JustPearlyThings - August 24, 2023


Woman Copes With Her Promiscuity


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14 minutes

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223.20761

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3,188

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00:00:00.000 so and can i also sorry can i also mention something you also mentioned how your end
00:00:03.840 goal is to be a wife and a housewife and have kids so if that's your end goal don't you think
00:00:08.240 it is important to consider how men are viewing you um yeah but it's like for example if my end
00:00:13.520 goal was my career then i would have to focus on career oriented things but if your end goal is
00:00:18.000 marriage and kids don't you think you have to focus on how men view you and i think that's
00:00:22.080 why can't i have a career and have marriage and kids no but i'm talking about like your end goal
00:00:26.400 like what do you want as the end is it just the career long term or is it yeah i think marriage
00:00:32.000 and kids will outweigh the career for sure yeah so considering the fact that like by 30 women's
00:00:37.200 eggs start to you know expire whatever and you know that is your end goal just all these other factors
00:00:42.320 you may lose your youth and beauty wrinkles don't you think is important to consider what men will
00:00:46.720 think about you if that's your end goal i feel like the right man who would not be judging me
00:00:51.840 because i've gone to france and spain like what the hell is that about like like that is just
00:00:58.400 like like the guy i'm with he just doesn't care about this social media stuff he just thinks it's
00:01:02.560 a load of crap like he's met me and he probably had a few people say like out of jealousy or whatever
00:01:09.680 because i'm a popular figure certain things and it's like no i'm gonna he's strong-minded i need a
00:01:14.960 strong-minded man that's the thing i can't be dealing with these men that'd be swayed by what they
00:01:19.120 hair by he she or her so if a man was dating a whore yeah does that make him strong-minded because
00:01:24.240 he's it actually does i don't agree with that but it does i think it's not to call you and that
00:01:29.840 no no no no no no i know i'm just saying i actually think it i'm not saying i'm not agreeing with men
00:01:34.960 being with whores by the way that's what i'm saying i'm saying but i do i actually do think it it is very
00:01:39.120 strong-minded for a man to get with one because he's clearly saying i like you for you and despite what
00:01:45.040 you've done and what everybody says about you i'm gonna stand by you and i can actually respect that
00:01:50.880 just that to a degree and i've said it so many times when i've seen people do it where i've seen
00:01:54.720 these men go for these women and everyone's like why would he go for her but maybe she is actually a
00:01:58.720 good girl like maybe good-hearted girl like maybe she has made a lot of mistakes i think do you think
00:02:03.360 it's unwise knowing the stats that i told you where there's only a 20 chance that he'll be happy with
00:02:08.080 her in 10 years you don't think that's simping a bit it's a bit unwise no not if not if you want
00:02:14.480 no no if your son came to you for whore would you be happy with that of course not i just told you i
00:02:18.960 don't think i don't necessarily but if he came to you and he said to you mom he's a good woman and
00:02:22.320 whatever and like it depends on um no i would say no personally because i think there's enough women
00:02:27.760 out there for you to find a good woman that isn't a whore yeah i think you know what's so funny in this
00:02:32.720 like modern world um it's either we have fun or i'm taking it's like can you not be find your man
00:02:40.640 and travel and learn like i think i can enjoy my life and learn and have knowledge and still have
00:02:45.760 fun and still enjoy my youth with a man with my husband i don't think there's anything wrong with
00:02:53.040 it i feel like it's better to make memories than you know have no memories and getting and i've had
00:02:58.880 experience and he had experience memories of your friends yeah absolutely but i think it's nice to
00:03:06.320 that's not valuable to a guy though like it's not valuable to a guy that you have everything is about
00:03:10.960 the guy in order wait in order to have a happy marriage you have to care what the man wants
00:03:17.920 unless if you want to do this like 50 50 partnership type shit where your opinion is like yeah you don't
00:03:22.960 you don't want to do that right you want to be a housewife so if you want to be a housewife only 20
00:03:27.520 of women get to be housewives so that means that means it's it's competitive right that means not
00:03:32.800 a lot of girls are going to get it and so like you have to know the buyer in order to compete
00:03:38.320 and you also mentioned that's a good way to fit in it you also mentioned how you can do both
00:03:43.440 i have an example for you say for example i wanted to have a six pack and you know compete for the
00:03:48.160 olympics can i do both things like be at mcdonald's every three times a week when you have an end goal
00:04:02.160 and you have an end point when you focus on other things it hinders you getting to that point so what
00:04:07.680 i'm trying to say is for the ladies who's um you know your your goal is to just to be a career woman
00:04:12.400 i feel like focusing on your career and traveling that will work for you but if your end goal was to
00:04:16.400 like be your wife like i'm saying your end goal that's what you want when you settle down that
00:04:21.360 you have to make them steps to actually work towards that yeah and i think that's where modern women get
00:04:26.160 it like you know messed up so going back to that example like if my end goal is to have a six pack
00:04:30.960 does it make sense to be um balancing mcdonald's and salad um you know half of the week it would
