JustPearlyThings - April 21, 2023


What Is A HIGH VALUE Woman？？


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11 minutes

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00:00:00.000 doing it right oh yeah facebook's the worst
00:00:03.040 facebook uh can i ask you a question quickly so obviously you mentioned online um but i generally
00:00:13.100 feel like a lot of men are looking for wives in whole houses right in whole houses in figuratively
00:00:19.460 yeah basically you're picking the wrong women you're looking for a lot of men are kind of like
00:00:24.400 going for women just bumping into them like in the club or they're looking for where they can
00:00:28.980 find an easy woman because it makes the chase a lot easier what is the best physical place for a man
00:00:35.960 to meet a wife in your opinion physical place yeah as in like real life not online ideally it would
00:00:41.540 be in the gym for me i'm real big on fitness like gym okay but what i'll say about those guys that
00:00:46.500 are shopping in whorehouses is it kind of goes back to they didn't do the work to be in abundance so
00:00:53.860 i've slept with a bunch of instagram models right i would never never never take them seriously
00:00:59.540 why because their titties are all over the internet and that's that is a problem it's a big problem
00:01:04.740 yeah i get that because she didn't keep that sacred yeah but you could cover her up if she changed the
00:01:10.420 whole account immediately maybe but that's a big maybe if you could do it that means that the guys
00:01:14.500 probably did it as well isn't it like in itself right exactly but but the thing too is this is like so
00:01:19.780 the the more simp guy the more the guy that didn't take care of his business the guy that's not in abundance
00:01:23.540 in his life he'll take her immediately because that's the hottest girl he can get yeah but he's
00:01:28.340 picking the wrong cloth it goes back to what we talked about earlier about like what makes a woman
00:01:32.660 look good for a high level man online it's being the right cloth you can show that you're built well
00:01:38.020 without showing the assets themselves yeah it's interesting that you said that he could cover her up though
00:01:43.860 because if sneaker had said that said i'll like it i'll just cover her up you'd have said he was
00:01:47.700 misogynist but you're right maybe maybe and maybe they got off on the on the wrong foot i think some
00:01:56.660 men have unrealistic standards though in what way because you said that you would meet your ideal
00:02:03.700 partner in a gym so she could be like a gym or work or anywhere normal i think what not a
00:02:10.420 club i think it's not the venue i think it's not the venue so much i mean yeah i'd agree not a club
00:02:14.660 but i think it's not beyond that it's not the venue so much it's it's does the guy have a decent vetting
00:02:20.260 system in place like is he and and you're right if you don't have any abundance you know if this girl
00:02:26.580 that you've met who may be you know she's got some questionable morals or she's not ideal for you
00:02:31.620 but she's the best that you've ever got you're going to cling on to that like it's your life depends
00:02:35.700 on it right and actually what you need to do is have the power not to do that you know to let a
00:02:41.140 woman go even if she's incredibly beautiful you know to like with the instagram walls you know just
00:02:45.940 let her go because she's not right for you okay so you and you've got to you've got a vet you've got
00:02:49.940 to know what you're looking for and you've got to stick to those um those boundaries that you have for
00:02:54.180 yourself so another question for you too other than obviously the physical appearance what other ways
00:03:01.060 do you spot red flags in a woman what's your trick how do you filter through what you say is
00:03:06.420 decent what is not in terms of like the mentality the things you can't actually see you've got to
00:03:10.660 look at their behavior i think yeah like if he's if she's if she slept with you on the first date are
00:03:15.780 you not going to take her serious um yeah that's the real thing because we've i think women feel
00:03:22.260 like a real attraction and a pull to someone that you really like like because in that time it's that
00:03:28.020 is it in an innate behavior i can tell you this i have felt women not sleep with me on a first date
00:03:34.580 knowing they wanted to just to try to defend against that and then and i think it's a smart move
00:03:40.420 i respect it but what what attracts me just as much as beauty well not as much as beauty i don't think
00:03:46.020 that's fair but a woman that's level-headed and based what do you mean by that by base so so okay
