if the man was to come with his problems, instead of me saying, okay, cool, I'm the one that has to fix it and think, or what's the answer to his problem?
00:02:06.240More like, you know what, you got this.
00:02:11.780And letting him come up with the answer and be the man.
00:02:14.320So I'm kind of working on things like that a bit more on, like, my replies and stuff, because my automatic response will be, let me heal this man or da-da-da-da.
00:02:22.080So I need to get out of that before getting into another relationship.
00:02:25.980Have you considered that finding a man that does not bring his problems to you and solves them for his self might be the best life for you?
00:02:52.340But it's like, if he knows, like, from past experiences, that the woman is going to be fix his problem, fix his problem, and he's going to feel pity for, like, she's going to feel pity for him.
00:05:15.180Okay, that's something I never agreed with, but that's just my personal choice.
00:05:19.040Like, obviously, in the broader picture, I do see men bringing other women home, but in my personal choice, that was something that, that's something that can never run.
00:05:27.600So I have a question for the women that said that they want to be wives, but they don't feel like they're raised to be a wife.
00:05:36.640Do you guys have married women around you?
00:08:04.860Well, there's a huge space online of self-improvement for men because men generally recognize, you know, if the, if the guy is sitting there and he's not getting, you know, the dating life he wants, he's not having the relationships he wants.
00:08:14.540He recognizes, well, okay, I need to do something about this.
00:08:17.960And so then, you know, they go to the internet and they find people who are talking about, you know, making money or, or, or going to the gym or, you know, all of these different things.
00:08:26.600I think there's less of that for women because I mean, there is, there is some, um, but there's less of it for women because, because plastic surgery, you have plastic surgery.
00:08:34.160Cause women are mainly, you know, there's a, there's a sense in the culture that women are enough.
00:08:38.660You know, we say, well, I'm enough, you know, um, that gets said very often, doesn't it?
00:08:42.840And, and because women are sort of pedestalized in mainstream society, the woman is encouraged to think, oh, I'm a princess anyway.
00:08:59.120No, I was just going to say like, for me, I obviously I'd love to be married, like in the future.
00:09:03.720I don't think, you know, I don't know a girl that wouldn't want to be in a happy marriage and this, but I wasn't raised by, uh, I was raised in a single parent household.
00:09:13.460Like my mom raised me and my brother and she's not married.
00:09:49.980Like, I think it does help, but like, I'm just saying the process is just about learning.
00:09:57.040If you haven't had that, you know, you don't know.
00:09:59.560You know what this sounds like to me, right?
00:10:01.020It sounds like when you ask a student whether they've done extra reading on the topic and they're like, you know, I saw some TikTok videos and YouTube show.
00:10:08.340And I think like Tim was talking about something in the corridor.
00:10:10.680I think you have to actively look to understand the divine feminine and the role of a woman and a wife and how that can complement a man.
00:10:19.820I think it sounds like it's very, it sounds like you're not doing that.
00:10:23.920But if you were to be honest with yourself to say, am I looking out, like, am I seeking out that information and really trying to, I'll tell you how a man does it, right?
00:10:32.760I've read three or four books on how to engage with women because when I was younger, I couldn't, I couldn't get down texting game.
00:10:39.240I had me and my, one of my closest friends in uni.
00:10:41.400Our whole relationship is based on me learning how to text.
00:10:44.320Now text people get no response and he would dissect the text and be like, you said too much here.
00:10:49.640This could have been a simple sentence.
00:11:23.520He meets a woman who's, like, got basic levels of confidence, falls in love with her, and then gives up his whole life and stability to chase her.