What Men Want For MARRIAGE
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Summary
In this episode, Beth Moore talks about her controversial blog post about virgins, tattoos, and why she thinks women should be virgins even if they ve slept around a ton and have tattoos. She also explains why she doesn t think women who have tattoos should have them.
Transcript
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So you also had a very controversial quote where you said, men want debt free virgins
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That was a blog post that went viral about, it was in 17, 2017 or 18, I don't remember
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The minute I published that thing, it went wild, wild.
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Lori, I even told one of my sons, he goes, mom, but it started a good conversation.
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But what was shocking was so many Christian women coming out against me, like, what about
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It's like, what about young women who are virgins?
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And then I even really, I didn't even really, and it was a woman who had been writing me
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But men, that's what really, most men do want that.
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What men want a woman who has slept around a ton, who is covered with tattoos, who has
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I got nailed from everywhere, except for a lot of big magazines and Good Morning America.
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And I didn't want it because I knew they were just going to, although I probably, I could
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I know against anybody, but a woman from USA Today contacted me and she said, I agree with
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It was a great article that she wrote up on me.
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She got fired shortly afterwards, but, but, but anyway, um, yeah, so what'd you want to ask
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Oh, I wanted to know what prompted this and what, because a woman was writing me, a woman
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was writing me and asked, she wrote me frequently.
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And I was just talking about what college does to women, you know, so, cause college gets
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women sexually active and it, and it debt, and then the tattoos are exploding and they
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Um, so, I mean, it's just, you see these women with them all over their bodies and my
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sister had happened to, I was like, no, ah, I tried.
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They never, I think they knew what our answer would be.
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She was like, do not once they're an adult, they go do what they want, but I know that
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women who have slept around, who had debt and who have tattoos can have fabulous marriages
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when they repent and they're new creatures in Christ.
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That post was written to young women who have not gone that route because there's a lot of
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scars going that route and a lot of harm done to women.
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And, and it's, uh, if you want a good godly man, it's a lot easier to get a good godly
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man if you haven't slept around and have tattoos and debt.
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So, but I, you know, I, a lot of things I write offend a lot of people.
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Tell them to sleep around, get tattoos, get a ton of debt.
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Like, I know people will say this to me and they'll be like, you're not a virgin.
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I'm like, I'm so I'm not, but it's still a better route.
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Like it's a better route to go, to go that way.
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Her parents, I was like, when I was a kid, I was like, they're homeschooling them.
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They're like, they're so sheltered, all this stuff.
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You know, she's married with two kids right now.
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So I'm like, you know, honestly, like the parents knew what they were doing.
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She trained, they trained them up in the ways of the Lord, the good ways.
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Look at our bodies, breasts, wounds, monthly periods, eggs, ovaries, fallopian tubes, hormones.
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We were created to have children and men were created to give them, to give what we need to
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You know, I mean, it's just, it's so obvious to anyone who has eyes to see, but feminists tried
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to convince women otherwise, you know, that, that no, we were created for the workforce.
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We weren't created for marriage and having children, you know, like they were deceived.
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So I am going to give you a couple of phrases I have heard on my show.
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I'm going to, I want to give your, this is going to be so funny, your response.
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So women tell me, I need a man who can handle me.
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No, she needs a man who she's going to love and adore and reverence and submit to.
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Good luck finding a man who wants to handle you.
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I mean, it might look really cute at first cause she's cute and bubbly or whatever, but
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long-term that's a terrible, terrible, terrible term.
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So other women they'll say, who cares about body count?
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They don't like thinking of a woman being with a bunch of different men and
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comparing and the things I've heard from young women who had slept with what they knew that I
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just had no, I was a virgin when I got married that I had no clue of, you know, I was like, Oh,
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garbage, you know, it's experiment with each other, learn from each other.
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Most men, I don't know about most men actually in these days and age where everything is so
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I would still say most men still want women, virgins or women who have not slept around that
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much, you know, because it, the STDs, the infertility risk factor, abortions,
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women suffer so much more from fornication than men do because of the way that we're built.
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And so, and emotional, the emotional attachment, the heartbreak, it's like I said, God can transform
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anybody, but men are taking a lot bigger risk if they marry a woman with a high body count.
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them being faithful to them because if they've been promiscuous outside of marriage, see me,
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I've only had sex with a man for 43 years almost.
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The thought of having sex with anyone else is disgusting.
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You know, I just can't even fathom because I, I've only had it with one.
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I would not want to just, this is not just something you just slip into. Oops, you know,
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I'm glad I'm married to this man and we can learn this, learn this together, you know,
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and, and that's how it should be on your honeymoon night. You're both awkward.
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But yeah, women who have slept around a lot, have a, it prepares them for divorce
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because they'll fall into an affair. I've had men flirt with me and kind of go after me since I've
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been married, but I had no desire to want to have sex with them or have an affair.
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No desire. So it's a, it's a virginity. Sexual purity is a protection for marriage.
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And I saved myself. My mom told me one thing. She didn't teach us a lot about purity or anything.
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She wasn't, I wouldn't say she was a godly woman at all, but she said, you want to be able to stand
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before the man that you want to marry and say, she told me this when I was like 12 or 13,
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I've saved myself for you. I thought, yeah, I do. And so I did.
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That was all she had to say. And that was all I, I, she didn't take me to purity camps and
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talk to them. Like, but it was, well, it was a sex fornication was rampant when I was in high
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school too. Cause I was in high school in the seventies after the sixties, sexual revolution.
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So it was rampant. All my friends were sleeping with their boyfriends, but it just never appealed
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to me. But why do I want to do that? I just had an ick. It was an ick factor to me.
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So that's a fallacy. No, it, it, the chances of having a faithful wife with a woman with a high
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body count is very slim. I'm sure there's statistics that prove that. So, um,
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another one, you know, another phrase is I don't cook. I don't clean.
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Let me tell you how I got this ring. And then, you know, they list some sexual acts
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is a popular song that the teenagers are singing nowadays.
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That's so sad. Yeah. They're actually marrying these women without who don't know how to cook,
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who don't know how to act just because of what they do to them sexually.
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Yeah. Whoa. I'll just remember. We had one girl who my younger son was dating one time. She came over
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and we're all eating around the table and she goes, I don't even know how to cook. I don't,
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I don't want to cook. And right then and there, my son just thought, nope, not for me. No,
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but, um, that those marriages aren't laid on a good foundation at all. That's because,
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because you know what women are very sexually available to men before marriage. It seems like
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to get the man, but from my husband, mentoring men from my scene, they become not sexually available
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after marriage. They use it as a manipulation tactic because they're not good women. They don't
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have integrity or morals. They're just going to get a man because of how they give them sex, you know?
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So, um, so they're going to use that. They're going to use that power against their husbands
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once they get married. So men don't marry like that.