JustPearlyThings - June 01, 2023


When Feminists Start Coping


Episode Stats

Length

10 minutes

Words per Minute

210.3647

Word Count

2,215

Sentence Count

5

Misogynist Sentences

6

Hate Speech Sentences

9


Summary


Transcript

00:00:00.000 oh maybe we don't have a man because we don't want men like the majority of the men okay so
00:00:05.440 it's not about you taking women it's about we like each other we find you know the match
00:00:10.960 so you cannot talk about women as someone they've been taken again so i can i learned something
00:00:17.440 today yeah yeah auntie we me and auntie had a conversation auntie explained to me i said are
00:00:23.440 you in a relationship she said yeah i'm in a relationship and i said does that so does that
00:00:26.880 mean you're not part of the 35 and over leftover women which was a topic that we were speaking
00:00:32.800 about at the time and she went i'm still part of that category and i said i don't get it like you're
00:00:37.440 in a relationship you've you've made it and she went no i have i've got i haven't got a ring so i'm
00:00:44.080 still a part of that category and i didn't get it because i was like why you're in a committed
00:00:49.360 relationship you where you well i'm in a committed relationship i'm a leftover oh i'm a leftover in
00:00:55.760 a committed relationship yes that was it and that's what i actually said and even when you
00:00:59.280 was talking about the value the difference with now is that yeah at 25 i was hot do you know i mean
00:01:06.400 i was hot slim hot you're still and that's nah yeah you are i'm just fooling myself no no no no no
00:01:14.480 i look hot for somebody at 53 do you know what i mean but i'm fooling myself that i look as hot as i
00:01:20.000 am at 53 as i did at 25. yeah i'm just the obsession is that the same man that i was with at 25 is the
00:01:26.000 same man that i was with now do you know what i mean but other than that no i would say that and
00:01:30.800 i'm not fooling myself to say that you know i mean i was lucky enough that he had my best years and he
00:01:35.920 still got my best years and i had his best years but at the end of the day i can't turn around and
00:01:40.400 say i'm better off for anybody else at 53 because when anybody else at 53 mostly got a wedding ring on
00:01:45.440 they'd be married or something like that but at the end of the day if it weren't for a fluke i'm
00:01:50.000 just like everybody else yeah i'm a leftover in a committed relationship and that's what women feel
00:01:56.000 to realize that yes before you think about oh i'm going to be single i'm going to be this and i'm
00:02:01.280 going to be that you've got to think to yourself you know what because before i started thinking
00:02:05.440 like that i was like you know i gotta get my pension i gotta get my own house i gotta get the
00:02:10.080 house done in case i'm disabled i gotta get my will gotta get my lpa because just in case
00:02:15.280 you end up on your own and you know something 32 years and i'm still got that mindset you know
00:02:20.160 what because i'm still left over because i've still got to think like that so i'm gonna think
00:02:24.080 to myself yeah i've been with the guy for like 30 something years i gotta i gotta still think like
00:02:28.160 that you know what because i've got no security but you're doing the right thing because i'm gonna
00:02:31.360 fool myself and say i've got the same worth to him as i was years ago or i look you know what i mean
00:02:36.800 oh yeah you're a hot come on i think we so the goal is marriage then is that the goal should always be
00:02:43.520 marriage because that's when you know what guy is committed to you and that's what i said you
00:02:47.360 can be a woman for today i was talking the other week and i was saying a man could be with you for
00:02:51.920 30 years 40 years 50 years whatever so there's a ring on your finger he's not committed to you he
00:02:56.080 can step out so you said you've been with the same person that you've been with since you were 25
00:03:00.720 no before that yeah since you were before 25 and did you have kids or no we got two separate
00:03:06.160 children you've got two so you've not had kids together no since since you know we haven't okay
00:03:12.160 that's interesting and i can go around and say oh yes when i was 35 i look really good and we could
00:03:17.680 try and have children together come on by the time you're 35 you think to yourself yeah i could have
00:03:21.440 had a kid at 35 of him but then you gotta think to yourself anyway how old am i going to be when the
00:03:25.840 kid goes nursery am i gonna be when i go and pick up my grandkids now i don't want to be going
00:03:30.960 picking up my child and they say who's that is that your grandma no it's my mummy and then
00:03:35.200 nowadays you're thinking about secondary school or university i don't want to be in those 70 years
00:03:40.880 old and kind of picking up my child and say oh yeah and you're playing with fire because um the
00:03:46.400 average if you want to freeze your eggs and go that route like that it costs like 25 000 there's
00:03:50.560 no guarantee it'll work the average person can't afford that no i'm just thinking it's interesting
00:03:54.720 because you said you were together from before you were 25 so what like 22 23 about that 22 23 and then
00:04:02.240 but you you were in the but like you guys said the best years of your life whatever and still
00:04:07.600 didn't have kids i'm still having them so you're still i'm still having them no no i'm just going
00:04:12.400 by what these i'm saying by the worth by the worth from the they said that i wouldn't have a child from
00:04:18.080 35 onwards so according to a man if a man wants to have a child and that that would have been the time
00:04:24.400 to get to have a child then not like 30 because by the time 30 comes we're like forget it you know
00:04:30.960 what i mean forget it because i'm putting my body through that by accord according what um say your