00:03:52.180 cool so i just said something that you don't like right but you're intelligent enough to have a real
00:03:57.060 conversation and not go boom off the wall can't hear what i'm saying anymore we can have a real
00:04:01.940 conversation that's intellectually attractive that's a smart thing to do you know what i'm saying
00:04:06.740 like that's how a woman can like you sit in it it's the combative women the ones that want to argue
00:04:11.940 with you and everything's a problem and then you're like dude i'm not arguing with you i'm an adult
00:04:17.620 i'm going to act like an adult if we can have a conversation about if you can have hard conversations
00:04:22.020 with men about hard subjects and really step back and even and kind of separate the emotion
00:04:27.860 because here's the thing let's say you agree to that and you stay with man and you suspect he's
00:04:32.580 doing something behind your back right you think you're not going to cry you're going to
00:04:35.460 fucking cry and you're going to be upset hopefully there's enough trust and love in that relationship
00:04:39.620 that you can bring that pain to him and he's there to foster you through it you look to him to help
00:04:46.180 you through it because you look up to him because he's there for you because you trust him because he has
00:04:50.100 proven himself to you if you can get there with a man dude i i truly believe that the chances of
00:04:56.740 divorce at that point are almost next to nothing also by the way if you are that type of woman and
00:05:01.780 i'm not trying to do a campaign for promoting women to let men cheat but he ain't gonna leave your ass
00:05:06.980 either he definitely probably not gonna leave you yeah but they say that men don't leave their dummies
00:05:13.460 men don't leave their dummies yeah well that's your perspective i think those men probably love those
00:05:17.620 women take care of from a long time and who's a joke on because the other women are with the box cat
00:05:22.180 the box wine and the cats that girl that girl is probably on a jet to to buy for family vacation
00:05:29.620 with her mother on board so you think a woman is better off staying with a man that takes care of
00:05:34.740 her provides her and therefore her emotionally and financially yes financially then just leaving
00:05:41.060 and finding because there's this trend on social media where it's just like if a person's not treating you
00:05:45.140 right do you go and walk away do you think that's productive no here's here's the thing
00:05:51.380 what is the likelihood of finding a man that can actually take care of you physically emotionally
00:05:56.340 financially it's very low that you're attracted to that you look up to that's building you up it's
00:06:00.820 very very low i'll put it to women like this you're gonna leave me for a man that you love less
00:06:06.820 that's gonna cheat on you anyway yes and i don't look i know it sucks i i swear to god if i could
00:06:14.820 i would write a check for a million dollars right now i would be worth 10x more if that feeling
00:06:18.980 inside of me that that sexual urge as a man was gone i'd be like life would be so much more productive
00:06:25.460 i don't think it's cool i don't think it's cute i'm not trying to sound like a big g none of that
00:06:29.300 shit i'm telling you honestly i my whole 20s i dealt with the pain of leaving women i love because i want
00:06:35.380 to cheat on them cheat on them i wish i'd have been in a place where i could have just told them the truth
00:06:40.260 but i didn't know any better because i was young it's in us it's truly in us i don't i think the
00:06:45.780 best women in the world are the one not the best women in the world the best women in the world are
00:06:50.580 the ones that do their side of the male and female dynamic and understand how the world actually works
00:06:57.300 and if a man cheats on you yes it's gonna hurt you're gonna cry he should show up for you but i
00:07:02.100 don't necessarily think you should leave because finding a man that's going to take care of you
00:07:05.460 emotionally and financially and physically is going to be hard to come by can i ask you guys
00:07:10.500 another question what do you think of girls moving to men as in like the girl making the move
00:07:16.100 and if you like it how should they do it if you don't like it why not my instagram is justin
00:07:22.500 when waller okay it happens it happens all day uh well i mean for for a wifey not just because
00:07:31.380 obviously any girl can slide in your dms and talk right but what is a good approach what is
00:07:35.780 a successful approach for wife and what is a successful approach for just any girl
00:07:39.380 troy you want to take it so we're talking about for wifey as opposed to just sliding in the dm both