00:04:36.480 make sense but i disagree in that in that sense i don't see anything wrong with finding like you you
00:04:42.880 you know we are interested let's get married let's let's grow up together i you know it's fine
00:04:48.240 there's nothing if you're young of course you can still focus on university or or your career but
00:04:54.480 if you're all that's a different story it's like you should have had it it's too late now yeah but
00:04:58.560 you know it's fine it's fine in the moment but when you're like 30 and you're single like is it
00:05:03.440 still going to be fine what do you mean so like you're saying like having fun and whatever is
00:05:07.760 fine you're single um by 30 should have your life together okay i have a question if you want you
00:05:13.520 you said you want to be married you'd be married oh absolutely how many dates do you go on in a week
00:05:17.440 um i don't you don't okay so how on earth would you get the results of married if you don't do
00:05:23.200 anything to get there it's hard is he just going to magically find you at your parents house
00:05:30.000 my brother yesterday so i was like look fine um i find it a bit hard because i i just find i
00:05:36.400 i think i think my husband is just not in london you know okay sorry i feel like it's a bit hard i
00:05:41.920 feel like the way i think and the standards and the way i brought up i don't think they got the same
00:05:46.960 it's going to be a bit harder for me okay so so there's instagram there's dating apps where you can
00:05:51.920 switch your location there's matchmakers yeah like how how on earth would you get the result of
00:05:56.480 marrying i'm happy to get married what is it called when um sorry arrange marriage i'm happy i'm happy
00:06:02.960 if my mom comes have you said to your parents i want an arranged marriage to set this up and what
00:06:07.680 do they say mom is mom is still looking for me mom is in her own country right now finding me the
00:06:13.760 right husband some and it's better because your parents would choose some my mom doesn't want me
00:06:18.560 to be in danger my mom doesn't want to see me do bad yeah but what if you're not your type you look
00:06:24.000 at me you think that for me for me i think marriage is about security it's about creating a safe
00:06:30.400 place for your child you have to be attractive come on i think the biggest problem i think for
00:06:36.720 me and you know that for me it's all about character i can look at someone and then and
00:06:41.040 you know and then grow to like and then back oh do you know what yeah so i can't judge in the
00:06:45.680 beginning but what if he's not your type though like genuinely that is an arranged marriage is a
00:06:50.160 surprise you've seen him you still need to be average you know this is this is actually the
00:06:54.800 reason like women end up single because women in their 20s we typically select for looks
00:06:59.840 we're in our 30s typically okay i'm not talking about you um typically in our 20 how tall is your
00:07:06.480 boyfriend um he's like 5 11. okay so so 5 10 5 11. okay so still top 20 percent of height yes you do
00:07:15.200 um okay that's why they say you don't listen to what women say watch what they do
00:07:20.000 um okay so typically in our 20s like so it's interesting because we're in a monogamous society
00:07:25.360 technically that's what we think but we're really in a non-monogamous society because women don't get
00:07:28.960 married till the age of 31 so we pick and women um who's in control of sex women women right so we
00:07:35.680 pick non-monogamy in our 20s which is when we have the most to offer to men right and we typically
00:07:40.960 select for looks which is the top 20 percent of men well when we get to our 30s that's when we start
00:07:45.520 looking for security so then that expands to the top like 50 60 percent of men um and so but basically
00:07:51.440 what happens is the top 20 percent of men run through the girls in their 20s and then like we pick the nice
00:07:56.000 guy after i think the biggest pandemic of today is delusion i'm sorry to say that because i feel
00:08:03.680 like with women today we have this idea on our head that the perfect guy is just going to drop on our
00:08:08.480 laps and we're just going to get married when we want and we don't realize that there's actual
00:08:12.320 actionable steps like everything in life you have to work for it you have to make changes and it kind
00:08:18.160 of upsets me that sometimes people have this idea in their head where just like well i don't have to
00:08:22.400 think about this so i don't have to consider a man's opinion and you kind of do it in order to
00:08:26.720 achieve any goal in life not just relationships so i feel like yeah that's just my point okay if
00:08:32.480 if you're applying for a job you don't care what the employer thinks
00:08:37.520 yeah you don't think a wife is a job i do actually i think a housewife is a job okay i think it is yeah
00:08:47.200 so again you don't have to care what the employer thinks when you're looking to be hired but that's that
00:08:50.720 specific employer i'm not i'm not thinking about what the whole of sony thinks of me i'm thinking
00:08:57.120 about what the managing director of that department thinks of me okay but you still have to to figure
00:09:03.200 out what they want right and care about what they want to an extent but it's not as rigid as that like
00:09:08.560 it's a relationship you know so i just feel like so in a relationship you shouldn't care about what they
00:09:14.240 want of course you should okay so you do have to care yeah but how would you know that without meeting
00:09:19.040 them that you we're just assuming at this point you talk to men and ask them what they want no
00:09:23.920 but you're saying like in a sense that before as we're navigating we want the same type of stuff
00:09:28.480 are you talking about arranged marriage no no i'm talking about like when you're single and you're