00:04:36.800 name again kb kb he said especially when a woman has a um a child with uh before that's the best year
00:04:45.120 also because there's a very strong close relationship between you know the your your
00:04:49.920 baby uh that and yourself right so but you are actually just showing that that's not true so yeah
00:04:57.760 because no no the difference is you don't know my story the difference is is that i had an abusive
00:05:03.200 relationship that's why i've got no hang-ups so there's a completely difference if it was a happy
00:05:07.520 relationship and i had my son and we left that'd be different but i number one i was on contraception
00:05:14.080 when i had my son so he wasn't planned and because of that reason that's why i decided to have one
00:05:19.280 child because i would say one is a mistake two can say it's an accident three is careless four and
00:05:25.680 above your what list so as far as i'm concerned i had one out of wedlock and that is it yeah but anyway
00:05:33.520 you had a child and your partner evaluate you anyways as a valuable valuable women so he actually spent
00:05:42.080 after the best year with you in this scenario i wouldn't judge that you know what i mean this is
00:05:48.080 just the best years with me i agree with you that what you guys saying it doesn't have any no no it's
00:05:55.120 not the same thing it's not me at that age yeah with you that you already had one mic one mic at that
00:06:00.880 age at between like say it was a 20 between that 20 and 30. i'm agree i'm agree if i wasn't with him
00:06:07.920 and i spent what they're trying to say is that if i'd met him at 30 why should he be faithful to me
00:06:14.720 when i've given my best years to some other man if i stayed with my baby father yeah until i was 30 and
00:06:21.440 then said you know what i'm gonna get back with the first one the one i'm with now why should he be
00:06:27.120 monogamous why should he stay with me because you have a lot of stuff no because i really give it up my
00:06:32.240 good life my good the best of my life when i was young free sexy agile fling my legs over my shoulders
00:06:40.000 was all between the ages of 20. look at her she knows because because she knows no i don't know
00:06:47.440 it's not valuable to men you don't you don't you don't have the youth and you don't have the purity
00:06:53.280 at 30. it's gone so it's you don't have what men value okay as i said first of all right now uh 20
00:07:00.160 years old a girl cannot have purity anymore because they probably lose the virginity when they
00:07:04.960 12 but let's forget about it so if that the point that means that every woman that uh as child
00:07:12.720 he had child before or he has relationship important relationship before could not have a
00:07:17.920 husband later and isolate of people that actually had child before and after they get married or whatever
00:07:24.880 so what do you mean that uh the men that actually you know wifey are is uh i don't know he's a bum
00:07:31.280 like a bum well men don't i don't care about your job like you could like you could do nothing and like
00:07:37.120 men do not give a like because you said earlier like i make money and i'm like well not to men that's
00:07:41.280 like a shoe collection to women like if a guy if a guy says if a guy says oh i have a cool shoe
00:07:45.280 shoe collection we're like oh that's cool but then we keep moving that's that's how men feel about work
00:07:48.880 about work okay so they they prefer a girl that like does nothing so she can like hang out with
00:07:54.240 them and like don't on them good yeah i mean as one one person can get married unemployed not two
00:08:03.280 yeah unless you look like michael b jordan honestly speaking um me myself because we're talking about
00:08:10.800 what a man is expecting from a woman but we're not talking about what a woman is expecting
00:08:15.280 is expecting from a man and then because we always hear it because we always know no no did you did
00:08:22.560 you in my point oh like you think like what we're talking about now is just a part of the you know
00:08:30.000 men in the world which is probably the majority but doesn't mean that is the totality guys so okay
00:08:37.040 anyway it's fine yeah we can we can keep saying that's the majority and i'm i'm done i'm fine with that
00:08:43.120 cool all right but again that's why that but we want that majority a man going out and saying okay
00:08:49.440 cool i want to go and find a virgin yeah and we're gonna go and find this virgin it's the same way you're
00:08:55.840 saying oh i'm gonna be this exception and i will find that guy who wants me no but no no no no no you
00:09:05.600 didn't get my point i don't give a shit to find the man who evaluate me because i know i know about
00:09:12.960 my value i don't need that man to recognize my value i don't give a shit if i gonna find him cool
00:09:19.920 but you if i don't i can stand on my own i'm paying my bills i got a job what i do what do i need a man
00:09:27.680 for okay okay to have sex but that's fine i can still have sex i have a question i have a question for
00:09:33.200 you how do you determine what your value is right i told you i told you a woman for me is an independent
00:09:39.440 women who can stand by his own can pay her bills he has the maturity to understand even when is the
00:09:45.520 right time to have a children because everyone can have a child anytime just you know and then
00:09:51.920 it's also about how we have our you know we kind of pattern we are so it's not just about having eggs
00:09:58.800 because honestly i prefer a women that stay without children instead that someone that doesn't deal
00:10:04.000 properly so question who is that valuable to what you just listed who is that valuable to you mean
00:10:10.000 who for who yeah who is that valuable to what you just myself i don't care about other people opinion
00:10:16.240 okay i i need to like that's just two people that i should like worry about god and myself not about
00:10:25.440 other men you don't know about no no no no no what should i care