00:07:45.140 but but let's go for wifey first and then obviously i want to be able to give the sisters them who want
00:07:49.140 a little good time with a rich man how to move to them as well well i think uh as far as the the wife
00:07:55.220 thing's concerned i think that she's got a just in the context of the relationship she's got
00:07:59.700 got to behave in a way that is going to make her the most attractive option that that guy's ever
00:08:04.180 met to to become his wife and the way to do that is by embodying the characteristics that that we've
00:08:12.100 discussed so things like you know modest modesty demureness you know being pleasant to be around
00:08:17.540 not being combative showing that she's going to support him on his mission you know if you're
00:08:22.740 doing all of those things when in the course of the dating then what are the best ways we can support
00:08:28.100 men on their mission not being combative i think is one of them um but like what's active like what
00:08:35.220 like like that's that's sort of passive because it's like not doing something but what are things
00:08:38.980 that women can like actively do i think um being a stabilizing presence when the guy come comes back
00:08:46.260 you know i mean we've talked a lot about cooking and cleaning and those kinds of things i mean i we've
00:08:49.940 got uber eats now but you know i think i think those kinds of things being nurturing being supportive
00:08:54.660 in in terms of physical tasks what's the most supportive thing a woman's done for you um
00:09:00.500 they've cooked for me they've you know they've made woken me up in the morning maybe breakfast
00:09:05.460 set out set out yeah things like that set out the workspace so that you know making sure that i'm
00:09:10.100 ready to have a good day's work you know sort of just just just really being there on your team
00:09:14.740 but not causing unnecessary stress not causing unnecessary friction it's those things i think that that are
00:09:19.700 important that sounds so beautiful but it's so crazy how people will say that if you do that
00:09:25.380 then you're a simp and you're weak if you make your mind breakfast well i've been fortunate to date some
00:09:31.140 very feminine women and they've just done those things because that's how they wanted to behave
00:09:36.180 you know i've also dated some women who were less feminine and they didn't but um the ones that were
00:09:41.940 really dear to my heart were the ones who did those things and like you said they are very very simple
00:09:46.740 things what do you feel like that women are the most clueless about well i think a lot of it is um
00:09:54.740 the feeling that they need to be that it needs to be a fight with the man the whole time
00:10:00.820 you know i mean i was dating a british girl a few years ago and every conversation was a battle
00:10:06.660 like she felt like all the time she had to get one up on me she had to be the the dominant one
00:10:11.940 you know in a sort of a girl boss kind of a way and um and there were times she could be feminine as
00:10:16.100 well there were times when she slipped into that into that space but um in the end i just thought
00:10:20.740 this is just not an energy that i want to deal with it's just not an energy that i feel is pleasant
00:10:27.140 yeah you know so um can i ask you to be more specific um because i like to have like this i do
00:10:35.140 this with my boys sometimes when they're trying to speak to a girl i send i tell them to write a text
00:10:40.260 your boys you mean it's my as in my my boys my friends my guy okay if they ever asked me for
00:10:46.180 advice on uh girls women what what should i say in the first message and i type it for them they're
00:10:51.700 usually they're quite successful can you do that for the girls what would you be what would you write
00:10:57.860 on her behalf to get a man to like her from that first message well i think it's different we talk
00:11:04.500 about like sliding into dms on social yeah how do you slide how would you advise a woman like
00:11:09.140 literally what would you say to introduce yourself and yeah tick tick tick i'm a fan of commenting on
00:11:15.140 stories and i think this goes for either uh on instagram i think this goes for either gender
00:11:19.940 actually but i think if a girl starts following the guy and then she maybe comments on something
00:11:25.140 she maybe makes an observation about something you know like oh i really like that suit you're wearing
00:11:29.220 or you know like like oh i really like the way that you know if the guy say the guy's giving a
00:11:33.380 presentation that you know he's filming himself at work he's giving a presentation i really like the
00:11:36.820 way you did that as many of you know i was just banned on tick tock and we are demonetized on a
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