00:09:31.680 young you're navigating you're traveling you're saying i should be thinking as each each day every
00:09:35.840 step i take what all the men on my instagram are thinking of me as i'm going to france as i'm doing
00:09:40.480 this as i'm doing you know what i think it is yeah of course carry yourself in the best way i don't
00:09:44.480 by the way i'm not i'm not condoning like being a whore and i'm just saying the realistic thing of
00:09:50.640 just enjoying and living your life and learning who you are before getting with somebody because
00:09:55.840 what you don't want is to just get with somebody at 21 and then you've never lived and then you get
00:10:00.480 to 40 you realize you're not compatible you never even lived your life what results does that yield
00:10:05.040 though as women as women have pushed the age of marriage up and up and up and found themselves before
00:10:10.800 the divorce rate goes up and up and up so it doesn't like the results aren't there did we
00:10:17.360 not slyly as humans like create this idea of marriage i was going to say that monogamy
00:10:23.760 i was going to say where really it like obviously you see in in the animal kingdom that's for example
00:10:29.120 you see a lot of obviously you know the male lion goes out and the lioness looks after the cubs but that
00:10:35.600 lion wasn't wouldn't stay with that lioness for the whole of his life where else apart from penguins
00:10:41.440 there's a couple of little animals that do it but you actually don't see monogamy really in any other
00:10:47.040 thing is this not something that we've created out of religion out of uh like is this not something
00:10:51.600 that the humans have created i don't know this is just my when i actually i talked to a biologist or
00:10:58.160 he wrote this book called the history of sex the other day so i'm trying to recite it right
00:11:01.680 but he basically said that when we were um more intertwined with like animals because like we
00:11:07.440 came from like chimps or whatever it was super non-monogamous but actually the majority of human
00:11:12.080 history has been monogamous for 85 percent of the population however the top 15 of women um
00:11:18.960 or the top 15 of men have been in non-monogamous relationships so um essentially now the top like
00:11:26.080 we're going more towards non-monogamy because again women are choosing non-monogamy in their 20s
00:11:30.800 where we most women used to pick monogamy but now that's something that we created like
00:11:36.080 was that something that we actually assumed through thousands and thousands of years you go right
00:11:39.680 back to you know the romans when they had wives is this not something that we've created yeah i think
00:11:45.840 so i don't think it's something we created i think it's something that's just natural i actually don't
00:11:50.400 know that i'm not saying this like i actually know what i'm on about i'm just it's just it's just it's
00:11:53.760 something that's actually baffled me for a long time like you actually look at animal kingdom
00:11:57.200 where else do you actually see this idea of marriage and and when you actually look at a
00:12:01.920 lot of it has come when you when you go and get married it's in a church or a union in thailand
00:12:06.880 it's in a temple so a lot of it comes down to something i just think it's the best for building
00:12:11.920 families and i think it's i honestly think it's a natural like at least from women to men i don't
00:12:16.800 know i'm just like i don't i don't know any animal that really it's actually it's actually because
00:12:22.960 um these kind of constructs are necessary for society to exist because without us being monogamous
00:12:31.440 and all of that if you were to look in the animal kingdom where monogamy doesn't exist the males
00:12:35.840 have to fight each other usually to the death to get sex and human beings can't function in that way
00:12:41.440 because what then happens is that society can't stand so that's the reason it's not that's a fair
00:12:47.840 point but then again is this is this not again something it's still constructive though so that
00:12:52.400 doesn't deny the temptation or the ability to then look elsewhere but you know i mean it's still a
00:12:57.920 contract we've been consciously aware that that we wouldn't be able to function well it used to be
00:13:06.080 so it used to be a compromise of our mating strategies because like what's what's the female
00:13:10.640 mating strategy to get the best guy you possibly can right you to get the best genes right or the best
00:13:15.680 resources right that's women to get attention from from men right so um it used to be that like
00:13:21.840 women would bring purity and youth so they would come to the like marriage and they would say i'm
00:13:25.440 not going to sleep with anyone else and i'm going to stay with you for your lifetime and i'm not going
00:13:29.760 like i'm not going to try to go higher and higher and higher and the men used to come in and say you
00:13:34.000 know i'm not going to sleep with anyone else because their mating strategy is to sleep with a bunch of
00:13:38.160 different women so it used to be a compromise but the problem is women don't bring purity anymore
00:13:42.320 because what percent of women are virgins so it's kind of an unequal exchange because most men
00:13:46.480 out earn most women most men still have to protect most women but women don't bring the purity or the
00:13:51.200 youth and like that's why i think we see men walking away from marriage because like honestly women
00:13:55.360 like what what do modern women bring to the table not much like what what percent of women have the
00:14:00.240 skills of our grand or grandmothers and great grandmothers where we can we have a full cookbook and we
00:14:04.400 can cook where we're virgins where we um you know we can sew guard like all of the traditional skills
00:14:10.480 women don't have anymore but the problem is women still want to be courted like traditional women even
00:14:15.360 though we're not